bukatyne:


<sup>Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

That is the summary of the chapter.

Love comes before submission. If you look at the model of Christ and the Church, the Love of Christ ALWAYS came first.

In fact, the Bible says 'While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.'

John 3:16 'For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.'</sup>

jeff1607:
when you choose an irresponsible man for a husband, bear your Cross and submit, you made the choice for a head and leader

CHoccolaTE:


Also bear your cross and love your wife even if she is the village ashawo
After all you chose her

Rozz:
Hard work and the fear of God is what I will look out for,once a person posses these two qualities you will hardly find the person wanting in other areas.But these are qualities you can hardly find in men of these days.If I have my way,i would have love to marry very early so that before 30 I will be done having my kids but you read stories everyday about marriages that are not encouraging, even the ones you thought are having it good start telling you stories on getting closer to them,you can see comments from men here trying to justify cheating and want the women to accept it,its not fair .Just very few women are lucky and I want to be among the few ones.Thanks MA.

UncleJJ:


With all due respect, Madam, the Bible is a guide; if we use the bible to justify our decisions we will always find a supporting verse.

The conjunction "and" means "at the same time" in parallel. So, in Eph 5:33; "and" means the wife is expected to give and receive and vice versa.
If Eph 5:33; used "then" which shows sequence - "Love before submission would be valid"

However, the bible never gave conditions for giving and receiving besides marriage and everything that comes after it.
The bible never said, if your husband is an infidel - spit in his face and sleep with your ex because broke men should not have erections.
And the Bible never said, if your wife is disrespectful, refuses to cook or is a terrible cook, a husband can pick a side chick from AkwaCross.

Proverbs 31; provides guidelines for the husband and wife.

jeff1607:



Are you really this bitter?

look at the topic and understand what is being discussed

CHoccolaTE:

Are you really this frustrated? Look at my reply and understand what I am telling you

jeff1607:



something is about to happen, all I can say to you is stay where you are

bukatyne:


Like I said before, forget about the stories and what men justify or don't. My people would say 'it is the person you are dealing with you face'.

1. What do you mean by hardworking?

2. What do you mean by God fearing?

Rozz:
1.Hardworking in the sense that he can maintain a BALANCE in whatever situation he may find himself...2.A God fearing man is a complete man, he will never be caught wanting because he has the fear of God.A man who has the fear of God brings nothing but joy and happiness to his loved ones.

Rozz:
1.Hardworking in the sense that he can maintain a BALANCE in whatever situation he may find himself...2.A God fearing man is a complete man, he will never be caught wanting because he has the fear of God.A man who has the fear of God brings nothing but joy and happiness to his loved ones.

bukatyne:


Ok, thanks for your time.
1. A man who can 'maintain a balance' (I don't understand what balance means here) in whatever situation is not hardworking: he is self-disciplined or moderate.

2. A man who has the fear of God can not be caught wanting.

I hear you however, you have not answered my question:

What qualities do you need in a husband? I want you to think about it.

If you cannot define what you need in a husband, you might not be able to recognize and appreciate them when they come your way.

adexpa:


well-done Ma......why dont you build up your verses from 21-33.......genuine readers dont just pick a verse and start conversation.

Beside, you did not read my last sentence where i gave my own submission about how things should be done(individual should identify their roles and play them without waiting for the other first). It is well(may God not give us man/woman that will frustrate our life).

Ariza:
Sir Ephesians 5:21 says : Submitting 'yourselves ' to one another in the fear of God.
This paragraph alone condemns and falsified most guys interpretation of Ephesians 5:22. The former verse shows what should exist in relationships and what is expected of both partners. Both partners must be submissive, accountable, fair, loyal and kind to one another.

It is only among African Men, Nigerians precisely that I see this intense desire to own, lord or control women. Most of you will do anything to be in charge and flex muscles, you will drag what is not, put extra burdens upon yourselves, even slowly kill yourselves just to have a false sense of power. Yes all your this power, or control you claim to have is nothing but pseudo but that's a topic for another day.

I don't really understand why you all see everything as competitions, even relationships that ought to be two people in love and equity, you lot turn to Master-slave thing. Yet you will be the first to complain. Una matter tire me o.

24kmagic:


Rozz is probably a teenager who is still living in her own fantasy. I asked her how old she was and she didn't answer me. She doesn't really know what she wants yet. But I sincerely hope that she finds what she's looking for.

Rozz:
lol.I know what I want and I'm also old enough.bukatyne is an amazing person,i understand what she's trying to do.

Rozz:
See ehn,thanks for this

bukatyne:


Ok, thanks for your time.
1. A man who can 'maintain a balance' (I don't understand what balance means here) in whatever situation is not hardworking: he is self-disciplined or moderate.

2. A man who has the fear of God can not be caught wanting.

I hear you however, you have not answered my question:

What qualities do you need in a husband? I want you to think about it.

If you cannot define what you need in a husband, you might not be able to recognize and appreciate them when they come your way.

24kmagic:

Tell me your age bracket na hanty

24kmagic:


Tell me your age bracket na hanty

mrblessed:
Why are you so obsessed in foisting your opinion on her, even though she has clearly written what her preferences for her ideal man are? This is against the backdrop of her clearheaded attempt to explain what she means, in case you find it incomprehensive. It is as if your cracked lens are the only legitimate, credible, device to understand and measure yardsticks for choosing partners. Even more confounding, your obstinate insistency is ridiculous because the points she provided are unambiguous and self-explanatory. Who on earth doesn't know what a "hardworking man" and one who has the "fear of God," mean?

Rozz:
lol.I know what I want and I'm also old enough.bukatyne is an amazing person,i understand what she's trying to do.

bukatyne:


Why would you marry a cheat and a drunkard?

And if he was perfect before you got married, what did you do to turn him to a cheat and drunkard?

merahki:

CHoccolaTE:


Also bear your cross and love your wife even if she is the village ashawo
After all you chose her

merahki:



Darling, you need to flex your wings, discover yourself, travel, earn a living/make your own money, get a degree, and another, form your own independent opinions and grow, before you start thinking about getting married. I tell you this as if you were my younger sister. But alas, marriage
You want to have all your kids before 30? Okay
Anyway it’s your life, and good luck.

mrblessed:
Why are you so obsessed in foisting your opinion on her, even though she has clearly written what her preferences for her ideal man are? This is against the backdrop of her clearheaded attempt to explain what she means, in case you find it incomprehensive. It is as if your cracked lens are the only legitimate, credible, device to understand and measure yardsticks for choosing partners. Even more confounding, your obstinate insistency is ridiculous because the points she provided are unambiguous and self-explanatory. Who on earth doesn't know what a "hardworking man" and one who has the "fear of God," mean?

merahki:



Darling, you need to flex your wings, discover yourself, travel, earn a living/make your own money, get a degree, and another, form your own independent opinions and grow, before you start thinking about getting married. I tell you this as if you were my younger sister. But alas, marriage
You want to have all your kids before 30? Okay
Anyway it’s your life, and good luck.