Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

Though not all marriages..
Those doing so feel like they were scammed, marriage is more than what they thought earlier..

Wives love and care more for the kids as a result the men feel less loved resulting in attitudinal changes toward their wives!

Nwodosis:
Wives love and care more for the kids as a result the men feel less loved resulting in attitudinal changes toward their wives!

What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

It's see finish, no matter the bond between the two of you at one point or the other you get tired of her.

I wouldn’t say change. It a paradigm shift. Priorities are now different. The kids come first now,conversations are kid’s centered now..Most couples who start having kids just months after their wedding will most likely experience this.

The fundamental question is 'was there love before the kids came'? 'Why did they get married in the first place?' etc.

Then you would have your answer.

He's going to take care of both the child and the mother, so he thinking much ln how to handle that. . basically his responsibilities have increased to the extreme and he dare not fail.

bukatyne:
The fundamental question is 'was there love before the kids came'? 'Why did they get married in the first place?' etc.

Then you would have your answer.

Exactly!

Most people in this category the op is referring to get married because they feel they're of age and therefore should be married, and not because they have found true love.

A vast number of them have zero romantic connection with their spouses. The marriage is just for having sex breeding kids. This is why they cheat without any form of conscience cos they see their marriage as a prison, and want some breathing space.

I'll say this and say it again and again. No spouse would get fed up and cheat on a partner he/she geninuely loves and respects.

Here to read comments!

TenQ:

Not quite.
There is a change I have dynamics
1. The wife now focuses more on her babies
2. Her priority now is more o person her babies


Of course dramas never ceases!


The oga of the house feel left out as he becomes only the ATM of the house.

Because of maternal instincts. There is nothing like paternal instincts, that's why you can't relate

Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to help him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day. This is a man with 5 kids o.

The man didn't love her from the beginning. Just imagine calling a woman who is raising ur kids condemn property because of an over used kpekus..
Sometimes i just pity some women, insulting you wife in the public because of a mere puna..

Jewessgratitud3:
Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day.

talented321:
The man didn't love her from the beginning. Just imagine calling a woman who is raising ur kids condemn property because of an over used kpekus..
Sometimes i just pity some women, insulting you wife in the public because of a mere puna..

You all are the same. You'll leave your wives and not allow singles to rest and sorry it's not my fault that the only singles you've ever met in life are overused ones.

Point of correction, all men are not the same.. All kpekus is over used before my babe.. It's only useless men that insult their women to impress any bitch' say you get?

Jewessgratitud3:


You all are the same. You'll leave your wives and not allow singles to rest and sorry it's not my fault that the only singles you've ever met in life are overused ones.

Nazgul:

Exactly!

Most people in this category the op is referring to get married because they feel they're of age and therefore should be married, and not because they have found true love.

A vast number of them have zero romantic connection with their spouses. The marriage is just for having sex breeding kids. This is why they cheat without any form of conscience cos they see their marriage as a prison, and want some breathing space.

I'll say this and say it again and again. No spouse would get fed up and cheat on a partner he/she geninuely loves and respects.

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That means the man married the woman because of her body. This is why I created this thread alongside this onehttps://www.nairaland.com/7855392/confession-time-why-did-marry

Jewessgratitud3:
Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day. This is a man with 5 kids o.

Lol

Una too dey rush... Wait till u get married, then you will understand better..

Do you even know that women are highest subscribers of denying their husbands their coochies... Single girls have sex with their boyfriends far more than married women and their husbands... Guess you all know what this could cause... Imagine denying ur husband sex on a steady basis..

Oh... U don't even know...

Who no go no know

Expectations.🤦‍♂️

Possible reasons:

1. She claimed hard-to-get for too long and he later discovers that she's not worth the stress.

2. He knew she wasn't a virgin when he met her. So he lost interest in her deformity.

3. Most women allow child birth to deform them; belly becomes big, face becomes undoctored, shape competes with that of amoeba etc. Come on, who wouldn't lose interest and change towards such a careless woman?

4. Many women reduce the love and care they give to their husbands and pour all on the children. Shame!

5. Some women begin to give excuse for sex. "My vagina has not healed" etc.

6. Some women start to cheat after child birth thinking they have hooked the husband with a baby and he can't do anything (e go shock you)

7. Many women becomes dirty after having a baby. They give so much time to the parasitic bastard that they forget themselves. Nonsense.
Who would want to love a woman who smells like corpse? Nonsense women of 21st century.
The women of 1870s and 1880s are the best. These current generation women are nothing but a waste of sperm.

Elasticity in the kitten. i,e When the center can no longer hold firmly.

Drop in Hygienic routine.

The former is very crucial, reason you see some young married girls chasing little girls all over the place like Agama lizard.

Not entirely true that only men change towards their wives after kids starts coming.

From the little I've experienced, women change too, maybe even a little bit more than the men.

I've even made a post about this some time ago.

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

Not quite.
There is a change I have dynamics
1. The wife now focuses more on her babies
2. Her priority now is more o person her babies


Of course dramas never ceases!


The oga of the house feel left out as he becomes only the ATM of the house.

They change because unfortunately after child birth the woman loses shape,so subconsciously the sight irritates them so they find fault in little things.

I know it's hard but woman should try and keep their shape after child birth

1. Some women divert the attention given to the man before to the Kids/children.

2. See finish.

3. Sagging breasts

4. Pussy has expanded. No more strong sensation when doing the do.

5. Some women stop taking care of their personal hygen when married.

Wrong question bound to cause more problems...

Fountainofyouth:



What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

I don’t really know

That's not the right question, it should have been vice versa..

A woman is supposed to be a wife and a mother. But most women stop being a wife and only accept being a mother...

My landlord once told me that the use of women in marriages na to bear children