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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Judybash93(m): 11:39pm On May 29, 2020

Ayspark7:
I believe that your brother receives life into his head right now and healed in Jesus's name.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Tango123: 11:39pm On May 29, 2020

Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/

I am a mental health expert, but not in learning disabilities. I am delighted to read a comment like urs on nairaland. It shows we still have some wise people here.

Thank you

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by October1960: 11:40pm On May 29, 2020

Vyzz:

Is he just dull in Academic aspect or in all other aspect
I have a cousin that can't do anything academically but is a loud mouth.
Esteem high and big ego

Future Naija government official or politician.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Judybash93(m): 11:41pm On May 29, 2020

Kobojunkie:
Do you know if your brother has dyslexia or other learning disabilities? Has he been tested for any such?
Since you are so smart, why don't you educate yourself on these and test your brother, and help get him the help he needs instead?

It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.? Really?
Have you considered how the boy feels about not grasping even some of the simplest of things? Put yourself in his shoes, and stop thinking it is all about you and everyone else. Help your brother in every way you can.

Thank you oOo. You've said it all and the guy is even bragging that he's in one of the top federal universities. Can you imagine?

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 11:42pm On May 29, 2020

madjune:
Sounds like autism.

Was he born in your Mom's greying years?

That is myth. Autism has nothing to do with being born by an ageing mother !

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Slynation(m): 11:42pm On May 29, 2020

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Hmmm.... This case is very serious, haven't seen something like this before, don't talk, don't do anything, sitting alone all day.... Matter pass me

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 11:42pm On May 29, 2020

Vyzz:

Is he just dull in Academic aspect or in all other aspect I have a cousin that can't do anything academically but is a loud mouth. Esteem high and big ego

He is igbo/ebhoe abi

Yes I talk am... Ebhoes with big fake ego

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by lilyheaven: 11:44pm On May 29, 2020

He is a genius, find out what he likes doing.
He will be perfect in that area

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Enugudemon(m): 11:45pm On May 29, 2020

You sure say na ur papa pikin

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by BABANGBALI: 11:46pm On May 29, 2020

That he his dull now does not make him useless in life.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by BABANGBALI: 11:47pm On May 29, 2020

Enugudemon:
You sure say na ur papa pikin

if e take am resemble the papa sef

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Krisadam(m): 11:50pm On May 29, 2020

So if you're that smart why can't you teach him, or are u using him to boast of yourself?

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 11:53pm On May 29, 2020

Amanee:
[s]I deeply empathise with your brother for being from a cruel family like yours.

For God's sake that child has learning disabilities which should be obvious to any slowpoke not to talk of so-called university graduates. How do you expect him to play with his mates when you've all destroyed his self-esteem and made him feel insecure[/s]

You all better rush him to a psychologist and child therapist asap, you've dallied too long already.

Your empathy is not pure because there is absolutely no reason to cuss out the poster and his family at all. I had to read the OP again to be double sure I wasn’t missing out anything. Not many people know about learning disorders and autistic spectrums. This is obviously the case with the family. You had to call them cruel and do all that highly unnecessary “slowpoke” bit. Ooo!!!!

Dear poster, listen to all the advice before this post I am quoting. All the best to your family.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by BlindedIrony(m): 11:55pm On May 29, 2020

Hello there!

I read what you put up, and I must say that this is quite a way of displacing your brother to the world. You must have had good intentions when you wrote this, but your article projects great dislike for your blood kin. That's awful. Now, to enlighten you:

Your brother is going through a mental phenomena that is completely normal. The phenomena is called learning difficulty. It could be due to lack of interest because of low levels of intrigue, or it could just be a biological predisposition. You may not agree with this because you keep projecting your standards on him, while neglecting the fact that people are unique in their own ways. There are literally millions of human beings around the world with learning difficulty. These are/were people who can't cram arithmetic formulae like you and regurgitate them to solve theoretical problems on papers. Notable examples include some billionaires you may know: Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson and so many others. Richard Branson alone had dyslexia. He failed standard tests. It got to a point when his principal told him that he will either end up in prison or be a millionaire. Guess what? He is one of the richest men alive today, and he still has learning difficulties!

What is my point? It is the absolute fact that people with learning disabilities are not morons or "dumb". Some are just not intrigued in a way that fascinates them at the same of your fascination in similar topics or subjects. History has shown us that the 1% of the world's population that controls more than 70% of the world's wealth are actually people who never did well in school. Cramming and regurgitating words and ideas in school don't make a successful man or woman in the real world out there. Instead, it creates another worker bee that adds value to billion-dollar companies, not society. The latter explains the reason why majority of Nigerian graduates CANNOT start up a venture successfully or even grow it to such a societal value level. You know, not everyone is good as cramming and regurgitating stuff like you. Someone may not be adept at it in school, but put them in practical aspects of life, and they will excel in the art of living beyond your wildest dreams. Or shall I say "theoretical dreams"? grin

You said your brother keeps to himself. Well, have you gotten to know what he likes? Or even the things that intrigue him? I really doubt it. It feels like you are watching from the outside; you judge and evaluate him using your own standards. He can never meet those standards. You already know that. It would be nice to go easy on him. Pressure makes kids withdraw. Get to know your brother. By that, I don't mean focusing on his "Dull qualities" as you call it. I mean really focus on his good side. Encourage him when you see him doing the things he likes to do. An example is when you see him playing a game of football with his friends or people, don't yell at him to go do his homework. Nay, don't do that. Instead, cheer for him, and ask how the game made him feel. After football and a shower, then a homework could happily follow (In which , you lend your almighty arithmetic brain in a creative way).

Let me elaborate more on cheering him during a sports game. A question like, "How did you feel when you scored a goal?" can create a connection that will open so many opportunities for you to positively influence the kid than the orders you bark. And yes, I know you bark orders because we all did too since we are older than our siblings wink

. Everyone wants to be liked. If you or anyone else in the family is constantly reminding the kid of his limitations, how on earth is he supposed to stay motivated to learn? He won't even have the confidence to do that.

Listen, your brother reminds me of myself when I was a teen. I kept to myself when I was a teen. This is because I liked to think and I enjoyed reading novels. My teachers taught I would amount to nothing because I could not speak good English grammar. I could write very well though. I was the kind of kid that everyone laughs at in class. You know the kind that arithmetic people like you bully or give a nickname that stick for awhile. For some reasons, I could not understand mathematics (I had this difficulty from primary school to SS1). My father did not believe in me. He always remarked that school education was not meant for me. He would grumbled whenever he handed me my school fees. He even suggested sending me on an apprenticeship to one of his cousins to learn a trade. Of course, I refused. I told I would jump off Head Bridge in Onitsha if he did.

When I got to senior secondary school, I had a physics teacher that encouraged me despite my learning challenges. His name was Mr. Ken; this guy was born to teach. He not only taught, but inspired kids like me then to become a better version of themselves through public speaking, student social gatherings/debate, sports and even invited eastern Indians to talk to us about needlework knitting! It made a huge difference because at the end of the SS1 third term, I started to become fascinated by physics. I could not get all I wanted from Physics because i lacked the mathematical skills to understand its concepts. So, I had to enjoy mathematics in order to fully understand Physics theorems. By SS3, I became the 4th best student in Onitsha. This is because we took a state exam to select three Onitsha best students that will represent our city in a mathematics competition. I came 4th out of a few hundred students from many schools. I did not qualify, but boy- were my classmates and teacher so proud of me! I made so many friends as a result that even 9 years after High school graduation, I am still friends with a lot of them. The junior worshipped me. Here I am today- Mr. "Dullard", in the United States of America making top dollars while paying schools of some family members, building projects that are adding value to the residents of my native city and a few more that will benefit Nigeria in afew years.

It is not about the books, degrees or name of Federal university you go to. It is about having a conducive environment to follow your passion. If I had gone to "Boy" as the Igbos call apprenticeship- due to my lack of interest in school and formal education then, I would never have had a quarter of the success I have today. Today, I still have learning difficulties. Some Americans still think I am dull lol That's fine because they don't even know I am way more successful than them, although we have the same job position or they are above me in the corporate ladder. Cars, clothes and good grammar don't count just like cramming and regurgitating the crap majority of us are taught in schools. Your brother is a kid for Christ sake. The poor bastard is probably under immense pressure and confusion. So, better stop putting your brother down and you better start lifting him up!

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by iamclime(m): 11:55pm On May 29, 2020

Dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia. Op, research these learning disabilities and then come back to tell us what you've learned.
Also, find out if your brother is being bullied at school.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by mgbedianya(m): 11:58pm On May 29, 2020

Check if he loves Cartoons or games. If he does, then can still learn

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sleemoon(m): 12:00am On May 30, 2020

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Try and search for this Indian Movie [ Like Stars On Earth] [Taare Zameen Par]...both re the same thing.....watch it and understand what ppl talking about dyslexia and dyscalculia meant...

the movie ll change ur perception about ur brother

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Zeezenho: 12:00am On May 30, 2020

You may be surprised his problem may be just eye problem.just take to oftamologist to check on his sight.his been dull the n school is affecting his social life.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by apexx5085: 12:03am On May 30, 2020

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sisitito01(f): 12:05am On May 30, 2020

Your brother is probably autistic or dyslexic,I dunno. He has to see a doctor.

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by toprealman: 12:12am On May 30, 2020

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Check up the following:
Late bloomers
Dyslexia

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Bbbwings: 12:14am On May 30, 2020

Squillaci:
Lol. Soon intellectual disability will deemed inappropriate, as was once idiot, imbec1le, mor0n etc.

Pls carry your Kaya xomot.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Jaygirlseven(f): 12:16am On May 30, 2020

It so sad I pray God heal his brain to get wisdom and understanding

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Futuragetty: 12:16am On May 30, 2020

Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/

He just learn differently.

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Flier: 12:22am On May 30, 2020

Judybash93:
Thank you oOo. You've said it all and the guy is even bragging that he's in one of the top federal universities. Can you imagine?

I think the poster is less intelligent than that his brother because I believe he should know more than this if he is actually in the university
If your 4 years old can not write 1-150 in word,change the school ASAP let alone a 14 years old

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by baba2ndey2(m): 12:23am On May 30, 2020

pls go and watch "like a star on earth" u will find it helpful. it's an Indian film

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by baba2ndey2(m): 12:25am On May 30, 2020

baba2ndey2:
pls go and watch "like a star on earth" u will find it helpful. it's an Indian film

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by UrFears: 12:36am On May 30, 2020

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