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I have been married for 8 years with 2 kids 7years old and 1 year old boy. My husband is a very good man and he takes good care of the children and I. But the issue I have is that my husband has temperament issue especially towards our daughter. When he is angry at her for a wrong doing it can be so messy and as bad as beating her toooo much. Anytime this happens and I step in to either correct him for being too harsh or sometimes I stand in the way. he gets so angry at me that we may stop talking for 1 week. He says each time he wants to correct her I'm always defending her and I'm not a good mother and that I will spoil her. I always feel he is always angry at her for every little thing, she us just 7, he fights her like they are mates sometimes. So last night he ask my girl to go take a shower, she did not want to go because of the movie that she was watching so she started crying. My husband got angry and started slapping her like he is fighting his mate, serious slap, he went to get his belt out to beat her after slapping her uncontrollable like 8times, her cheek is swollen with marks of his palm. I controlled myself yesterday I did not step in, did not say a word about it. But I couldn't sleep seeing my child in pain and beating marks. I'm just crying right now and the beating is sounding in my ears and makes me so emotional. Please house I need help on how to confront him that he was too harsh on her. He hates it when I correct him, he does like he is always right.
I need help because am loosing my patience right now.
Thank you
What's your take on this?

Your husband needs help. Probably he his a psycho

Toylove:
Your husband needs help. Probably he his a psycho

lol but why did you say so

Twinkletwin:
lol but why did you say so

Why will he beat his 7 year kid like he's fighting with his mate

That girl must be very stubborn for him to beat her Everytime,i guess your child is arrogant. I don't see beating as the right solution to her problem. I don't have any advice for you but I think it's better for a child to cry today that his/her parents to cry tommorow.

I have the same experience while growing up ,it was like hell for me honestly my mom will just be watching me going through several beating from my Dad..the worst of it non of my sibling was touched all was treated like an angel is not like I was stubborn...but thank God for my life Sha , till date he trusted and love me more than any of sibling

advice
just confront him whenever you both are alone or about to sleep that's the best way of confronting ur husband not trying to defend or fighting him at the scene you can save ur child from taking much beating from ur husband

Next time he says something to the kid, watch her for any signs, is she's rude or disobedient, be the first to beat her

Beat her slightly but don't let your husband touch her. She will learn to listen to her dad more, receive less beating and also save you the pain of seeing her receive beatings.

It's good for a child to know the parents are on the same side, once she sense you are on her side, she will go against her dad, after all, she knew someone is gonna side her and that is only gonna make things worse her.

U have to go about it delicately..pet him and give him a good fvcking then afterwards chip it in say baby pls be more delicate in how u discipline our girl pls..thats all he will not fight u cos he isnt a mad man..he will understand but the atmosphere and timing must be just right o or oyo for u..#youngrichhandsome