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Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by UmmuFarrah(f): 4:17pm On May 12, 2020 |
crackkhaus:I can't agree with you this time. It's not about women to women generally. It's about expectations from the wife to the husband's family in which husbands seems not to owe the wife's family anything. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by ibkayee(f): 4:17pm On May 12, 2020 |
Bruno3000:Men fight and kill people over trivial matters every day worldwide...you think it's just 'sour' relationships and crying? Lol men are less dramatic when they get to classify what it means l guess 7 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 4:44pm On May 12, 2020 |
UmmuFarrah:You normally agree with me? Well I tend to look at the bigger picture. In a lesbian union with no husband present, they will still have MIL issues. 13 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by doitforyou(f): 5:04pm On May 12, 2020 |
The husband has the upper hand in the marriage, so obviously the wife’s family will be as cordial/respectful as possible not to enrage the husband and his family. It’s the same reason husbands don’t have issues with their mothers-in-law. To talk about the horrible Nigerian mother-in-law stereotype objectively, a better comparison would be the relationship between the father-in-law and the wife. 17 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by cococandy(f): 5:55pm On May 12, 2020 |
ibkayee: Always on point 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Vyolet(f): 6:00pm On May 12, 2020 |
Acidosis:Have you seen such and if yes, how often do those cases occur? |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Bruno3000(m): 8:01pm On May 12, 2020 |
crackkhaus:I dey tell u. Women are their own enemies. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by bukatyne(f): 8:08pm On May 12, 2020 |
travelland: On point! 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Anwons(m): 6:54am On May 13, 2020 |
cococandy: Well said 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by LewsTherin: 8:12am On May 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus: This is the most hilarious thing I have read in the last 24 hours! 4 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Eketem: 8:37am On May 13, 2020 |
Husbands are not " tested" with cooking, cleaning or washing cars when they go visiting in laws for the first time. Husbands are not required to spend days with their father in laws to test their materialness Husbands are not required to drop their jobs be home making dinner and lunch for father in laws when they come visiting. Husbands are not judged on house keeping skills Father in laws do not come into a mans house and start nagging him on what he does and doesn't do 8 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 8:43am On May 13, 2020 |
LewsTherin:Lol, it's just the truth. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by LewsTherin: 9:20am On May 13, 2020 |
Eketem: Hang on. Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests? Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law? Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting? Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills? Just commenting, you know 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Eketem: 12:12pm On May 13, 2020 |
LewsTherin: I totally agree, unfortunately women do this shit to other women with backing from the husband in some cases but yes point taken women who do not want to put up with this crap should insist they wont the world won't end and the women doing this nonsense when they find that women wont put up with this crap to marry their sons will adjust. This means women too will have to come to marriage with other values beyond cooking, cleaning and child care abilities. They have to be at a point where leaving a relationship will be a loss to the man too so he will not let his family even consider this crap. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 12:25pm On May 13, 2020 |
LewsTherin: Watch as they still try to explain away this fact one way or the other. MIL - Woman Wife - Woman Aunties - Women Sisters - Women Yet for some reason, it's the husband (man) that's the problem when these grown-ups refuse to get along. I can't... 5 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by bukatyne(f): 12:45pm On May 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus: I said years back that when the women (MILs, SILs, etc) have things going on in their lives, they will not have the time/energy to chase DILs around. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 4:08pm On May 13, 2020 |
bukatyne:That's if they will still get along during family events, get-togethers, or holidays... That time, the problem will be how the in-laws left her to do all the cleaning and/or cooking. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by elektra(f): 5:26pm On May 13, 2020 |
I treat my in-laws the same way their son treats them. Any complains? Direct them to their precious son. You didn’t raise a son that cooks and cleans and kisses your ass? Too bad. I also treat my in-laws the same way their son treats my parents. If you visit my parents once in a blue moon, cross your legs and drop money without any effort in building a relationship, that’s exactly what your parents are getting from me. Any complains? Take a look at the mirror. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by bukatyne(f): 5:34pm On May 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Women can rant and rave all they want, if WE determine to be better in-laws to our brothers' and sons' women, it will go round and very soon, DIL/MIL issues would phase out. Till then, rant away. Tonight, some women on this same NL are planning to be mean to their DIL/SIL. Some are currently somewhere harassing a son's/brother's wife. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 5:35pm On May 13, 2020 |
bukatyne:It's a circle... |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by bukatyne(f): 5:40pm On May 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus: This is a classic case of 'be the change you seek.' |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Nobody: 5:53pm On May 13, 2020 |
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Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 5:54pm On May 13, 2020 |
bukatyne:Woz my own? If MILs and wives (or future wives) want to keep going at themselves till the second coming, men can't be bothered. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Nobody: 6:03pm On May 13, 2020 |
LewsTherin:Usually when there is problem regarding dil, when husbands complain, the father in his characteristic shifting away things will systematically shift it to the mothers to go and solve. It didn't start today. If siblings fight, it's mostly mothers that settle the quarrel. Fathers will always pretend tired as if it's only them that go out there to hustle. U have elder sis, they will automatically make her the lawyer, chief judge of the house. Men know how to dodge family responsibilities. They see it as not men issues. Tomorrow if mothers, sisters, aunts took over handling such affairs, you men will still come out here to judge them. When u were growing, did u ever see your dad handles these so called petty issues? Abeg, u guys should let women be. 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Nobody: 6:09pm On May 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus:See your comment, men can't be bothered. That's what fathers, brothers, uncles do. They shift the workload to women, now u guys are acting all saint. I have the privilege of being married into a family where there is no woman. They are bothered. Really bothered. There was no difference from the how the men in the family behave when there is family crises than families where women handle family crises. No difference at all. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackkhaus: 6:24pm On May 13, 2020 |
sassysure:I don't know know what you mean by shifting the workload to women. When two adult women are having a cold war situation, it's best to stay away and not take sides - let them settle themselves, they're not kids. You will just keep trying to prove that men are as dramatic as women from now till eternity... nobody believes that, NOT even you. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Ishilove: 10:04pm On May 13, 2020 |
Men don't have time for yeye drama. You will only have issues with my father if you maltreat his daughters. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Anwons(m): 1:50am On May 14, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Lol, this one na bad mouth o 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Sixfeetbelle: 5:50am On May 14, 2020 |
crackkhaus: This assertion is wrong. Women aren't at war with themselves. They have successfully maintained friendships that last over a long period of time even if they argue and disagree with each other occasionally the years, as is obtainable with every human relationship. Over-familiarity is the major cause of problems between MIL and DIL. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackland: 7:15am On May 14, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:How old is your longest friendship with another female please? 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by Sixfeetbelle: 7:16am On May 14, 2020 |
crackland: Okay. |
Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackland: 7:19am On May 14, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:?? |
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