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Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Fidelismaria: 7:15pm On Jun 20, 2020

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Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SweetCunt97(f): 7:30pm On Jun 20, 2020
Jack273:
I'm currently the only one at home right now and is not as if I can't go out if I want to. The problem is I don't want to and this is how I have been most of my life and I like it.

So my question is for the married introverts here, how did you meet your spouse? Did you have to behave outgoing or you where just being yourself when it happened.


For those who don't mind you can also share with us how long it's been now and how you knew he or she was the one.

I'm not actually ready for marriage now but I'm just asking because I want to start preparing myself. I don't want to get to the bridge and realize it's actually not a bridge but a tunnel or elevator.

There is this saying that "if Mohammed does not go to the mountain, the mountain will come to Mohammed." How true is this? Should I wait for her to come to me when it is time?

Please take your time to answer, I like reading so I don't mind if your answer is long.

MODIFIED;
This might take a while, it's like all the introverts are not yet married or have crawled back into their shells.

Okay even if you guys are not yet married, please share your experience.
If your partner or ex was the Introverted one, how did you guys meet?
Social media.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Jack273(op): 7:35pm On Jun 20, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Social media.
What about those of us that are also very introverted online as well?
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SweetCunt97(f): 8:04pm On Jun 20, 2020
Jack273:
What about those of us that are also very introverted online as well?
Ur matter pass me.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by CsRockefeller(m): 9:26pm On Jun 20, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Ur matter pass me.
grin
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by holysaint1(m): 2:41am On Jun 22, 2020
doitforyou:
OP, some introverts have no qualms approaching a potential love interest, their problem is usually limited options because of their limited social interactions. Relationships tend to start organically, they often meet their SO at work, school, church/mosque etc.
thanks for this lucid, apt, concise and precise comment of yours.

You literally explained my type of lifestyle.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Gentle0wavez: 10:57am On Jun 22, 2020
I'm an introvert too. I'm enjoying this lock down to the fullest, I wonder how people get tired of staying indoors. I am very calculated and like to think over something very well b4 taking action and a lot of people mistake it for fear or that I'm shy but it's not true. Issues like age difference or even how dress can stop me from approaching you. I no dey fear class(if u like be Bill Gates daughter), if I'm single and you enter my eye and from my observation nothing do you. I will drop unexpectedly like bird shît and shoot my shot with R2 curve.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SpicyMimi(f): 1:13pm On Jun 22, 2020
I met him while shopping for atarodo (red pepper) at our local market lol he was a bachelor, just got into the state mins ago, then bumped into him. He is an extreme introvert like myself.

It took me the Grace of God to say " Hey I know you" lol apparently we attended same Higher institution, but he was 2 years ahead. I was able to recognize him because he was the former Mr BAM then. Lol

Anyways, it was all planned by God...i prayed to God so much to meet my God ordained husband that year and that exact month using a vow, also promised to pay another vow at the beginning of next month if I can meet him that very month, and just towards the end of that month as I was about giving up, but the God of 11th hour, the God that answereth by fire, the Only True God brought him into my life. God answered me...i am still amazed!!! Like God really really cares that much for me.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Donald3d(m): 6:15am On Jun 25, 2020
grin
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Romangalactic(m): 7:43am On Jun 25, 2020
SpicyMimi:
I met him while shopping for atarodo (red pepper) at our local market lol he was a bachelor, just got into the state mins ago, then bumped into him. He is an extreme introvert like myself.

It took me the Grace of God to say " Hey I know you" lol apparently we attended same Higher institution, but he was 2 years ahead. I was able to recognize him because he was the former Mr BAM then. Lol

Anyways, it was all planned by God...i prayed to God so much to meet my God ordained husband that year and that exact month using a vow, also promised to pay another vow at the beginning of next month if I can meet him that very month, and just towards the end of that month as I was about giving up, but the God of 11th hour, the God that answereth by fire, the Only True God brought him into my life. God answered me...i am still amazed!!! Like God really really cares that much for me.
On top husband? grin

Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SpicyMimi(f): 10:51am On Jun 25, 2020
Romangalactic:
On top husband? grin
Yes ooooo! Marrying right is key, and we all know that bad marriages could ruin one for life. So I couldn't just marry anyone.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Romangalactic(m): 10:59am On Jun 25, 2020
SpicyMimi:
Yes ooooo! Marrying right is key, and we all know that bad marriages could ruin one for life. So I couldn't just marry anyone.
Hmmm, I admire your faith in God
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SpicyMimi(f): 11:29am On Jun 25, 2020
Romangalactic:
Hmmm, I admire your faith in God
Thank you smiley
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jun 25, 2020
XX01:
I don't necessarily agree with you. Even extreme extroverts like my husband or my dad prefer their own company in their downtime. Dictionary definitions for you:

1. Introvert - a shy, reticent person.
2. Extrovert - an outgoing, overtly expressive person.
I have two extreme introverts close to me.
My husband is one and not shy.
My brother is one but extremely shy.
How will u judge them grin
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 1:03pm On Jun 25, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Ur matter pass me.
grin Oh No! grin grin
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by shestrong(f): 1:46pm On Jun 25, 2020
Edibles20:
We met at work. Honestly we both were ready to settle down, and I think it worked for us.
Now married, both of us run back home soon as we are done with work. We are our own crowd and groove. We both can remain indoors for the entire year without stepping out of the house.
I love this.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by shestrong(f): 1:48pm On Jun 25, 2020
Gentle0wavez:
I'm an introvert too. I'm enjoying this lock down to the fullest, I wonder how people get tired of staying indoors. I am very calculated and like to think over something very well b4 taking action and a lot of people mistake it for fear or that I'm shy but it's not true. Issues like age difference or even how dress can stop me from approaching you. I no dey fear class(if u like be Bill Gates daughter), if I'm single and you enter my eye and from my observation nothing do you. I will drop unexpectedly like bird shît and shoot my shot with R2 curve.
We are enjoying the lockdown..
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Haywhymido(m): 2:31pm On Jun 25, 2020
sassysure:
I have two extreme introverts close to me.
My husband is one and not shy.
My brother is one but extremely shy.
How will u judge them grin
Your brother's shyness can be worked upon not his introversion.


@ op we met at work. when the time comes you will meet yours
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by XX01(f): 2:58pm On Jun 25, 2020
sassysure:
I have two extreme introverts close to me.
My husband is one and not shy.
My brother is one but extremely shy.
How will u judge them grin
I really don't want to drag this matter because that will be a detraction from the thread. I've said that i agree that being shy is not an evidence of being an introvert.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Alfather: 5:46pm On Jun 25, 2020
Am an introvert. What i can say about my self is, i am not shy, but i love being alone, i hate noicy enviroment, and quacking sound when the place is quiet. I can entertain my self like, thing of joke that make me laugh, when am board i can amuse my self by my self. Day dreaming makes me happy. I don,t double date, i am satisfy with my girl friend. She gave me alot of green ligh before i approach her, i love her but she loves me the most, she,s an extrovert i met her in the church she did more of the toasting. I cant cheat on her because i dont aproach girls, girls don,t aproach me but they admire me from afar. Am a motivation speaker because i read and meditate. Am so choosy, i form alot(shakara) i have good idealogy, i can give out brain stormy ideas. I Am alergic to crowd like, standing 10 metre away from them and observing what they do . I love sex
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by UncleJJ(m): 9:06pm On Jun 25, 2020
PrimadonnaO:
I actually have a phobia for extremely outgoing people...

I’m not an introvert per se, but that lifestyle of this party today... that groove tomorrow... that club by the weekend. It’s not my thing at all.

I feel better with people who don’t mind staying at home all day. Let all the fun happen at home... gist, laugh, cook, watch movies... games, host the friends...
the sophisticated housewife.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:10pm On Jun 25, 2020
UncleJJ:
the sophisticated housewife.
Anything but...

Can't be a housewife in this lifetime.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by bukatyne(f): 10:24pm On Jun 25, 2020
SpicyMimi:
I met him while shopping for atarodo (red pepper) at our local market lol he was a bachelor, just got into the state mins ago, then bumped into him. He is an extreme introvert like myself.

It took me the Grace of God to say " Hey I know you" lol apparently we attended same Higher institution, but he was 2 years ahead. I was able to recognize him because he was the former Mr BAM then. Lol

Anyways, it was all planned by God...i prayed to God so much to meet my God ordained husband that year and that exact month using a vow, also promised to pay another vow at the beginning of next month if I can meet him that very month, and just towards the end of that month as I was about giving up, but the God of 11th hour, the God that answereth by fire, the Only True God brought him into my life. God answered me...i am still amazed!!! Like God really really cares that much for me.
So happy for you.

Your joy would know no bounds and there will continually be honey in the moon kiss

Amen.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Ayodejewel(f): 10:48pm On Jun 25, 2020
Can't really say I'm an introvert but I really don't have friends apart from few selected ones. Don't like parties and all. Prefer to stay indoors and get busy with work.

But I can suddenly become an extrovert when I'm with someone who knows me so well.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SpicyMimi(f): 11:02pm On Jun 25, 2020
bukatyne:
So happy for you.

Your joy would know no bounds and there will continually be honey in the moon kiss

Amen.
Amennnnnn!!!! Thank you so much sis.. God bless you smiley
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by SpicyMimi(f): 11:21pm On Jun 25, 2020
Chinwetalu:
which pairing is better Extrovert vs Introvert or Introvert vs Introvert?
Introvert vs Introvert


But what works for A might not work for B.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Alexun(m): 12:27am On Jun 28, 2020
Alfather:
Am an introvert. What i can say about my self is, i am not shy, but i love being alone, i hate noicy enviroment, and quacking sound when the place is quiet. I can entertain my self like, thing of joke that make me laugh, when am board i can amuse my self by my self. Day dreaming makes me happy. I don,t double date, i am satisfy with my girl friend. She gave me alot of green ligh before i approach her, i love her but she loves me the most, she,s an extrovert i met her in the church she did more of the toasting. I cant cheat on her because i dont aproach girls, girls don,t aproach me but they admire me from afar. Am a motivation speaker because i read and meditate. Am so choosy, i form alot(shakara) i have good idealogy, i can give out brain stormy ideas. I Am alergic to crowd like, standing 10 metre away from them and observing what they do . I love sex
Your last statement contradicts your very first submission. Introverts don't boast about their sexuality!!!
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Alfather: 6:55am On Jun 28, 2020
Alexun:
Your last statement contradicts your very first submission. Introverts don't boast about their sexuality!!!
i express my self more in writing
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Geminita: 7:52pm On Jun 29, 2020
Edibles20:
We met at work. Honestly we both were ready to settle down, and I think it worked for us.
Now married, both of us run back home soon as we are done with work. We are our own crowd and groove. We both can remain indoors for the entire year without stepping out of the house.
tho I am not yet married but there is this undiluted joy that you feel when you're with your type of person...

nice one
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Abcruz(m): 11:38pm On Jun 29, 2020
Ayodejewel:
Can't really say I'm an introvert but I really don't have friends apart from few selected ones. Don't like parties and all. Prefer to stay indoors and get busy with work.

But I can suddenly become an extrovert when I'm with someone who knows me so well.
Those are the traits of an introvert they're very open to those they're familiar with.
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by LagBae(f): 12:45am On Jun 30, 2020
Edibles20:
We met at work. Honestly we both were ready to settle down, and I think it worked for us.
Now married, both of us run back home soon as we are done with work. We are our own crowd and groove. We both can remain indoors for the entire year without stepping out of the house.
An entire year?? Are you sure you aren't exaggerating?
Re: Extreme Introverts, How Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Alooone: 10:53pm On Jul 08, 2020
We met through someone
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