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Ok so I was in a relationship thst I thought was it during and after sch. It ended 6yrs( were best of friends for 3yrs)plus after she left the country to UK for masters.
I became smtn else two years down the line..tried several relationships since then but the best I cud get was at worst a six month spell , until I zoomed off around 2018 and met this lady

We became friends for months, by 2019 we met in person , by this time we were alredy in love bfr seeing.Meeting her at the redemption camp that night for the first time was either to confirm my feelings or discard it cos all were had done bfr then was at best exchange pictures nd talk on the phone. She has a sweet voice by the way..

Fast forward to 2020, I love this babe, but shes way younger than I am, 7yrs diff..so we reason so differently and now we av been past the honeymoon stage since the begining of this year and it's been a roller coaster all cos we seem to be incompatible...I see she loves me and I do too.She's a virgin even thou I am not but I av been cool with her stand on no sex till marriage.

I know i havnt wifed her yer but i have declared all my affection and intensions to her ..met a few of her siblings, introduced her to my mum just so she nows how serios I am..

But here lies the problem..
She knows she's my all..I rarely keep female frnds, she's my best friend and all that so I feel shes begining to behave manipulative in words and actions...like feel in charge. .gyz anyone knows what that feeling feels like? We have broken up a few times I had gone to talk to her ...she's very opinionated and strong willed ...I love her despite all these and I know she wil come around as she comes of age...
Hoping that while I groom her into my kind of woman while time passes and i wil be getting ready esp as she's stil has age a few years to spare.

Those stuffs I mentioned are the few buts that really gets across, I saw them from day one but I kept giving mysef assurances that she wil come around.Asides this shes of several other beautiful qualities..

Second..thou we havnt had sex , we indulge in sexual sins , just think of it asides sex itsef and it's been a roller coaster of me having to go back to God every other time...alot has been happening to me so unfriendly since this habit started nd its become an habit that passed from my ex...I don't womanize but wth my woman, except if I dnt love her wil I not want to get cosy atimes but I have strong regard for sex dou but I know that doesn't make me a better Christian. So I prayed asked God to take this relationship away many times..lately saying still weather or not she's even the one..

Asides the fact that this is the only vulnerability I have ...(when am with my woman, and i rarely see her , so when i see , its a rush, I just no how to respect my boundaries) when am with her, am also geting fed up of all the compatibility issues , every day fights and quarells. It bothers me alot and i hate to think of it..and am begining to ask did I make a mistake for going for a younger smart intelligent sexy God fearing beautiful lady...

Ystday was supposed to be a date after a long while, it ended a mess...i admit I contribute to this too but she rarely does..like I said , I am not ready for marrige yet even dou am of age and I know i stil av some work to do on mysef generally but am prepared...but I concluded this lady aint ready nor prepared..so it puts us in a different strain

Spoke to a mentor abt it and she advised I call it off...that the foundation is wrong, are arguments were if the foundation is wrongly laid it's definitely going to affect the building..She asked if any pastor or mentor knows abt it , I said no , just mysef and her but that I intended on doing when marriage is at sight..she said I should quit it still
I still love her..this am she called , I responded by a text...However if that's what i must do then I must have the nerve to do it..just want to be sure

I woke up this am asking God to take her away weather or not she is the one for me...it's that bad...but I said if she's the one He should bring her back when we are both ready and prepared..

Pls advise on what you think is best to be done putting all the factors I mentioned into consideration.

Thanks..and God bless..

Some of what you're saying is difficult to understand.

Summarizing your point would have been a better option.
Can't understand what you typed bro.

Write a summary separately from the main article.
And correct all your grammatical mistakes and punctuations. Your writing is giving me headaches.

Please stop wasting the lady's time Kindly free her for another man to see her

I was once in your shoes, I had my sanity back after we parted ways.

Universal Law: The party with the least commitment controls the Relationship. Sever ties immediately!

Dear op. just know this. it will eventually end in tears.