Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her?

On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband.

On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage.

Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other.

Oooh FTC again


Why ftc the rush me nah?.


The only thing that keeps a marriage going is when the partners Respect Love....




And money.



Let me use this chance to propose that FG should allow open up all olosho business and support the...


Let a brothel b 5miles from every home...


And reduce their prices...


The way I dey see rape thread for nairaland Don tire me and my niggas

For many,the fear of going back to square one. Two is always better than one financially

Submission and Love

saucecode:
For many,the fear of going back to square one. Two is always better than one financially

How will you suggest handling a woman you know can leave you at any time. She is more concerned about her status. In fact the word is not comprising on her respect. You as a man can go to blazes if you disrespect her... The type you can come home, without warning, meet an empty house..

Righteousness89:
Submission and Love

So you can stay with the same woman for 50 years even if you don't respect her that much?

both, some times none

johnrix:


So you can stay with the same woman for 50 years even if you don't respect her that much?

Wife Submit to Husband
Husband Love your wife

Every other thing falls in place..

Love - the big/action love which its feminine variation is submission. Love is a compound word/entity that is literally meaningless without its constituents, selflessness and humility (which are attributes) - it is encompassing. Respect/disrespect is one of end products of the constituents of love/lack of it. Saneness is a constant.

However, if you are talking about the smaller love (soft spot or fancy), it's fickle.

If only we all see ourselves as different persons whose aim is to make it work since no violence is involved..we can't be of the same attitudes and behavior but understanding and tolerance as well as giving chances for communication will make it work perfect.. relationship takes alot to build even till ur last age together, u can never act the same.

Righteousness89:


Wife Submit to Husband
Husband Love your wife

Every other thing falls in place..

Nope, it's the other way round,

Husband love your wife
Wife submit to husband

Love comes before submission, and when these two are present, respect comes naturally.

RESPECT.

You can't have love without respect. You can respect someone you don't love, but can't love someone you don't respect.

In my opinion, what keeps marriage together is LOYALTY. If spouse can be loyal to each other, everything else will fall in place. If you are loyal to someone, you will love, respect and have their back.

Fountainofyouth:



Nope, it's the other way round,

Husband love your wife
Wife submit to husband

Love comes before submission, and when these two are present, respect comes naturally.

Ma! It's not a Contention or Competition!
That is How It is in the Word of GOD

Righteousness89:


Ma! It's not a Contention or Competition!
That is How It is in the Word of GOD

Book, Chapter and verse?

Fountainofyouth:



Book, Chapter and verse?

Ephesians 5:22-25

The love of God

LordKO:
Love - the big/action love which its feminine variation is submission. Love is a compound word/entity that is literally meaningless without its constituents, selflessness and humility (which are attributes) - it is encompassing. Respect/disrespect is one of end products of the constituents of love/lack of it. Saneness is a constant.

However, if you are talking about the smaller love (soft spot or fancy), it's fickle. 

Then it means you don't see a scenario where love and respect coexist separately. What would you say about love for a sibling, but no respect for that sibling based on behavior. You can love them without respecting them due to their actions.

aeion:
RESPECT.

You can't have love without respect. You can respect someone you don't love, but can't love someone you don't respect.

I've heard this before, and it's the strongest point for respect. What do you say when the actions of the person you love make you lose respect for them?

johnrix:
Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her?

On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband.

On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage.

Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other.

Everyone wants different things

Some love, others respect.

But if it's a union that will grow and last

Respect will do a lot. Deep respect comes with love.

Respect comes with admiration and deep regard.

And once it's accepted the love line is sealed.


Love can come with or without regard. I love you and it's deep but because of little respect I take advantage of the love and cheat.


Lemme stop and read others comments

johnrix:


Then it means you don't see a scenario where love and respect coexist separately. What would you say about love for a sibling, but no respect for that sibling based on behavior. You can love them without respecting them due to their actions.

Don't mistake bond for either love or respect - by virtue of being siblings, a bond is automatically and naturally created. And the bond can be sustained with just a single end product of one/more constituents of love or with just saneness - care or sensitivity does it in the scenario you presented. Care, just like respect, loyalty, etc, is an end product of constituents of love - sensitivity, on the other hand, is a sign of saneness. Love remains encompassing.

Mutually shared ethical leaning is as strong as, if not stronger, the bond between siblings. As for siblings who share the same ethical leanings - strong ethical leanings - the mutual love is more refreshing than refreshment itself. LOL.

Adinije:
In my opinion, what keeps marriage together is LOYALTY. If spouse can be loyal to each other, everything else will fall in place. If you are loyal to someone, you will love, respect and have their back.

Thats true

That word is lacking in many people's dictionary these days

People just act like they are loyal to only one person

Their self

Love is what keeps marriage

If you love someone, you will respect him or her

Simple

LordKO:
Love - the big/action love which its feminine variation is submission. Love is a compound word/entity that is literally meaningless without its constituents, selflessness and humility (which are attributes) - it is encompassing. Respect/disrespect is one of end products of the constituents of love/lack of it. Saneness is a constant.

However, if you are talking about the smaller love (soft spot or fancy), it's fickle. 

Your knockouts no be here oh

However, on a serious note; are you saying respect is dependent on love?

That's odd I think. The girl I have had the deepest respect for I never loved. If I'm to pick a woman to marry blindly, I'd be her 100%.

There's a baseline respect I think every human should accord their fellow Human. However, some individuals are able to earn a deeper level of respect from people, mostly because these individuals mirror their shared values and/or outlook of life.

Hence, I believe married folks could fall out of love for each other and still have peace and a work-like relationship if they respect the other person.

For me though, the ideal marriage is built on love-trust-respect. Couples in it have the best chance of finding fulfilment.

LOVE!dat y u see some guys lovin a naggin or hot tempered wife

merieam16:
LOVE!dat y u see some guys lovin a naggin or hot tempered wife

SO YOUR HUBBY LOVES IT WHEN U NAG...tell him he needs premium sense

LordKO:


Don't mistake bond for either love or respect - by virtue of being siblings, a bond is automatically and naturally created. And the bond can be sustained with just a single end product of one/more constituents of love or with just saneness - care or sensitivity does it in the scenario you presented. Care, just like respect, loyalty, etc, is an end product of constituents of love - sensitivity, on the other hand, is a sign of saneness. Love remains encompassing.

Mutually shared ethical leaning is as strong as, if not stronger, than bond between siblings. As for siblings who share the same ethical leanings - strong ethical leanings - the mutual love is more refreshing than refreshment itself. LOL.

Though I don't agree with love leading to respect, this is a good argument for that

frozen70:
Love is what keeps marriage

If you love someone, you will respect him or her

Simple

I have friends that love their women, but show little respect behind their back. I have a suspicious eye on love

jelel6:


Your knockouts no be here oh

However, on a serious note; are you saying respect is dependent on love?

That's odd I think. The girl I have had the deepest respect for I never loved. If I'm to pick a woman to marry blindly, I'd be her 100%.

There's a baseline respect I think every human should accord their fellow Human. However, some individuals are able to earn a deeper level of respect from people, mostly because these individuals mirror their shared values and/or outlook of life.

Hence, I believe married folks could fall out of love for each other and still have peace and a work-like relationship if they respect the other person.

For me though, the ideal marriage is built on love-trust-respect. Couples in it have the best chance of finding fulfilment.

You say Love - trust - respect...
With love coming first or Respect?

Dear Nigerian husbands.
I don’t want either LOVE or RESPECT from y’all.
Reason? You are quite INCAPABLE of such basic emotions. Please, stop deceiving yourselves and acknowledge you are not created to give/receive love or respect.

Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! I am fine with dat! That is what love and respect means to moi.Simple.

Not asking for much abi? I can love and respect myself with or without your help.

Thanks!❤️

johnrix:


I have friends that love their women, but show little respect behind their back. I have a suspicious eye on love

OK, but why showing little respect behind their back when he can as well show it in her front

Does it mean that respect doesn't worth giving

See, respect is respect anything less is no longer respect