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Rgade:
So 11 months wasn't enough to convince you she's made her decision?
You gotta ask yourself what you enjoy mehn.
Perhaps you're enjoying this cat and mouse game you're playing with her. Sometimes it's fun to keep chasing and chasing something seemingly out of reach; the girl keeps looking hotter and hotter everyday and you can't get enough of chasing and getting rejected, not even knowing if she'll agree one day.
I think that's a fetish or something.
If this what makes you happy,then keep shooting.
But if you're looking for a woman that will love you back and commit to a relationship with you, this chick clearly isn't her.

Disclaimer: what I just delivered should not be regarded as expert advice.

DominusPrime:
I love and respect your realistic views. But there are disadvantages to both.

You've already shed good light on the disadvantage of making money then going after the girls. They will most likely love you for the money. I have solved that already in my own way.

Now the problem with looking for the one you'd love now that you are yet to hammer. First if you are honest and she sees your vision and dreams she could love you as you are. That happens. But then ladies change, they grow, their needs increase with time. A young lady of 18 who is not interested in hair will one day at 22 suddenly realise she wants to buy Brazilian wig, or she needs the latest iphone. Then again the taste of luxury can scatter a girl's innocence. Imagine you meet her without a car and she loves you like that. One day a man will ask her out on a date with an AC tight car to a beautiful expensive place and she will experience or see things you cant afford to provide for her. Nobody is a slave to poverty. She will yearn for more of that. Yet it doesn't mean she doesn't love you. But with time the love will fade as she gets exposed to more of these things or she sees her friends enjoying. And then those same friends will encourage her to go out more and spoil you in front her as you won't be with them most times. Every young lady goes through this phase of life and this is usually when the ho.e phase starts. Most girls on this forum will attest to what I'm saying except the few that will falsely claim they don't like money. So unless you are fortunate to meet a girl who is way richer than you and does not care about riches or you meet a girl who somehow is kept away from the realities of this world or has no exposed friends you will be searching for a pin in a haystack. Such girls exist no doubt but what are your chances of finding them? Look at this forum and tell me how many girls you can describe like the simple ladies you want. Good luck finding such a girl sha.

Kriximpecable:
But will making friends with her give me the opportunity to make love with her on bed. I've never tried this trick before maybe you can give me a hint�

PlsBanMe:
You are the a lucky guy and you don't even know it.
She is a boring girl. Your life will be miserable if you date or marry a boring girl. Use your head instead of your heart. Forget her and look for more interesting, more reasonable girls.

There are several girls who are decent and aren't boring.

Don't let yourself be the unlucky one to date a boring girl. Flee from her.

Carchoice:
you just wasted my time commenting on the thread. I thought you wanted her for something serious. How can you chase a lady for 11 months just to fvck her ?? I nor blame you. I blame mtn wey dash me 10mb to waste my comment on you.

Foodqueen:
Don't chat her up again but don't lock all root of communications.

If she is really into u, she will start communicating with you.

Meeyankee:
11 months? We are still county days, weeks, month. Do you know some degrees only cost one year to acquire? Put one month to that 11 month, do the math for yourself. I tired of you guys with this very line, she is beautiful, she is well behave, she is homely. Because she has those qualities doesn’t mean you should fellow her upanda forever.if she not reciprocating, Look for somewhere else. Don’t let any woman confused you with her beauty imagine the kind of attitude she given you and you are still following her . She is treating you like a third class citizen.man up answer stop talking to her .
Ok fine she has all the qualities? She also need some level of qualities too and you don’t have the qualities she wants. She has a choice too leave her alone she no choose you .I bet you if that guy see the guy wey get the qualities wey she want the guy no go fellow reach one month before she go fellow the guys. Use you head .

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

Kriximpecable:
Very nice input. But that your quote,"look at this forum and tell me how many girls you can describe like the simple ladies you want" is what I don't actually get, can you rephrase that quote in a more clarify way so I understand you. In a nutshell,what you're saying is that none of this generation girls can truly love a man except for his money.?

DominusPrime:
My quote meant that if you go through threads on either romance or general sections and take a sample of the average mentality of ladies regarding dating broke men you'd realise that most of them aren't interested in people who are struggling and the ones who are are mostly young girls who are not yet exposed. The exposure changes their perception of the current boyfriend.
In a nutshell I'm saying that most of the girls if our generation will not stick with a broke man who has only sweet words and dreams to offer. I am also saying that the fact that they prefer a man who is more financially stable is not a bad thing or is not enough to say she is only after your money. Being after that money is part of the whole package. Would you work in a company that's not your father's own even if you have been offered better pay and job conditions somewhere else? No. You'd resign and move to the better company. Its because of the money you moved and not cos of the passion or love you have for the new company. I don't see why girls should now be termed gold diggers for simply wanting what men want naturally. Yes some are just gold diggers but let's not mistake a normal human trait for that. There are girls that get satisfied with the level of comfort their husband or guy can give and are not move by more. But such girls are rare. That's my point.

stanliwise:
Guy why you no wise na?
The girl dey play you like basket ball, just start respecting yourself and deny her the attention she is seeking jare.
The good thing you did is making your intentions known. But one thing you seem to be missing out is playing by her rule.
What the fućk, she tells you this and that and you stick with it. See you want a relationship and that is your mandate and goals, if she said she don’t want you, ask like two more time without sounding like your life depends on it and if she still resist.
Omo carry yourself unto higher things in life. Don’t give her the impression that she holds the key to what happens to your romantic life, stop calling and chatting her and never show any remorseful attitude, just make the impression of doing fine without her and drop all the calls and chat, if she chat you or call you, talk casually and be the first to leave the call and chat.
And Ultimately if she is not ready keep your eyes and mind open for new girl in your life.
The worst thing any man can do is giving a woman the impression that she holds the remote control to his decisions.

Start improving your attitude the moment she starts to behave normal. And by improving I mean follow the mirror strategy. If she start showing 30% interest then complement it with exact 30% an nothing more, nothing less.

Kriximpecable:
I salute your intellectual prowess bro. I rate this opinion over �. You've just enlighten me on what to do from now on. Thanks so much bro!

Raeheemwayne:
Op, that girl is all shades of red flag. well except you're ready to keep a boring relationship - God4bid.
She is a broken doll dreaming of a guy with glue but unfortunately, to her, you're not that guy.
In essence, I'll advice; you give her space, don't act too serious around her, i.e, just be yourself at all times, become fwb, then you smash and move on if possible.
OR, better still, you forget about her and move on with your life, you've made yourself too available already and some girls don't like it.
A girl once told me "Raeheem make enough money, I'll be the chasing one you" I just gave her an Evil smile.
Guess what? Today I'm the one avoiding her advances.
Don't just over stress yourself because of a girl; They're alot of girls out there looking for attention - You'll find one.

stanliwise:
Anytime anyday, girls has taught me so many lesson in the past. I understand their psychology.

Kriximpecable:
Alright. I respect your opinion bro. That means no sensible man should be after a lady without being financially buoyant? But this life is not fair at all you know

Kriximpecable:
Really? Maybe you can brief me little of your horrible experience with girls.

stanliwise:
stay away from this advice. A lady that get interested in you because of how buoyant you are is only good for flirting. If you need a serious relationship let it be a girl that likes you even when you sometimes behave stingy ( don’t be stingy to a caring girl sha o)

Kriximpecable:
Thanks bro. I appreciate. But what do you mean by "fwb"?

Raeheemwayne:
"Friends with Benefits" - You should know what it entails.
That is how far you can go for now.

Kriximpecable:
Alright. I respect your opinion bro. That means no sensible man should be after a lady without being financially buoyant? But this life is not fair at all you know

stanliwise:
Omo na long story o. Short story is that I use to be a SIMP or an AFC. Until I later learnt things through books and reality from big boys who understand too.

stanliwise:
Omo na long story o. Short story is that I use to be a SIMP or an AFC. Until I later learnt things through books and reality from big boys who understand too.

DominusPrime:
Exactly. At least let money or success be a priority first. Or else one will suffer heartbreaks and emotional trauma. Well I won't say life isnt fair. It's just a lesson we as men need to learn early in life so our focus can be on improving ourselves. By the time you hammer and things become easy as regards women and you are able to get women fat better than the ones you claim to love in brokenness you'd see things differently.

Carchoice:
you just wasted my time commenting on the thread. I thought you wanted her for something serious. How can you chase a lady for 11 months just to fvck her ?? I nor blame you. I blame mtn wey dash me 10mb to waste my comment on you.

Kriximpecable:
Lol. You're funny bro. Actually I don't see her everyday like that since we've graduated since December last year. The lady plainly told me that she doesn't have any boyfriend now. Now she doesn't have subscription on her phone I've been thinking to subscribe her phone for her do you think it's wise for me to do so? At least to show her I can at least take care of her as a man.

Your last line crack me up bro

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..