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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by mich2012: 2:28pm On Jul 04, 2020
Bola146:
When trust is been betrayed in a relationship, i need to japa, that is a very bad signal sad I trust you is more loving than I love you
Absolutely.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Olorundamilola: 2:30pm On Jul 04, 2020
[quote author=SSpeter post=91349202]A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!
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What the lady did is not fair but we need to be disciplined ....that why they say money is the root of all evil �
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by mich2012: 2:31pm On Jul 04, 2020
Klass99:
The act of moving the money into a different bank account alone speaks volumes.

I will hesitate and have reservations about moving forward with a wedding/marriage to this person BUT on the other hand I believe in second chances.

Sensible people don't take 2nd chances for granted and they often do better when given a shot at a chance to redeem themselves and prove themselves.

If I were the man, I will put marriage plans on hold, extend the dating/courting period and give this person a chance at rebuilding my trust in her. If I messed up too I wouldn't want to be instantly and completely written off.

Well said but people often misuse 2nd, 3rd, 4th even up to nth chance. It all boils down to individual conscience and also their upbringing.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by banio: 2:39pm On Jul 04, 2020
SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

She should have returned the money. However, life and especially Nigeria is a fraud. All humans are frauds, all governmens are frauds.

Stamp duty fraud
Vat fraud
Stamp duty on house rent
Hush puppy wants to fraud English club and Amelica wants to add that to his crime. Is that not fraudulent.

I don't support fraud. I am only thinking aloud
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Rhaspody(m): 2:51pm On Jul 04, 2020
If she returns the money, marry her. At least she will learn not to lack integrity in the marriage
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 2:51pm On Jul 04, 2020
The love for money is the root of all evil. The guy should have a deep conversation with her. It could be that she pilfered the money because of the upcoming wedding. You don't beat a child for throwing the oil, you beat a child for throwing the chaff. Left for me, this event doesn't warrant cancelling the wedding especially if this is her first time of doing stuff like this one.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by PatAnselm(m): 2:51pm On Jul 04, 2020
Hmm, what's really bothering me is the fact that she did all that without telling her spouse, someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, she made such decision without discussing it with him. He didn't even know about it at. Dude got to know from the bank and she was still denying! God gives us signs, it's left for us to follow and make our choices.

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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 2:52pm On Jul 04, 2020
SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

I'm sorry to quote everything but it's so that you get to read my contribution.

If the lady is begging, the man should tell her to first of all return the money to the bank.

Then when she's done that, the wedding should be postponed for a year while the two of them go for counseling.

Maybe there are parts of that woman he's never seen. A year + counseling will help to open his eyes.

The lady may be sorrowful and realize her mistake.

To forgive is always divine. But, she must realize how wrong she was.

Asking him to dump her will only set both of them back.

They both have to reach a point together where she is fully repentant and he is fully forgiving.

They must reach that point TOGETHER.

Dumping her because she isn't a saint shows he doesn't love her in the first place.

We will all make mistakes.

If you truly love them you'll help them become better people.

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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by CsRockefeller(m): 3:01pm On Jul 04, 2020
simplepee:
Sir, it is enough reason.
It is a bad thing if you can't trust money with your partner. Man or woman.

Greediness is a very bad trait. A greedy person is capable of doing many evil.

I'm impressed, that makes me want to listen to you and argue intelligently, it's a rare attribute from humans these days not to talk of a female.

Keep it up.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by simplepee(f): 3:06pm On Jul 04, 2020
CsRockefeller:


I'm impressed, that makes me want to listen to you and argue intelligently, it's a rare attribute from humans these days not to talk of a female.

Keep it up.
Lol. Enjoy your day.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by golddare: 3:07pm On Jul 04, 2020
SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

Forgive her, put wedding on hold, Test her again and if she fails walk away.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Yankee101: 3:13pm On Jul 04, 2020
Reach out abeg

Bola146:


Single sad
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 3:15pm On Jul 04, 2020
To me, the major issue here is that she didn't tell her fiancee and even lied to him when he asked.

If they are struggling financially and she had told him all about it from the beginning, I may blame her action against the bank more on Nigerian factor.

What she did is bad but things are so hard that sometimes people lose it.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by GIdiata(m): 3:17pm On Jul 04, 2020
coputa:
Wrong! You can never correct or change a woman,you endures.ask your elders.

d guy have called the wedding off. it will eventually stop we can't change them because people like u will always tell us to forget! na woman.
NO BE ONLY WOMEN GET EMOTIONS.

if a woman, in the name of cheating, cuts off her husband's penis or stab him to death, People like u will find excuses to JUSTIFY THE ACT. YOU WILL PREACH TO US HOW FURIOUS A SCORNED WOMAN CAN BE AND HOW WE SHOULD LEARN TO ZIP UP

but in domestic violence where d man beats the woman, you will tell me there's no excuse to hit a woman. OGA we are all HUMANS IF WE ARE NOT BETTER THAN THEM, THEY SHOULDN'T ALSO BE TREATED AS IF THEY ARE BETTER THAN US.

MAN OR WOMAN, WHEN U Bleep UP, BE READY TO ACCEPT THE REPERCUSSIONS. WHICH YEYE EMOTIONS

OGA IF MEN CAN'T BE CONSIDERED, WOMEN SHOULDN'T BE

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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by gloryon(m): 3:30pm On Jul 04, 2020
Hideki:
@gloryon, look at this response why didn't the teller just reverse the money from this persons account? why did she need to call and beg? that guy was trying to educate you but una ignorance too much
the teller called because cash was handed to a customer. In this case, account was credited. That's why reversal codes are there my brother because of over credit and what not. Take care.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 3:31pm On Jul 04, 2020
Lies ... fake story...
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by JONNYSPUTE(m): 3:33pm On Jul 04, 2020
GIdiata:


d guy have called the wedding off. it will eventually stop we can't change them because people like u will always tell us to forget! na woman.
NO BE ONLY WOMEN GET EMOTIONS.

if a woman, in the name of cheating, cuts off her husband's penis or stab him to death, People like u will find excuses to JUSTIFY THE ACT. YOU WILL PREACH TO US HOW FURIOUS A SCORNED WOMAN CAN BE AND HOW WE SHOULD LEARN TO ZIP UP

but in domestic violence where d man beats the woman, you will tell me there's no excuse to hit a woman. OGA we are all HUMANS IF WE ARE NOT BETTER THAN THEM, THEY SHOULDN'T ALSO BE TREATED AS IF THEY ARE BETTER THAN US.

MAN OR WOMAN, WHEN U Bleep UP, BE READY TO ACCEPT THE REPERCUSSIONS. WHICH YEYE EMOTIONS

OGA IF MEN CAN'T BE CONSIDERED, WOMEN SHOULDN'T BE
....Bros na woman you dey follow argue o.

I stopped when I found out
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by jaytee01(m): 3:36pm On Jul 04, 2020
Bola146:
When trust is been betrayed in a relationship, i need to japa, that is a very bad signal sad I trust you is more loving than I love you
This is serious!
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by lmm4real: 3:40pm On Jul 04, 2020
Righteousness89:
Integrity is a Priceless Character!
Very Important in Marriage..
Lack of it could lead to endless woes and pains!

Having said that, Marriage is a life time commitment.. pls if you are not Divinely led to a spouse, pls do not enter..

Pls Be patient for divine guidance in Marriage, it it saves you from lots of struggles and stress..

I say this from Experience..


Marriage is like a Journey, you don't know what it holds..
But if you are guided and led by the Alpha and Omega, the one who knows all, then what he gives to you will definitely be a joy..


What happened to forgiveness and moving on, awon pastors make una take am easy o.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by brightalo1010: 3:43pm On Jul 04, 2020
kalufelix:
How much are we talking about here.... Pay excess money enter my account and be waiting for integrity...integrity bawo... Because she is a woman... She even used the mofo as her next of kin... I need to marry that babe. Hypocrites everywhere!
Do you know that she also hide away from the guy too? Even when she was asked she lied about it. So what is your point?
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by ajl: 3:46pm On Jul 04, 2020
The guy did the right thing, and is saving himself from future sorrow. If someone can attempt to steal from an institution as big as a bank, and think she can get away with it, then she is a potential thief. Whichever way she could have been charged to court if the guy was not able to convince her to refund the money. The bank was only going through with the proper steps of trying to recover the money through the normal channel, and if that wasn't successful she would have been charged to court for theft. I have seen court cases like this before.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by ademijuwonlo(f): 3:49pm On Jul 04, 2020
Righteousness89:
Integrity is a Priceless Character!
Very Important in Marriage..
Lack of it could lead to endless woes and pains!

Having said that, Marriage is a life time commitment.. pls if you are not Divinely led to a spouse, pls do not enter..

Pls Be patient for divine guidance in Marriage, it it saves you from lots of struggles and stress..

I say this from Experience..


Marriage is like a Journey, you don't know what it holds..
But if you are guided and led by the Alpha and Omega, the one who knows all, then what he gives to you will definitely be a joy..

What if someone is not led to anybody? Does that mean the person is meant to be single for his/her natural life?
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Righteousness89(m): 3:51pm On Jul 04, 2020
ademijuwonlo:

What if someone is not led to anybody? Does that mean the person is meant to be single for his/her natural life?

No Honest seeker will not find God!

GOD ALMIGHTY is not Man..

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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by nengiscrib: 3:54pm On Jul 04, 2020
People bashing the lady here, have done worse. I know integrity is key, but things can be worked out. Remember that she put her supposed Fiance as her next of kin, that's already some sort of bond and trust. They can rebuild from there, get time to work out stuff, but outright cancellation in my own opinion is not right, right now.
Anyways it depends on the morals the guy holds and the expectation set by both of them.
Cheers to whatever he decides though, he's wearing his shoe.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by brightalo1010: 4:02pm On Jul 04, 2020
kalufelix:
cheesy cheesy ..don't know why i find this your response amusing...the point here is that you don't take what does not belong to you right? I'll give you another scenario this one actually happened for real... Some time ago i used to wash cars for a living so on this particular day this bus (big ones) just came back from work and then straight to car wash...i was supposed to sweep the floor before using water in the course of that i discovered something on the floor wrapped in a black nylon..behold it was currency... I counted.. it was 12K... Obviously it doesn't belong to the driver... My question now is what will mrBrownjay do?
listen you no get sense
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by GIdiata(m): 4:05pm On Jul 04, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
....Bros na woman you dey follow argue o.

I stopped when I found out

I no even know. thank you joor.

they go always dey find consideration and excuse for their nonsense.

if man do am. no excuse
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Klass99(f): 4:06pm On Jul 04, 2020
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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 4:12pm On Jul 04, 2020
Most of you typish rubbish here have done worst that this. This is not enough reason to call off the wedding joor. But, serious warning should be given to her incase if any form of this criminal activity occurs again.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by GIdiata(m): 4:18pm On Jul 04, 2020
nengiscrib:
People bashing the lady here, have done worse. I know integrity is key, but things can be worked out. Remember that she put her supposed Fiance as her next of kin, that's already some sort of bond and trust. They can rebuild from there, get time to work out stuff, but outright cancellation in my own opinion is not right, right now.
Anyways it depends on the morals the guy holds and the expectation set by both of them.
Cheers to whatever he decides though, he's wearing his shoe.

using my name as next of kin doesn't mean you can't/won't harm me.

if not because d guy brought evidence, she would have denied it.
so I go dey house jejely EFCC or POLICE go come move me for watin I no know abi?

love and trust are 2 different things. let's say she made him next of kin for love. but lack of trust is d reason she wanted denying it

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Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by JONNYSPUTE(m): 4:19pm On Jul 04, 2020
ClixMaster:
Most of you typish rubbish here have done worst that this. This is not enough reason to call off the wedding joor. But, serious warning should be given to her incase if any form of this criminal activity occurs again.
...You tried to sound woke but ended up contradicting yourself by calling her action a criminal activity.

Now tell us a criminal offence that doesn't worth a jail term?
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Nobody: 4:21pm On Jul 04, 2020
kalufelix:
How much are we talking about here.... Pay excess money enter my account and be waiting for integrity...integrity bawo... Because she is a woman... She even used the mofo as her next of kin... I need to marry that babe. Hypocrites everywhere!
I wanted to say something similar to this but luckily you've done it for me. Her act of making him her next of kin implies that she regards him. Her reluctance to return the money is common among most of us. The guy should re-consider. As far as I can see, she has him in mind and probably in heart unlike most Nigerian ladies I've met.
Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by JONNYSPUTE(m): 4:23pm On Jul 04, 2020
GIdiata:


using my name as next of kin doesn't mean you can't/won't harm me.

if not because d guy brought evidence, she would have denied it.
so I go dey house jejely EFCC or POLICE go come move me for watin I no know abi?

love and trust are 2 different things. let's say she made him next of kin for love. but lack of trust is d reason she wanted denying it
...The issue is that some people don't understand the implications of the things they read.

They only look at it based on the surface without going further to do a thorough analysis.

Or should I say most of the people supporting her are seeing her actions from the lay man's perspective

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