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zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

I wish I can get in contact with d lady u are talking about.

if only u know dat it doesn't take much for d fortune of an entire family to turn around

MiddleDimension:
i think the modern world is tilted in the favour of women.
the truth is that all genders have terrible people among them and that's why
in this day and age when every thing is in the favour of women, it is important
not to get naive and think women are not terrible people capable of immense harm to men
and while we keep ourselves aware of that, let us not also think that men cannot be terrible people
as we have seen from the comments in here.
so on issues like this, it is important we are wise and know what we say so we do not make
way for another equally bad behaviour.

Women are not terrible people oga.
Few women have acted terribly.

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

Wow!!!

luminouz:
Majority is around 60-99% of men...what research or what experience do you have to term millions of naija men(not only married but also single) as GOATS You may say many,not most because you lack the data to conclude your assertions. That is my whole point.

Now you have added other points to your statement, that women should also work and be responsible. You never said that in your first post. If you had,then we won't be having this argument. Be logically balanced next time.

My brother try, to read my Comment again sir. I asserted it from the beginning. That ladies should find their Voice. That means finding the true meaning of life. They should be responsible. Even gave My friends story as an example. Well that's okay. You might like to read this very short article too.. for you to know the evil Men does. Especially the Single one. Wasting a Lady's time for years.. promising marriage because of Sex or for selfish reason when you know you won't marry her. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3298266133552123&id=100001063057647&sfnsn=scwspwa&funlid=axzCjnh1Z1Lf2VwS see our Daughters will marry one day.and it's the same advice am giving here am going to give to her. Let's do the right thing for the sake of Humanity.thank you brother.

NockMedia:
C'mon man, mind your business.

Okay Sir

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

She was worshipping you because you paid the bills.
How else was she supposed to show her gratefulness?

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

You are actually very myopic Mr Man. What if you marry a well to do lady and things goes downhill for her and her family? Did u reason that perhaps you both will get elevated once married?

I pray you marry a woman who will pay bills but be a thorn to ur flesh and live to regret ur gold diggy decision.

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

Hope you are happily married sha

Joshmuch:
Hmm, fuckpro wants to marry pretty virgin. She lives in West Virginia, Saponba road, Ota.

Every woman among many other attributes wish her man a fuckpro in the other room so don't get it twisted

dalass:
You thought she will just fall just because you think she's old and should be desperate to date you? Beg some more.... She must have seen through your begging... Did you prostrate?

Awww come on! Let me guess...You must be shirt, fugly and low bank account type looking for a beautiful, rich and above 30 to take advantage of... Na wa for you oh... Radarada

u sound so bitter
not good for ur health

rowland545:
pls don't put your frustration on me...I'm not d one that took your virginity

Stop insulting that damsel is it by force

Eileene:
why will a 21yr old gal be desperate for marriage

Watching too much NOLLYWOOD movies.

Eileene:
why will a 21yr old gal be desperate for marriage

Watching too much NOLLYWOOD movies.

bonnyhope:
You have already fallen for that cooked up story of hers just to give women credit

Why does it hurt you to see women get the credit in relationship?

SweetCunt97:
You are actually very myopic Mr Man. What if you marry a well to do lady and things goes downhill for her and her family? Did u reason that perhaps you both will get elevated once married?

I pray you marry a woman who will pay bills but be a thorn to ur flesh and live to regret ur gold diggy decision.

What kind of prayer is this bro?
See things from the other side before you unleash this your prayer.
Unless you've been in his shoes it may sound like rubbish......but the guy has some good reason to take off.

Bros, I tire o......
Mine was even feeling too important not until when I just had to keep where she belongs

boyjo:
Women are not terrible people oga.
Few women have acted terribly.

i also mentioned men too. read it again

Yes!! All she clamour for was"come and see my pple and do the needful, at times come and see my pastor and do the needful" she came to my place and refused to go after spending two day and eat plenty of my food, na sense I take move her after she was gone since then wen Eva she called or chart me up all I say to her was "I'm not around, wen I'm in I will let you kn" I refused to read her chart or reply her text and calls dat was how her mata close o..meh..no be small tin

BabaJoe001:
My brother try, to read my Comment again sir. I asserted it from the beginning. That ladies should find their Voice. That means finding the true meaning of life. They should be responsible. Even gave My friends story as an example. Well that's okay. You might like to read this very short article too.. for you to know the evil Men does. Especially the Single one. Wasting a Lady's time for years.. promising marriage because of Sex or for selfish reason when you know you won't marry her. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3298266133552123&id=100001063057647&sfnsn=scwspwa&funlid=axzCjnh1Z1Lf2VwS see our Daughters will marry one day.and it's the same advice am giving here am going to give to her. Let's do the right thing for the sake of Humanity.thank you brother.

You still are making the same mistake that made me call you out. You think only men(single and married) are evil. But you are wrong. Evil has no gender bro. You sent me a FB link to read the evil men do,should I send you my personal stores of stories of the evil women do? Go through NL and you will see accounts of what women too are capable of. Thinking evil is gender based is wrong. Any gender can hurt you. Don't think I'm defending men and demonizing women. if you go through life with this thinking,you will get hurt and badly too. Don't trust anyone 100%


EVIL IS GENDERLESS!!! I hope you get this sha

My last reply!!!

AfroKnight:
Chai!

Your first born would have been another man’s child. Shît!!!

This is how men end up raising other people’s kids, only to find out the truth at the embassy.

She stayed in your home, ate your food, collected your money and gifts and still tried to trap you in a marriage with the child of another man.

That was cruel of her.

Very cruel and wicked of her.

Prettyvirginia:
Damn right sis. I get these kind of pressures a lot too. Heaven knows I'm not ready to marry till I'm 24. I have actually learnt to live the pressures

How old are you now and what do you do?

sassysure:
U want to marry me
I am a married woman of course.

Just wanted to let you guys know it ain't easy on babes too. In dormitory, I was nicknamed one guys name because he coouldn't give up. Till I went to uni.

He is one of my cousin's friend. Took my picture( don't know if its with his permission) from his house and enlarged. Hung in his sitting room.
When he finally got the message that I don't want to marry him, he went for another person. It was around Easter break and I came home from school, was jisting with a nebor when I saw a convoy of cars,asked and was told it's the guy. This guy still stopped, walked up to where me and the elderly woman were. Thank goodness for that woman. She deflected what would have hung me finally. I saw this guy with the wife drove pass me the next day, he stopped and came out to greet me. I have to involve the head of his family. I sneak in to my village towards late evening, use apiam way and enter my house through the backyard. Stay with my mum without coming out till I leave. All because of men. They will be at the compound with the elders and I will jump fence from the back and disappear straight to my mum's hometown.

Girls get it worst. They will ruin your reputation. They will go to beer parlour and make u the topic of discussion.
A babe almost blinded me with very long cane simply because her so called boyfriend wanted to marry me. His dad mandated him to marry me. Have never met the guy. Actually bypassed him on his way to my house to see me
He don't know me either. It wasn't easy for me at all. Some babes get guys who want to befriend them, I get suitors. Had few,very few guys who want to befriend me and all were outside my state.

Some will stalk you.

So when u guys are busy making it look like babes are all over you, know that your brothers are killing themselves over other women. They spent money, they can go to any length.

The way men aggressively pursued me actually had a very negative effect on me toward men cos it was suffocating and too clingy. Yeah, at a point my mummy got worried cos I never responded positively to any.

You want to know about what women pass through in the hands of men, u will never find it here, go to hair salon or campus and you will be shocked to see the level men( not boys) with money and class will go to have a babe answer his name.

men that only want to Bleep!

Ok,I personally need this thread, thank you @op.

...I have two girlfriends....one desperately wants to get married to me, she's 27 and the other one that I'll love to get married to, she doesn't want to get married soon...me , I just de bang the two of them, whoever get belly first become first wife...

SweetCunt97:
You are actually very myopic Mr Man. What if you marry a well to do lady and things goes downhill for her and her family? Did u reason that perhaps you both will get elevated once married?

I pray you marry a woman who will pay bills but be a thorn to ur flesh and live to regret ur gold diggy decision.

Is he myopic now? He just said he didnt wanna be responsible for the upkeep of a whole family while being unmarried. How is that wrong? He sponsored her for 3 good years and deserved some credit.

Can you do that for any man? And still take care of his family needs as a woman and not give up way sooner?

CsRockefeller:
Sir, please marry that Lady, I tell you, God will continue to shower his blessings upon you, you will prosper and sour like an Eagle.

Almost same scenario with my Dad and till today, he never lacks.

sir they don't marry someone out of pity, it always use to end up in tears. And what of if her loyalty is because of the money.

luminouz:
Is he myopic now? He just said he didnt wanna be responsible for the upkeep of a whole family while being unmarried. How is that wrong? He sponsored her for 3 good years and deserved some credit.

Can you do that for any man? And still take care of his family needs as a woman and not give up way sooner?

No one is asking him to take care of any family. He probably presented himself as a messiah na but as shit got real dude japa. What stops him from helping her with a job? Atleast she go dey help her family. He's gone and they'll survive

Dicktion:
Especially when they clock 30
There's nothing a lady loathes in the entire universe like clocking 30 without a husband.

They can even visit babalawo to get you trapped in marriage. Beware!

I'm a living testimony bro

toprealman:
What kind of prayer is this bro?
See things from the other side before you unleash this your prayer.
Unless you've been in his shoes it may sound like rubbish......but the guy has some good reason to take off.

Pls spare me. Why start what he ain't ballsy enough to finish? Abi him no see say d girl poor before him decide to be Voltron

Dicktion:
Especially when they clock 30
There's nothing a lady loathes in the entire universe like clocking 30 without a husband.

They can even visit babalawo to get you trapped in marriage. Beware!

Mainly if the guy is bucks up

luminouz:
Ur last line is the truth.

Even stars,galaxies and universes DIE, with time.

Real talk bro



Old age will humble us all

id4sho:
I received blows & beatings of my life. Flee from desperados anywhere you see them. i was manipulated to the core
horrible experience

Hahaha..... Sorry o.... Are you a man or woman? Cos your dp and moniker showed man. Na the woman dey beat you?

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

Old olosho