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Igbo Amaka & 419 are like
Jack & Jill ..


You've married an experienced scammer..


He probably has a wife in Nigeria &
romancing a widow in Turkey &
probably promising her marriage..

Mstick:
You need to stop confronting him without concrete evidence then.

Lool... With the way he's acting even without her trying to confront him, he actually needs to be confronted.

my dear be careful in starting up any argument with your husband...he has a dark side that might hurt you badly when you find out so if it's not too late please leave him now your life is good

Some tips I could share with you

wisdomiskey:
Eyah.

But instead you'd rather give a "Bleep" about posts, mentions likes on Nairaland.

Coming from a mother, I am truly touched

Wait. Are you honestly trolling someone over the loss of their child?
C’mon! Nothing justifies that kind of behaviour!

Op am not even sure you are a black woman you say you are cos your write definitely is naija writing

boldx:
Hello lady, I don't understand why couples check each others phone. I guess it is based on trust. You don't trust your husband. Roundcube webmail is an email messaging platform.

Your husband is behaving weird no doubt. You did not say if he has a regular job. You can get detectives to track his IP and hack into those mails instead of giving yourself high blood pressure.

Your marriage is not adding up.

go back and read again... All these people sef.. She didn't go through his phone. She never did. She wanted to use a computer they both share and she saw the mails and she didn't even open them. Just the subject is what she read

Tasha7:
Hello, I am a black woman born and raised in North America and married to an Igbo man. We have been in a long distance relationship for the majority of our relationship. We got married almost 2 years ago while still long distance and he recently immigrated to Canada in Jan 2020 under the spousal sponsorship. He has a wonderful bond with my mother and sisters. (my father has passed). I have met his family and we get along very well.

Everything was going well until I was looking up something in the search history of the laptop we both share and stumbled across emails he had recently accessed. Please note, I could not read the email itself, I could only see the subject lines in the search history. I will attach pictures if possible. It wasn't a normal email account like yahoo or Gmail. It was from a website called: Roundcube webmail. I had never heard of it before. Anyway, there were a bunch of emails forwarded from a hotel in Istanbul where people were being asked to pay their outstanding hotel bill (unfortunately I didn't take a screenshot of the hotel stuff). In addition to that, there were emails to 2 different women (named Wendy and Elizabeth) with the subjects: re: Thank you for written, re: back from customs baby, re: I am so happy our paths have crossed re: I am writing you with much sadness in my heart etc. I will try to attach the screenshots I took.

Lastly, within the same search history, my husband seemed to have been looking up songs like: 'what songs make a woman feel confident about herself' and 'what if I never get over you', and 'songs that make a woman feel beautiful'.

I confronted my husband that same night. It was 2am. He was already sleeping. I woke him up bc I wanted to catch him off guard. His explanation was that his friend in Cyprus had a bad internet connection and asked him (my husband) to look up something in his friends email account. He insisted that he had no idea what his friend was up to, as it was none of his business. In the process of me confronting him, he grabbed the laptop from me and deleted the search history. I told him that was making him look real guilty and I started packing my things to leave. He pleaded and insisted it had nothing to do with him, it was his friends email account blah blah blah. I wanted to believe him but some things just didn't add up...like why was he looking up those songs if he was just checking his friends email for him? His only saving grace was that the subject lines were written with poor grammar and my husband has excellent English speaking and writing skills.

Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

I started freaking out. I started yelling telling him that he was a liar and if there was any doubt in my mind he was hiding something, I need not doubt it anymore! He broke down the bathroom door NOT because he really nedded to pee, but because he was so terrified I was going to snoop through his phone! Of course he denied it. He was saying that if that was the case, the first thing he would have done is grab his phone. I responded saying that he's not stupid, if he grabbed his phone first, it would have made him look guilty. After that blow up, we stopped talking to each other for days...

And here I am today. If anyone could provide me insight into what is going on, I would be so appreciative. What is this hotel stuff and what are these msgs to multiple women? I am thinking he may be involved in a 419 scam or his friend is a yahoo boy....but why is he using such poor grammar when he speaks and writes excellent English?

I am so stressed over all of this that it is literally consuming my every thought. My husband only denies everything and gets defensive then ignores me if I keep pushing for answers. Outside of this incident he is incredibly loving and affectionate and treats my mother so well. He cares so much about what she thinks of him.

I have turned to this forum with the hopes that someone would have more insight into what is going on. Thank you so much to anyone who has taken the time to read this very long post and respond. I truly appreciate it. Again, I attached photos, but scratched out names just in case.

Thank you,

Tasha

Chat me up: bobmanuelhamilton@gmail.com

Run for your life. A guy who has nothing to hide will have no issue releasing his phone to you. It's definitely something shady and you do not want to be cut in the middle. Move away and cancel any filing for citizenship you might have done for to avoid him implicating you in something massive.

Above all, there are bad people everywhere including Nigeria. So also good people.

Tasha7:
Hello, I am a black woman born and raised in North America and married to an Igbo man. We have been in a long distance relationship for the majority of our relationship. We got married almost 2 years ago while still long distance and he recently immigrated to Canada in Jan 2020 under the spousal sponsorship. He has a wonderful bond with my mother and sisters. (my father has passed). I have met his family and we get along very well.

Everything was going well until I was looking up something in the search history of the laptop we both share and stumbled across emails he had recently accessed. Please note, I could not read the email itself, I could only see the subject lines in the search history. I will attach pictures if possible. It wasn't a normal email account like yahoo or Gmail. It was from a website called: Roundcube webmail. I had never heard of it before. Anyway, there were a bunch of emails forwarded from a hotel in Istanbul where people were being asked to pay their outstanding hotel bill (unfortunately I didn't take a screenshot of the hotel stuff). In addition to that, there were emails to 2 different women (named Wendy and Elizabeth) with the subjects: re: Thank you for written, re: back from customs baby, re: I am so happy our paths have crossed re: I am writing you with much sadness in my heart etc. I will try to attach the screenshots I took.

Lastly, within the same search history, my husband seemed to have been looking up songs like: 'what songs make a woman feel confident about herself' and 'what if I never get over you', and 'songs that make a woman feel beautiful'.

I confronted my husband that same night. It was 2am. He was already sleeping. I woke him up bc I wanted to catch him off guard. His explanation was that his friend in Cyprus had a bad internet connection and asked him (my husband) to look up something in his friends email account. He insisted that he had no idea what his friend was up to, as it was none of his business. In the process of me confronting him, he grabbed the laptop from me and deleted the search history. I told him that was making him look real guilty and I started packing my things to leave. He pleaded and insisted it had nothing to do with him, it was his friends email account blah blah blah. I wanted to believe him but some things just didn't add up...like why was he looking up those songs if he was just checking his friends email for him? His only saving grace was that the subject lines were written with poor grammar and my husband has excellent English speaking and writing skills.

Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

I started freaking out. I started yelling telling him that he was a liar and if there was any doubt in my mind he was hiding something, I need not doubt it anymore! He broke down the bathroom door NOT because he really nedded to pee, but because he was so terrified I was going to snoop through his phone! Of course he denied it. He was saying that if that was the case, the first thing he would have done is grab his phone. I responded saying that he's not stupid, if he grabbed his phone first, it would have made him look guilty. After that blow up, we stopped talking to each other for days...

And here I am today. If anyone could provide me insight into what is going on, I would be so appreciative. What is this hotel stuff and what are these msgs to multiple women? I am thinking he may be involved in a 419 scam or his friend is a yahoo boy....but why is he using such poor grammar when he speaks and writes excellent English?

I am so stressed over all of this that it is literally consuming my every thought. My husband only denies everything and gets defensive then ignores me if I keep pushing for answers. Outside of this incident he is incredibly loving and affectionate and treats my mother so well. He cares so much about what she thinks of him.

I have turned to this forum with the hopes that someone would have more insight into what is going on. Thank you so much to anyone who has taken the time to read this very long post and respond. I truly appreciate it. Again, I attached photos, but scratched out names just in case.

Thank you,

Tasha

The answers you seek for Lie's within you.


Your said husband is into so many shit, that it will break your heart to know a few of them.

Thanks.

Madam I have also read through your right up...And based on what someone said that you need evidence to confront him but still at the detriment of your marriage ...You can just look away but always pay attention to every detail...You will get to know in no time ...

It's not that this story can't be real but this one is fake because Nairaland shouldn't be your first option to get answers to your question. Most people married to Nigerians form real life Nigerian network where they can get secrets unravelled. Good luck

Mstick:
I wish I can. Maybe the "dead child's" would've have been donated.

I am just a yaba left escapee with Daddy issues.

Ohh, please, it’s enough. If not for anything, for the sake of the OP who has a real concern she’s seeking counsel on.

You guys have derailed this thread enough.

Tasha7:
Hello, I am a black woman born and raised in North America and married to an Igbo man. We have been in a long distance relationship for the majority of our relationship. We got married almost 2 years ago while still long distance and he recently immigrated to Canada in Jan 2020 under the spousal sponsorship. He has a wonderful bond with my mother and sisters. (my father has passed). I have met his family and we get along very well.

Everything was going well until I was looking up something in the search history of the laptop we both share and stumbled across emails he had recently accessed. Please note, I could not read the email itself, I could only see the subject lines in the search history. I will attach pictures if possible. It wasn't a normal email account like yahoo or Gmail. It was from a website called: Roundcube webmail. I had never heard of it before. Anyway, there were a bunch of emails forwarded from a hotel in Istanbul where people were being asked to pay their outstanding hotel bill (unfortunately I didn't take a screenshot of the hotel stuff). In addition to that, there were emails to 2 different women (named Wendy and Elizabeth) with the subjects: re: Thank you for written, re: back from customs baby, re: I am so happy our paths have crossed re: I am writing you with much sadness in my heart etc. I will try to attach the screenshots I took.

Lastly, within the same search history, my husband seemed to have been looking up songs like: 'what songs make a woman feel confident about herself' and 'what if I never get over you', and 'songs that make a woman feel beautiful'.

I confronted my husband that same night. It was 2am. He was already sleeping. I woke him up bc I wanted to catch him off guard. His explanation was that his friend in Cyprus had a bad internet connection and asked him (my husband) to look up something in his friends email account. He insisted that he had no idea what his friend was up to, as it was none of his business. In the process of me confronting him, he grabbed the laptop from me and deleted the search history. I told him that was making him look real guilty and I started packing my things to leave. He pleaded and insisted it had nothing to do with him, it was his friends email account blah blah blah. I wanted to believe him but some things just didn't add up...like why was he looking up those songs if he was just checking his friends email for him? His only saving grace was that the subject lines were written with poor grammar and my husband has excellent English speaking and writing skills.

Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

I started freaking out. I started yelling telling him that he was a liar and if there was any doubt in my mind he was hiding something, I need not doubt it anymore! He broke down the bathroom door NOT because he really nedded to pee, but because he was so terrified I was going to snoop through his phone! Of course he denied it. He was saying that if that was the case, the first thing he would have done is grab his phone. I responded saying that he's not stupid, if he grabbed his phone first, it would have made him look guilty. After that blow up, we stopped talking to each other for days...

And here I am today. If anyone could provide me insight into what is going on, I would be so appreciative. What is this hotel stuff and what are these msgs to multiple women? I am thinking he may be involved in a 419 scam or his friend is a yahoo boy....but why is he using such poor grammar when he speaks and writes excellent English?

I am so stressed over all of this that it is literally consuming my every thought. My husband only denies everything and gets defensive then ignores me if I keep pushing for answers. Outside of this incident he is incredibly loving and affectionate and treats my mother so well. He cares so much about what she thinks of him.

I have turned to this forum with the hopes that someone would have more insight into what is going on. Thank you so much to anyone who has taken the time to read this very long post and respond. I truly appreciate it. Again, I attached photos, but scratched out names just in case.

Thank you,

Tasha

You already know what he's into,your husband is a smart Alec,it will take a longer period with loads of patience to catch him red handed.
But to to make it quick and efficient,get in touch with your Internet service provider for the webaddress he has been visiting.

Shalom

Snaagg:
This is why he "trolled" her.. apparently Mstick is no angel

Choi! All of it is just nauseating. They should just stop.

Judging from his action and reactions, your hubby is obviously into some shady deals. Especially @ the bolded. He insisted that he had no idea what his friend was up to, as it was none of his business. In the process of me confronting him, he grabbed the laptop and deleted the mails

If he truly didn't have any idea about the mails, why delete it in a hurry? And please do not be fooled by the unintelligent ways/styles he had chosen to write with. Professional scammers can scheme up anything to cover their tracks. So he can chose to write in a dumb way, not new with criminals. If you read "Hardly Chases'" stories or any detective stories a lot, you'll understand what I mean.

As for the letters and songs about the women, its common with dons to have a fling where ever they travel to carry out any operations. So its possible they are flings and he's prolly attached to one whom he may want to send those love songs to; possibly a mother of his child. IT IS VERY POSSIBLE.

He has some explaining to do.

My opinion though.

Tasha7:
Hello, I am a black woman born and raised in North America and married to an Igbo man. We have been in a long distance relationship for the majority of our relationship. We got married almost 2 years ago while still long distance and he recently immigrated to Canada in Jan 2020 under the spousal sponsorship. He has a wonderful bond with my mother and sisters. (my father has passed). I have met his family and we get along very well.

Everything was going well until I was looking up something in the search history of the laptop we both share and stumbled across emails he had recently accessed. Please note, I could not read the email itself, I could only see the subject lines in the search history. I will attach pictures if possible. It wasn't a normal email account like yahoo or Gmail. It was from a website called: Roundcube webmail. I had never heard of it before. Anyway, there were a bunch of emails forwarded from a hotel in Istanbul where people were being asked to pay their outstanding hotel bill (unfortunately I didn't take a screenshot of the hotel stuff). In addition to that, there were emails to 2 different women (named Wendy and Elizabeth) with the subjects: re: Thank you for written, re: back from customs baby, re: I am so happy our paths have crossed re: I am writing you with much sadness in my heart etc. I will try to attach the screenshots I took.

Lastly, within the same search history, my husband seemed to have been looking up songs like: 'what songs make a woman feel confident about herself' and 'what if I never get over you', and 'songs that make a woman feel beautiful'.

I confronted my husband that same night. It was 2am. He was already sleeping. I woke him up bc I wanted to catch him off guard. His explanation was that his friend in Cyprus had a bad internet connection and asked him (my husband) to look up something in his friends email account. He insisted that he had no idea what his friend was up to, as it was none of his business. In the process of me confronting him, he grabbed the laptop from me and deleted the search history. I told him that was making him look real guilty and I started packing my things to leave. He pleaded and insisted it had nothing to do with him, it was his friends email account blah blah blah. I wanted to believe him but some things just didn't add up...like why was he looking up those songs if he was just checking his friends email for him? His only saving grace was that the subject lines were written with poor grammar and my husband has excellent English speaking and writing skills.

Fast forward a few weeks later, my husband left the bathroom to put out the garbage and accidentally left his phone in the bathroom playing music. This is significant because he has never parted from his phone from the day he arrived. He sleeps with his phone beside him. He showers and uses the bathroom with his phone beside him. When he cooks, he keeps his phone beside him. The day in question, I went into the bathroom and locked the door shortly after he left the bathroom. Side note: I only lock the door bc sometimes he jokingly sneaks up on me to scare me while I am in the shower, so to avoid being snuck up on, I sometimes lock the door. I digress. I commenced using the bathroom when I noticed that hubby left his phone on the side of the bathtub with Nigerian gospel music blasting. I was shocked! It was the first time he was separated from his phone! I didn't touch his phone and started using the bathroom. Within 15 seconds, my husband started knocking on the door saying he really needed to use the bathroom and wanted me to open the door. He was saying he really needed to pee. I asked him to hold a minute, because I was on the toilet. He said he didn't believe me and then things escalated from there. He started pounding really hard on the bathroom door, demanding that I open the door because he really needed to pee. He was eventually pounding so hard and yelling to the point where he started to lose his voice! I was freaked out! I told him to hold on and I would be done in a minute! But he wouldn't listen and eventually broke open the bathroom door by force...there is literally a large crack down the bathroom door now. I was shocked. Beyond words. Once he broke down the door, he quickly did a scan of the bathroom and saw his cellphone was right where he left it. I didn't touch it. Then he was more calm. He then reiterated that he really needed to pee and went into the shower, pulled the curtain and turned on the water.

I started freaking out. I started yelling telling him that he was a liar and if there was any doubt in my mind he was hiding something, I need not doubt it anymore! He broke down the bathroom door NOT because he really nedded to pee, but because he was so terrified I was going to snoop through his phone! Of course he denied it. He was saying that if that was the case, the first thing he would have done is grab his phone. I responded saying that he's not stupid, if he grabbed his phone first, it would have made him look guilty. After that blow up, we stopped talking to each other for days...

And here I am today. If anyone could provide me insight into what is going on, I would be so appreciative. What is this hotel stuff and what are these msgs to multiple women? I am thinking he may be involved in a 419 scam or his friend is a yahoo boy....but why is he using such poor grammar when he speaks and writes excellent English?

I am so stressed over all of this that it is literally consuming my every thought. My husband only denies everything and gets defensive then ignores me if I keep pushing for answers. Outside of this incident he is incredibly loving and affectionate and treats my mother so well. He cares so much about what she thinks of him.

I have turned to this forum with the hopes that someone would have more insight into what is going on. Thank you so much to anyone who has taken the time to read this very long post and respond. I truly appreciate it. Again, I attached photos, but scratched out names just in case.

Thank you,

Tasha

Sisterly,

I read your story with so much attention, and i appreciate the fact you come to this forum to ask for advice nairalanders respect to you all our forum and feedbacks is getting notice and attention all over the world, back to the matter before digressing it's obvious your darling husband is up to something and definitely hiding something from you, in as much "trust" is a vital for of any relationship to thrive its also good to be wise" even the bible says be "ye as wise as a serpent and be gentle as a dove" based on your story this what i deduce based on your observation.

1. Why would a married man so much in love caring and affectionate be so insecure of leaving his phone at home its' obvious he has something to hide.

2. To catch a monkey you must act like a monkey, your suspicion and method of catching him is too obvious he's African and you are an American he's wise and intelligent more than you hence he would always wants to close his tracks to avoid you catching him red handed para-venture you want to report him to the cops.

3. You have to be patient and strategic, if possible re-strategize, pretend as if you ain't bother about his moves and tricks to allow him relax, thereby giving you enough time to explore his information, via emails and phone chats e.t.c you cant be smarter and wiser than the person watching and observing you so says an African proverb therefore be patient and be more observant silently.

4. He's moves,insecurity, and hiding point to a fact that is a fraudster, there's always a high level of insecurity around a fraudster there are always alert, and impatient to avoid been exposed, they can never allow you to use their mobile phone just for a seconds.

5. You can employ a private undercover agent to trail his moves, phone calls, phone chats and so on though that would cost you alot of money, deep down your heart be prepared as there could a new twist to the whole issue if you found out he's a child by another somewhere in Europe.

I wish you all the best.

Mstick:
Oh and BTW I found this forum myself, buy my own data, type with my own fingers, so no man or woman can run me out of this forum. Even if you like talk about my father or a dead child.


You want to troll?! Bring it on!


At the end of the day I am typing in luxury, not broke,not hungry,not jealous, just enjoying my life with my husband and kids.

I will have more kids whenever I want, I am still very young and desirable.





PS: someone needs to create a thread for 90daysfiancé I am obsessed with the show.

CC safarigirl

Don't waste your time with silly trolls on this forum....There are numerous other reasonable posts to look out for.

Cheers

wow, what a touching story from your story the guy is into fraud and likely bigamy

It's simple based on what you said.... You are lying and you are not from North whatever. You are a Nigerian lady and na nagging go end the supposed marriage you felt you are into.
Devil with an intention will behave like a Saint

Madam your hubby is surely into internet scam(dating scam) sit him down n tell him the implication of what he is doing.

A man gat to do what a man gat to do to survive , your husband is not cheating on you he is into scam trying to help pay the bills and the reason he doesn't want you to find out is because he is trying to protect you and the best way to handle things is to let him know you already know and try to fix things

Immediately I saw roundcube, I knew scamming was involved.

seunlayi:
@Tasha, from your story above, it is evident that man is hiding many things from you, it is not about just a girlfriend or two, that man is flirt seriously around. Yes, he is. If it were to be just a girlfriend or two, there are ways he can take a break from communicating with them while you are around unlike what we have here. He is terribly messing around. Coupled with that, he may also be involved in some shady business which may affect you negatively in the near future. If this story is actually true, @tasha, I may have to tell you that the chance you have with that relationship succeeding is just 3% that is only if the dorks of your husband hands backfires and he came back to his normal sense(if he ever have one before).
Start looking for a way to distance yourself from him to give yourself headache-less life. That is just your husband lifestyle and I don't see you changing it. Have a nice day

seunlayi:
@Tasha, from your story above, it is evident that man is hiding many things from you, it is not about just a girlfriend or two, that man is flirt seriously around. Yes, he is. If it were to be just a girlfriend or two, there are ways he can take a break from communicating with them while you are around unlike what we have here. He is terribly messing around. Coupled with that, he may also be involved in some shady business which may affect you negatively in the near future. If this story is actually true, @tasha, I may have to tell you that the chance you have with that relationship succeeding is just 3% that is only if the dorks of your husband hands backfires and he came back to his normal sense(if he ever have one before).
Start looking for a way to distance yourself from him to give yourself headache-less life. That is just your husband lifestyle and I don't see you changing it. Have a nice day

What do you intend to achieve by jumping into a hasty conclusion without asking what the husband does for a living and other necessary questions. @Tasha should not take or accept this unthoughtful advice which is capable of destroying your marriage and breaking your home.
I will never advice couples to separate except there's a case of domestic violence which puts the life of one party or both parties at risk. So, my advice for you is to make your husband understand the reason to maintain transparency and honesty in your union. There are so many ways to make him start opening up to you. Don't use confrontation because most men hate to be confronted, be soft, nice and caring, if he's cheating his conscience will prick him. Do your best as a loving and caring wife, someday he will come back to his senses when he realizes that you truly deserve more. Remember with love you can conquer every challenges in marriage.

@Tasha7, what does your husband do for a living?

if you cant get to say he does any reasonable thing, then it is obvious he is a scammer and also having an afair.

Simple advise, dont have your cash with him, and if possible, stay far away from him until you can figure out exactly what he is up to

gypsey:
Well.. if you don't trust him, divorce him. simple!

Which kin nonsense be dis? yes, every Nigerian man or black man are ussually dodgy including me, i ve always said to my partner i am dodgy as long as i have never got her into any troubles what's the big problem? If you don't like it tell me i find someone else.

Pesin marry you, you no happy? who da hell gets married nowadays anyway?

Stop being stup1d and speak for only yourself

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Please please please and please again, i am on a standby in case you kick him out and send him back to Nigeria. I am a very humble and quiet man that is not computer literate not to talk of going on the internet to cheat on you