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Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 5:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
ogawisdom:Alright |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by KanwuliaExtra: 5:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
Please, if you cooked and served the food, why did you leave water out of the service? Are they supposed to keep interrupting their meal and socialization by walking to and fro water dispensers all over the dining room and kitchen? Your annoyance is baseless and has more to do with using “common sense” than blaming “traditional” men. Is that how your mother taught you to “prepareth a table in presence of thine enemies? Abeg, brush up your table-setting manners. You are only a “girl-friend”. Tomorrow, another girlfriend will get it all right and make “matrimonial touch-down”, and you will come back to NL and be screaming about how ungrateful he was after sweating and pounding yam all over his family compound and village. Back to kitchen school please! 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 5:25pm On May 14, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra:Thank you |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by donpata(m): 5:32pm On May 14, 2020 |
Hathor5: I will go with this. Except if you don't want to marry him, this is how he's going to know a wife material. You don't serve someone food and expect them to go and get water. They could as well just serve themselves. I see no big deal in this cos to me, this is normal. You serve food, you should serve water as well. If you can't, u can simply ask him to do it and not sit expecting it to be so. I think the guy simply expects that as a lady, it should be something u should ordinarily know hence his tone. Plus let's not pretend not to know that one of a woman's major responsibility to a man is in the kitchen. It's not just an African thing. It's the same even in the Western world we copy. It doesn't make women any less of humans but our roles are different and it has been like this since creation. To me, but for the tone or manner he spoke, there is nothing special about what he expected of you, girlfriend or wife not withstanding. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by TheArchangel(f): 5:34pm On May 14, 2020 |
1 month dating and you are already on call duty as a chef. 9 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by KanwuliaExtra: 5:42pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vikky1425: URW! |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by doitforyou(f): 5:49pm On May 14, 2020 |
Yes, no big deal in pouring water in their drinking cups but chastising you in front of his friend was tactless. Men that rebuke their SO in front of an audience do so to prove they’re in control of the relationship. The telling you what your roles are as a woman, the use of his mother as a threat etc already gives you an idea of what kind of husband he will be, so it’s your choice. To add, to avoid future disagreements you guys can follow a general etiquette. The one who cooks, sets the table and serves the food. The non cook clears the table and washes the dishes. 21 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 5:51pm On May 14, 2020 |
donpata:But u know things are actually different in the western world. Men can help in the kitchen not here. He is trying to see whether I am wife material yet he isn't doing anything expected of a husband. I'm also trying to see beyond what just happened, will he be a nice husband in the long run? He once said he cannot help with house chores but doesnt mind sharing bills. I am overwhelmed for a relationship not yet a month. I will be studying him as well 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 5:52pm On May 14, 2020 |
doitforyou:I wont wash the dish ke? I did, i dont think he will agree to that |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by ibkayee(f): 5:58pm On May 14, 2020 |
I get the feeling that this is a fake story, it lowkey sounds like one of those wattpad bsdm stories lol 'it is your duty', do people speak like that naturally? But if it isn't 1. He clearly has no tact or manners, no matter how you feel that's not the way to speak to anyone 2. He had no issues 'reprimanding' you in front of a third party He sounds like a d*ckhead basically 5 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Papadoh(m): 6:05pm On May 14, 2020 |
"the relationship is barely one month"
Laff almost kill me when i read that part. |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by HiFreda(f): 6:06pm On May 14, 2020 |
This desperation to become 'wife' will make you end up in a bad marriage. He's even manipulating you, asking if that's how you will behave when his mother is there.... . One month relationship and you are already slaving away in his house, and very soon his family house. At the end of it all, his family will say they don't like you, or you're not from their village. . Better wise up and set the tone for your relationship. What you can't continually do, don't start. . P. S If cooking for the world is your passion, please do it. But don't grudgingly do it and come on Nairaland to ask us if his attitude towards you is appropriate. Let traditional man go and marry traditional woman. Don't think you can change him. 8 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by KanwuliaExtra: 6:07pm On May 14, 2020 |
If I post more than 2 entries on any thread, I will be accused of “bullying”. . . . . Biting my fingers at some ridiculous things I am reading from the OP! Self-control is not easy sha. Especially, in this lock-up-and-down Corona-era. 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 6:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
ibkayee:It's not a fake story my sister I just got home now and cant stop thinking I just dont want to share the chat we had before I went over to his place. He said him and his friend ate light food to sleep last night, I should have left my place earlier to come make them food |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by peacefulhome(f): 6:10pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vikky1425: My sister run , I repeat run before someone son will turn you to slave. I don talk my own. 6 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 6:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra:I'll try to control myself and reply no one further. And your 2nd or third entry could mean a lot. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by ibkayee(f): 6:12pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vikky1425:Honesty it sounds like this is a script...the 'useless naija man' tropes being used sound too intentional and specific 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Ishilove: 6:12pm On May 14, 2020 |
You need a lesson in humility. If you cannot cope with his over-traditional character, you better step. No one is tying you to him. 2 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by peacefulhome(f): 6:13pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vikky1425: Oh gosh. Then you don't need any advice. Continue my sister, you are doing well. 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by KanwuliaExtra: 6:15pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vikky1425: Nooooooooo. . . . Isssorite my dia. Las las, you too go dey alright. Na bullying dey reign for family section now o. We have to be very kiafoo. 4 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by crackland: 6:15pm On May 14, 2020 |
You should be jumping up on your feet like Scott here anytime your bf commands you to do anything. You will not make a good wife if you continue with your arrogance, he is right... 9 Likes |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Saintmary(f): 6:20pm On May 14, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Free chef |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by eyinjuege: 6:29pm On May 14, 2020 |
One month relationship and you're already cooking food and doing wifey. Una strong well well o |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by purples25(f): 6:30pm On May 14, 2020 |
That is how all of a sudden they called me one day to start washing clothes, all of a sudden! Even came to pick me from my house ke..He said - i have a visitor, clean the house! Visitor was another woman. Then he shooed me to go and continue washing clothes! In her front fa I'm having second thoughts now 1 Like |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by eniolorunfe: 6:34pm On May 14, 2020 |
Na dem... : |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Nobody: 6:38pm On May 14, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra: Thank you @ bolded? Jukwaa muoo |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by nautybride: 7:53pm On May 14, 2020 |
Biko, if you notice what you don't like while courting, please walk away to avoid adding to many sob stories around. Good luck. |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by comradodavido(m): 8:02pm On May 14, 2020 |
To me i would say that as far as he (according to ur statement) is just your boyfriend,talk to him about it cos if that continues,he might use it as an excuse to break up with u.He is just your boyfriend and not your husband and neither has he promised to marry u nor engaged you yet.if it persist,breakup with him cos if he marries u,mhhh it will be worse. A STITCH IN TIME SAVES NINE |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by northbird: 8:03pm On May 14, 2020 |
doitforyou: @ op. Nothing wrong in serving water sha. For d guy, every form of rebuke and disagreements shd b done in camera. But one month dating n you r already cooking like normal stuff. Don't b hasty o. Men get bored easily when all the cards are laid bare. Seems d dude in question has some greens... |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by Mizwisdom(f): 8:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
Any time I see a new moniker with a story, I know it's fake |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by dominique(f): 8:19pm On May 14, 2020 |
You toiled in the kitchen for a man you barely know but you're upset that he asked you for water? If you can go and cook for a man you just started dating, what is water that you cannot serve? As much as I detest traditional men, I stand with him on this. It is highly improper to serve food without water to go with it 3 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: After Serving Him Food, He Said I Didnt Give Him Drinking Water by abbasajao(m): 8:31pm On May 14, 2020 |
You are wrong for nothing serving them water. You should have asked them to dish the food themselves. Because i don't understand how someone will serve food and tell Who is eating the food to go and be washing hand and fetching water from different miles. 3 Likes |
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