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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by adewumiopeyemi(m): 10:51pm On May 29, 2020
I have a brother like that after spending so much money on him he keep repeating classes mehn we went to churches no change now is 24. Mehn so dull he doesn’t even no how to solve simple arithmetic or even ask him what is the time he wount no
We just have to put him to learn shoemaking
So op is not only you it happen bro
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by linked: 10:51pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

He is a special child. He might just be a genius. Could be be struggling with a form of autism?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by ictplotter(m): 10:52pm On May 29, 2020
In computer system, such problem is call loss of cmos memory, as result of unclear viruses from the system carche. The remedy is to reload the system bios information. Ur brother need brain surgery not home teacher.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Strugglingman: 10:53pm On May 29, 2020
Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/
whot manner of man are you?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by skedy1(m): 10:53pm On May 29, 2020
Definitely Dyslexia...

He needs not just a teacher, but a friend.

Besides him been unable to differentiate numbers and all, he has certain abilities that you guys haven't had time to know.

Monitor him closely, you will see that he's good at something. May not be academics as you all want
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 10:53pm On May 29, 2020
Amanee:
I deeply empathise with your brother for being from a cruel family like yours.

For God's sake that child has learning disabilities which should be obvious to any slowpoke not to talk of so-called university graduates. How do you expect him to play with his mates when you've all destroyed his self-esteem and made him feel insecure.

You all better rush him to a psychologist and child therapist asap, you've dallied too long already.
Must you be uncouth to pass across your message ?

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Dami12345: 10:54pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee


Do yourself a favour. If you really want to help him, watch him for a full day. And see what he sees. You will find his intrest and reasons
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by osazsky(m): 10:55pm On May 29, 2020
Give me a private call let me put him in the furniture way....after 10 years e go don blow and doesn't need those invoices called certificate
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by donMIG(m): 10:58pm On May 29, 2020
Damn
I pity the boy
But he is different like u said his mind might be even brighter than urs probably he isn't from down here now he Is trying to learn it way of life
No surprise if time still dei him fit b another person entirely in years to come
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Abyima(m): 10:58pm On May 29, 2020
Sorry for that.
Your brother is not mentally retarted. Even in the auspice of mental retardation, we have the educable and trainable. They are useful. Some work in the bakery, farm, e.t.c

You said your brother writes 71 instead of 17. This can be dyslexia.

You said your brother doesn't relate with people. He must be living in his world. Autism may be tracebale a little. And there are classes of autism. Did he show the signs from 2-3 years? If not. It is not autism.

You said he is good at nothing. Go close to him, speak with him. Find out from him his like and dislikes. Talk to him. If truly he is autistic, he will be good at something.

His behaviour may be due to upbringing. Too much pet and all of that.

It may also be due to attention. He doesn't want to stress himself. He doesn't want to learn anything and he wants to be on his own.

Reflect on the past and see when all this started.Please do help him.

You need to seek a Child psychologist or any psychologist ASAP before it begins a long time default.

Please give him fruits and good honey too.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Gundel001: 10:59pm On May 29, 2020
OvaSabi1:


Go to the closest FMC in your town. Book an appointment at general consultation. Ask to see a clinical psychologist or consultant psychiatrist. You will come and thank me later.
what's FMC please??
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Jomonix: 11:00pm On May 29, 2020
You may not believe it but your brother honestly wishes to be as smart as the rest of the family. You may not also believe that he is confused as to why he is different. Your family should help him and let him grow. Let him understand that you love him nonetheless. Do not compare him with his mates. All I am saying is you all should try and encourage him. He might still come out of this condition and surprise all of you in the future.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 11:01pm On May 29, 2020
ictplotter:
In computer system, such problem is call loss of cmos memory, as result of unclear viruses from the system carche. The remedy is to reload the system bios information. Ur brother need brain surgery not home teacher.
u are implying that op should refurbish his bro brain
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Gundel001: 11:01pm On May 29, 2020
Onyi22:
It's from your Gene
I strongly doubt this at 14 I was already cracking further mathematics and almost done with secondary school

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Favour22amaka(f): 11:02pm On May 29, 2020
Op. Please try and watch this movie, LIKE STARS ON EARTH . Every child is special. It’s an Indian movie but after that, your perception about your brother will change. God will see him true.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Soknown: 11:03pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:


Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Hope you find the right help for your brother. As most people have pointed out. Your brother is not dull, he just need help with his yet to be diagnosed disability.
If this could help you understand, I do not know the times table until well into JSS3, I could not tell the time until after my SSCE. I only write enough to get me a pass and I don't write notes in class because writing distressed me. I still could not handle complex maths problems but I have improved a little. My older brother's friend used to call me Ab-dull like half- dull or something. Teachers would call me lazy for not taking notes. No one could help because our educational system is not able to recognize pupils with special needs. I did not recognize that I have an issue myself. My point is your brother is not alone, a good number of the population has learning disability but Nigeria being what it is, we do not have statistics. he needs care, love, attention and expert's help.
Your brother need to be seen by a learning disability experts, in Nigeria they are only available in Mental health hospitals or Mental health departments of teaching hospitals.
I wish him well. Keep us posted of his progress.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by jahlid(m): 11:03pm On May 29, 2020
You have to take things easy with him because it's not his fault also. Few days ago i read about a story of a guy who has a junior sister also with similar issue. I can't remember what the condition his been called now. She was actually diagnosed at the hospital. She is 24 years old but has a reasoning capacity of a 8 year old kid. You may Google and find out more. Remember he's not happy the way he his also what he need is to feel loved at this moment.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by joepepsy(m): 11:04pm On May 29, 2020
With all due respect you are as well dull.
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by OvaSabi1(f): 11:05pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:

what's FMC please??

Federal Medical Centre.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Ibime(m): 11:05pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee


Your brother unfortunately sounds like he has autism. It is not his fault, it's a disability that affects emotional intelligence, and the ability to connect with other people. It is usually described as the inability to read other people's minds.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Heavensent01(m): 11:06pm On May 29, 2020
thanks for your straight point and solution to the Op Humanoid01





I can't but overlook your brilliant suggestion. Op say no more Humanoid01 had spoken
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by emmaitive(m): 11:07pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

spiritual problem..you people should be praying for him, there's noting God cannot do

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Bennycollins: 11:08pm On May 29, 2020
I don't understand why you don't understand him. Don't we have federal universities or don't our federal universities get ranked often?
Bluehill1051:
Which one be top federal university again..
Ode people full everywhere I swear
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by GogetterMD(m): 11:08pm On May 29, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee


You're wasting your money sending him to the wrong school. He should be in a special school

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Highpac: 11:09pm On May 29, 2020
Make una do family meeting donate the guy for medical experiment simple.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by hennylove(f): 11:10pm On May 29, 2020
Please search for a film like stars on earth for your family to watch.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Gundel001: 11:10pm On May 29, 2020
DTeekay:
Choose a sport or let him choose a sport to pick an interest in, or see if he has interest in Music. There is no such thing as a dull child, it's ur job as parents to discover the talent.

Not every one will be a Doctor or Engineer as most parents seem to want. There is a hidden talent in that child discover it. Don't judge him cis he don't know maths or English.

Find out wat he is interested in, buy a musical instrument or a sports item. Just do something but don't call him dull at all.

God doesn't waste.
I actually believe there is some talent hidden in him but we have tried all means to get him to show it but he won't even relate with people
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Gundel001: 11:11pm On May 29, 2020
AllenSpencer:


I think you have to discover him. His mode of learning and interest. He might attend the best school does not mean they are delivering knowledge to him the way he understands. He definitely has his way of grasping knowledge which you yet to discover.

And trust me, you will be amazed when you find out.

Make sure you return to share a testimony when you do.
sure I will
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by apexx8054: 11:12pm On May 29, 2020
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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Gordson: 11:13pm On May 29, 2020
Millennialaku:
i was 14 in ss2 cool
Who cares

You be ofonu

Nonsense

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