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OlawaleBammie:
Oga if i were u i wil just leave her alone for like 8months to 1 year and see what she's up to.

1) just avoid her touching ur sensitive parts to avoid arousing u
2) provide watever ur family need as u hav always done.
3) smile to her always, pls with her, tickle her but dont let her tickle u back
4)plsy with her and take her out
5) Dont sound sissy while with her, sounds like a scary man at times
6) Dont always give deep details of ur whereabouts, just say i want to get to underbridge, final. What u want to do there, who h want to meet there is not much of her concern.
7) as i said earlier, PLS TRY TO B RESPONSIBLE AT HOME EVEN AS TWICE AS BEFORE. BUT DONT ASK FOR SEX
Dont ever report her to anybody
9)Try as much as posible to play out with ur niggas, wen u get home just take ur shower, go to her and peck her den go to bed straight..




In all u do just try as much as posible to confuse her with how u deal with tins, i swear she would call u for board meeting.

The pure thin is dat she wont have anything to hold against u but she would b feeling the sidelining terribly.

pitsonbay:
I think this issue is common amongst women that went through gender mutilation processes.... I have d same problem @ home. My last born is 2years and some months....I got married 13years ago and it has been cat and dog fight ever since, recently it became worst. Getting to my wife's down stream sector is now a very hard puzzle to crack.. Now both of us have no parents anymore, so whom do I complain to?? So BROS try and sort things out within ur selves if ur marriage is still young..... But for me, I give up I will never bother her again.

Gabbropee:
This piece of advice is terrible. It is capable of breaking a family within 2 months. I advise pls don't apply it.
Thank you

bamidelee:
Sanity is when a woman denies her husband his right. Sanity is when the husband start looking for where to satisfy his urge.
Pele tie

Rocktation:
How come you have so much sense than so many other men here?

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

IMASTEX:
As sensible as your mention. The Indomie generation married boy won't see sense in it. He obviously married for sex, clubbing and anything that gives him fun. 3 months into CS and he is complaining. It therefore means he was asking for sex the next week after she returned home. I know a friend who's wife delivered through the same means, it was the woman that had to ask for sex after 6 months that she was okay. He even had to consult her doctor before they resumed their sexual life.

MrBrownJay1:
since she stopped way before the child was born then obviously, the "childbirth" is not the issue... why dont you sit down and communicate with your wife to know exactly what the problem is (and possibly find a solution)?

so instead of begging for sex, why dont you beg for a sit down and open heart discussion...

tallerSSS:
Someone is shining her.. she won't give you sex almost for ever because she is scared of childbirth wherein you can cum inside anyhow u like and getting her pregnant again but the shinee will not have anything to do with making babies with her but just keep shining and if it even happens along the line that she takes in for the shineman she will always get rid of it with no cause for alarm.
I am a young man in my late 20s and I'm talking from an experience with one so called(sugar mom)

Sixfeetbelle:
I won't lie. You're really trying but because I can tell you're a good man, I'd implore you to exercise patience. She's not refusing you on purpose but I can see CS scars and pains, tiredness after breastfeeding and decreased sexual drive post partum as some of the culprits in this case.

Talk with her, and talk to her. Relay your worries, try to understand hers and then collectively reach a compromise. That place you mentioned about ignoring her due to sex will not work in marriage. That little seed of selfish will grow into something vile that may tear this marriage apart. Marriage works by understanding. Apply it.

You're a good man and you have a wonderful family: a loving wife and a beautiful daughter. Don't let selfish ruin that.

tendernexx:
He has been having plenty of it outside. Trust me.

MrBrownJay1:
no man can "understand/tolerate/endure" while no excuse nor explanations is given to him...

BAMSRAY:
we have to use our brain even without a word from her.she had a CS whch explanation do you need from her..I believe e is scared or not feeling confortable


pls take it easy on her is not just easy

doitforyou:
She is nursing a three month old and a CS scar, so obviously she’s had big changes. Sometimes the way to a woman is not just by words but by actions, if you offer to take care of the baby for just a day or even give her the weekend off it will make a difference. You come across as selfish in your post, I wonder if your wife thinks so too.

It’s great that you’re bonding with your baby but do you also bath the baby? Feed? change the diaper? Are you awake at 2.00am to feed the baby? Do you get to sleep for only 3 hours a day? Have your hormones being put through the ringer for a year?

If she’s a first time mother then you’ve to be patient she had a CS and your child is just 3 months. Also, you need to stop looking at your marital sex from a perspective of its only your right to enjoy. Sex should be enjoyed by both of you and if there’s a problem why one of you isn’t then it’s your problem too.

If your wife’s happiness is your priority and not just your libido then give her a day, a weekend off, or however long her CS scar will heal. Tell her to take time off to take care of herself, let her take a break and she will come back to you fully recharged.

Ideally, you shouldn’t even be thinking about sex, she had a CS just three months ago!!!

crackkhaus:
The very first day you begged her before she had sex with you, was the day your problem began.
Shit-test score = F9


You must either quit begging, or simply continue begging.
The choice is yours and it ain't that complicated.

BAMSRAY:
we have to use our brain even without a word from her.she had a CS whch explanation do you need from her..I believe e is scared or not feeling confortable


pls take it easy on her is not just easy

Olofin2:
I don't keep friends. So I'm always at home. Our baby understands me more than anyone because if she's crying and refuses to be soothed by her mother, she would stop crying once her mother angrily dumps her on me. It's only breastfeeding that our baby can't get from me. I know so much about medical things and wife would consult me first before applying anything on the baby. Financially, it can be said that I'm the one working for the salary she's receiving monthly (you can't understand this aspect) and we only spend my own salary.

So, does she wants me to get intimacy from somewhere else?

Poseidon000:
Nuff said

incogni2o:
Are you married Mr.

If Yes , advice with experience.

If No reply with a cancel of your post

Supermajor:
Na wah o!! Everyone keeps telling op to understand with her, will she die if she chooses to understand with her husband?? BTW, is she the first to give both through cs??Una just dy make the thing look as if na the whole world dem comot from her bele..
Oga op, I know say u don already pick ur advice already, all this talk no get use again

Millenniumlady:
You must suffer for my hand

Oyindidi:
How old is your marriage? Multiply it by 4 that's the number of years I've been married. I delivered through CS like your wife so I know what I'm saying.

incogni2o:
You are married for so long and still you say sex no be food

I either you arent marries or you arent living withbyour husband or your husband is a business Man that seldomly comes home.


At least the wife should have let hwr husband know some things aren't as they were.

Oyindidi:
Allow her to heal, she's scared of getting pregnant again. Talking from experience