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piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Hanks0000:
You spot on... I don't see no point chasing someone who's not ready to reciprocate her feelings.. But instead building walls as you trying to pull em down...

I just don't wanna be emotionally connected to anyone for now.... Maybe forever..

Renida:
I know how you feel. Be open minded

Hanks0000:
Believe me, I am open minded.. fun to be with.. tho I'm often alone which I treasure so much cause my lone time is priceless.... lols..

I do crush on people... Mostly girls but I tend to kill it inside me cause I know it always gonna end in heartaches...

Renida:
There's someone you can share your vulnerabilities with. Trust me, you just haven't met her yet. You should start mingling and not hoarding yourself atm

Hanks0000:
I actually have someone like that with whom I share everything with and we get along so well.. Tho she's way older than me (I'm attracted to older ones) but I know we got chemistry... I just dunno how to ask her out...

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

ibksiv:
Lol. Oya start to run make dem chase you na.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

Renida:
Would you like to ask her out to be your babe? Would you want her to be your babe?

Hanks0000:
Absolutely, but I don't wanna jeopardise our friendship cause of my feelings for her... We've come a long way.. We chat everyday since the day we met and she always tell me about how much she loves our unending chat and says "l love you" every night.. I am afraid asking her out would atomatically end our friendship and I can't imagine a life without her in it..

xrayj:
It apply to both genders, if u show interest in someone that does not like u, it won't change what they feel towards u. But when u show interest in someone who likes u, he will naturally reciprocate. U ladies feel once u show interest in any man, he should reciprocate, because u are a lady, it doesn't work like that. A man also need to feel something for u.

Renida:
I feel sorry if such is the scenario. People lose interest once their person of interest for so many reasons. One of this which I think is the case here is psychological posturing. What this means is some people are used to working extremely hard aka hustling for things. Their entire life rests on a perspective that what they must have, they must work for, unfortunately some of this whole way of thinking affects even not working aspects of their lives.

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

Zoie:
The average Nigerian man suffers from an extremely weak self esteem that needs to stay constantly bloated to stay functional.
That's why they chase after ladies who treat them like shi.t and avoid ladies who show them love. The hunt makes them happy. The thrill of having to constantly woo a woman makes them feel good. Makes them feel she is better than the one who shows love even without being wooed..even if the former is a retired runs girl.

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

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Renida:
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I didn't say Nigerian men. I simply wrote about some persons, male and female, humans in general. It's psychological immaturity. Don't let their immaturity lead you to form new unhealthy habits. If you like the person, keep them far, and watch them beg for your attention as they outgrow their mental posturing. For now, go for where you're worshipped, not where you're tolerated


As for me, I don't want a lady I have interest in making it hard, at my age, level of maturity, five minutes is what I want to bear chasing anyone. Nothing more. In fact, I rather be chased

patrickmuf:
You're definitely an alpha male like me...

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Renida:
My sister. Na for bad woman body, dem dey appreciate good woman. Na for here man body, dem dey appreciate good man.


May God help us not associate with the bads before we appreciate the good