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I tell you this, eight out of every ten men were molested as kids in one way or the other by adult ladies.

When men complain, no one cares to listen but a single cry by a woman attracts sympathy from everyone around.

So bro it's not just you, it happened to most if us but thank goodness our minds are wired to move on with life against all odds.

I also believe that a woman's mind is wired that way but they pretend to be hurt by in most cases non existent and non essential memories just to keep drawing sympathy to themselves at all times. This is why a career LovePeddler will cry before the camera about how she can't let go of memories of an imaginary rape and the world will start shouting "crucify him" without asking if the alleged rape actually occurred.

This is a very enlighten topic that needs to be moved to the front page. I am planning to hire a 23 year old female for my 8 and 11 year old sons but I most say, this is really really scary. I can't even imagine this. I will rather enroll them both in a boarding school. This is disheartening, how can this be.

Katier00:
This is a very enlighten topic that needs to be moved to the front page. I am planning to hire a 23 year old female for my 8 and 11 year old sons but I most say, this is really really scary. I can't even imagine this. I will rather enroll them both in a boarding school. This is disheartening, how can this be.

My friend’s only child is in arguably the best school in the SEast (going by the crazy fees they pay at least )
He said some other (senior)boys used to touch his privates parts in the shower. He didn’t want them reported because he is not a snitch (his words). But he seemed in control of the situation shaa.
I just wanted to point out that boarding schools are no escape . Personally I feel parents caring for their children is better.
Two kids are relatively easier to manage without help than 4/5. If you must, enlist the services of those daily paid helps that would work in the morning and afternoon when you are away. By the time you and the kids are back at home they leave.

This advice is not from experience though

merahki:
My friend’s only child is in arguably the best school in the SEast (going by the crazy fees they pay at least )
He said some other (senior)boys used to touch his privates parts in the shower. He didn’t want them reported because he is not a snitch (his words). But he seemed in control of the situation shaa.
I just wanted to point out that boarding schools are no escape . Personally I feel parents caring for their children is better.
Two kids are relatively easier to manage without than 4/5. If you must, enlist the services of those daily paid helps that would work in the morning and afternoon when you are away. By the time you and the kids are back at home they leave.

This advice is not from experience though

I went to all girls boarding school too, yes I am aware of something like that but that can be call youthful exuberance, children trying to explore their bodies out of ignorance but for a help, forcing an erection on your son at a tender age of 8 or making your child suck her breast or private part is unforgiving and unimaginable. My work go into the night, 8 or 9 making it a bit difficult for me to be home all the time and leaving them without an adult supervision

Fun fact: women abuse little boys more than there male counterpart.

most men especially the handsome small boys were abused by an older woman when small,I was a victim too,but men downplay it alot..

Women keep pretending to hate sex outside but keep raping small boys inside.....

bukatyne:
What do you think is the root cause?

Put feminism aside:

Even in Igbo Tutu where the women see themselves as third class citizens, they would take the issue of the abused boy child differently from the abused girl child.

Why?

Where is the location of "Igbo Tutu?"

LordKO:
Where is the location of "Igbo Tutu?"

It means 'fresh/thick bush/forest'

bukatyne:
It means 'fresh/thick bush/forest'

You have taken a bribe. Lol.

LordKO:
You have taken bribe. Lol.

Hahahahahahaha.

That's the meaning. Used it to depict a place that would not be 'influenced' by feminism.

bukatyne:
Hahahahahahaha.

That's the meaning. Used it to depict a place that would not be 'influenced' by feminism.

OK. My plan before I asked and got an answer from you was to assemble my kinsmen to follow me come and ask you how we offended you. I thank God say we no offend U. Lol.

Maybe men need to start a #Metoo movement
Let the whole world know how serious this is because at the end of the day, nobody can fight your battle for you. Maybe with you they can if only more voices are heard.
That is how women do it.
You can't stay silent and expect things to just happen. When you speak up, potential offenders are less likely to offend.

LordKO:
OK. My plan before I asked and got an answer from you was to assemble my kinsmen to follow me come and ask you how we offended you. I thank God say we no offend U. Lol.

Oh are you from a place called Igbo Tutu in reality?

lasher1:
Oh are you from a place called Igbo Tutu in reality?

No, I was joking.

mystery22:
Fun fact: women abuse little boys more than there male counterpart.

most men especially the handsome small boys were abused by an older woman when small,I was a victim too,but men downplay it alot..

Women keep pretending to hate sex outside but keep raping small boys inside.....

Why are men downplaying it?

bukatyne:
What do you think is the root cause?

Put feminism aside:

Even in Igbo Tutu where the women see themselves as third class citizens, they would take the issue of the abused boy child differently from the abused girl child.

Why?

You don't know that for sure, you're making an assumption. You haven't lived in a totally "Igbo Tutu" society unless you want to go to places where civilization has not reached in any way, shape, or form.
Every known society today has a touch of modernism.

I just saw the meaning of Igbo Tutu you provided above BTW, was going to ask..

To your first question, the root cause of it all is Gynocentrism - more focus on the girl child than on the boy child, more focus on women's causes than on men's causes.

Unlike women, men may tend to overlook certain things due to our nature, but what about the boy child who was born & spends almost all his formative years with his mother, who might also claim to be feminist/pro-women activist, yet pretend these things don't happen.

Mine was that mum always suspects me of having something with the maid we were about the same age or I'll give her 2yrs max...She will discreetly tell my kid sister (5yrs younger) to monitor movements when she is away thereby poisoning the little girls mind towards me when i have no such history whatsoever (i never know woman then sef even the usual primary school mama and papa things sef i no try am for once) ...I hate my mum forever cos of that...YES! The maid on her own part always wondered what sort of emotionless young boy i was not to have made the slightest mistake after some years of living together she was looking for a gap but it never came...lol I was very young and intelligent so i knew everything that was happening... So fast forward one day the maid got in trouble and as she was being beaten she lied that i once had sex with her forcefully just to confirm my mum's 'fake' suspicion and destroy the family... Gbam! I talk am it has been happening.. according to mum..lol..a million words couldn't prove my innocence when i came back... I got the beating and punishment of my life that lasted days only my senior bro believed me .. But he was also young and without a say then...This affected my general perspective of women and girls till today i see them as evil and avoid them like ebola was even accused of being a gay in sec. School days...lol ... If i ever set my eyes on you Ndidi i will murder you straight without thinking twice.. As for mum.. I've always wondered what would make a woman suspect an innocent young boy without the tiniest provocation...please how do you describe someone that is always fixated on negative aspect of things...that's what she is and she must apologize to me at the right time no matter how long it takes...

kalufelix:
Mine was that mum always suspects me of having something with the maid we were about the same age or I'll give her 2yrs max...She will discreetly tell my kid sister (5yrs younger) to monitor movements when she is away thereby poisoning the little girls mind towards me when i have no such history whatsoever (i never know woman then sef even the usual primary school mama and papa things sef i no try am for once) ...I hate my mum forever cos of that...YES! The maid on her own part always wondered what sort of emotionless young boy i was not to have made the slightest mistake after some years of living together she was looking for a gap but it never came...lol I was very young and intelligent so i knew everything that was happening... So fast forward one day the maid got in trouble and as she was being beaten she lied that i once had sex with her forcefully just to confirm my mum's 'fake' suspicion and destroy the family... Gbam! I talk am it has been happening.. according to mum..lol..a million words couldn't prove my innocence when i came back... I got the beating and punishment of my life that lasted days only my senior bro believed me .. But he was also young and without a say then...This affected my general perspective of women and girls till today i see them as evil and avoid them like ebola was even accused of being a gay in sec. School days...lol ... If i ever set my eyes on you Ndidi i will murder you straight without thinking twice.. As for mum.. I've always wondered what would make a woman suspect an innocent young boy without the tiniest provocation...please how do you describe someone that is always fixated on negative aspect of things...that's what she is and she must apologize to me at the right time no matter how long it takes...

Apologies on your mum's behalf.

Forgive and let go of anger. It'll do you no good, but only rob you of good things because nothing good happens where there's so much anger and resentment.
You can out your own experience, learn to speak and defend those who cannot speak for themselves.

kalufelix:
Mine was that mum always suspects me of having something with the maid we were about the same age or I'll give her 2yrs max...She will discreetly tell my kid sister (5yrs younger) to monitor movements when she is away thereby poisoning the little girls mind towards me when i have no such history whatsoever (i never know woman then sef even the usual primary school mama and papa things sef i no try am for once) ...I hate my mum forever cos of that...YES! The maid on her own part always wondered what sort of emotionless young boy i was not to have made the slightest mistake after some years of living together she was looking for a gap but it never came...lol I was very young and intelligent so i knew everything that was happening... So fast forward one day the maid got in trouble and as she was being beaten she lied that i once had sex with her forcefully just to confirm my mum's 'fake' suspicion and destroy the family... Gbam! I talk am it has been happening.. according to mum..lol..a million words couldn't prove my innocence when i came back... I got the beating and punishment of my life that lasted days only my senior bro believed me .. But he was also young and without a say then...This affected my general perspective of women and girls till today i see them as evil and avoid them like ebola was even accused of being a gay in sec. School days...lol ... If i ever set my eyes on you Ndidi i will murder you straight without thinking twice.. As for mum.. I've always wondered what would make a woman suspect an innocent young boy without the tiniest provocation...please how do you describe someone that is always fixated on negative aspect of things...that's what she is and she must apologize to me at the right time no matter how long it takes...

let go so that you can have peace of mind

I came across these pictures online of a sexualized children's party, you can actually see an adult lady in it probably expected to have the kids under her watch but instead urging them on with their dirty dancing.

Check this link on nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/2530107/omg-small-children-rocking-themselves

Also below are pictures of other kids' parties where sexually suggestive dirty dancing seems to be the norm.
Imagine these innocent kids at this age being encouraged to continue by the supervising adults one can only wonder the mindset of these little boys about parties and ladies as they grow up.

And years later ladies would call them dogs when they dont see them as anything but a play thing for excitement?

My first play sex was with an aunts house maid. She was older, from Togo.

This girl fine fa!!. It was from her I knew humans grow hair inbetween their legs.

Every night I’ll go inside and hide. (The normal play) when she catches me, she’ll keep touching and teasing, the idiot will stand up.

Then she’ll spread it open. I still can’t forget that pinky stuffs I kept wondering why and how it’s so pink.

stupidity:
My first play sex was with an aunts house maid. She was older, from Togo.

This girl fine fa!!. It was from her I knew humans grow hair inbetween their legs.

Every night I’ll go inside and hide. (The normal play) when she catches me, she’ll keep touching and teasing, the idiot will stand up.

Then she’ll spread it open. I still can’t forget that pinky stuffs I kept wondering why and how it’s so pink.

Many of these stories abound as I said. Women were the first rapists of most men, because no matter how much you as a child seemed to like or enjoy it, you were not yet able to consent to the act which is technically phedophilic rape!

hmmmm

lasher1:
I came across these pictures online of a sexualized children's party, you can actually see an adult lady in it probably expected to have the kids under her watch but instead urging them on with their dirty dancing.

Check this link on nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/2530107/omg-small-children-rocking-themselves

Also below are pictures of other kids' parties where sexually suggestive dirty dancing seems to be the norm.
Imagine these innocent kids at this age being encouraged to continue by the supervising adults one can only wonder the mindset of these little boys about parties and ladies as they grow up.

And years later ladies would call them dogs when they dont see them as anything but a play thing for excitement?

Permitting this kind of sexually suggestive dance in a children's party should be classified as serious child abuse! And the adult organisers or encouragers reprimanded!