coputa:
take note that a dishonest woman during courtship can make a good wife,ditto,a honest woman during courtship that latter tears her marriage apart.have you not seen a pastors wife stealing and telling lies,did the pastor make the wrong choice at the onset,NO.

.....What you said here is quite different from the narrative given.

Note that no matter how a person tries to hide his or her true nature during courtship it will eventually spring up after wedding or during the course if their union.

If a pastor's wife was found to be a thief after some years in marriage,it simply means she has been bad all this while but managed to hide it from the hubby during courtship.

For this lady in question to show this sign means she has been involved in some criminal acts before. Not necessarily bank stuff like this but little little criminal acts and believes she was being smart.

If she has fear or concience,she wouldn't have withdrew the money and lodged it into another account.

Worst was that she denied it when asked by her boyfriend and only accepted when evidence was shown.

Well,your choice.Have a nice day.

Goovo:
He should forgive her, but don't marry her

Yes. Because he's a saint. Even you, you're a saint

MrBrownJay1:


do everything to make sure the babe returns the money (even pretend you will marry again, if she does).... then when she returns the money, get rid of this low life thieving woman from your life.

you can already see the type of deceitful demon she will turn into...

We all deserve forgiveness, remember! She did something really wrong, fine, but change is constant. The guy shouldn't be too tough on her by canceling the marriage but rather make her see reasons why she needs to be a better person. Moreover, something better must have made them want to come together as one in the first instance.

zomoears:


There is no free money anywhere.

A bank staff will be held responsible for the error and will pay from his/her sweat, and possibly lose their job. So, effectively, she has stolen money and possibly means of livelihood from the staff.

Imagine the pain if the staff is your wife,sibling or parent.

tales... Banks are the biggest thieving institution known to mankind... They quickly remembered there is a next of kin to be contacted... My brother leave matter.. God is not stupid

kalufelix:
How much are we talking about here.... Pay excess money enter my account and be waiting for integrity...integrity bawo... Because she is a woman... She even used the mofo as her next of kin... I need to marry that babe. Hypocrites everywhere!

Just look at your life

kalufelix:
tales... Banks are the biggest thieving institution known to mankind... They quickly remembered there is a next of kin to be contacted... My brother leave matter.. God is not stupid

Just negodu

What a supposed person Is saying

GIdiata:


THAT'S WHAT MEN THAT HAVE SENSE WANT TO CORRECT. WHEN A WOMAN DO WRONG. U COME AND PREACH EMOTIONS TO US.

oga it's STALE

Wrong! You can never correct or change a woman,you endures.ask your elders.

CsRockefeller:
Look at comments up there figuratively tying d lady to a stake and calling for her head on a spike.

So, this is d reason he wants to call off the wedding? I have no words, posterity will judge.

Yeah, that she took what is not her's and deny it.

Yes that the young man know the value of integrity.

You must be a yahoo boy, so integrity has no meaning to u

coputa:
Wrong! You can never correct or change a woman,you endures.ask you elders.

....Why enduring when you can avoid it?

khalids:


Can you say this if you were in front of God

Keep to your belief.
Good luck!

martowskin1:


Yeah, that she took what is not her's and deny it.

Yes that the young man know the value of integrity.

You must be a yahoo boy, so integrity has no meaning to u

....You ve said it all.Dont mind him

DexterousOne:


Just look at your life

Mr. Integrity why you keep face like that naa... Are you a banker?? Thunder fire the whole nigerian banks and their staffs

JONNYSPUTE:
....Why enduring when you can avoid it?

You can only avoid what you see,women character are hidden,they 're shown bit by bit.

coputa:
You can only avoid what you see,women character are hidden,they 're shown bit by bit.

....So what stops this guy from avoiding this said lady?

Since one of her I'll characters has been exposed?

Do you want him to keep enduring and suffering in marriage out of pity?

Don't you think you are contradicting your initial instances bro?

Lie to everyone else but don't lie to me, trust and respect is what we do this for na,thats love to me Sha, maybe one babe fit add another definition to love for me when we meet.

She using him as next of kin strong oo, that's damn strong.

Bola146:
When trust is been betrayed in a relationship, i need to japa, that is a very bad signal I trust you is more loving than I love you

Beta babe ur head dey dere�

JONNYSPUTE:
.....What you said here is quite different from the narrative given.

Note that no matter how a person tries to hide his or her true nature during courtship it will eventually spring up after wedding or during the course if their union.

If a pastor's wife was found to be a thief after some years in marriage,it simply means she has been bad all this while but managed to hide it from the hubby during courtship.

For this lady in question to show this sign means she has been involved in some criminal acts before. Not necessarily bank stuff like this but little little criminal acts and believes she was being smart.

If she has fear or concience,she wouldn't have withdrew the money and lodged it into another account.

Worst was that she denied it when asked by her boyfriend and only accepted when evidence was shown.

Well,your choice.Have a nice day.

let's not rule out there is a first time for everything too, it could be her first too

RealEzee:
let's not rule out there is a first time for everything too, it could be her first too

...You could also be right.on this one.

Bola146:
When trust is been betrayed in a relationship, i need to japa, that is a very bad signal I trust you is more loving than I love you

I always tell people that love is not the most important ingredient in a relationship..

SSpeter:
For me integrity is everything!

Integrity is not always sincerity

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khalids:


Its on niaraland you will be able to make mouth.......I'm sure you can't even look your parents in the eyes.....

so what's ur point exactly. I can see u live in fear but I don't, don't assume everyone is like you.

Righteousness89:
Integrity is a Priceless Character!
Very Important in Marriage..
Lack of it could lead to endless woes and pains!

Having said that, Marriage is a life time commitment.. pls if you are not Divinely led to a spouse, pls do not enter..

Pls Be patient for divine guidance in Marriage, it it saves you from lots of struggles and stress..

I say this from Experience..


Marriage is like a Journey, you don't know what it holds..
But if you are guided and led by the Alpha and Omega, the one who knows all, then what he gives to you will definitely be a joy..

Rubbish.. There are many unbelievers who have great marriages. There are many atheists who had great marriages.

This marriage stuff has nothing to do with the christain God. Nature had given u power to make decisions.

kalufelix:
tales... Banks are the biggest thieving institution known to mankind... They quickly remembered there is a next of kin to be contacted... My brother leave matter.. God is not stupid

They are telling you the truth you are saying - tales-
A staff will bear the brunt. And this staff has family, it must probably be a teller earning 50k

So many people outside just have the misconception that it's the bank that will pay that's why the guy was telling you about the predicament of the staff that will pay and you are busy talking about the crimes of the bank to you and others

Saintinoo:

Those banks are also robbing us, they hardly return the illegal charges on our account.
If you think you can have an angel as a wife, then try and watch your own life and see if you have no fault.

I somehow agree with you. I can't recall how many times I've been charged without a message.. I can't be paying tp and wasting ny time because of some 100 naira.

JONNYSPUTE:
....So what stops this guy from avoiding this said lady?

Since one of her I'll characters has been exposed?

Do you want him to keep enduring and suffering in marriage out of pity?

You 're getting it all wrong, i told you earlier that no woman is one hundred percent good,if a man sees something bad in every woman(which he cannot endure) then that man is not matured enough to get married,even when the unseen one's have not rear their ugly head.marriage is tolerance,endurance and patience.if you dont hv this dont go into the institution.

kalufelix:
you talking crap oga ...she didnt steal from anybody...just take a deep breath and think

She didn't steal but refused to return money erroneously paid to her and even initially denied to her husband to be that there was no such money yet you justify her that she didn't steal from anyone, that in itself has shown the kind of human being you are, out to reap where you did not sow, a generation that tries to justify stealing.
At op a woman without integrity is like taking Lucifer himself to the altar so do the maths.

kalufelix:
Mr. Integrity why you keep face like that naa... Are you a banker?? Thunder fire the whole nigerian banks and their staffs

Thats very unfair to a banker that is just eking a living. Why such hatred

If banking is not important they would not exist

Your friend did well to cancel the wedding.

The problem i see here is not about integrity but the fact she fact can't confide in you.She no trust you be that.

coputa:
You 're getting it all wrong, i told you earlier that no woman is one hundred percent good,if a man sees something bad in every woman(which he cannot endure) then that man is not matured enough to get married,even when the unseen one's have not rear their ugly head.marriage is tolerance,endurance and patience.if you dont hv this dont go into the institution.

.....Ok.you win. But mind you that only a simp or a worthless woman sees an ugly sign and still go ahead with such relationship just to feel woke.

Xisnin:

You guys will be a good match.
Imagine regularly fleecing your wife of money while
she lies and exaggerates to extort you back.
It will be a match made in heaven.

But its neither the guys money nor his family's money its not even a customers money.. So what's the fuss about.. FYI almost every wife exxagerates and extorts their husbands for her personal wahala..

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

well, every0ne has a choice and what they want. I can't advise him to call off or go ahead. But if it were me, i'd go on as l0ng as she returns the m0ney. Zeddicus zu'l Zorrander once said the threat of a slap is atimes m0re effective than the slap itself. Forgiveness, understanding, and respect is what is needed. I'd forgive her if that's her only fault, let her understand my principles and respect her en0ugh n0t to embarass her. It's n0t like she stole the m0ney. The bank made that mistake.