Nigeria ladies at age of 20+ their beauty is in tray ontop of their head,
They are busy looking for a tall handsome billionaire husband while they don't even have ordinary transport fare,

At the age of 30+ their brain automatically reset they don't think like fish any longer,
They become responsible overnight, so caring even more than lagos house wife materials, they become prayer warriors requesting for God fearing men, they become professional relationship and marriage counselor.

Davicl:

Girls should learn from this and make the right choice early enough.

You believe that lie??

Klass99:


You're just crazy

Interestingly I was gisting with a male friend from Edo State this afternoon, just catching up and I asked about his uncle.

He informed me his uncle is now divorced from his wife (an Edo woman) and things had gotten so bad, as per threats from the wife that the uncle pleaded with his brothers to deliver him from this woman

I asked him why are your women so strong willed and strong headed? Their blood dey hot pass the men sef.

Pure lies.
Fabrication

penocrat1:
Message me lets talk

Ok

NnaNna4:


That guy story touch me die

Very touchy.

Well to be perfectly honest in my humble opinion without being sentimental, of course with out offending anyone who think differently from my point of view but also by looking into this matter in distinct perspective and without condemning anyone's view and by trying to make it objective and by considering each and every one valid opinion I honestly believe that I've forgotten what I want to say. Thank you���

Victoria25:
��� all the comments I have read so far here are women persuading their man,please what about in a situation a guy is the one rushing The lady into marriage?

Them say share your story of the pressure wey you experience, you refuse.

NnaNna4:


That guy story touch me die

Very touchy. Things dey happen for this life, people are truly suffering but that doesn't make them terrible people.

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

Na God save you bro

Indeed, all that glitters isn't gold

Healthytut:
THEY ARE trappers

My advice for ladies, marry at least, when the least basic thing you could offer are still intact and firm. Don't be rushing us, when you are old, used up, worn out and overripe and now be chasing us. If you can't help us with finance, intelligence, connections , at the very least , help with firm boobs, natural tight vjays and some culinary skills. As basic as these just aforementioned things are, many ladies still don't have it. What do you people now need marriage for? For your self only( selfishness).

dalass:


Shrugs....

So what do you think should be there

Lol, It's Yahoo Instant Messenger

iamyemiakins:
Have you ever dated someone who desperately wanted to get married when you were not ready?



How was the experience?

yes ooo she even force her way to my family to introduce herself as my wife to be without my concept

CsRockefeller:


Sometimes we think even the Earth we live in doesn't run on sentiments.

what would life be without empathy?

iamyemiakins:
Have you ever dated someone who desperately wanted to get married when you were not ready?



How was the experience?

No experience �✌�

luminouz:


Truth? From your circle of influence maybe.

I have men who took care of their wives and were never useless.

Who have you been relating with?

May be you have comprehension issues then. Read again. I never generalized. I said most Men are Goat. U can agree with me unless u don't want to be sincere. We have Responsible Husbands out their but majority are Goat. I repeat. I have my basis. Women are not only the problem here. And my emphasis is Women should get something doing.. instead of looking for Men to marry. They should find their worth. Marriage shouldnt be the only priority. All Men of nowadays only want to marry Women that are working . Or have something doing. Read the Comments in this thread . It reflected there. Even A guy here said he left a Very Nice lady , Because her family depended on him for survival.. see how the lady loose her Relationships. Because of ignorant.. and of course where she came from. But am very sure if she has something doing .. and doesn't disturb the guy for survival, they would had been married by now. So get the point bro. Stop deviating.. not you that will tell me about marriage or Relationships. Am only being Realistic here. Peace.

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

MiddleDimension:
so terrible the comments i am reading here.
from now on, i will be careful the sort of things i say in public.
i could be emboldening some terrible men who think they are smart
and as a result, go about deceiving their ladies.

I came to the realisation by the help of God.
He has instructed in His word to keep watch over the door of our lips.

DeckXavier:
what would life be without empathy?

Bless you my brother. A million dollar question.

Dicktion:
Especially when they clock 30
There's nothing a lady loathes in the entire universe like clocking 30 without a husband.

They can even visit babalawo to get you trapped in marriage. Beware!

Chai this one strong o.. .. U no lie at all

Eileene:
If only they knew that being desperate makes them even more undesirable.

u can't force marriage on anyone

what is the use of pinning marriage on a man just because ur clock is ticking then after d wedding u two start living lyk strangers.No happiness nothing.

in this life we are going to live only once

societal pressure has a lot to do with this.

But one should not live unhappily just becos u want to please society that will still turn around and castigate u wen things go wrong.
life is too short jare

Wife material 1000 yards
I love you too, hun

DeckXavier:
social media has done a lot of damage, it gave girls an over bloated sense of self worth. It's not bad to have a positive or healthy image but when It gets pretty ugly is when you presume it to be more than it's actually worth. They miscontrue the attention they get on social to be a true representative of what their life really is, so they always feel they can always get someone better than the person they are actually dating, na for 30's their eyes dey clear because men will always go for young girls. Women in their 30's do marry, but exceptions do not make the rule. Women need to be smart o.

You've actually shed more light. The attention they get on social media actually gets into their heads. Once a 'big boy' likes their status all the small boys around them who are chasing them suddenly look like they don't exist. It's a pity.

BabaJoe001:


May be you have comprehension issues then. Read again. I never generalized. I said most Men are Goat. U can agree with me unless u don't want to be sincere. We have Responsible Husbands out their but majority are Goat. I repeat. I have my basis. Women are not only the problem here. And my emphasis is Women should get something doing.. instead of looking for Men to marry. They should find their worth. Marriage shouldnt be the only priority. All Men of nowadays only want to marry Women that are working . Or have something doing. Read the Comments in this thread . It reflected there. Even guy here said he left a Very Nice lady , Because her family depended on him for survival.. we how the lady loose her Relationships. Because of ignorant.. and of course where she came from. But am very sure if she has something doing .. and doesn't disturb the guy for survival, they would had been married by now. So get the point bro. Stop deviating.. not you that will tell me about marriage or Relationships. Am only being Realistic here. Peace.

Majority is around 60-99% of men...what research or what experience do you have to term millions of naija men(not only married but also single) as GOATS You may say many,not most because you lack the data to conclude your assertions. That is my whole point.

Now you have added other points to your statement, that women should also work and be responsible. You never said that in your first post. If you had,then we won't be having this argument. Be logically balanced next time.

dalass:


Shrugs....

So what do you think should be there

YIM means Yahoo Instant Messenger. Nairaland was created when Yahoo messenger was still the hot cake then.

You will see that same guy who dated his EX for 6yrs, get married to another lady in 3months.
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True talk

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pocohantas:
And for ladies reading this, if you really desire marriage- BY ALL MEANS GO FOR IT.

I have seen men who said they are not interested in dating, they want courtship and marriage. 6mth-1yr. No one called it DESPERATION.

Men cannot be DESPERATE,
They only know what they want.

When it is a woman, it becomes DESPERATION.

If you want to marry in record time, leave guys in their 20s. Go straight to 33 and above. Trust me, their “DESPERATION“ would match yours.

I have friends, guys in their 30s with good jobs and one thing is common- THEY ALL WANT TO GET MARRIED.

One would even tell me “I am desperate. If I see a perfect one, I am marrying”. I will tell him I can’t see the desperation, he will tell me to shun.

Some girls are “lucky“ to meet men at this point, so they don’t have to be DESPERATE. You will see that same guy who dated his EX for 6yrs, get married to another lady in 3months.

Once again, if you desire marriage in record time, follow your heart and go for it.

These same guys will call you evening newspaper when you are 30.

There is nothing wrong with being VERY-pro marriage. Let no one blackmail you into running his model all because he is NOT ready. You don’t want to meet a man who is VERY ready, when you are not ready as a woman.

Go for what you want!

Me i sharply run ni oh, before she would rape me as she was planning to rape me �

Decimus:
was she materialistic?

It wasn't her fault to be born into that kind of family bro. If she was good to you, you shouldn't have left her like that, you've left her a permanent scar

You just echoed my sentiments bro.He focused on the negative & consequently was blinded to even see any thing good about the whole ish. Somethings do not turn out as envisaged sometimes. Who knows, maybe (just maybe) that supposedly poor lady from a poor home, was the key to his own breakthrough.

boyjo:


I came to the realisation by the help of God.
He has instructed in His word to keep watch over the door of our lips.

i think the modern world is tilted in the favour of women.
the truth is that all genders have terrible people among them and that's why
in this day and age when every thing is in the favour of women, it is important
not to get naive and think women are not terrible people capable of immense harm to men
and while we keep ourselves aware of that, let us not also think that men cannot be terrible people
as we have seen from the comments in here.
so on issues like this, it is important we are wise and know what we say so we do not make
way for another equally bad behaviour.

Well said bruv

ravensckar:
Honestly, when I read one-sided write ups like these, I feel appalled. Ain't there two sides to a coin any more? The so-called 'desperation' from ladies may not always be what you think. It could be a way of saying their own mind is made up. They have no more time to waste.

Now, let me shock you with my own story. When I met the lady I'm married to today, she told me straight up that she's not in for any long term relationship. She's almost done with school and that if the relationship won't lead to marriage, I should jejely excuse her. Me being the 'guyman' that I was then, I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I sha played along with the intent to chop until I'm full. Now, therein lies my confusion; the said lady in question was everything I wanted in a woman (beautiful, educated, well behaved, God-fearing and highly industrious). But I have just one problem; I wasn't ready for marriage. Money no dey, even the job I was doing then, salary was around 70K.


She sha encouraged me that we should pull our resources together and that we'll survive. Long story cut short, I decided to give it a shot. After all, person wey dey ground no get anywhere to fall to. We got married in less than 4 months of dating. When I mean married, I mean a proper and elaborate wedding. Brethrens, today we're still together. Yes, she's not perfect just like I'm not as well, but we are still happily married.

It was later I understood the reason for her 'desperation'. She had wasted too much time dating some Bleep boys, hence, she felt she has no more time to waste. To her, if it's not going to lead to marriage, then, she shouldn't even venture into it. What we guys see as 'desperation' to some ladies, it's called making up their mind.

Prettyvirginia:
Damn right sis. I get these kind of pressures a lot too. Heaven knows I'm not ready to marry till I'm 24. I have actually learnt to live the pressures

I think,no i believe you are the one I have been looking for am single and patient

Which state do you reside

fuckpro:


I think,no i believe you are the one I have been looking for am single and patient

Which state do you reside

Hmm, fuckpro wants to marry pretty virgin. She lives in West Virginia, Saponba road, Ota.

Lol

why are the ladies mute?