crackkhaus:
The reason is simply because most of these women are basically at war with themselves. Anyone or anything with a vagîna around them is competition and a potential threat.

This is not just about wives and their mother-in-laws, or husbands and their father-in-laws.

It happens generally...

A lot of men have had the same friend or group of friends for over 15years and they still be going strong, but hardly women. Something always comes between them and their friend(s) sooner or later no matter how close they are.

I can't agree with you this time. It's not about women to women generally. It's about expectations from the wife to the husband's family in which husbands seems not to owe the wife's family anything.

Bruno3000:
Men are less dramatic. Simple.

Men fight and kill people over trivial matters every day worldwide...you think it's just 'sour' relationships and crying? Lol men are less dramatic when they get to classify what it means l guess

UmmuFarrah:

I can't agree with you this time. It's not about women to women generally. It's about expectations from the wife to the husband's family in which husbands seems not to owe the wife's family anything.

You normally agree with me?

Well I tend to look at the bigger picture.
In a lesbian union with no husband present, they will still have MIL issues.

The husband has the upper hand in the marriage, so obviously the wife’s family will be as cordial/respectful as possible not to enrage the husband and his family. It’s the same reason husbands don’t have issues with their mothers-in-law.

To talk about the horrible Nigerian mother-in-law stereotype objectively, a better comparison would be the relationship between the father-in-law and the wife.

ibkayee:

Men fight and kill people over trivial matters every day worldwide...you think it's just 'sour' relationships and crying? Lol men are less dramatic when they get to classify what it means l guess

Always on point

Acidosis:


Seriously??

Have you seen such and if yes, how often do those cases occur?

crackkhaus:


The scenarios are just kindergarten efforts to try shifting the narrative away from this simple fact.

Almost every woman has a story to tell about a close friendship with another female that went terribly sour.
And guess what? The reasons for it always seem absolutely stvpid to the hearing of a man.

I dey tell u. Women are their own enemies.

travelland:
It's because Fathers are not usually emotionally possessive of their children. If you meet a father in law with such nature there will be problem. Whereas more mothers are emotionally possessive, they can't stand the idea of letting go of their possession to another wwoman so they tend to manipulate and cause trouble for the new wife. If you meet a mother in law, who has got her life going, has things that keep her busy and a spouse or companion she is happily sharing life with, she won't have time for such things

On point!

cococandy:
Men are not treated like second hand people who have been given a golden opportunity by being married into the family as such need to to be under and serve everybody for the in-law family to love them. What will they have to complain about ?

I mean no matter the differences (and I’m sure they might have differences because we are all humans), they are still respected. The male-created cultures and traditions require it.

If the men’s families respect the women as much as the women’s families respect the men, there will hardly be any in-law clashes. You people keep asking questions a two old already knows the answer to.

Well said

crackkhaus:


In a lesbian union with no husband present, they will still have MIL issues.

This is the most hilarious thing I have read in the last 24 hours!

Husbands are not " tested" with cooking, cleaning or washing cars when they go visiting in laws for the first time.

Husbands are not required to spend days with their father in laws to test their materialness

Husbands are not required to drop their jobs be home making dinner and lunch for father in laws when they come visiting.


Husbands are not judged on house keeping skills

Father in laws do not come into a mans house and start nagging him on what he does and doesn't do

LewsTherin:


This is the most hilarious thing I have read in the last 24 hours!

Lol, it's just the truth.

Eketem:
Husbands are not " tested" with cooking, cleaning or washing cars when they go visiting in laws for the first time.

Husbands are not required to spend days with their father in laws to test their materialness

Husbands are not required to drop their jobs be home making dinner and lunch for father in laws when they come visiting.


Husbands are not judged on house keeping skills

Father in laws do not come into a mans house and start nagging him on what he does and doesn't do

Hang on.

Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills?

Just commenting, you know

LewsTherin:


Hang on.

Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills?

Just commenting, you know

I totally agree, unfortunately women do this shit to other women with backing from the husband in some cases but yes point taken women who do not want to put up with this crap should insist they wont the world won't end and the women doing this nonsense when they find that women wont put up with this crap to marry their sons will adjust.

This means women too will have to come to marriage with other values beyond cooking, cleaning and child care abilities. They have to be at a point where leaving a relationship will be a loss to the man too so he will not let his family even consider this crap.

LewsTherin:


Hang on.

Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills?

Just commenting, you know

Watch as they still try to explain away this fact one way or the other.

MIL - Woman
Wife - Woman
Aunties - Women
Sisters - Women

Yet for some reason, it's the husband (man) that's the problem when these grown-ups refuse to get along.

I can't...

crackkhaus:


Watch as they still try to explain away this fact one way or the other.

MIL - Woman
Wife - Woman
Aunties - Women
Sisters - Women

Yet for some reason, it's the husband (man) that's the problem when these grown-ups refuse to get along.

I can't...

I said years back that when the women (MILs, SILs, etc) have things going on in their lives, they will not have the time/energy to chase DILs around.

bukatyne:


I said years back that when the women (MILs, SILs, etc) have things going on in their lives, they will not have the time/energy to chase DILs around.

That's if they will still get along during family events, get-togethers, or holidays...

That time, the problem will be how the in-laws left her to do all the cleaning and/or cooking.

I treat my in-laws the same way their son treats them. Any complains? Direct them to their precious son. You didn’t raise a son that cooks and cleans and kisses your ass? Too bad.

I also treat my in-laws the same way their son treats my parents. If you visit my parents once in a blue moon, cross your legs and drop money without any effort in building a relationship, that’s exactly what your parents are getting from me. Any complains? Take a look at the mirror.

crackkhaus:

That's if they will still get along during family events, get-togethers, or holidays...

That time, the problem will be how the in-laws left her to do all the cleaning and/or cooking.

Women can rant and rave all they want, if WE determine to be better in-laws to our brothers' and sons' women, it will go round and very soon, DIL/MIL issues would phase out.

Till then, rant away.

Tonight, some women on this same NL are planning to be mean to their DIL/SIL.

Some are currently somewhere harassing a son's/brother's wife.

bukatyne:


Women can rant and rave all they want, if WE determine to be better in-laws to our brothers' and sons' women, it will go round and very soon, DIL/MIL issues would phase out.

Till then, rant away.

Tonight, some women on this same NL are planning to be mean to their DIL/SIL.

Some are currently somewhere harassing a son's/brother's wife.

It's a circle...

crackkhaus:

It's a circle...

This is a classic case of 'be the change you seek.'

.

bukatyne:


This is a classic case of 'be the change you seek.'

Woz my own?

If MILs and wives (or future wives) want to keep going at themselves till the second coming, men can't be bothered.

LewsTherin:


Hang on.

Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills?

Just commenting, you know

Usually when there is problem regarding dil, when husbands complain, the father in his characteristic shifting away things will systematically shift it to the mothers to go and solve.
It didn't start today.
If siblings fight, it's mostly mothers that settle the quarrel. Fathers will always pretend tired as if it's only them that go out there to hustle.
U have elder sis, they will automatically make her the lawyer, chief judge of the house.
Men know how to dodge family responsibilities. They see it as not men issues.
Tomorrow if mothers, sisters, aunts took over handling such affairs, you men will still come out here to judge them.
When u were growing, did u ever see your dad handles these so called petty issues?
Abeg, u guys should let women be.

crackkhaus:

Woz my own?

If MILs and wives (or future wives) want to keep going at themselves till the second coming, men can't be bothered.

See your comment, men can't be bothered.
That's what fathers, brothers, uncles do. They shift the workload to women, now u guys are acting all saint.

I have the privilege of being married into a family where there is no woman. They are bothered. Really bothered.

There was no difference from the how the men in the family behave when there is family crises than families where women handle family crises. No difference at all.

sassysure:

See your comment, men can't be bothered.
That's what fathers, brothers, uncles do. They shift the workload to women, now u guys are acting all saint.

I have the privilege of being married into a family where there is no woman. They are bothered. Really bothered.

There was no difference from the how the men in the family behave when there is family crises than families where women handle family crises. No difference at all.

I don't know know what you mean by shifting the workload to women.
When two adult women are having a cold war situation, it's best to stay away and not take sides - let them settle themselves, they're not kids.

You will just keep trying to prove that men are as dramatic as women from now till eternity... nobody believes that, NOT even you.

Men don't have time for yeye drama. You will only have issues with my father if you maltreat his daughters.

crackkhaus:

You normally agree with me?

Well I tend to look at the bigger picture.
In a lesbian union with no husband present, they will still have MIL issues.

Lol, this one na bad mouth o

crackkhaus:
The reason is simply because most of these women are basically at war with themselves. Anyone or anything with a vagîna around them is competition and a potential threat.

This is not just about wives and their mother-in-laws, or husbands and their father-in-laws.

It happens generally...

A lot of men have had the same friend or group of friends for over 15years and they still be going strong, but hardly women. Something always comes between them and their friend(s) sooner or later no matter how close they are.

This assertion is wrong. Women aren't at war with themselves. They have successfully maintained friendships that last over a long period of time even if they argue and disagree with each other occasionally the years, as is obtainable with every human relationship.

Over-familiarity is the major cause of problems between MIL and DIL.

Sixfeetbelle:

This assertion is wrong. Women aren't at war with themselves. They have successfully maintained friendships that last over a long period of time even if they argue and disagree with each other occasionally the years, as is obtainable with every human relationship.

Over-familiarity is the major cause of problems between MIL and DIL.

How old is your longest friendship with another female please?

crackland:

How old is your longest friendship with another female please?

Okay.

Sixfeetbelle:


Okay.

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