SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

Kuruptnigga:
Say Yes to her. She has already accepted. But she wants to see if you're the type of guy that has patience. Be a caring type by calling her twice a day. Every morning and night you text her some sweet romantic message. Give her some funny jokes etc.

11Anonymous:
Be friends with her, don't drive people out if your life, but stop wasting your resources. She should be calling you and texting. If you miss a call, don't call back cox u no get airtime to waste.

SPOLO:


Lol call her everyday as if i don't have anything to do... No I am not sissy or stupid i can't do that nonsense..


Where one guy dey chop her steady i will now be the one doing d calling, making her laugh and all that... No that's absolutely rubbish

SPOLO:

It's just stress while forming some shiit....
Before i do chase a lady from almost a year at the end it still end in tears and this one i had been trying my best for almost a month, making sure my chat, calls with her always lively but at the end she is now asking me questions..


No i can't let what happened before to happen to me....

SPOLO:
Lol call her everyday as if i don't have anything to do... No I am not sissy or stupid i can't do that nonsense..
Where one guy dey chop her steady i will now be the one doing d calling, making her laugh and all that... No that's absolutely rubbish

longetivity:
you mean after she asked you can we just be freinds, you rushed down here to get an answer while she's still waiting for your reply

MrBrownJay1:


you are taking it too seriously, like a do or die issue, instead of enjoying life and being ok with whatever answer she gives you. relax bro, enjoy the ride and dont let this issue make you have stress as there are millions of babes out there looking for a good mate, so if this one doesnt want you, some other babe will. expecting all the babes you approach to say yes is no an ideal way to think, instead approach as many as you can because the more you approach, the better your chances to score... unless you are "facially impaired"



no wonder you are single... if you think that calling a babe often makes you a sissy/stupid then i can see why the babe no wan do... and if you actually think that some guy is chopping her steady, why do you even want to date the babe then?!

BE A BIT MORE POSITIVE!

SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

SPOLO:

note i do call her always...even make her laugh but yet no positive outcome...

I have others to call and beside she is not the only one on my list i have some that do call me always and i do also.
It's just that my aim was she so i never care to talk about relationship with others....

The fact is i have tried and i already move on in fact i like her more for giving me sincere answer rather than some that will pretend and toy with my emotions

PoliticallyInco:




DO NOT MAKE FRIENDS WITH A LADY YOU ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO.

DONT. NEVER. IT IS EMOTIONALLY DRAINING.

I don't have female friends. I don't keep them. I don't need to keep them. We have nothing do discuss about.

Note I did not say if she is being attacked by some stray dogs, dont help her. I did not say if she is falling in a ditch don't assist her. Please those are life threatening. Be human. But beyond this, please no extra attention besides "Good morning" and "morning".

DO NOT be friends with her. You will only emotionally, psychologically, physically and even financially drain yourself. So you will be there and another guy will be dating her. Getting the attention you desired from her and you will just watch? You are putting your self in an emotional prison and cage.

LET HER GO. WIN SOME AND LOOSE SOME. WARRIORS DONT OVER KILL AND WARRIORS CANT BE OVER KILLED EITHER. Before you let her go be sure to clearly let her know in a few words. No long preaching as if you are devastated.

"Sorry I cannot be friends with you because my attention/frienship is special and reserved for only one woman outside my relatives. My intention was not to be "just friends" with you and I cannot accept anything less. Hence I will have to decline your offer. ".


TELL HER YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS WITH HER. THEN WITHDRAW THE ATTENTION.

it might seem mean to you. But your focus should be on your sanity and peace of mind. Live for yourself and not for anyone else. YOUR SELF FIRST. Every other human comes secondary. It is when you are alive and of sane mind that you can better and effectively contribute to others.

SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.
[I]And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.[/i]


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

ecstasy357:



Press further! This is the worst advice ever. It's because of guys like you that make girls to call guys stalkers, pests and parasites

AprokoDentist:


I get ur point but u should also understand that "One size doesnt fit all"

That it didnt work for you doesn't mean it wont work for him.

SPOLO:

exactly, as for me i have no enemies but what i need is yes/No and not giving me conditions that ''can we be friends''...

Na so friendzoning take dey start....i hhad been there before