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drmikeadams:


U just want make he commit suicide,,,second wives will always complicate issues

Davash222:
My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.



Na abnormal people no dey drink,no dey womanise,no dey smoke...

A guy must belong to one department



This is too emotional for me.
Well, I'm not surprised you're going through all these. You allowed a liability to be causing you unnecessary pains.

You don't smoke
You don't drink
You don't womanise.

Don't you think that's where your problem lies?

Even if you don't drink, hang around with friends that do, go to pubs, clubs, they serve soft drinks their too. There are some orientation that comes from such places. Don't die a Simp!!

lastmessenger:
what if she doesn't? What if she turns to be his comfort?

Xj2020:
If you are good you are good, and if you are bad you are bad. You might hide your bad side for a while. However, it is only a matter of time before everything would come out to the open.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the women of his supposedly dream with kids. From day one till date, my beloved wife has been anything but a good housewife. She doesn't give me peace of mind. Always looking for ways to provoke me.

My wife isn't submissive. She is abusive and unappreciative of all I have done and have been doing for her and the children. This is in spite the fact that the financial burden of the house has been mine 100% from the beginning till date. This is a woman that does not want to do any kind of work if it is not government job. I have provided her with everything she asked for and even those things she didn't ask for. This woman has never lacked anything in my house till date.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.

This woman has taken sides against in the time past when I had misunderstanding with some persons outside. This woman isn't scared to insult my parents every time we have a misunderstanding. My mother-in-law isn't helping matter as she has continued to instigate her daughter against me.

I have finally made the decision to move out of the house for the now and see how things plays out. If things doesn't improve, then I would have no choice than to seek for divorce. Notwithstanding, the children would continue to be my responsibility.

Any matured advice would be highly appreciated from the house.

daddytime:
My brother, this your matter na pidgin English go sweet to take shook mouth put.

Why you go allow this kind thing from the onset come reach this level of no return. E dey obvious say your wife go don show you some of these her okiri behavior before una marry come begin dey born small small shekele pikin dem but like most people, your mind been dey tell you say una go sleep wake up one day and she go turn to angel. If that kind thing even happen, you no go pick race without shoes?

My dear brother, the truth be say, you leave monkey hand too long inside plate of soup and e don dey resemble human being own.

Your wife be like fish wey dem don bend come roast wey be say you no fit stretch am make e no break, and if no be because of the pikin dem wey una don bring enter the world, na to just pack your things even if na just your few clothes for bag and waka far leave this kind woman because my mind dey tell me say she no fit change again.

E get one parable wey I dey always tell people. The parable na " e better say person no get wife for house than to get the one.wey go dey make you fear to go your house".

Sometimes you go dey some kind beer parlor, you go see man siddon alone with him suit and tie half-loosened dey cancel beer like say dem go soon ban am, come begin dey gaze into space for the most part, na dese kind women dey pursue dem oh. Ask people wey be shakademus, beer no dey sweet to drink alone.

My advice bros be say, as you reason the issue of moving out for sometime so, I support you.

Just waka comot small but make you still dey do your bit with the kids and your other responsibilities.

Na dese kind women dey forget knives inside their husbands body.

E dey too obvious say she no love you sha. Women no dey fit insult and disrespect men wey dem love anyhow like dis.

Hold tight bros, wetin dey hot must cool down one day.

daddytime:
My brother, this your matter na pidgin English go sweet to take shook mouth put.

Why you go allow this kind thing from the onset come reach this level of no return. E dey obvious say your wife go don show you some of these her okiri behavior before una marry come begin dey born small small shekele pikin dem but like most people, your mind been dey tell you say una go sleep wake up one day and she go turn to angel. If that kind thing even happen, you no go pick race without shoes?

My dear brother, the truth be say, you leave monkey hand too long inside plate of soup and e don dey resemble human being own.

Your wife be like fish wey dem don bend come roast wey be say you no fit stretch am make e no break, and if no be because of the pikin dem wey una don bring enter the world, na to just pack your things even if na just your few clothes for bag and waka far leave this kind woman because my mind dey tell me say she no fit change again.

E get one parable wey I dey always tell people. The parable na " e better say person no get wife for house than to get the one.wey go dey make you fear to go your house".

Sometimes you go dey some kind beer parlor, you go see man siddon alone with him suit and tie half-loosened dey cancel beer like say dem go soon ban am, come begin dey gaze into space for the most part, na dese kind women dey pursue dem oh. Ask people wey be shakademus, beer no dey sweet to drink alone.

My advice bros be say, as you reason the issue of moving out for sometime so, I support you.

Just waka comot small but make you still dey do your bit with the kids and your other responsibilities.

Na dese kind women dey forget knives inside their husbands body.

E dey too obvious say she no love you sha. Women no dey fit insult and disrespect men wey dem love anyhow like dis.

Hold tight bros, wetin dey hot must cool down one day.

Xj2020:
If you are good you are good, and if you are bad you are bad. You might hide your bad side for a while. However, it is only a matter of time before everything would come out to the open.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the women of his supposedly dream with kids. From day one till date, my beloved wife has been anything but a good housewife. She doesn't give me peace of mind. Always looking for ways to provoke me.

My wife isn't submissive. She is abusive and unappreciative of all I have done and have been doing for her and the children. This is in spite the fact that the financial burden of the house has been mine 100% from the beginning till date. This is a woman that does not want to do any kind of work if it is not government job. I have provided her with everything she asked for and even those things she didn't ask for. This woman has never lacked anything in my house till date.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.

This woman has taken sides against in the time past when I had misunderstanding with some persons outside. This woman isn't scared to insult my parents every time we have a misunderstanding. My mother-in-law isn't helping matter as she has continued to instigate her daughter against me.

I have finally made the decision to move out of the house for the now and see how things plays out. If things doesn't improve, then I would have no choice than to seek for divorce. Notwithstanding, the children would continue to be my responsibility.

Any matured advice would be highly appreciated from the house.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the woman of his supposedly dream

When you advice young men they wont listen...
Hope you tell your kids not to make this same mistake again....


Anyways now that you are alone, find time to read "THE MANIPULATED MAN"...it was written by a woman....Its just 69 pages...infact once you get to page 40, your whole mentality would have changed....
GL

Cc: Xj2020

Xj2020:
If you are good you are good, and if you are bad you are bad. You might hide your bad side for a while. However, it is only a matter of time before everything would come out to the open.

My story is that of a young chap that fell in love and got married to the women of his supposedly dream with kids. From day one till date, my beloved wife has been anything but a good housewife. She doesn't give me peace of mind. Always looking for ways to provoke me.

My wife isn't submissive. She is abusive and unappreciative of all I have done and have been doing for her and the children. This is in spite the fact that the financial burden of the house has been mine 100% from the beginning till date. This is a woman that does not want to do any kind of work if it is not government job. I have provided her with everything she asked for and even those things she didn't ask for. This woman has never lacked anything in my house till date.

My beloved wife insults me in the presence of our kids. Mind you, I don't smoke, drink and womanize. Neither have I laid my hands on her or intend on laying my hands on her. This is a woman I help with house chores like sweeping, washing the bathroom and toilets and mobbing the house at my leisure time.

This woman has taken sides against in the time past when I had misunderstanding with some persons outside. This woman isn't scared to insult my parents every time we have a misunderstanding. My mother-in-law isn't helping matter as she has continued to instigate her daughter against me.

I have finally made the decision to move out of the house for the now and see how things plays out. If things doesn't improve, then I would have no choice than to seek for divorce. Notwithstanding, the children would continue to be my responsibility.

Any matured advice would be highly appreciated from the house.

Zabiboy:

When you advice young men they wont listen...
Hope you tell your kids not to make this same mistake again....


Anyways now that you are alone, find time to read "THE MANIPULATED MAN"...it was written by a woman....Its just 69 pages...infact once you get to page 40, your whole mentality would have changed....
GL

Cc: Xj2020

flokii:
@OP you loved blindly and missed all the red flags..

There are so many beautiful ladies and handsome guys out there but character is the true beauty (iwa lewa). I don't even want to imagine the trauma you're going through.

jesmond3945:
this is your own side. I would like to hear her own as well.

Bossjakande:
guy u be man or u dey see period. if u are a man act like a man. I blame u in d first place for marrying a bad woman.I think u got carried away cos of sex any woman DAT aint submissive can Neva be a good wife or mum. it is wrong for u to do house work were ur wife is.even if shes working housework is not for u but now she Neva even got work.she sit Down and watch Tv. did u think ur children will Eva respect u as dey see how she treat u.why u go let woman insult ur parents.dey Neva born DAT person.wen she insult ur parent did u dicipline her? na one slap first she need to reset her Brian. am not saying is right to beat ur wife but I think now dats the only solution to let her know ur the man in charge of ur home. is a love beat u beat her to correct her I promise u she will thank u later. am saying it from expirience. dont let a woman ride u cos she didnt married u or pay bride price is u who did DAT. u cant go on like dis and have bp.also Neva let her mum visit her again. and watch cos she might be cheating on u.

Queenserah26:
You yarn better

AFONAMARO:
You willingly surrendered your manhood (your symbol of authority) on the alter of being a Mr nice guy. Believe you me, you can only reclaim your manhood when you put your foot down and take charge of your household.

No long talks here. State how things are to unfold in your home and ensure to follow it through. If your mother in-law interferes, ensure her presence (both verbal communication) is limited to her husband's house.

Take charge of your home and stop running from pillar to post when the goal post is before you

Eketem:
Please leave for a while,dont let anyone convince you to manage, her mom is abusive as is she.
If you stay they will push you to hit her use the pictures online to cost you your job and everything. Please move out, take care of your kids report to social welfare and pay the allowance through them via her bank account so you have documentation

drmikeadams:
I repeat second wife will complicate his life..e be better if he wan divorce make he divorce train em children..

He no need second wife..

He never come out from d frying pan with hot oil,,u want make e enter another fire wey matches and fuel dey beside am

drmikeadams:


Love make am miss red flags,,now flag don turn pink,him eye just Open

Ningen:
I can't believe you paid a ‘bride price’ for such a disrespectful, unsubmissive, toxic and financial burden! What were you doing during courtship??

Bro, there's nothing good about this woman.
How did you MISS all the red flags??

Don't ever try coping.
She'll kill you before your time.

For your peace of mind and sanity, divorce her!

Divoc:
Op before I say anything, have you investigated if your wife is seeing another man?

kinah:
He said from day one till date, his wife is anything but a good housewife.

Dat doesn't mean she is seeing someone else. So if a wife is misbehaving she is seeing someone nawa


OP, hope you ain't expecting too much from your wife.which didn't allow you to see the good in her.
This story is one sided

Righteousness89:
So sorry bro... I could feel your Deep Pains Reading your Story..

This is The Reason I Tell people not to Marry Just by sight or feelings.. Marriage is a Journey ! We don't know what it holds. But when you Involve GOD and wait for HIM in your Choice of partner, you Escape Many many Wahala

In your case now, you are Married already and I can't Advice you to Divorce .

My Advice to you is this;
You are The Head of that Home! You are the One GOD holds responsible for that Home.

Don't divorce your wife! You need to Personally seek GOD on behalf of your Family. If she is so uncultured and harmful , you could take sometime off and go to place where you can seek GOD'S face on behalf of your Home..

I Know Daddy in Heaven is a GOD of a Second Chance! He can Change anybody!

So take out time to seek GOD'S Face for your Home.

Your prayers will focus on these

1. You Ask GOD for Mercy for Marrying on your own .Ask HIM to Forgive you in every way you have gone against HIM

2. LORD JESUS, by your Mercy , Heal My Home!

After this time with GOD, Expect Changes in your Home..

I personally will join you in prayer!

Xj2020:
I pray you don't come across a highly deceptive and manipulative woman. Amen.

Xj2020:
I pray you don't come across a highly deceptive and manipulative woman. Amen.

Xj2020:
Second wife is out of the equation completely. With what my eyes have seen and the trauma I have had to endure, never in my life would I ever contemplate marrying a second wife in my life. I have come to realized that once a bad woman realized that she has had children for you, she would do everything to frustrate your life using the children as a shield. This category of women I considered as either possessed or witches as it only a witch that would want to destroy you even when you are doing everything possible to make her happy