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She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 11:26pm On May 31, 2020
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by longetivity(m): 11:42pm On May 31, 2020
you mean after she asked you can we just be freinds, you rushed down here to get an answer while she's still waiting for your reply

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 11:43pm On May 31, 2020
longetivity:
you mean after she asked you can we just be freinds, you rushed down here to get an answer while she's still waiting for your reply
i kept her pending that i wanna sleep.

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by longetivity(m): 11:45pm On May 31, 2020
SPOLO:
i kept her pending that i wanna sleep.
God will help you

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Shezkid01(m): 11:46pm On May 31, 2020
Nigeria girls.. are you her enemy in the first place?
Don’t go to that zone brother
Leave her.. friends from what?
She’ll turn you to her atm
Tell her NO
Is either you date each other or no friendship zone

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Chigbo91(m): 11:48pm On May 31, 2020
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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by BigJoe19: 11:50pm On May 31, 2020
Guy delete her from your life.
What can she offer you? Guy enjoy your life and stop thinking about one worthless thing.
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 11:51pm On May 31, 2020
Shezkid01:
Nigeria girls.. are you her enemy in the first place?
Don’t go to that zone brother
Leave her.. friends from what?
She’ll turn you to her atm
Tell her NO
Is either you date each other or no friendship zone
i have made such mistakes before so i cant again.

I have told her is either Yes or No and she shouldnt be asking me whether we can be friends or Not.
After we ain't enemy before
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Shezkid01(m): 11:53pm On May 31, 2020
SPOLO:

i have made such mistakes before so i cant again.

I have told her is either Yes or No and she shouldnt be asking me whether we can be friends or Not.
After we ain't enemy before

That’s it
If she is under 20
She’s hoeing rn.. so you don’t have to take her serious
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by daddio(m): 11:53pm On May 31, 2020
longetivity:
you mean after she asked you can we just be freinds, you rushed down here to get an answer while she's still waiting for your reply

E com home con ask for reply naa ni
(Mak I no talk am for Afonja language)

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by kingsley724(m): 11:57pm On May 31, 2020
maybe she has someone else cool
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 12:01am On Jun 01, 2020
I have given her a reply out of my mind which i said i only demanded yes/No.
So she said NO.

This is all i want to hear and not those kind of stunts.
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by donbachi(m): 12:55am On Jun 01, 2020
End ur worries bro..she's 80% urs.."just a friend,just a friend"...many of dem get belle.

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:49am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.

I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...

And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.

Please what's the best response to this question ❓

how long do you know her?
how often have you guys spent time together?
how well do you know the babe?
does she even know you (or do you want her to say yes to a stranger)?

open your mind and take it easy... maybe she needs time, maybe she is playing shakara etc . figure out why she is saying the above, converse with her and guess what? if she still want to be friend, then there is nothing wrong with having friends.

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Bola146(f): 4:46am On Jun 01, 2020
People should know that friendship comes before dating, saying yes at first might be very risky, yes! She doesn't want to start what she can't come out of it. As for me, saying yes is like making a convenant with the guy, she needs time to think. Besides, most men pretend alot undecided lipsrsealed

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by AprokoDentist: 6:23am On Jun 01, 2020
if you really love the girl and you feel she's worth it, I think You should press further.

Does she have a boyfriend? That's a no-no for you if it's a serious relationship

if she's still single, is she ready to have a boyfriend? Relationship ain't everyone's priority

are you even her type?
Maybe she's just trying to be nice. You might not be her type afterall

I think if you can get perfect answers to those, you'd know whether to be friends first or just japa.


Never again jump to conclusion. I've had to cut some ties(friendship) in the past for fear that it might lead to relationship. Everyone has their reasons
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Shormiey(m): 6:29am On Jun 01, 2020
She will turn you to her ATM bro.....now "welcome" to friend zone.
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by chatinent: 7:02am On Jun 01, 2020
Poo! She's started feeling like one celebrity. It's very advised not to ask a Nigerian girl out until the drums playing songs in her head stops.
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 7:12am On Jun 01, 2020
Bola146:
People should know that friendship comes before dating, saying yes at first might be very risky, yes! She doesn't want to start what she can't come out of it. As for me, saying yes is like making a convenant with the guy, she needs time to think. Besides, most men pretend alot undecided lipsrsealed
It's just stress while forming some shiit....
Before i do chase a lady from almost a year at the end it still end in tears and this one i had been trying my best for almost a month, making sure my chat, calls with her always lively but at the end she is now asking me questions..


No i can't let what happened before to happen to me....
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 7:15am On Jun 01, 2020
Bola146:
People should know that friendship comes before dating, saying yes at first might be very risky, yes! She doesn't want to start what she can't come out of it. As for me, saying yes is like making a convenant with the guy, she needs time to think. Besides, most men pretend alot undecided lipsrsealed
We had been friends, chatting and i always call to check on her.
I have tried my best sha

Let me move on, no time
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Bellotelli: 7:46am On Jun 01, 2020
donbachi:
End ur worries bro..she's 80% urs.."just a friend,just a friend"...many of dem get belle.
Bro you sabi... Who go about toasting and waiting for replies these days?
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Naija246: 8:10am On Jun 01, 2020
op watch this video below.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfzZYVCVlKs

Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by drLammy(m): 8:12am On Jun 01, 2020
Tell her she can't afford to be your friend
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Bola146(f): 8:35am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:

We had been friends, chatting and i always call to check on her.
I have tried my best sha

Let me move on, no time

Then she gave you her real answer grin grin She knows that mere friendship is okay to avoid any story cheesy Kindly move on please b
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Bola146(f): 8:36am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:

It's just stress while forming some shiit....
Before i do chase a lady from almost a year at the end it still end in tears and this one i had been trying my best for almost a month, making sure my chat, calls with her always lively but at the end she is now asking me questions..


No i can't let what happened before to happen to me....

Pele, let her go in peace
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:56am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:

It's just stress while forming some shiit....
Before i do chase a lady from almost a year at the end it still end in tears and this one i had been trying my best for almost a month, making sure my chat, calls with her always lively but at the end she is now asking me questions..


No i can't let what happened before to happen to me....

ALL THIS HARD WORK FOR HOW MUCH PAY?
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Omar09(m): 9:33am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

Since you humbled yourself to ask us the ogas, I will also give you MHO.

Now, if you like a girl, and you are sure you want to date her, tell her you like her and would want to date her. The idea of being friends with her till it moves beyond that will result in of the following;
— It is weak a move that sometimes isn't positive, and for the times it was positive those girls have low self esteem issue and as a man you don't want that.

— It gives room for manipulation. You can be easily manipulated because your way of waiting it out till it moves beyond friendship is manipulative and remember, manipulation is a two way street.

— You will suffer a lot of heart break from actually not dating. This is the stupid kind of heart break because you are not in relationship yet but you are heart broken because a girl you like and is just waiting it out till it becomes more than friendship is taken away by a more assertive guy and you get to watch the whole the process.

Being direct and more assertive within the first week of meeting her, will save you a lot of the following;
—Time that you could have wasted on an unproductive relationship.
—Energy too.
— Also it gives you assurance whether through a positive feedback or a negative one.

Now @emboldened.

My response to her will be, I want to date you and not just be friends. And since it seems you are indisposed to grant me my desire of dating you, I don't think we can be friends. I don't want to be friends with you. If I wanted friendship, I would have gotten a dog or a cat. In a nut shell, I'd tell her no!

Why would I reject the offer of being friends with her since it's close to being with her but not as close as dating her even tho it may looks like I would have another chance when being friends with her?

I will reject her offer because of the following;

— She didn't blink twice to say her mind so why would I change mine?

— She told you she wanted you both to be friends because she wants to enjoy the benefits of a girlfriend without doing the work of a girlfriend.

— If you accept to be just friends with her, she has put you in a manipulative spot because she knows you will do anything to have her and this is to her advantage. Not yours, but hers.

SO WHAT DO YOU WANNA DO?

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by Omar09(m): 9:40am On Jun 01, 2020
Bola146:
People should know that friendship comes before dating, saying yes at first might be very risky, yes! She doesn't want to start what she can't come out of it. As for me, saying yes is like making a convenant with the guy, she needs time to think. Besides, most men pretend alot undecided lipsrsealed

All you said here is to justify why you guys friendzone potential boyfriends because y'all are too scared to commit. You don't like him, tell him to his face, I don't like you, and I can't be with you. Not keeping him at your side enjoying the benefits another girl who could be his girlfriend should enjoy whilst denying him his. That's bad.

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by lightangel65i(m): 9:42am On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

Just block her totally
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by SPOLO(m): 11:31am On Jun 01, 2020
Omar09:


All you said here is to justify why you guys friendzone potential boyfriends because y'all are too scared to commit. You don't like him, tell him to his face, I don't like you, and I can't be with you. Not keeping him at your side enjoying the benefits another girl who could be his girlfriend should enjoy whilst denying him his. That's bad.
exactly, as for me i have no enemies but what i need is yes/No and not giving me conditions that ''can we be friends''...

Na so friendzoning take dey start....i hhad been there before

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Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by ecstasy357(m): 12:08pm On Jun 01, 2020
SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓


It's pretty straightforward. You told her what u want and she wants something else.

There are two possible outcomes;

You accept her friendship suggestion and become the newest guy to be friend zoned.

OR

You walk away without looking back, give her the option to reach out to you if she changes her mind.

Walking away means no contact and no conversation.

NB: If she contacts after a while, just assume that she wants what u want. So ask her out to a nice date, give her a good time, and if she reaches out again....she is yours. Do not bring up the "will u be gf" again, treat her like your gf but act like you have so many options. This is very important.

Goodluck.

No sex before marriage according to God's word, so dont go there
Re: She Said Can We Just Be Friends? by ecstasy357(m): 12:11pm On Jun 01, 2020
AprokoDentist:
if you really love the girl and you feel she's worth it, I think You should press further

Does she have a boyfriend? That's a no-no for you if it's a serious relationship

if she's still single, is she ready to have a boyfriend? Relationship ain't everyone's priority

are you even her type?
Maybe she's just trying to be nice. You might not be her type afterall

I think if you can get perfect answers to those, you'd know whether to be friends first or just japa.


Never again jump to conclusion. I've had to cut some ties(friendship) in the past for fear that it might lead to relationship. Everyone has their reasons


Press further! This is the worst advice ever. It's because of guys like you that make girls to call guys stalkers, pests and parasites

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