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u can neva cover up a cheatin wife, it nt possible

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Rozz:
I was eavesdropping on some elderly discussion(men)today and heard so many things from this men of wisdom and decided to bring it here as well. It was a discussion about a man who stabbed his wife's concubine that she brought home while her husband was away,the man chased his wife's concubine naked round the whole neighborhood and everything became public,after the whole drama, the wife told her husband that she will deal with him for this big disgrace he has caused her, one of those men outrightly condemns the man's reaction and termed it senseless and dangerous.He was of the opinion that the man should have simply conceal the wife's adulterous act and end things with her peacefully as he could risk being killed by the wife which might take years for her to carry out her threat,but some of these men supported the man's action and it became an endless argument.Initially I supported the exposure as it kinds of bring emotional support for the man especially from his family,friends and even children,but I later began to reason with the other man who thinks otherwise.I feel affairs should not be exposed to children,familes and friends,it kind of create enormous suffering for the children psychologically and this children grows up with some kind of depression and anxiety and this becomes a torn in their strong emotional attraction and commitment to their spouse and family in future which in turn results to a permanent damage and broken homes,this becomes a norm in such family.So I think it's best never to expose an adulterous wife,it is not foolishness but wisdom.What do you think?

Yorubas say a cheating wife can kill her husband. So, if a man finds his wife cheating, the marriage should be over and the retribution biblical. If she wants to kill him after the divorce, she should do so with assassins, that’s if she herself is still alive and in control of her own faculties.

And to think she still has the temerity to threaten the husband she cheated on because “he disgraced her”.

CardiNice:
It's not like we are all perfect but i believe that if eventually you want to cheat on your partner.

Make sure you do it discreetly and don't get caught, do it with that person that don't kiss and tell.

There are people even married couples that have been cheating on thier partners for like more than 10 years and above and their partners don't even know and will never ever know forever.

Yeah I'm talking from experience.

I know of a guy that has been sleeping with a very rich married woman for 10 years now and counting and they will likely take the secret to their graves.

Some people are professionals in the game.

So if you can't play the game, don't enter the field of play else you will get a rough tackle.

I am not trying to promote cheating, all I'm saying is that, don't smoke weed if you have a heart disease.

Everybody has a secret.

No matter how professional you may be,the truth will surely be revealed.
It's only a matter of time

MPESA:
What could be a reason for cheating married woman?, is their any justification for cheating ?,
what could be a Reason for a married woman to bring a man to her matrimonial home .......

P.s

Such a woman will kill her husband anytime soon to have more space for her adulterous life..

read and comprehend. Thanks

Op you need to understand that human beings are different while some will try not to expose the wife's bullshit other men will bring hailstone upon the entire household.

it's easy to hear or suspect that your spouse is cheating but catching them in the act naked!!!!

Kai you know the trauma.... especially when you've faithful in that marriage....someone ought to be brutalized ....and if my wife threatens to deal with me openly after the act .. Woe betide her on that day!!!

Expose her to the public, nay I won't do that and expose her to the kids, nay I won't either but her father if alive and if dead, her elder brother or any mature brother will surely be alerted.

If I walk in on my woman with another man, I'll simply walk out. It's not that I won't feel hurt, I hate to cry over an already spilled oil. Five years ago, I would shoot someone but today, I'll simply walk away and put a call through to her dad for a peaceful dissolution of the marriage.

J111333:
Expose her to the public, nay I won't do that and expose her to the kids, nay I won't either but her father if alive and if dead, her elder brother or any mature brother will surely be alerted.

If I walk in on my woman with another man, I'll simply walk out. It's not that I won't feel hurt, I hate to cry over an already spilled oil. Five years ago, I will shoot someone but today, I'll simply walk away and put a call through to her dad for a peaceful dissolution of the marriage.

wisdom all over your comment,you really did grow.Maybe you are now an elder

anayolity:
Op you need to understand that human beings are different while some will try not to expose the wife's bullshit other men will bring hailstone upon the entire household.

it's easy to hear or suspect that your spouse is cheating but catching them in the act naked!!!!

Kai you know the trauma.... especially when you've faithful in that marriage....someone ought to be brutalized ....and if my wife threatens to deal with me openly after the act .. Woe betide her on that day!!!

It takes a lot of maturity not to act drastically but it's best to deal with the situation quietly and peacefully while you put the children on the black out as it can cause so much damage to them in future especially the males.

Rozz:
It takes a lot of maturity not to act drastically but it's best to deal with the situation quietly and peacefully while you put the children on the black out as it can cause so much damage to them in future especially the males.

Most times maturity itself doesn't mean doing things quietly.... Do you know that to some people "Absolute revenge means total forgiveness".

Human beings are different.... like I said if I heard about or maybe saw chats that portrayed a sexual scenerio I will take it easy and push a divorce while the children in copy BUT if I catch them in the act with my Koro Koro eyes..

we'll make I no talk Sha....God forbid say any woman I wan marry go do such in Jesus name AMEN!

Cos It's almost impossible to get me angry but when I do I stop talking and start thinking on how to harm people.

God go help us.

Rozz:
wisdom all over your comment,you really did grow.Maybe you are now an elder

More like an afternoon palmwine.

Katier00:
read and comprehend. Thanks

I quoted you based on below statement.

I think this should be a personal decision considering who is involved and (the reason for cheating.)

What could be a reason for a married woman to bring a man to her matrimonial home...

'Concubine' is inappropriate because a man cannot be a concubine. Only women can. 'Paramour', or plain 'lover' is better. Take note.

That aside, it goes both ways. Any one who will be so thoughtless as to disrespect their matrimonial bed by bringing their adulterous partners to lie on it deserves whatever disgrace their spouse dishes out. Commit your adultery outside the sanctity of your home. Don't be unfortunate.

Ishilove:
'Concubine' is inappropriate because a man cannot be a concubine. Only women can. 'Paramour', or plain 'lover' is better. Take note.

That aside, it goes both ways. Any one who will be so thoughtless as to disrespect their matrimonial bed by bringing their adulterous partners to lie on it deserves whatever disgrace their spouse dishes out. Commit your adultery outside the sanctity of your home. Don't be unfortunate.

According to the gospel of Ishilove, adultery is not bad provided that one commits it outside the sanctity of their home, I see.

J111333:
More like an afternoon palmwine.

Thats good,more wisdom to you

Ishilove:
'Concubine' is inappropriate because a man cannot be a concubine. Only women can. 'Paramour', or plain 'lover' is better. Take note.

That aside, it goes both ways. Any one who will be so thoughtless as to disrespect their matrimonial bed by bringing their adulterous partners to lie on it deserves whatever disgrace their spouse dishes out. Commit your adultery outside the sanctity of your home. Don't be unfortunate.

Noted thanks alot.Note that the disgrace does not only affects the woman,it involves the children as well,even the husband somehow shares in the disgrace.We have a neighbor that divorced for over five years now and not the children,both parents and neighbors knew the cause of the divorce.Both simply said they divorced due to irreconcilable differences and have not relayed to anyone the true cause of their divorce till date.I think they are both matured and have taken the best decision to conceal whatever issues they had.

Rozz:
Noted thanks alot.Note that the disgrace does not only affects the woman,it involves the children as well,even the husband somehow shares in the disgrace.We have a neighbor that divorced for over five years now and not the children,both parents and neighbors knew the cause of the divorce.Both simply said they divorced due to irreconcilable differences and have not relayed to anyone the true cause of their divorce till date.I think they are both matured and have taken the best decision to conceal whatever issues they had.

You have a point.

Rozz:
I was eavesdropping on some elderly discussion(men)today and heard so many things from this men of wisdom and decided to bring it here as well. It was a discussion about a man who stabbed his wife's concubine that she brought home while her husband was away,the man chased his wife's concubine naked round the whole neighborhood and everything became public,after the whole drama, the wife told her husband that she will deal with him for this big disgrace he has caused her, one of those men outrightly condemns the man's reaction and termed it senseless and dangerous.He was of the opinion that the man should have simply conceal the wife's adulterous act and end things with her peacefully as he could risk being killed by the wife which might take years for her to carry out her threat,but some of these men supported the man's action and it became an endless argument.Initially I supported the exposure as it kinds of bring emotional support for the man especially from his family,friends and even children,but I later began to reason with the other man who thinks otherwise.I feel affairs should not be exposed to children,familes and friends,it kind of create enormous suffering for the children psychologically and this children grows up with some kind of depression and anxiety and this becomes a torn in their strong emotional attraction and commitment to their spouse and family in future which in turn results to a permanent damage and broken homes,this becomes a norm in such family.So I think it's best never to expose an adulterous wife,it is not foolishness but wisdom.What do you think?

what makes you think the adulterous wife can kill the husband if she's exposed?

Did you for once believe the 'scarred' husband could be capable of killing the cheating wife?

In cases like this, exposing the cheating wife is best left for the husband, its solely his decison. Only him know the pain he feels and only him knows how best to deal with that pain.

Rozz:
Noted thanks alot.Note that the disgrace does not only affects the woman,it involves the children as well,even the husband somehow shares in the disgrace.We have a neighbor that divorced for over five years now and not the children, both parents and neighbors knew the cause of the divorce. Both simply said they divorced due to irreconcilable differences and have not relayed to anyone the true cause of their divorce till date.[/b] I think they are both matured and have taken the best decision to conceal whatever issues they had.

How do u know your neighbour's parents and children don't know?

Lets say your hubby cheats on you and you divorce him, what will you tell your children any time they ask about daddy?

MPESA:
I quoted you based on below statement.

I think this should be a personal decision considering who is involved and (the reason for cheating.)

What could be a reason for a married woman to bring a man to her matrimonial home...

negligence, abuse trauma anything not just the woman but also the man. I have not and will never cheat in a relationship as I find it dirty but even if my partner does that, I won't want to blow it, I will just weigh my options and decide quietly.

Romangalactic:
How do u know your neighbour's parents and children don't know?

Lets say your hubby cheats on you and you divorce him, what will you tell your children any time they ask about daddy?

So many other things to tell them or I will simply ask them to go ask their dad

Rozz:
So many other things to tell them or I will simply ask them to go ask their dad

What will you tell them? Just try to put urself in that situation

Romangalactic:
What will you tell them? Just try to put urself in that situation

something like their dad doesn't care about me anymore and I can't live with someone who no longer has care and affection for me,so I think we will be better separated.Any further questions from them will be directed to their dad for answers

Rozz:
And what about the damaging effect on the children?

Your position is biased to protect adulterous women. If you had said it is best not to expose cheating partners then I'd say you are being fair. This goes to show that you feel the pain of the woman cos she has been disgraced but you do not really feel the pain of the man who was cheated on. Anyway its normal with you girls. You always support each other and cover your shame especially when that soft spot is touched which makes you think of her future and if she will see husband after the disgrace.

Rozz:
they are asleep already, I so much want to know their views.Which moderator can move this to front page

A cheat would always support her kind.

mimimile93:
A cheat would always support her kind.

he's so pained because I told you who you truly are.Leech lol

Rozz why did you ignore my poston this thread? I'm still waiting for that thread where I decieved a lady

DominusPrime:
Rozz why did you ignore my poston this thread? I'm still waiting for that thread where I decieved a lady

its on that dating thread,will check it and quote you

@ Op

Not a wise thing to do - reconcile or separate if you can't take it.
Instead of talking to others, see a marriage counselor or a psychologist.

Rozz:
I was eavesdropping on some elderly discussion(men)today and heard so many things from this men of wisdom and decided to bring it here as well. It was a discussion about a man who stabbed his wife's concubine that she brought home while her husband was away,the man chased his wife's concubine naked round the whole neighborhood and everything became public,after the whole drama, the wife told her husband that she will deal with him for this big disgrace he has caused her, one of those men outrightly condemns the man's reaction and termed it senseless and dangerous.He was of the opinion that the man should have simply conceal the wife's adulterous act and end things with her peacefully as he could risk being killed by the wife which might take years for her to carry out her threat,but some of these men supported the man's action and it became an endless argument.Initially I supported the exposure as it kinds of bring emotional support for the man especially from his family,friends and even children,but I later began to reason with the other man who thinks otherwise.I feel affairs should not be exposed to children,familes and friends,it kind of create enormous suffering for the children psychologically and this children grows up with some kind of depression and anxiety and this becomes a torn in their strong emotional attraction and commitment to their spouse and family in future which in turn results to a permanent damage and broken homes,this becomes a norm in such family.So I think it's best never to expose an adulterous wife,it is not foolishness but wisdom.What do you think?

Dear, I'd say it'd depend on the strength of the relationship and the bond. God forbid that this happens to me, but if a woman I love deeply cheats and I see the possibility of forgiving her later, I'd certainly not publicize her atrocity. However, I will tell her closest friend and someone she look up to as mentor (if she has any). When you look at a home there is true love, a lot of things go unnoticed for the sake of what the couple came together to build and achieve.
But hey, I am not married and this is a mere opinion. I cannot with understand and feel the pain the husband in question felt, given that his experience might be deeper and painful than I can imagine.

fairheart:
Dear, I'd say it'd depend on the strength of the relationship and the bond. God forbid that this happens to me, but if a woman I love deeply cheats and I see the possibility of forgiving her later, I'd certainly not publicize her atrocity. However, I will tell her friends and someone she look up to as mentor (if she has any). When you look at a home there is true love, a lot of things go unnoticed for the sake of what the couple came together to build and achieve.
But hey, I am not married and this is mere opinion. I cannot with understand and feel the pain the husband in question felt, given that his experience might be deeper and painful than I can imagine.

I think it's best to react silently if children are already involved,your reaction may cause a permanent damage to the children and it goes on and on

Rozz:
I think it's best to react silently if children are already involved,your reaction may cause a permanent damage to the children and it goes on and on

That is true. But why would a married woman with kids at home cheat? What reason could there be to justify it?