Guys, someone pregnanted my sister and denied that he is responsible. All this while she was pregnant the guy abandoned her and didnt spend a dime. She delivered yesterday. How can i get this dude to take responsiblity of the child? I know marriage is not by force, but i want the guy to do expenses. And i also want the guy to regret why he denied his act.

You can't force a man to take up responsibility. If u can take care of the mother and the baby do it. Life is a circle.

bigmodo:
Guys, someone pregnanted my sister and denied that he is responsible. All this while she was pregnant the guy abandoned her and didnt spend a dime. She delivered yesterday. How can i get this dude to take responsiblity of the child? I know marriage is not by force, but i want the guy to do expenses. And i also want the guy to regret why he denied his act.

you well

Impregnated.

pyyxxaro:




you well

DanseMacabre:
Impregnated.

na dem. Judas category.

bigmodo:

na dem. Judas category.

You come be wetin


Jesus category

Was it a rape? If no, your sister should share from the blame.
Don't involve yourself now, because you didn't when he was raising your sister's leg up

First of all the blame should go to your sister , who opened her legs for an irresponsible man,

Secondly if you have the means to support your sister, try and do it and forget about the bastard that got her pregnant because come Rain come Shine, he will surely come for his child and by then feel free to exact your Revenge.

bigmodo:
Guys, someone pregnanted my sister and denied that he is responsible. All this while she was pregnant the guy abandoned her and didnt spend a dime. She delivered yesterday. How can i get this dude to take responsiblity of the child? I know marriage is not by force, but i want the guy to do expenses. And i also want the guy to regret why he denied his act.

you can raise money for DNA.

DanseMacabre:


You come be wetin


Jesus category

ezi like u. If u dnt knw any reasonable tng to say. Must u exhibit ur mumuness

SirWhiteFish:
you can raise money for DNA.

i have the money for dna, after dna what should i do

bigmodo:
i have the money for dna, after dna what should i do

you will do the DNA again

SirWhiteFish:
you will do the DNA again

onye ara

How are you so sure he's the one responsible?
Were you there when they did it?

Your sister has put to bed already, what your family should be concerned about now is how to get a DNA test done which will prove this guy is the father of the child.
Once it is ascertained that he is, then you have all the moral and legal right to start dragging him for child support.

All the my sister said, and he said... is just not enough to prove anything.

bigmodo:
onye ara

OK jokes aside, look for him and demand a dna test.
He will b responsible for the half payment and you will complete it.
This is why it's advisable to only keep a pregnancy for a responsible person

bigmodo:
Guys, someone pregnanted my sister and denied that he is responsible. All this while she was pregnant the guy abandoned her and didnt spend a dime. She delivered yesterday. How can i get this dude to take responsiblity of the child? I know marriage is not by force, but i want the guy to do expenses. And i also want the guy to regret why he denied his act.

So sorry about that...The truth is, you can't force him to take responsibility... I know it's going to be a hard one for your sister and probably you /family but please I beg you, instead of concentrating on who the father of the child is or not, channel that energy on your sister and her new baby. The first 2 years will be tough especially if she have no savings...but God will see her through I can assure you that. My people will say it's God that takes care of babies/children and that's the truth. One way or the other, supplies usually come but it might not be like those from a rich home but the supply will come. Now is the time to channel her love and energy on her baby. Now is the time to start planning long and short term goals for the future of her child. Now is the time to be determined to make it in life for the sake of her child. Please give her support in the little or bigger way you can. She should move on. Start her life all over and work towards success. Tell your sister that the best revenge any lady can give an irresponsible father is success! Success in the lady's life and success in the life of the child. Success is the only Revenge! Then watch the guy come later in life to apologise for his irresponsible stupid actions towards mother and child. It's now left for your sister to accept the apology or not...
Every support you and your family gives to your sister and her baby will count or tell on you in the future...Respond positively!



Oooops I was almost tempted to type in Yoruba. Please excuse my gbagaun if any...

If your sister has no doubt at all that he is the one, you can sue him for child support . That might entail a court mandated dna testing after which if he’s the father, he will have to pay monthly support.
That’s all you can get. You can’t get him to care if he doesn’t want to. Nor should you try. Men who deny their kids are not worth the stress.

For that dna test, i dnt knw how to get that guy to do it. He completely turned his back on everyone. My sister has mental issue.

It was an accidental discharge...suspect will always be on the run..e.g,police,drivers and guys wey give girls belle.

Op let me ask you a simple question
























Where were you when your sister was fvcking around?

What did you do about it?

cococandy:
If your sister has no doubt at all that he is the one, you can sue him for child support . That might entail a court mandated dna testing after which if he’s the father, he will have to pay monthly support.
That’s all you can get. You can’t get him to care if he doesn’t want to. Nor should you try. Men who deny their kids are not worth the stress.

Madam where do you live?

bigmodo:
For that dna test, i dnt knw how to get that guy to do it. He completely turned his back on everyone. My sister has mental issue.

There are different types of mental health issues

Her mental issues, do they pose a disability to her?
Like is she unable to communicate properly in defense of herself or to give consent in sexual relationships? Is she Unable to care for herself in activities of daily living I.e cleaning and caring for herself, feeding herself, providing for herself etc? If yes, then you have a solid case. What whomever got her pregnant did is rape.

Get a lawyer!

Doesn’t matter.
Wherever OP lives, there are laws to handle stuff like this. They probably don’t take advantage of what is available to them

Charleys:


Madam where do you live?

bigmodo:
For that dna test, i dnt knw how to get that guy to do it. He completely turned his back on everyone. My sister has mental issue.

you I'll demand for his samples.
But he may think you want to use it to bewitch him

@op, you need to calm down. Right now, you're very upset and It's normal.
I would suggest your family should concentrate more on your sister and her baby for now.
You might ended up wasting your resources on DNA test, court case and all that. He might be assigned to be paying some amount of money monthly. What if he stop paying and stop taking responsibility and run away? You and your family members will be dragging the issues and keep getting hurt.
That guy doesn't worth the stress you're about to go through.

bigmodo:
Guys, someone pregnanted my sister and denied that he is responsible. All this while she was pregnant the guy abandoned her and didnt spend a dime. She delivered yesterday. How can i get this dude to take responsiblity of the child? I know marriage is not by force, but i want the guy to do expenses. And i also want the guy to regret why he denied his act.

What if he is not the one?

What if ur sister fvcks too many dick and had to lied on an innocent man?

What if what if


Where was ur sister when responsible men wanted to fvck her? What did she do to them?

Call them broke ass nigga abi?

So many questions

ignis:
Was it a rape? If no, your sister should share from the blame.
Don't involve yourself now, because you didn't when he was raising your sister's leg up

Exactly and if he wants revenge, he can wait for another 10-15years, the baby daddy will come then
But for talking care of the child, u can't force him
This is Nigeria

Even if the DNA test proves the accused is the father and court asks him to provide child support, He won't do it if he doesn't want to and where will that leave you all?

Direct your time, energy and resources to the new mom and babe cause they'll be needing it. Don't worry about the dude, nature has a way of dealing with such people

bigmodo:
i have the money for dna, after dna what should i do

I guess you are igbo and since your sister wasn't married to the man, it then means the baby belongs to your family unless there is a court in Nigeria where a man who blatantly denied a pregnancy and disappeared from the picture can show up later in life to demand rights over the said child and would be granted such rights.

cococandy:
Doesn’t matter.
Wherever OP lives, there are laws to handle stuff like this. They probably don’t take advantage of what is available to them

There are laws to handle issues like this as u said, but effecting the law is the issue in Nigeria. There is no rule of law in Nigeria, even if the OP spends money to get the guy arrested and starts a courts case with him, the guy will not still obey whatever the gudge rules.
Going through any legal tussle will be a waste of money for the OP. It's best he empower his sister by making her learn a skill, that is if she has the mental capacity to even learn one (remember OP said she has mental problem).

If you are certain he's the one responsible for your sister's pregnancy, get him to do right by her.

Get him arrested if you have to. If he can Bleep, he must bring money for diapers and baby food. If you let him off the hook with this, "you can't force a man to be involved", you will only be enabling his irresponsibility.

If he still insists on not taking care, have him sign off his complete rights to the child, that the child will bear your own father's name. You don't want him to stroll back 15 years in the future to come and claim the child.

All in all, hold him accountable please. We are tired of irresponsible men. Our society bears the brunt.

kneehighbootz:
If you are certain he's the one responsible for your sister's pregnancy, get him to do right by her.

Get him arrested if you have to. If he can Bleep, he must bring money for diapers and baby food. If you let him off the hook with this, "you can't force a man to be involved", you will only be enabling his irresponsibility.

If he still insists on not taking care, have him sign off his complete rights to the child, that the child will bear your own father's name. You don't want him to stroll back 15 years in the future to come and claim the child.

All in all, hold him accountable please. We are tired of irresponsible men. Our society bears the brunt.

I love this idea.


Stories like Op are the reason why i support abortion