[quote author=Ningen post=89609240]Harsher reality awaits out there.
If you want to fly, grow wings first.

You've 2 or 3 years to graduation.
Stay put, cope and get your degree.

Spread your wings & fly out during your NYSC. [/
This comment is so so apt! @ op oya, over to you. A little patience please

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The tin shock me oooh probably she jst said it and nvr gave it a thought[/quote]

At 20 you are old enough to be on your own. Use that as a motivation to be the best you can be. Work hard and aim higher.

Aboks:


The bottom line is he still depends on his mother

Aboki shut up, shut up, you have been talking rubbish since. Ah den use am do you. Well no be lie when Yoruba people talk say " Hausa la Hausa nje, a ponle ni Mallam "

sorry

ylaa:
Where will he leave to? The world is no longer safe. I remember an innocent boy who left his parent's house due to pressure, squatted with friends who were into underground business, unknown to him. Not long they were caught and the innocent boy was mentioned, no one defended him, he was killed along side with the robbers. Home is the best place abeg. No good friends anymore. Betrayals here and there. I pray God to sort him out.

Can you accomodate him?? Please!

Aboks:


If he still eats his mother's food at age 20 may be that's why she is complaining, I she doesn't even trust him

People like you have a special talent of projecting ur perfect little world on some1 who's facing the real world. Which eventually leads them to doom

If you don't like her and the way she does then use her for ritual and that settles the whole thing. Thanks

KristaPretty:
Give her 2k let her leave you alone.
Some mothers are witches!

Are you talking out of experience?.

Maybe you look like your dad, that’s why she hates you,

Don't go out, life is harsh in Nigeria, and if you stay with the wrong friends, you may be mistaken as an armed robber, and end in jail, if you must move out, you must stay on your own, but i think you should still stay at home, what you need to do, is to refine your skills. You can ask yourself, what can i improve and how long can it become very good, and what do I need. You will need to prepare.

If she wants to throw you out, let her throw you out na.
I was 17 when my brother threw me out because of her new girlfriend. The eyes nor go cry blood; always a light at the end of a tunnel.

If its possible why not or i assist him in my own lil way.




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samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.

The most important thing now is to finish school and get a good job then leave your mother alone. Later on you may need to discuss this issue with her and maybe you will get your apology

vanida6:
Shey no be u dey steal money why leave nah,,,if u leave dat means u re guilty,,,,infact why will a grown man like u been stayin in dsam place wit ur mum,,,just pay her 2k back nd find anoda place to enjoy ur life dear

I don't think you understand what you posted?


For the sake of sanity, can you modify your contradictory post?

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I see ur future, u are a big man in years ahead ur mum will regret her action , dnt go stay with her she is ur mum no matter wat God bless u

The only thing buhari said that I do, sometimes, consider was that Nigerian youths are lazy. Yes, and one may add stupid; otherwise why will young men sit and watch a senile lifeless man waste their future. For doing nothing the headache deepens and even mothers and father's are dodging their children and selling them off with the simplest excuses. Well, note that overseas you became an adult who could fend for himself from 18. Also, note that this was the probable reason your papa ran away, irrationality. Then thirdly, you could pack to your fathers house since you are his first responsibility, if you have not crossed parts irredeemably, because of her. Finally, never give up or think evil, these may be the shaping experiences God designed to make you tougher. And bear in mind that there will always be light at the end of the tunnel, if you are meticulous. Good luck.

Endure it, don't go anywhere except your father's house. Staying with a friend may be worst. Your libration comes when you go for NYSC.

Davash222:
Let her threats always be a motivation for you to get your own apartment so you can move out.

These are one of the techniques African mothers use to ostracize the spirit of laziness in their sons. No too reason am.

God bless all mothers.

he 20 and still a 200l student.


he is not lazy. just unlucky to be given birth by a wicked and selfish woman

samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.

If it’s not that bad and frequent, stay back home till u finish skoling, it won’t be easy paying rent, feeding and skols fees all at same time on ur present income. Think about it.

Guy!
Sit down put.
Nor go anywhere.
Still humble until the time come for you to be independent.
For now,nor enter street,e go make you worse off.

Davash222:
Let her threats always be a motivation for you to get your own apartment so you can move out.

These are one of the techniques African mothers use to ostracize the spirit of laziness in their sons. No too reason am.

God bless all mothers.

There is a down side to this approach o. Sometimes the emotional stress could cause deep scars that will break the link between parent. I remember my mom has the attitude of abusing me with past event even the one I told her my self. Till today, most of my life endeavors which are something I should tell her, I don’t, that connection isn’t there in that aspect anymore . So there has to be some form of control to our actions and if possible there are other ways of doing something

vanida6:
Shey no be u dey steal money why leave nah,,,if u leave dat means u re guilty,,,,infact why will a grown man like u been stayin in dsam place wit ur mum,,,just pay her 2k back nd find anoda place to enjoy ur life dear

a 20yrs old student is not a grown-up man

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYy2tVvX14s

I think you should just stay put as many have stated. Life is hard. Unless you think you can't stay anymore then good luck to you. Parents can be like that sometimes. Don't think too much of it.

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I can't help it but something in me suspects that this is an advertisement for opera news.

Do you have sense at all? Are you thinking with ur head or with wot is BTW ur legs. Abi u no read to comprehend ?

SweetCunt97:
And you don't know some emotional hurt can damage one for life? Pls let him leave d nest, he's an adult already. Atleast for his own sanity.

gunners160:
I put it to you that u are a thief or you have been a thief. Are u the only one in that house? Why are you always being singled out? I no even belief your story self because I can confidently say that you are one of those jobless youths who parade the streets disturbing people who carry out there activities

When they say nairaland is full of hungry and angry people, this is one of them. Instead of hitting electric poles in their streets with their bare fists, they would come to nairaland with MTN free 10mb to unleash their frustrations on innocent users.

Las Las her anger will still subside and you'll still get back to good relations with one another.Just add more skills work towards your the day you graduate.

vanida6:
Shey no be u dey steal money why leave nah,,,if u leave dat means u re guilty,,,,infact why will a grown man like u been stayin in dsam place wit ur mum,,,just pay her 2k back nd find anoda place to enjoy ur life dear

Most senseless advice so far.
Why shouldn't a 20yr old undergraduate stay with d parents?
If you had a dysfunctional or incapacitated family, it's not anyone's fault.

Nwaonyishi69:
The only thing buhari said that I do, sometimes, consider was that Nigerian youths are lazy. Yes, and one may add stupid; otherwise why will young men sit and watch a senile lifeless man waste their future. For doing nothing the headache deepens and even mothers and father's are dodging their children and selling them off with the simplest excuses. Well, note that overseas you became an adult who could fend for himself from 18. Also, note that this was the probable reason your papa ran away, irrationality. Then thirdly, you could pack to your fathers house since you are his first responsibility, if you have not crossed parts irredeemably, because of her. Finally, never give up or think evil, these may be the shaping experiences God designed to make you tougher. And bear in mind that there will always be light at the end of the tunnel, if you are meticulous. Good luck.

Your talk is just everywhere and it don’t stick together? Who are lazy youth? Is Buhari the right person to name the youth he governs lazy?

How can this experience be what God designed? Are you just guessing? The Op should just be patient with the trying times and the bad habit of his parent till he is fit enough to stay alone.

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