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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by neoG(f): 7:00pm On May 19, 2020 |
Hi. I love your advice. Quite sensible and diplomatic. I don't know if you read the part that she said two of his younger ones have built their own house and still call him for money... of course what I deduce from this is that while they were using their savings and income to build, they would leech on the man for the money to feed and survive so that their building project won't suffer. There is no culture. I repeat no culture that includes one to become stupid and not smart because one needs to extend help to siblings... If you have siblings that calls only when to get something and not your well being is SCAM If you have siblings that won't say 'Brother , we have built our own house and we think is time to start a building project and we want to be of help either in cash or moral support', that is not Family. They are blood suckers. Since OP's husband have refused to wake up to reality, she should better act fast. In our present day economy, one of the biggest challenges for a family man is house rent. If you can overcome that and have your own then you can practically have rest of mind to focus on more important investment. An average Nigerian works yearly for his/her landlord. What if this man is no more tomorrow? I can bet you with this kind of family settling, they will all march to come and claim properties they did not know how it came neither would they ever remember to care for the two kids their so called beloved big brother left behind. OP please put the name if the landed property if possible in the name of one of your kids especially the male child in case of tomorrow. Please be smart and prayerful in dealing with this issue. Change your strategy on how you approach your husband with this issues too. Because of the men's ego factor. Good luck bukatyne: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by WeRblessed(f): 7:00pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: Buy the land in your name. In fact, build the house in your name without him, because if you have his name on the property and anything happens to him tomorrow, his family members will come for the house and kick you and your children out. Dont forget to start a business if you have not done that already. Wicked family members they are. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by soderican(m): 7:01pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne:pls can you throw more light on mutual benefit/chapel hill/piggy bank. Are they investment platforms? |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by gudugudumeje: 7:02pm On May 19, 2020 |
Fight him to standstill that he is abusing you and the children financialy.Stop paying for utilities and fees., Call his pastor if not yielding. Ask and insist taking more money for upkeep. Threaten to quit him and take ur children away. That is before they sack you... He is possessed by demon of the family to die early for them and 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by crackland: 7:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne:Like a "woke" Nigerian wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:05pm On May 19, 2020 |
crackland: Why going to quote comment of hours ago? Trying to prove a point that you are here and ignoring? 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by wole212(m): 7:08pm On May 19, 2020 |
You are a wise woman,right now the well being and future of your kids should be paramount to you. From all indication if per adventure he goes totally broke, he'll be discarded by his siblings. It's just so unfortunate that some good women with character have annoying husbands. Anni3e: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ibkayee(f): 7:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
Acidosis:Well, no it isn't The premise of the thread is not about the fact that she's paying bills, she's complaining about her husband not putting his immediate family first financially, neglecting them as a result. The same woman you want to make out has an issue sharing bills is the same one that has been planning for the both of them to save for their children's future and wants to invest money into getting a property? I get it though, it's an easy narrative to latch onto for a lot of you 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Ladycewhy(f): 7:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e:the bolded ,there are people here that will tell you otherwise ,don't mind them o. Men like your husband will only end up in the "I was once a rich man " category,the question is are you willing to go down with him?. Yes you are supposed to do things together with your husband,but it takes two to tango,your husband is not willing to play ball with you hence the ball is in your court to leave something for yourself and your kids in the future. I am saying this because my aunty made the mistake of joining finance with a financially reckless man who is a cheerful giver outside while neglecting his own, she continues to regret it till date. Be wise. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ProfAmaben(m): 7:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Twoclans(f): 7:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: Madam you need to be strategic .Do not allow your husbands people deprive you of your man and your marriage. I understand what you are going through because my mother went through the same thing. My father was the only son that survived after the biafra war claimed two of his brothers.Naturally his sisters turned to leeches and felt very entitled.My father built houses for those of them in their husbands houses so that they can be comfortable,he sent some to school from primary to university and even secured a job for them.When he passed away some of this his sisters did not even stay a second by his grave when he was been lowered .They left the grave side to go and drag and arrange food for their husbands families that would be coming in group for the burial. They did not give two fu.cks about their benefactor. Their brother(your husband)sleeps beside you ,he eats your food ,he makes love to you.I hope you understand the power you yield over that man above his relatives.Bring in your A game.Show him love,give him good food and good sex let him not even have the chance to pick their calls.When you finish making good love to him ,in the middle of the night whisper the investments he need to focus on while massaging his back. My mother married at a young age of 16 she did not know her left from her right.The moment she found her foot in the family she started directly her husband accordingly even at that it was not easy for her because his sisters fought her to a standstill I wish you the very best I know you can sort yourself out all you need is to seat and strategize. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by WeRblessed(f): 7:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: Best place to get an impactful advice in a matter like this is not NL, because more than 80% of men on NL are chauvinists. Therefore, they will support your husband's decision against yours. They don't understand that once a man is married, most of his focus and commitment should be on his wife and kids, same applies to his wife. Other than your husband's aged parents, his siblings are not entitled to his money. He can choose to gift them money and presents during festive times and nothing more. His siblings should allow his raise his own children and build a house for his family. Although, I have already left you the best advice earlier. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by onome2013: 7:17pm On May 19, 2020 |
For peace to reign, use your first child's name to buy the land . Your husband maybe under the influence of different JuJu, being used to demand money from him . When you start the building, he will wake up from his sleep. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:17pm On May 19, 2020 |
ibkayee: You think they don’t know. Someone like crackland abi crackhead will come to twist the thread. One would wonder if they don’t marvel at the effort they put into changing the narrative. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by crackland: 7:17pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas:Na wah. Come, local champion... what do you want? 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:19pm On May 19, 2020 |
crackland: Good, I knew you must tie wrapper on your waist, with chewing stick in your mouth and come out. Local champion indeed. Coming from the only man found in the midst of every petty squabble. How rich!!!! 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ibkayee(f): 7:27pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas:Person A: My husband is spending money that should be used on his immediate family on his other family members, including his sisters' husbands. They are essentially leeching off him and we are suffering for it. Sometimes he is eveb dishonest about the amount of money he can spare for his immediate family and ends up giving it to them instead Narrative twisters: sO yOu DoN't wAnT to sHaRe biLLz 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 7:27pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas: A "hell" that you so desperately wish for! That's why you can't help but comment on every marriage-related thread I see you and your type on Facebook groups everyday, praying for a so called "horseband" with your post-wall self 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:29pm On May 19, 2020 |
Snaagg: Oga keep quiet. Typical response. You always see types na, no be NL male you be. Always seeing what they want to see. SELECTIVE VISION. Oya o, gist me what else you see? Great seer! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nobody: 7:30pm On May 19, 2020 |
It's poverty mentality. It's killing Nigeria already. The spirit of give me, give me. U will continue to look for awof even when they make you president. U will continue to collect and collect. Look at where it has landed Nigeria. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by rhames(m): 7:30pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: My dear, the truth be told. His siblings don't mean well for him and his family. They are not ready to see him progress in life. It's your duty to be insistent on what is mutually beneficial to you and your children. When the worst happens they will run away from him. Go and build that house make a will and put your kids as heirs to everything you own. Your husband has been colonised by his people already. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by MichaelDuf: 7:30pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: You married into a curse. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:30pm On May 19, 2020 |
ibkayee: Lmao. Like does it make sense To think this is coming from the logical gender. I am impressed. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by COOL10(m): 7:31pm On May 19, 2020 |
sigiyaya:. Wow. How do you cope with the stress? |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ibkayee(f): 7:35pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas:I've sha told you before that it's best that these people don't actually find out anything about you Else they'll go into a depression when they aren't able to use the same stale 'picture' of your life that they've created in their heads and are trying to force 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:35pm On May 19, 2020 |
Blablabla 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 7:35pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas: I expected a smarter comeback tbh.. but then again I'm not surprised. Poco-dimwit-hantas! 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 7:36pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne: You are one of the most intelligent women on this forum. I just love you 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:37pm On May 19, 2020 |
ibkayee: Hahaha. They don’t know what is happening. I enjoy seeing them shoot blank shots. I am not about to take their bullets away from them. I am nice like that. So I will just remain their favourite broke ugly evening newspaper. 4 Likes
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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Hathor5(f): 7:37pm On May 19, 2020 |
sigiyaya: You will marry her if she doesn't leave you before you learn to draw the line. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 7:38pm On May 19, 2020 |
Snaagg: Like yours was smart. It is smart that the only thing you can come up with is my supposed marital status. You must be the smartest person in your family then. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 7:38pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas: Like you are in yours! 7 Likes |
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