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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by eziezi90(m): 8:05pm On Apr 21, 2020*

Bruhh

A parent will always love one more than the others. There will always be a favorite. It's basic laws of attraction

Even if all no get sense, one more get small sense pass others cheesy

But good parents should never show preference or condemn the others because they are all gifts. All can do exceptionally well no matter where they start or how they behave now

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Parisian: 8:06pm On Apr 21, 2020

I don't understand how people do it. I love all my siblings equally. I love my mom and dad equally too.

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by teemy(m): 8:07pm On Apr 21, 2020

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

I will talk a bit on how it happens.

African parents believe in ass-whoopin' and the young couple still being energetic do a lot of that with the first born.

Second child comes, they are tired of trying to repeat the whole aspect of instilling discipline while the first born who passed through the process takes on the mantle of disciplinarian and sometimes over the hedge not being able to gauge his/her power while extending the lashes. This leads to parents having to watch and protect the second child from the first born.

First child gets messed up with why the younger was not beaten for infractions he/she was beaten for. This leads to sibling rivalry and first child is ever ready to dish out any form of beating whenever half the chance comes up.The continuous act of protection leads to seeing the second child as to-be-protected and the first as a to-protect-from.

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by salt1: 8:07pm On Apr 21, 2020

Sheriman:
Surely it happens in every home especially African home.. parents do love one child over others. Joseph was his father favorite amongst his other brethren. Though if it too much it can cause jealousy and hatred

That's not true. I have four children and I love them equally and they know.
The favourite child is the child of the moment. If you're sick, happy, or sad, you become my favourite for that moment. If you don't need me for support, you fade a little and create space for the child that needs me. So each child feels special.
My mother didn't have favourite child either.
Causing unnecessary sibling rivalry is not normal.

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by freeman4ever(m): 8:07pm On Apr 21, 2020

That's why the oyibos most times give birth to just a single child to avoid this

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Parisian: 8:07pm On Apr 21, 2020

I'm so sorry about that.

vickydankal:
Life events, child character etc could make a parent love a child more than another, but maturity demands you love them equally and give them equal right that they won’t notice who is more loved.

Else you will create a problem for yourself and the children in the future: my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Drizzy5001(m): 8:08pm On Apr 21, 2020

It's very bad, and most African parents are fond of that.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by femi4: 8:10pm On Apr 21, 2020

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

Its unavoidable but don't show it while dealing with them like Isaac and Rebecca did towards Esau and Jacob

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by optimusprime2(m): 8:10pm On Apr 21, 2020

The truth is you may want to be a standard parent, I.e treat all your children equally and have them uphold that value. However one child will always stand out and prick your Heart in a unique way and that right there answers your question.

In my family I am the only child that knows my mother's mumu button, and because of that ... hehehehehehe- I made her love me more, despite her equality principle... don't we all have a dash of evil cool

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Staphylococcus: 8:12pm On Apr 21, 2020

Yku can't love you children equally.

That's one fact you can try to hide but will never be

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by bamasite2: 8:13pm On Apr 21, 2020

I wrote a detailed post about it before. The title is Differential treatment: a time bomb every parent must avoid

https://successsecrets01..com/2017/06/differential-treatment-time-bomb-every.html

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Peterjetlee007(m): 8:14pm On Apr 21, 2020

sherylbakky:
The truth is, as long as our personalities differ as humans....Parent/parents will always love one child more than other/others.

Boss the truth is no matter how you try to be secretive about it.
While growing up kids will definitely find out :
And regardless there’s always a way of showing love and affection to the one you love among the others which make it obvious also

What is not good is making it obvious to the extent that everyone including the sibling/siblings notice.

It's better to keep it to themselves and care equally for all the children.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Flier: 8:14pm On Apr 21, 2020

Parisian:
I don't understand how people do it. I love all my siblings equally. I love my mom and dad equally too.

You can't love people equally it's not possible,just that you must not make it visible

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by livelovelaugh: 8:14pm On Apr 21, 2020

A parent can’t love the children equally. Each child is unique and has different characteristics. Therefore a parent will like one more than the other. Its just life. The wise thing to do is not to show it cause it most times affect the kids.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Daddy46: 8:14pm On Apr 21, 2020

Yustash001:
Actually, there's nothing bad in it as it comes natural

However, it becomes bad when you start showing it and making the others feel they are less important...

it's what am going through not only me we are three facing this out of five of us two are doing fine to the glory of God we the rest we know we are trying my mum try not to show the difference most time but my dad will always come out to compare us and say all such of words to us but there was one year I hate them that I feel like killing but I was able live over it,it's really happening everywhere

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by DabuIIIT: 8:15pm On Apr 21, 2020

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

It's very wrong and evil.
It leads to enmity between siblings. It damages relationship between siblings and between kids and their parents.
It's very bad

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Staphylococcus: 8:15pm On Apr 21, 2020

salt1:
That's not true. I have four children and I love them equally and they know.
The favourite child is the child of the moment. If you're sick, happy, or sad, you become my favourite for that moment. If you don't need me for support, you fade a little and create space for the child that needs me. So each child feels special.
My mother didn't have favourite child either.
Causing unnecessary sibling rivalry is not normal.

Keep deceiving yourself. Maybe you were never observant. It's in the human nature. Their is always one your heart is always after. Even if parents don't show it, if you monitor and observe, you will always know one is special

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Parisian: 8:16pm On Apr 21, 2020

I love every single member of my family equally.

Flier:
You can't love people equally it's not possible,just that you must not make it visible

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Achor1111(m): 8:16pm On Apr 21, 2020

It is natural

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by stonemasonn: 8:19pm On Apr 21, 2020

vickydankal:
my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

really? That's extreme.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by tiziano(m): 8:19pm On Apr 21, 2020

sherylbakky:
The truth is, as long as our personalities differ as humans....Parent/parents will always love one child more than other/others.

What is not good is making it obvious to the extent that everyone including the sibling/siblings notice.

It's better to keep it to themselves and care equally for all the children.

naso

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by bukatyne(f): 8:19pm On Apr 21, 2020

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

No.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by cooljoe(m): 8:20pm On Apr 21, 2020

It's nature. U can't love two pple equally, even our Lord Jesus loved one of His disciples more. Parents always love one kid more, just don't show it or show bias, that's all..

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by bigfrancis21: 8:21pm On Apr 21, 2020*

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

Sometimes, parents can't help feeling closer to one child over the others. You see, sometimes soul mates incarnate in the form of parent-child, spouses, siblings etc and they will always feel closer to each other in their current lifetime, for their bond is a soul connection. They've spent lifetimes before together and often plan their future lives together (in different roles or settings such as parent-child, siblings, close friends, as twins etc) that best serve their needs for that particular lifetime. Some mothers or fathers will admit to just feeling a direct connection to a particular child as soon as they were born, or that this particular child understood them or things just seemed to fall into place with this particular child, and for some other children, they didn't seem to experience this connection that much. Parents will try to love all children equally but any child they have a soulmate connection with will always stand out.

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by omonnakoda: 8:21pm On Apr 21, 2020

Depends on what you mean by "love"
Some parents show their love by flogging the shit outa you

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Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by vickydankal(f): 8:22pm On Apr 21, 2020

stonemasonn:
really? That's extreme.

My dear it was worst than that. I hate to remember it.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by stonemasonn: 8:22pm On Apr 21, 2020

Anny505:
Even God himself had his favorite between Esau and Jacob right from their mother's womb.

Jacob I love, Esau I hate

all that is biblical propaganda to make one person above another. A true God good has no favorites.

Re: Parents Loving One Of Their Children More Than The Others: Your Opinion by Goalnaldo(m): 8:23pm On Apr 21, 2020

vickydankal:
Life events, child character etc could make a parent love a child more than another, but maturity demands you love them equally and give them equal right that they won’t notice who is more loved.

Else you will create a problem for yourself and the children in the future: my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

awww so sorry dearie cry

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