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Franzinni:
haha God wanted to punish him well ni! But to be honest court weddings are not good unless you are sure of your spouse ... And can't be sure about no body in life .. Also every case is unique maybe the man was a jerk and so he got served ... But you won't pray to meet a woman who is gold digging o... Besides if that woman has kids for that man ... Trust me the man dey Canada with them now... Woman mumu button easy to find as long as she done born for you.. ( not baby mama package tho)

ZIMDRILL:
you got it wrong

All she wants is legally protection to what they will aquire as husband and wife in the event of the husband dies before her

Registered marriages were started after seeing abuse of culture and tradition whereby in the event of the death of the husband, the wife was not entitled to anything she would go back to her parents with nothing, Imagine you were married for 10 years, you aquired few properties together he suddenly dies are you not entitled to that wealth you built together? Whether wife was not formally working but cooking, looking after kids and looking after the house contributed to somewhere somehow to gathering of the wealth you ended up having

We take car insurance not becoz we want to get involved in accidents but in the event of an accident i get money to cover the value of my damaged car

So it the same with a registered marriage its an insurance cover to what you contributed to the marriage in the event of divorce or death, only a fool would feel normal to let go to what your contributed over years

Pension fund is also another good example would you want to walk away with nothing after working for company for 25 years No government policy forces employers to have pension funds for it workers

its not about gauranting her marriage but a protection by law in case of two worse out comes divorce and death

ZIMDRILL:
you got it wrong

All she wants is legally protection to what they will aquire as husband and wife in the event of the husband dies before her

Registered marriages were started after seeing abuse of culture and tradition whereby in the event of the death of the husband, the wife was not entitled to anything she would go back to her parents with nothing, Imagine you were married for 10 years, you aquired few properties together he suddenly dies are you not entitled to that wealth you built together? Whether wife was not formally working but cooking, looking after kids and looking after the house contributed to somewhere somehow to gathering of the wealth you ended up having

We take car insurance not becoz we want to get involved in accidents but in the event of an accident i get money to cover the value of my damaged car

So it the same with a registered marriage its an insurance cover to what you contributed to the marriage in the event of divorce or death, only a fool would feel normal to let go to what your contributed over years

Pension fund is also another good example would you want to walk away with nothing after working for company for 25 years No government policy forces employers to have pension funds for it workers

its not about gauranting her marriage but a protection by law in case of two worse out comes divorce and death

LeRabbite:
People have been severely burnt because they totally trusted the people they were married to. Having unflinching trust is no remedy for a duplicitous partner, hence the reluctance of many to go through with a statutory wedding.

We often here about how a statutory marriage safeguards the bride, now, men are trying to safeguard themselves. I think that’s totally fair.

frozen70:
It is the duty of the man to protect his wife from the preys of the family

If you mess up with your wife your family will do same to her

If you prove to your family that my wife is my source of happiness, tgry will avoid her like corona

No woman goes into marriage to loose her husband

But in the event such happens, the family out to give her the assurance that she won't suffer, simple

Now how do you make that to work out, by protecting her from the family attacks and harassments by inlaws while you are alive

bukatyne:
Reluctant prayer ke?

This is from the *borrom of ma hart*.

frozen70:
Mention how many cases the court treated like this before I will respond to your comment

LeRabbite:
I don’t know if women would be willing to part with assets/resources if they had more where there’s a divorce. I certainly wouldn’t feel entitled to or even want any of it.

LeRabbite:
Lol. Adura a gba

ZIMDRILL:
its so funny how people are self centred, its ok for wife to walk away with nothing after divorce or death

would you love your sister to be treat the same way ? kicked back to your parents house, if they have any with nothing after the death of her husband or divorce. Lets say the marriage was 15 years for real 15 years she goes back with nothing

The men who are in support against registered marriage give silly excuse to say a civil registered marriage is signing your death warrant, if you dont trust her why are you marrying her, if a person is evil a tradional marriage wont stop her from killing you

eyinjuege:
But the law doesn't see gender.
Tradition does.
The same protection offered a woman with a court marriage is the same offered a man.
Many of our men are still governed by tradition, hence the aversion for court marriage seen.

When a woman is from a wealthy home, the men don't need to be convinced of a court marriage, they pursue it.

1.Getting a divorce is much easier with a traditional marriage where the bride price is easily returned within a day e.g Tonto Dike and Churchill . So perhaps our men are thinking along that route in the foreseeable future?
2.With only a traditional marriage, a man is still allowed to several other wives , and a man who refuses court wedding to his partner has such intentions until proven otherwise.
3.My advice for such women is to ensure they reach their maximum potential even while married (all women actually). Do not give up your own career, goals , aspirations and dreams in order for your man to achieve his. Don't stay home under the guise of raising children and not developing yourself while he is out there building a future for himself where he doesn't see you or perhaps sees several other women by his side in that future.
Make sure he does his own equal contribution in the home front with your children, and that he also supports you in achieving your goals as you support him in achieving his.

eyinjuege:
But the law doesn't see gender.
Tradition does.
The same protection offered a woman with a court marriage is the same offered a man.
Many of our men are still governed by tradition, hence the aversion for court marriage seen.

When a woman is from a wealthy home, the men don't need to be convinced of a court marriage, they pursue it.

1.Getting a divorce is much easier with a traditional marriage where the bride price is easily returned within a day e.g Tonto Dike and Churchill . So perhaps our men are thinking along that route in the foreseeable future?
2.With only a traditional marriage, a man is still allowed to several other wives , and a man who refuses court wedding to his partner has such intentions until proven otherwise.
3.My advice for such women is to ensure they reach their maximum potential even while married (all women actually). Do not give up your own career, goals , aspirations and dreams in order for your man to achieve his. Don't stay home under the guise of raising children and not developing yourself while he is out there building a future for himself where he doesn't see you or perhaps sees several other women by his side in that future.
Make sure he does his own equal contribution in the home front with your children, and that he also supports you in achieving your goals as you support him in achieving his.

eyinjuege:
But the law doesn't see gender.
Tradition does.
The same protection offered a woman with a court marriage is the same offered a man.
Many of our men are still governed by tradition, hence the aversion for court marriage seen.

When a woman is from a wealthy home, the men don't need to be convinced of a court marriage, they pursue it.

1.Getting a divorce is much easier with a traditional marriage where the bride price is easily returned within a day e.g Tonto Dike and Churchill . So perhaps our men are thinking along that route in the foreseeable future?
2.With only a traditional marriage, a man is still allowed to several other wives , and a man who refuses court wedding to his partner has such intentions until proven otherwise.
3.My advice for such women is to ensure they reach their maximum potential even while married (all women actually). Do not give up your own career, goals , aspirations and dreams in order for your man to achieve his. Don't stay home under the guise of raising children and not developing yourself while he is out there building a future for himself where he doesn't see you or perhaps sees several other women by his side in that future.
Make sure he does his own equal contribution in the home front with your children, and that he also supports you in achieving your goals as you support him in achieving his.

ZIMDRILL:
its so funny how people are self centred, its ok for wife to walk away with nothing after divorce or death

would you love your sister to be treat the same way ? kicked back to your parents house, if they have any with nothing after the death of her husband or divorce. Lets say the marriage was 15 years for real 15 years she goes back with nothing

The men who are in support against registered marriage give silly excuse to say a civil registered marriage is signing your death warrant, if you dont trust her why are you marrying her, if a person is evil a tradional marriage wont stop her from killing you

Lionessza6:
We are talking about a legally binding contract here. It doesn't really matter what you or she wants or regrets from it, the law will take its course incase of a divorce .

ZIMDRILL:
thats the typical mind set of african man who doesnt want to pass his wealth to his kids

Plead:
He is correct. A man can even decide to remove his child from his will talk more of wife.

You’re just ignorant of how these things work

LeRabbite:
Unless the wife was compelled to stop working by the husband, I see no reason why she should be entitled to a farthing post divorce.

Why do you think a man worried his wife may bail on him and still leave with his valuables is a silly excuse for not wanting a statutory wedding? Aren’t there women who marry with the sole intent of taking advantage of the man’s resources? Can you tell which woman is which?

LeRabbite:
Unless the wife was compelled to stop working by the husband, I see no reason why she should be entitled to a farthing post divorce.

Why do you think a man worried his wife may bail on him and still leave with his valuables is a silly excuse for not wanting a statutory wedding? Aren’t there women who marry with the sole intent of taking advantage of the man’s resources? Can you tell which woman is which?

ZIMDRILL:
their are lots dear

you not hearing about them doesnt mean there are not outside

and many people are doing civil registered marriages meaning those will exercise their right in event of death or divorce

ZIMDRILL:
did you read the start of the thread?

we are talking of in the event that husband dies, how can he protect wife when he already? unless wife is being protected by law via registered marriage which give rights to remaining spouse which is the wife

frozen70:
How long do you think it takes to get resolved

What do you think her inlaws will be doing in that interim

You are a man and I am a woman, best option is protect your wife from your family and they will treat her with respect even if you are not there

ZIMDRILL:
their are lots dear

you not hearing about them doesnt mean there are not outside

and many people are doing civil registered marriages meaning those will exercise their right in event of death or divorce

frozen70:
It's obvious you don't understand what I mean by protect your wife before your family

Let's me explain more

Most families, wants to know if a man is in control if his wife

If he washes his wife's pants and bra

If he is a house boy to the wife or if he us the lion at home

If he takes orders from the wife or if he gives orders to his wife

You see, a married woman happiness in marriage lyes on the way her husband places valued on her

She is a stranger that ame to make a family with you and your siblings

They may not want her type but for the fact that she us your choice protect her

Don't expose her to your family

frozen70:
At this point, I will end this discussion pls

When you get married you will get the experience better but for now, you won't understand

ZIMDRILL:
i get your point but you got it twisted

our scenario is based on either death or divorce, what are the rights to women, who has a registered marriage, by law no one has right to the property except the living spouse in this case its the wife

this got nothing to do with respect whatsoever

ZIMDRILL:
i wont understand what, am 44 dear have been married before

frozen70:
So tell me more

ZIMDRILL:
about what