merahki:



You have got to be freaking kidding me right now

I told you before, there is something affected about your posts. Let me just hope you are putting up a front. Because if this is truly you? Then I just don’t know what to say at all

bukatyne2:


Put up a front that women should choose their husbands well?

Or a woman is too infantile to take responsibility for her own choices? Or was she forced to marry a man?

Girls unfortunate to be in cultures where they are forced to marry in their teens are even more emotionally intelligent than so called 30s who have 'flexed', 'seen' it all and 'made' all the money.

Abi a woman chooses a good man and he turns up drunk and a cheat one day. The wife would not analyze what went wrong first?

We don't have same guiding principles so 'my posts might seen affected to you.'

bukatyne2:


Put up a front that women should choose their husbands well?

Or a woman is too infantile to take responsibility for her own choices? Or was she forced to marry a man?

Girls unfortunate to be in cultures where they are forced to marry in their teens are even more emotionally intelligent than so called 30s who have 'flexed', 'seen' it all and 'made' all the money.

Abi a woman chooses a good man and he turns up drunk and a cheat one day. The wife would not analyze what went wrong first?

We don't have same guiding principles so 'my posts might seen affected to you.'

bukatyne:
Why would you marry a cheat and a drunkard?

And if he was perfect before you got married, what did you do to turn him to a cheat and drunkard

merahki:



Darling, you need to flex your wings, discover yourself, travel, earn a living/make your own money, get a degree, and another, form your own independent opinions and grow, before you start thinking about getting married. I tell you this as if you were my younger sister. But alas, marriage
You want to have all your kids before 30? Okay
Anyway it’s your life, and good luck.

cococandy:

I thought we agreed on personal responsibility.
The same way married women are supposed to be responsible for their actions and choices and the consequences thereof , so should their men.

cococandy:


I thought we agreed on personal responsibility.
The same way married women are supposed to be responsible for their actions and choices and the consequences thereof , so should their men.

Omar09:
Relationship and marriages today fail not because there's no love (in true fact love is just an illusion) or there's no compatibility (tho compatibility has its role tho), it fails because both parties are switching roles. No one wants to play there role because one thinks one's role is less deserving than the other's role.

If I ask you to bring a data backing this claim up now. . .

Graxie:
The more she tries to please her audience, the more stupid she appears. I keep wondering if it has to do with upbringing or something else. I can't believe a person can be this stupid. It's unfortunate, you can imagine such a person dishing out marital advice to troubled couple. The woman in such scenario will be depressed forever. May we never find ourselves needing counsel from damaged beings.

Magnoliaa:


1. This is a huge downplay of the problem of child marriages in the world. And to prove what?

You say they are unfortunate and forced. How can this ever be a good thing?

2. I think you lumped this together with the kind of marriage system contracted in the olden days, where the families come to discuss about their kids. But don't leave out the fact that these kids liked each other first, from afar without zero contact. These one are emotionally intelligent because they started working at 15, 16, learnt values earlier in life and mature quickly because of the extended family ties and other positive factors. E.g, parents could pick a spouse for their wards because they were, well, PARENTS. In every sense of the word. Now times have changed and people are finding themselves independent of those who gave birth to them.

3. But such successful cases of early marriages are few.



4. Your initial post blamed the woman for the change in the man's behaviour. Like, he doesn't have any morals or principles guiding him. Anything going wrong is automatically the woman's fault.

5. You can't also conclude that the woman isn't doing/hasn't done anything to salvage the marriage.

6. It's not her job alone.

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Magnoliaa:


If I ask you to bring a data backing this claim up now. . .

fuzzywuzzy:


It's like you don't know the person you are talking to
In her mind personal responsibility only applies if a woman is at fault. If the man is the one doing rubbish then the wife should be blamed.

bukatyne2:


1. How did I downplay child marriages when I even said they were unfortunate? Or does unfortunate have another meaning?

2. I am talking of child marriages as it happens in the North. Not cultures where teens get married.

3. Do you stats to prove that marriages contracted between young people are prone to divorce more than older people?

4. Did you follow the convo? The lady said it is difficult to submit to a drunkard and a cheat. Hence my question to her: Why did she marry one? And if she did not marry one, what did she do/contribute to make him one or simply put, what happened?

5. At NO point on this thread did I even assume that.

6. 100% agree with you; I did a thread recently comparing a Christian husband to Christ and I have always been very vocal that I hold men and women to same standards/morals. When men post their issues here, I address them; when wives post their issues, I also address them and teach women to be responsible for their choices. Which is why my threads are majorly to women and what to look out for. I still remember a thread recently on women differentiating between the men that worth them and the men that want them.

Let me also make it clear that I speak to Christians. Non-Christian couples can do as they deem fit (I am not saying only Christian marriages work before another dimwit quotes me).

Omar09:


I'd bring all the failed relationships in the world.

Kuns84:

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