petitejolie:
mom...like the one that drowned her child to death, d one that tied her child in a sack, d one that dumped her baby in the dust bin

might be mental or spiritual problem, well there's always an exception in everything.

When a man does not prayerfully search for his "missing rib", he will surely end up having a miserable marriage.
If a man is able to find a good wife (his missing rib), he has found favour from God.
The man's missing rib by nature (all the attributes of the man) is part of him.
I think this where the much emphasized compatibility comes in when marriage decision is be taken.
Successful marriage equation looks like:
Man + Woman(man's rib) = ONE.
And it is true that no ONE hates himself or herself.

LebanonCedars2:
Continues...

8. Failure To Let Go of Our Parents, Family and Friends: God, the One who created marriage specifically told us from the beginning: “therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh” – Gen 2:24.
Many people after wedding are not willing to let go of their parents, family and friends. Until you are able to “leave” them and “cleave” to your spouse, you will have problems in the marriage.
Please don’t get me wrong. I am not saying you should forget about your parents, family and friends but they must not be a competition to your spouse. You must not satisfy them at the expense of your spouse. Your spouse must be number one in your life before even your parents. That is the standard of God and that’s the way you can enjoy your marriage.

9. Friendship With Opposite Sex: After wedding, friendship with any opposite sex should be cut off. Your spouse should and must be your best friend. In fact, you should be best of friends before the wedding.

10. Keeping Secrets: The bible says in Gen 2:25 “and they were both naked, the man and his wife and were not ashamed”. God intention for marriage is that there won’t be any secrets between husband and wife. Such must be the standard for every Christian home. You should be an open book to your spouse, totally naked before him/her without being ashamed. If you have any past buried in secrecy, let your spouse be in the know. There should be nothing hidden: your phones password, atm pins, properties etc. Remember, there is nothing covered that will not come into the open.
Many homes have been eternally destroyed because of secrets later discovered.

Be an open book!

11. Lack of Communication, Compliments and Forgiveness: The absence of any of these 3 will hurt love in marriage. Let your spouse be your gist partner (men need to take note particularly). Compliment each other’s look, achievement, progress etc. Say good things about your spouse and it will boost his/her self-confidence and love for you. Learn to forgive even when the person does not deserve it. It heals you quickly and silence the devil in your home. Your willingness to let go is a stimulus for God to step in.

12. [b]Failure To Manage Additions to the Family. [/b]Everybody prays for expansion, increase and fruitfulness in the family but not everyone can manage these additions. Introduction of children if not properly managed can strain love in the family. Most women shift their attention to the children and leave their husbands frustrated. Most men leave their wives alone with the care of the children, kitchen and home and expect such wives to function 100% emotionally. It’s not going to happen!
Promotion in career, expansion in business, and increase in financial capabilities if not properly managed can also strain marital love. Couples must learn to sit down, selflessly discuss solutions to any given challenge and agree on the way forward.

13. Declining Romance: [/b]Many couples before wedding and few months after would show how romantic they are. As times goes one, either because of activities as stated above or because they have become too used to each other, romance begin to ebb till it’s completely out of the marriage. The devil can use this opportunity to introduce a third party who might seem more romantic and before you know it, such spouse may begin to gravitate toward the seemingly romantic fellow. Couples must find way to spice up their romance at all times. Take your spouse out once in a while, without the children. Buy things that will make him/her smile. Always look for opportunity to tell spouse how much you love him/her. Play with each other, become teenagers once in a while and play away. Throw pillows at each other, tickle each other etc.

Keep the fire burning!

14. [b]Love For Personal Space: There are some couples who sleep in different rooms; those who want time alone with friends, some who want time alone with their games. Ask them why, they will tell you they need their personal space. My friend, hear me and hear me well, if you need your personal space, PLEASE DON’T MARRY!
Once you marry, you loose your freedom to be alone. The reason God created Eve was because He saw that it is not good for man to be alone. You have been joined together with another person and both of you are now one. You must “cleave” to the fellow everywhere you go. Your space is her space, your money is her money, your house is her house, your car is her car, your room is her room, your phone is her phone and vice versa.

Love for personal space breed mistrust, malice and gives satan opportunity to tempt, run from it!

15. Above All, When Jesus Is Not In Your Boat: When I was young, there is a song we normally sing: when Jesus is in the family, happy happy home but when satan is in the family, troubled troubled home.
Many people ask me, why are you so happy in your marriage? My answer is: Jesus rules and reign in my home. I am faithful to my wife not because I have the ability to (I sure don’t. In my family, it is considered abnormal to be faithful to your wife) but because Jesus has given my victory of family curses, sin and self.
When I got married, I thought I loved my wife and would never hurt her but events that happened few months after the wedding showed I didn’t even know how to love my wife. It was not until I tasted the love of Christ and surrendered my life to Him that I began to know the true meaning of love. Thank God He saved my wife through my changed life. Both of us ever since leave our life to please God. Our obedience to Him has brought about joy, peace and progress to our home.
God created the institution called marriage, until you submit your life and marriage to Him, you will continue to struggle with it. Why? If Jesus is not in your home, then satan (author of pains and confusion) will reign there. There can never be a vacuum.

Which will you prefer?

I compiled all these to an ebook sir and i want to acknowledge you... This knowledge mustn't waste

Change ur promiscuous lifestyle

Bonatheripper:
Pusssyy no longer enticing.


Fallen breast

Get fat I'm married and don't need exercise mentality.

I'm generally.... If you see one particular woman... Everytime everyday.. every week every month every year for the rest of your existence.


The thought of that alone makes you get extremely tired.


No matter how you tend to look at it no man enjoys one puzzay for a long time.



Your always want new once.... Religion Sha tries to regulate this but nature will always take it cause....



In a nutshell.... Men needs new engine to service in their lives after a period of time....
Only religion and good upbringing makes one decipline enough to stick to one pusssy for life while those who don't give a fuckkkkk about all that love their wives but get tired of their bodies hence while the ashawo and runs girl business is Booming...

We should know the highest patronizers and highest payers or runs girls and ashawos are married people. �


Men are controlled by testosterone while women estrogen....

Asadujames202:





Why should a man adapt to such disgusting body change

like u are fresh or have six packs...oshii

Caleycash:
might be mental or spiritual problem, well there's always an exception in everything.

exactly

cococandy:


When your own logic is turned towards you it’s sound idiotic huh?
Who would have thunk it?

Ladies like you are meant to lick the floor when men talk, gutter rat

Goalnaldo:
as usual resorting to insults. I used basic logic to expose the flaws in your reasoning. You guys are just using the one soup'nonsense to justify your promiscuity smh.

I hate promiscuity, but he asked a question why men loose interest and I gave him an answer. If you stay with someone too long love fades, even you know it, it's a normal biological process. So tell me where I said it was good to cheat. Or is it now a crime to speak the truth

Braindealer:
The only and main reason why marriages dont last is notin but childishness; lack of self decipline and ignorance.

Marriage is a union of two MATTURED adults. Every other little reason you think causes faild marriages; like cheating, money, sex all fall under not being matured enough.

ONLY MATURED MINDS REMAIN IN MARRIAGE!

How old are you? Are you married, if yes for how long?

humilitypays:
This is number 1 reason, followed by bad attitude of the wife, nagging and lousy attitude.


But the most frequent reason is lack of sex appeal due to deteriorating physical looks after childbirth , bad character + zero financial contribution to the man's growth or family welfare!

The main reasons!

Omoluabi16:
Thats because you realise you probably never loved her as you thought you did.One could get blinded by some 'virtues' which turns out to only be temporal, or the love for that things wears off. If you truly love a spouse, you can never get tired of her.When there is a defect in one of her xtics, other pleasant things will suffice. People do 50 years and are still crazy about each other.

Let's be honest, how many do you know?

I am not talking about what you perceive but what you KNOW for a fact!

Lack of money says it all

MXD5050:
CHEATING AND LIES ARE NOT THE REASON WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS END BUT LACK OF LOVE, SEX AND MONEY

Marriage is supposed to be a union that should last until death do the both partners apart. And relationship should reach its set goals which often time happens to be marriage. But why do these unions break? There are three main reasons why these agreement within two adults doesn't reach its desired goal.

*Lack of love: This most times is the reason why marriages and relationships end. Because so many people do not understand what love really is. They feel it's just a feeling for an opposite sex not knowing love has nothing to do with feelings. Love is a choice and a drive that drives us to understand and respect someone for a life time. When people attach love to feelings or emotion they tend to use words like this in future " I don't feel anything for him or her again" love must be a career you must build it, it must have some set goals as one of its qualities. You cannot love someone and cheat on that person except you confuse feelings for love that is why people would say they love their wife or partner yet they cheat on them. Some have even gone as far as saying love is not a yardstick not to cheat, you can still love your partner and cheat. Well, such persons confuse love for feelings.

*Lack of good sex: When this is jettison in marriage, it tends to promote infidelity and can cause a misunderstanding. Sex is very important in marriage. Constant ignoring of sexual activities in marriage has led so many marriages to break up. Sex helps to relieve stress, it creates bond, it procreates and it is the zenith of fun among married couples. So many couples has suffered as a result of poor sexual activities. So many women has failed to apply some techniques to get orgasm because they have seen sex therapy as secondary in marriage building. So many can hardly explore their wives sexually. When sexual climax is not being achieved in marriage, a sex therapist should be involved immediately. Over looking it is synonymous to over looking your union.

*Lack of money: They say "money can't buy love" yes that is true but money can keep love. Have you heard that poor people are vulnerable? Husbands have been taken away from their wives and wives have been taken away from their husbands mainly because of lack of love, sex and money. The heart of a woman desires good things and a proud man is he that have provided for his wife. One must not steal to have money to keep a relationship or marriage but must learn the philosophy of how to make money. Balanced view of money in marriage or relationship is vital. Seeing a professional counselor to help you get a balance view of money would help strengthen your union. Poor financial mismanagement has ended so many marriages in court seeking for the termination of their marriage contract and have pushed other partner to seek for financial solution in someone else. Do not be quick to blame them because money in itself cannot buy love but can keep love.

Issues with finding love, having a healthy sex life and understanding the philosophy of money can be normal and proffering a solution to it is that which does not demand medical attention except when it has gotten out of behavioral approach but requires the person to be patient and complete a counseling process not from a pastor, lawyer or a medical doctor but a qualified counseling psychologist.
Consult a professional counselor via WhatsApp on 0806 472 9707, Instagram on @mrbigt2020 with a fee of two thousand naira or six dollars. It's a choice, you either talk to a counselor now or end up talking to a medical doctor when it becomes a 50/50 chance medically or a lawyer when you can no longer fix the issue or when it becomes life threatening. Or talk to a pastor when you have been brain washed to believes that your case is spiritual and you need deliverance.

I call bullshit.

nobody likes things and events and people and places that reminds them of their inadequacies and that is what most wives regularly does,always presenting bills to pay urgently even at a time the man is so sorry for himself for not having money,the wife comes and make the situation worse,whereas the woman outside simply wants to have fun with the man,the wife wants the bills settle first causing the man to lose erections .

was glad when a man i advised during this pandemic era ,worried about no ga and no money told me he has gotten firewood as a temporal measures rather than killing himself over no gas,no money.

then biologically,men are not basically monogamous.even the best of men feels another woman.it is largely out of habituation that couples get tired of themselves in many ways.

always leave a gap in ur relationship.learn to live and go on with life as if the other person is not obligated to u and see wonders happen in ur marriage,
men hates stress
and wives often develop into huge stress/

lightangel65i:


Cause they get booring.

The same reason you can't eat the same food for 1yr

The same reason why too much familiarity causes dusrespect

Well ive been eating beans for the past 1&half year...yet to get tired

You wrote a lot of sensible things sir.

I think some women (likely unknowingly or stoked by evil suggestions) drive their husbands away from themselves...

A man is flesh and blood after all ... responds to emotions...

I take a strong stand though with these words that I came up with, "Satan got Eve to get Adam". I rely on God to help me despite all my weakness.

josite:
nobody likes things and events and people and places that reminds them of their inadequacies and that is what most wives regularly does,always presenting bills to pay urgently even at a time the man is so sorry for himself for not having money,the wife comes and make the situation worse,whereas the woman outside simply wants to have fun with the man,the wife wants the bills settle first causing the man to lose erections .

was glad when a man i advised during this pandemic era ,worried about no ga and no money told me he has gotten firewood as a temporal measures rather than killing himself over no gas,no money.

then biologically,men are not basically monogamous.even the best of men feels another woman.it is largely out of habituation that couples get tired of themselves in many ways.

always leave a gap in ur relationship.learn to live and go on with life as if the other person is not obligated to u and see wonders happen in ur marriage,
men hates stress
and wives often develop into huge stress/

Braindealer:
The only and main reason why marriages dont last is notin but childishness; lack of self decipline and ignorance.

Marriage is a union of two MATTURED adults. Every other little reason you think causes faild marriages; like cheating, money, sex all fall under not being matured enough.

ONLY MATURED MINDS REMAIN IN MARRIAGE!

What happens when you are matured and you don't have money? Maturity alone cannot keep your marriage. Women like good things and you as a man are proud because you are able to provide not only for your wife but also for your family.

Bonatheripper:
Pusssyy no longer enticing.


Fallen breast

Get fat I'm married and don't need exercise mentality.

I'm generally.... If you see one particular woman... Everytime everyday.. every week every month every year for the rest of your existence.


The thought of that alone makes you get extremely tired.


No matter how you tend to look at it no man enjoys one puzzay for a long time.



Your always want new once.... Religion Sha tries to regulate this but nature will always take it cause....



In a nutshell.... Men needs new engine to service in their lives after a period of time....
Only religion and good upbringing makes one decipline enough to stick to one pusssy for life while those who don't give a fuckkkkk about all that love their wives but get tired of their bodies hence while the ashawo and runs girl business is Booming...

We should know the highest patronizers and highest payers or runs girls and ashawos are married people. �


Men are controlled by testosterone while women estrogen....

Ur comments obviously shows that U r NOT yet married Bro. NOT ALL men, I repeat NOT ALL men loose INTEREST in their wives after wedding/marriage.

Most women change immediately they got marry sometimes after give birth they focus most of the energy on the kid which is not bad but neglect the husband, again lack of sex education about sex and love life. I understand the situation in Nigeria does not let people get that time but for women its will do them lot of good if they can stimulate the husband appetite like take charge of bedroom. No be make you kon sleep like sigidi or missionary style your hubby kon dey do kerewa to non responsive woman.

Women need to do more they usually lose interest once they get married like MOTI MARRY NA.

Marriage is good but take fucking handwork to make it work.

Natural441:
My fellow nairalander let us discuss the reason men lose interest in there women after few years in marriage.

Alphaman007:


I compiled all these to an ebook sir and i want to acknowledge you... This knowledge mustn't waste

No problem sir. God be praised.

Lack of true love at the initial time.

Most men marry in order to have children and not to remain. In love forever.

Secondly , it is better to marry your best friend, someone you cannot hide something from, someone you value so much than just marry inorder to have children.


ONCE YOU KNOW YOU HAVE LOST INTEREST IN UR WIFE.
THE BEST THING IS TO MARRY THE NEW PERSON WHERE UR INTEREST IS.


INFACT , MOST SELFISH MEN ARE GREEDY, THEY ARE NOT CONTENTED



In fact,
DEAR YOUNG LADIES,

U CAN ONLY GET A GOOD MAN IF YOU ARE VERY LUCKY.

MOST MEN YOU SEE NOW ARE INSTAGRAM ,WATSAP AND FACEBOOK MEN

WHO FINDS MORE HAPPINESS IN OTHER FEMALES THAN YOU THEY KEEP IN THE HOUSE.


IF POSSIBLE JUST TRY TO MAKE YOUR MONEY AND HAVE CHILDREN AS MANY AS YOU CAN TRAIN.

MAKE SURE THEY HAVE FATHERS.

AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST.


ONCE YOU ARE UNLUCKY AND FALLS INTO THE HAND OF THE OJUKOKORO, MEN.

THEY DUMP YOU AT HOME AND FACE THE OUTSIDE WOMEN.
AND DEPRESSION WILL SET IN.
YOU WILL UNKNOWINGLY BECOME A ' NAGGING WIFE'


SO IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE NOT LUCKY MEETING THE GOOD MEN WHO WILL SEE YOU AS HIMSELF, THE BEST OPTION FOR YOU IS TO FACE AND BUILD A GREAT CAREER AND DO GOOD INVESTMENTS,

YOU CAN THEN SELECT SOMEONE WHOM YOU MAY WANT TO HAVE KIDS WITH AND DO THE NEEDFUL.
AFTERWARDS FACE YOUR LIFE.


EVERYBODY MUST NOT MARRY.

IT IS BETTER NOT TO BE MARRIED THAN TO BE MARRIED AND LIVE A DEPRESSED LIFE ALL THROUGH THE LITTLE YEARS YOI HAVE 9N EARTH.


IF ANYBODY QUOTES ME FOR WRONG REASONS, COVID 19 THUNDER WILL FIRE THE PERSON

LebanonCedars2:
A couple of weeks ago, the youths in my church asked me to discuss on a topic very similar to the above: "WHY DO PEOPLE CHANGE AFTER WEDDING."

Loosing interest is not peculiar to men, women do too. You can go through what I shared with the youths. You might learn a thing or two as I have learnt from the posts above.


First, everyone of us must keep this truth in our hearts: wedding is not marriage neither is courtship marriage. Marriage is more demanding and requires more commitments and sacrifices. Our focus and prayers during courtship and while preparing for marriage should go beyond wedding.
Also, irrespective of the discouraging stories you hear about married couples as a single youth; regardless of what you are going through in your marriage presently, marriage is a beautiful institution if you surrender the control of your marriage to the Originator of the institution.
there is a gamut of reasons why love in marriage goes south. We cannot treat all but the Holy Spirit will guide us into some of the salient ones:

1. Wrong Foundation: The truth is, upbringing affects almost every aspect of our life and marriage is not an exception. Two people coming together as husband and wife will most likely have different upbringing and foundation. Many of us come from broken homes. Some witness severally how our parents turn each other to punching bags. I have heard of fathers that will tell their son to watch as he beats his mum telling the son that’s how to bring a woman into submission. Some of our mothers were very aggressive to our fathers and treated them as trash. Some people were abused by relatives, neighbours, trusted people while growing up. The list goes on and on.
Some people unfortunately bring this wrong psyche/notion/upbringing to the marriage thereby turning love to hate.

Furthermore, some foundational evil forces/covenants follow quite a lot of us to the marriage (whether you believe it or not). These forces manipulate either or both parties to do things that will affect the marriage negatively. Only Jesus can destroy such evil foundation. Ask the woman at the well in John 4:17-18. I was operating under a very terrible foundational covenant until Jesus stepped into my marriage.

2. Unfulfilled Expectation: During courtship, some people knowingly or unknowingly pretend to be who they are not. Some post unrealistic picture of who they are to their spouse. Such spouse on getting into the marriage may be disappointed and feel cheated. This can become a little fox that will destroy the vine – marriage. Hence, our youths should ensure truth and transparency while in courtship. Due diligence should also be taken in knowing who you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s not lack of faith; after all, Jesus said we should be wise as serpent and harmless as a dove – Matthew 10:16

3. Desire To Look Into And Correct Every Wrongdoing: This is very important and can cause a lot of friction in the marriage. Some people are found of finding fault. They are like the Scribes and Pharisees of Jesus’s time who came all the way from Jerusalem not to hear the Word and be healed but to find fault – Mark 7:1-2.

Look brethren, in marriage, you must decide to be blind and deaf to some mundane things rather than making mountain out of a mole hill. The person you married has been like that for well over 20 years before you married him/her. You don’t expect such to change overnight by nagging, shouting or barking orders. Learn to overlook little mistakes for the sake of your peace of mind.

I remember a story I heard about a couple. They had a very elaborate wedding and spent millions of naira on it. After the wedding, the couple went for honeymoon in a 5-star hotel. The next day, they woke up to clean up. The wife took the toothpaste, press it from the middle and when the husband saw it, he was irritated. He told the wife that she should have pressed it from the bottom up. An argument ensured and the new wife gave the husband a dirty slap. Needless to say, that was how the marriage packed up, within 24 hours!

Learn to let go and if there is a need to correct, do it in love.

4. Failure To Run: The scripture teaches us to flee from fornication – 1 Cor 6:18. It teaches us to also flee youthful lusts 2 Timothy 2:22.
When God says: “run”, it simply means you should run. One thing that can subtly creep into marriage and destroy it is sexual immorality. It can sneak its way into your home if you have not learnt how to run. It doesn’t matter your anointing, you must watch and run at the sight of any danger signs. Many people have found themselves helplessly in infidelity not because they wanted to but because of carelessness and failure to run. Be careful of that brother/sister in the church that’s drawing unnecessarily close, that colleagues that compliments and smile at you at any given opportunity, that neighbor that is (innocently) always buying gifts for you even when it’s not your birthday.
Moreover, satan is destroying homes through social media and internet. Run from pornographic pictures and movies, they corrupt minds and give you evil suggestions that can ruin your home.

Learn to run!!!

5. Pride: [/b]Pride is one of the greatest sin. Lucifer was reduced to the devil because of pride, Adam and Eve wanted to be like God and bought sin for mankind. Pride can give birth to a lot of other evils. Pride has destroyed a lot of homes.
Pride is seeing yourself more important than anyone else. What we call egoism is actually pride. Pride makes it difficult for couples to resolve their differences. It makes you feel the other party should be the first to apologize thereby leading to malice. In my first year of marriage, my wife and I could stay for two (2) weeks or more without talking to each other. Why? I wouldn’t want to be the first to apologize even if I was wrong; after all, “I am the man”. On the other hand, my wife will not want to feel defeated, she also will not say sorry and our love was suffering.

6. [b]Taking Over The God-given Responsibility of The Other: This is one of the offshoot of pride. God has designed it that the husband should be the head/leader of the home. Many women don’t want this. They want to assume equality with man. It doesn’t matter what the so-called civilization is saying (look at the divorce rate in the civilized world), it doesn’t matter the agenda of the feminists, it CAN NEVER BE.
Any woman who want to fight for the headship of the family will never be able to enjoy her marriage. God designed it that way and nothing can change it. You might be richer, more powerful, more educated, more anointed as a woman, you must encourage/allow your husband be the head and you must submit to his leadership.
When we got married, my wife was a graduate and earning 3 times my salary. I was an ND holder. But you wouldn’t know. She wouldn’t spend money without my knowledge. I wasn’t a very good husband, yet she continued to submit. Now I am more educated, I can conveniently pay her salary with my staff’s. There is nothing I cannot do for my wife either she asked for it or not. Why? She did not challenge my authority when she had the power to.

7. Laziness: Love in many marriages have been frustrated as a result of laziness. Some men will watch while the wife run around looking for how to keep body and soul together. They will not lift a finger. Such women can become frustrated and aggressive, vice versa.
God Himself hates lazy people. He is not a lazy God and if you are His child, you cannot afford to be lazy. Quit complaining or waiting for that big break while sleeping morning till night. Get something doing to support your family.

Please shed more light on you being ND holder was able to have graduate and a fat salary earner being submissive you.
Were u ND holder and she was a graduate and started working before you settled down?
Even having a lady as an under graduate to b submissive is very hard let alone working class graduate to an ND holder . This ur write up looks cooked up to get likes.

BEFORE ANYONE COMMENTS HERE , REMEMBER YOU HAVE EITHER A DAUGHTER OR SIBLINGS WHO ARE FEMALES.


YOU KNOW WHEN YOU LOOSES INTEREST IN A WOMAN IT SHOWS. THE OTHER PARTY WILL SUFFER,
So instead of doing that just bring in the person where your interest is currently in , so you can stylishly release the other person, so she doesn't continue to expect so much from you, while you will not meet up with

Lanre6:

Please shed more light on you being ND holder was able to have graduate and a fat salary earner being submissive you.
Were u ND holder and she was a graduate and started working before you settled down?
Even having a lady as an under graduate to b submissive is very hard let alone working class graduate to an ND holder . This ur write up looks cooked up to get likes.

My dear, check my posts, I am not a baby and I dont need your likes for ANYTHING neither do I have the time to look for likes from faceless forum.

The above write up was not meant for Nairaland but for my church youths. As their pastor, I was invited to discuss on the above topic on their Whatsapp group a couple of weeks ago. When I saw similar posts, I had to just put this up here so some who are willing can learn.

Lanre6:

Please shed more light on you being ND holder was able to have graduate and a fat salary earner being submissive you.
Were u ND holder and she was a graduate and started working before you settled down?
Even having a lady as an under graduate to b submissive is very hard let alone working class graduate to an ND holder . This ur write up looks cooked up to get likes.

Now, as per your question; I had ND in Banking and Finance and got a job as a contract staff of a bank earning 35k in 2007.

By this time, my wife was through with her NYSC (she served in a bank). Not long after, she got a job in another bank earning about 100k as professional trainee.

In 2008, we got married. All through, she never made me feel less of a man. Very submissive and supportive.

I am where I am today as an entrepreneur and in ministry because of her support and God's grace and direction. More importantly, God has been promoting, shielding and increasing her in her place of work.

We do things (anything at all) together as one and I am glad our children are growing seeing our love and commitment to each other. My children are growing to know real and genuine love without bitterness do exist in marriage. I believe this will shape their perception about marriage not terrible things the see or hear about marriage on social media.

The truth is that we had it very rough and tiring in the first 2 years because I was a very terrible human being, not worthy of such a beautiful soul. However, the Lord Jesus rescued me from my demons when He saved my soul on December 5, 2010. The story changed from then on.

My dear friend, your marriage can be beautiful if only you will alone Jesus take the wheel.

Hmm

AlhajaChinyere:


How old are you? Are you married, if yes for how long?

My age and experience in marriage doesnt change the fact.

If you judge that way, you would be comitting the fallacy of Argumentum ad Hominem; attackin a persons character rather than the point.

But for what its worth, am 20 and obviously not married.

But it's ok for the woman to eat rice for the rest of her life ni?! Very messed up talk..

[quote author=Eulalia post=89885021][/quote]just my humble opinion

Braindealer:

My age and experience in marriage doesnt change the fact.

If you judge that way, you would be comitting the fallacy of Argumentum ad Hominem; attackin a persons character rather than the point.

But for what its worth, am 20 and obviously not married.

20? Ok, no more comments from me.

Marry your Friend , not your girlfriend
Groom her, work on her to your taste...... invest your time into her, u will never get tired of her.


If you don't sow, dig, weed, prune..... you will get tired of the land, because the Grasses will be massive. But when u clear, weed, sow and prune, dig, then the farm go day sweet u to enter because fresh breeze everywhere.


Relationship na work ooo

Many truths have been told here, but something is missing, for married people, avoid defecating in front of your spouse, farting in front of him, talking to him on waking with a smelly mouth, these are real love kills. It is often better to sleep apart. Never forget, your spouse is not your brother or your sister.