Praia:


Clearly, you think it's okay to speak to someone in such a manner but it is not. You can pass your point without having to resort to abuses - it detracts from the value of your argument and makes you appear uncouth.

Anyway, anyone who thinks it's okay to abuse their spouse needs to have the police called on them. The abuser knows their actions inflict pains on their spouse and is not allowed by law, yet they continue because they count on the silent suffering of their spouse.

It is the duty of the abuser to seek counselling, not the abused who already has to put with so much.

Oh - I was right on the money to insult him. I also think I was lenient because his advice is DANGEROUS. I would like to ask if you have ever gone for counseling (not church counseling). I mean proper therapy. First, you will understand that you continue to understand and learn more about your partner in a marriage. Therapy and counseling are very important for marriages where partners cannot resolve their issues themselves because a trained independent observer can tell them their faults and how they can resolve them.

Darling trust me - you don't want to get the Police involved. If you feel your marital issues are escalating, please seek counseling and where it doesn't work, seek separation and if separation doesn't fix it, then seek annulment of the marriage. Counseling is great because the TRIGGERS would be identified and whoever is responsible would understand these triggers. Also, some people cannot manage stress properly. Hence, those stress indicators would also be identified.

This is my advice on this - It is up to you. I know Nigerian families regretting bitterly. Many are ignorant about the process, the length of the process, the financial implications, the emotional stress, the justice system and wished they had simply resolved their problems themselves or even gone for counseling. However, at this point - it is out of the hands of the Police and the Crown was take its position. Some victims have written lengthy and continuous letters to Victims Office to discontinue the case and made numerous calls to the Crown. You do not want to be in that position.

If the advice was not a dangerous one, I won't say a word.

Praia:


I'm pretty sure he has been slapping her from when they were in Nigeria and he kept doing it because no one held him responsible for his actions. I don't feel sorry for him.

It is not your marriage. Don't express an opinion. Marriage is sacred and I stay clear of expressing opinions on people's marriage except when called. You want to know why? I don't think you would be comfortable with people who know nothing about you or your marriage express an opinion on it regardless of the circumstances.

Respect other people's marriages.

SunshineD1:


Uncle, na wah for you o. You insult the person first time, im answer you without insult and you com insult am again.

I read your rejoinder and it would have been more meaningful without the added insult. Oga, please edit the insults. Thank you

Biko no insult me join o.

Praia:


Clearly, you think it's okay to speak to someone in such a manner but it is not. You can pass your point without having to resort to abuses - it detracts from the value of your argument and makes you appear uncouth.

Anyway, anyone who thinks it's okay to abuse their spouse needs to have the police called on them. The abuser knows their actions inflict pains on their spouse and is not allowed by law, yet they continue because they count on the silent suffering of their spouse.

It is the duty of the abuser to seek counselling, not the abused who already has to put with so much.

@ SunshineD1 and Praia:

I give thumbs up to both of you for your comments. Your comments show that you are very intelligent.

I chose to ignore him (or her as I am not sure of the person's gender) and I will continue to ignore him (or her) no matter the provocations or what he (or she) says. I am remaining silent because of the sayings that: Silence is Wisdom. “Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.”

Boss13:


Oh - I was right on the money to insult him. I also think I was lenient because his advice is DANGEROUS. I would like to ask if you have ever gone for counseling (not church counseling). I mean proper therapy. First, you will understand that you continue to understand and learn more about your partner in a marriage. Therapy and counseling are very important for marriages where partners cannot resolve their issues themselves because a trained independent observer can tell them their faults and how they can resolve them.

Darling trust me - you don't want to get the Police involved. If you feel your marital issues are escalating, please seek counseling and where it doesn't work, seek separation and if separation doesn't fix it, then seek annulment of the marriage. Counseling is great because the TRIGGERS would be identified and whoever is responsible would understand these triggers. Also, some people cannot manage stress properly. Hence, those stress indicators would also be identified.

This is my advice on this - It is up to you. I know Nigerian families regretting bitterly. Many are ignorant about the process, the length of the process, the financial implications, the emotional stress, the justice system and wished they had simply resolved their problems themselves or even gone for counseling. However, at this point - it is out of the hands of the Police and the Crown was take its position. Some victims have written lengthy and continuous letters to Victims Office to discontinue the case and made numerous calls to the Crown. You do not want to be in that position.

If the advice was not a dangerous one, I won't say a word.

I have never had cause to go for counseling. I'm not an abusive person.

I do not let anger take control of me so much that I begin to rain abuses on people, let alone a partner. So, I am not verbally abusive either.

I still maintain that it is the duty of the abuser (verbal, physical and otherwise) to seek counselling and not place the burden on their victim.

Lest I forget, the word TRIGGER in abuse is a manipulative term under which the abuser hides, hoping to absolve him of responsibility for his actions. The only person responsible for abuse is the abuser.

Boss13:


It is not your marriage. Don't express an opinion. Marriage is sacred and I stay clear of expressing opinions on people's marriage except when called. You want to know why? I don't think you would be comfortable with people who know nothing about you or your marriage express an opinion on it regardless of the circumstances.

Respect other people's marriages.

My respect of their marriage (or lack of it) is not the problem here.

Tomorrow is Monday. I'll be going to work. I do not have to worry about background checks or not being able to visit the US, neither do I have to hustle money for a lawyer to wipe out a criminal record.

The abuser on the other hand, is not going to be having a pleasant Monday, and it's certainly not due to my opinion of their marriage.

Lol these are the people that counsel people to stay in abusive marriages because marriage is the beginning and end of the world. I'm glad and soooo grateful to be in a country where there is ZERO tolerance for abuse.

H'abroad through the eyes of a village boy. (Landing Gist)


PPR landed in January and for an unknown reason I decided to wait till April before traveling. Little did I know that China had other plans for me. Covid broke out and the government decided to shut her airports 2 weeks before my japa date. I wasn't too bothered cos I thought it was going to last for a month but one month became two then three. After realizing that the government's intention is to fail me one last time, I decided to join different evacuation flight groups. The first one I joined was that of 2500 dolls Immediately, I knew that flight wasn't meant for me or else POF will laccident. I chilled hoping fares will get cheaper. Truly, it became cheaper but still expensive for a broke ass dude like me. Then finally I was able to reroute my ticket to Cotonou, Paid extra money and Also paid overland airlines to take my group members to cotonou. That was how I left my father's land like a fugitive going to seek asylum in Canada my home country.

As a village boy that I am, I was more interested in experiencing my first plane experience when others just wanted to get to Canada. I had vowed to take as many pictures as possible but my battery failed me at a time.

Overland plane was small with little leg space. Before I could settle in to start taking pictures the pilot announced we were landing in 5 minutes. Shoo... 150k flight ended in 20 minutes, I must collect my change from those people.

Cotonou's airport was small and looked like a lagos luxury bus park. No efizzy, no international Airport feeling no wifi. At the ET counter we got a shocker of our lives, our land luggage must be checked in and must not exceed 7kg and our backpack must only have laptop in it, the language barrier also dealt with us cos the officers were French-speaking who were trying to communicate in English.
My backpack and hand luggage weighed a total of 16kg, I reqkized4 I was going to pay for the extra weight when they started weighing our hand luggage and backpack. I offloaded everything in one of my checked in bags and paid 60 usd for it. Some families paid upto 700 dolls just for their extra luggage... E be things o

We boarded and the plane was quite full, I sat at the last row by the aisle close to the kitchen. It seems they knew how much I like to eat before putting me there. I ensured nothing passed me by..... From water to juice to wine to beer to coffee. I had planned to eat everything that passed me by which I did, I kept Flagyl in my pocket incase my village people decided to use food to get me.

The flight to Addis Ababa was uneventful, no in-flight entertainment, no wifi just food and pretty hostesses. I kept looking out of the window trying to catch a glimpse of the scenery, it got to a time the man at the window seat asked me if I would like to exchange seats with him, I declined cos I didn't want to miss out on anything shared by the hostesses.

Touch down Addis Ababa and cold greeted me. I had my jacket in my bag but decided to form hard guy hard guy,my hardness became soft when a lady who clearly saw me shivering had to ask me why I was suffering myself. I thought I could withstand anything but my body failed me.

We wandered around the airport for a while before we got lodged in a 5 star Ethiopian airline hotel cos the next flight was 22 hours away.

The skylight hotel is indeed 5 star, it war my favorite part of the whole journey. I got my key card and went straight to my room. I opened the door and 2 king sized bed were looking at me... Shuuu... Me wey dey sleep for 3 and a half bunk bed go come sleep for two beds....This is indeed the H'abroad life. Trust ur boy na, I made sure I slept on the two beds at the same time.... I scattered myself everywhere. The weather was still cold even indoors, I took a warm bath and got under the duvet.

To be continued

Canny19:
H'abroad through the eyes of a village boy. (Landing Gist)


To be continued

Next morning, I called the kitchen and ordered for breakfast, the lady at the other end mentioned what was available for breakfast.. Aswear I didn't hear a thing she said, I only heard sausage and I said I wanted it, she asked what I wanted with it and I said whatever you people put with sausage should be added.. I can't be stressing my brain on a food I know nothing about. After 20 minutes I got a knock and the food came in..... I was confused where to start from but aswear life is good with good food mhen.
I slept off immediately after the food and woke around 4, I immediately dialed the kitchen for lunch but I was told lunch time was over except if I wanted to buy.. Buy kini? Is that why we are here? Abeg, I'm not hungry again. I carefully asked when dinner was going to be ready and I was told 6.30. Few minutes to 6.30 I picked up the phone to order fast before affliction go rise the second time. The lady told me what was available for dinner and again I didn't hear a thing...all I heard was broccoli... So I said she should gimme the food with the broccoli. 30 minutes later, food came in and it looked confusing again. I so much like confusing foods.... I settled in and started eating it.... Truly, butter isn't monkey's food o.(butter onshe ounje obo) I tasted the broccoli and I hated myself for it. I wasn't brought up to be wasteful so I gathered boldness and started swallowing them.

The meal was good, I relaxed by watching a football match and that's how I completely lost track
Of time. I was on my King sized bed when a call came in from the reception asking if I don't plan to leave their hotel again. Apparently my group members looked for me and none knew my room number so they left me st the hotel and asked the receptionists to fetch me out from wherever I was hiding... My village people wanted me to miss my flight but God pass them. I jumped out of bed, took my Kaya and hurriedly left the room. Got to the reception and the receptionists were low-key shaking head for me. I had to wait for the shuttle bus to come take me to the airport m. I got to the airport and my group members bombarded me with a lot of questions asking if I over slept or just lost track of time.... I told them I felt the hotel was Canada �

Boarding time came and the plane was a whole lot bigger buy almost half empty. Most people had a full row to themselves. Ethiopian airline decided to trick us into believing that there would be in-flight entertainment. The screens were working, people had already started getting comfy with the screens with some trying to choose movies while others like me just wanted to check out their Playlists. That's how flight started and the screens went blank o. Could see the disappointments and anger in people's faces but no one to complain to. Everyone adjusted their seats and stretched their bodies.

Through out the entire duration of the flight, the hostesses bombarded us with foods.... We were served a nameless but delicious food twice with a whole lot of juice, alcohol, coffee and snacks to go with it.

Finally we landed in Toronto, the weather was good and documents checks and everything went fast. I didn't spend upto 10 minutes getting my copr stamped and hearing the much awaited welcome to Canada phrase. I wasn't even asked for my POF or what my quarantine plan was. The officer just went on reading my rights to me... abeg free me, na only welcome to Canada I wan hear.

I got my bags and checked them in for the last leg of the flight. Waited for close to 5 hours for the last leg, fortunately there was wifi which was not available all thru our 22 hours stay in Addis Ababa. (the govt shut down the country's internet due to their political crises)
The last leg to Edmonton was rough, the turbulence was much. I began ti wonder what was happening. Even the longer flights from cotonou to Addis then from Addis to Toronto didn't suffer a turbulence this much.

To be continued

Canny19:


To be continued

The cute lady beside me slept for the better part of the journey while I was finding it hard to sleep. I was calm tho cos I got TCC (travel clearance certificate) from my village ppl and they already promised not to follow me to Canada. So I had nothing to worry about.

Landed in Edmonton and saw that one of my checked in bags was ripped. I wasn't surprised tho cos the bag had a whole lot of orisirisi and panti foodstuffs.
Stepped out of the airport and was greeted with cold but I decided not to use my jacket, I got shocked when my host came wearing armless and said the weather was warm... Ki lo warm exactly? Are you people playing me ni? It was at that moment I started dreading winter. As I type this, my jacket is on while people are wearing pants n bra outside my window ��

I'm settling in quite well even tho I'm still in shock how 10pm can be looking like 4pm and 5am be looking like 9am. There's no way one can predict the time by looking outside in this country.

It's time to start 'living life' as opposed to just 'merely existing' in Nigeria

I'm finally HOME. 10/7/20
Home is where an average person can afford 3 square meals per day. Home is where security is well guaranteed. Home is where there is no huge discrepancy between the rich and the poor. Home is where our resources and funds are not being embezzled by our corrupt leaders . Home is where there are job provisions for graduates. HOME is where there is HOPE!! Home is, home is, home is, home is.................. CANADA
Have a dream and work towards making it a reality.

NB: Ignore the errors cos I hate proofreading, I bet that's why I wrote IELTS twice

Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

Boss13:
^^^^^^

You made a dangerous ignorant comment and tried to justify yourself that you stick to your comment. A comment expressed ignorantly and depicts the stupidity of your reasoning and cognitive ability. A comment that destroys families. Like they say people just dish out opinions on social media because they are remote from the situation or don't know people involved.

I know three (3) families going through a hard time because of this. I wish this was not social media maybe I will take you to see them first hand and witness their pains. You think it is to open your mouth for likes on faceless fora or social media or to feel important to strangers. Imagine this FOOL. Do you think I responded to trigger you? I don't know you and I hope to know you so I won't care about you. People's lives have been destroyed. THEIR CHILDREN ARE IN FOSTER CARE IDIOT. Do you know what this means? I wish you to face it firsthand. What wisdom do you have when you speak of things you do not know.

Your comment upsets me because I know people suffering from their mistakes or ignorance yet you want to further spread ignorance. A lot of Nigerians read this thread. You should be deleting the comment. You are not a lawyer, you know nothing about the justice system, you have not seen victims or heard from victims involved. HOW DARE YOU SPEAK ON A TOPIC YOU ARE IGNORANT ABOUT. HOW DARE YOU

are you the person in question ?
obviously you're the abusive type.
your comment shows how emotionally unintelligent you are.
you would have passed a bucket load of "useful" advise ( in your world)
but you choose to further emphasize your level of being uncouth.
YOU NEED THERAPY

Canny19:



It's time to start 'living life' as opposed to just 'merely existing' in Nigeria

I'm finally HOME. 10/7/20
Home is where an average person can afford 3 square meals per day. Home is where security is well guaranteed. Home is where there is no huge discrepancy between the rich and the poor. Home is where our resources and funds are not being embezzled by our corrupt leaders . Home is where there are job provisions for graduates. HOME is where there is HOPE!! Home is, home is, home is, home is.................. CANADA
Have a dream and work towards making it a reality.

NB: Ignore the errors cos I hate proofreading, I bet that's why I wrote IELTS twice

Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

You must be a comedian cos u literally cracked me up .. Congratulations and welcome HOME. I'm yet to join y'all but it is sure insha allah.. Enjoy

Canny19:


The cute lady beside me slept for the better part of the journey while I was finding it hard to sleep. I was calm tho cos I got TCC (travel clearance certificate) from my village ppl and they already promised not to follow me to Canada. So I had nothing to worry about.

Landed in Edmonton and saw that one of my checked in bags was ripped. I wasn't surprised tho cos the bag had a whole lot of orisirisi and panti foodstuffs.
Stepped out of the airport and was greeted with cold but I decided not to use my jacket, I got shocked when my host came wearing armless and said the weather was warm... Ki lo warm exactly? Are you people playing me ni? It was at that moment I started dreading winter. As I type this, my jacket is on while people are wearing pants n bra outside my window ��

I'm settling in quite well even tho I'm still in shock how 10pm can be looking like 4pm and 5am be looking like 9am. There's no way one can predict the time by looking outside in this country.

It's time to start 'living life' as opposed to just 'merely existing' in Nigeria

I'm finally HOME. 10/7/20
Home is where an average person can afford 3 square meals per day. Home is where security is well guaranteed. Home is where there is no huge discrepancy between the rich and the poor. Home is where our resources and funds are not being embezzled by our corrupt leaders . Home is where there are job provisions for graduates. HOME is where there is HOPE!! Home is, home is, home is, home is.................. CANADA
Have a dream and work towards making it a reality.

NB: Ignore the errors cos I hate proofreading, I bet that's why I wrote IELTS twice

Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

Awww ....bless you. Welcome home, fellow Canadian.

Canny19:
H'abroad through the eyes of a village boy. (Landing Gist)


PPR landed in January and for an unknown reason I decided to wait till April before traveling. Little did I know that China had other plans for me. Covid broke out and the government decided to shut her airports 2 weeks before my japa date. I wasn't too bothered cos I thought it was going to last for a month but one month became two then three. After realizing that the government's intention is to fail me one last time, I decided to join different evacuation flight groups. The first one I joined was that of 2500 dolls Immediately, I knew that flight wasn't meant for me or else POF will laccident. I chilled hoping fares will get cheaper. Truly, it became cheaper but still expensive for a broke ass dude like me. Then finally I was able to reroute my ticket to Cotonou, Paid extra money and Also paid overland airlines to take my group members to cotonou. That was how I left my father's land like a fugitive going to seek asylum in Canada my home country.

As a village boy that I am, I was more interested in experiencing my first plane experience when others just wanted to get to Canada. I had vowed to take as many pictures as possible but my battery failed me at a time.

Overland plane was small with little leg space. Before I could settle in to start taking pictures the pilot announced we were landing in 5 minutes. Shoo... 150k flight ended in 20 minutes, I must collect my change from those people.

Cotonou's airport was small and looked like a lagos luxury bus park. No efizzy, no international Airport feeling no wifi. At the ET counter we got a shocker of our lives, our land luggage must be checked in and must not exceed 7kg and our backpack must only have laptop in it, the language barrier also dealt with us cos the officers were French-speaking who were trying to communicate in English.
My backpack and hand luggage weighed a total of 16kg, I reqkized4 I was going to pay for the extra weight when they started weighing our hand luggage and backpack. I offloaded everything in one of my checked in bags and paid 60 usd for it. Some families paid upto 700 dolls just for their extra luggage... E be things o

We boarded and the plane was quite full, I sat at the last row by the aisle close to the kitchen. It seems they knew how much I like to eat before putting me there. I ensured nothing passed me by..... From water to juice to wine to beer to coffee. I had planned to eat everything that passed me by which I did, I kept Flagyl in my pocket incase my village people decided to use food to get me.

The flight to Addis Ababa was uneventful, no in-flight entertainment, no wifi just food and pretty hostesses. I kept looking out of the window trying to catch a glimpse of the scenery, it got to a time the man at the window seat asked me if I would like to exchange seats with him, I declined cos I didn't want to miss out on anything shared by the hostesses.

Touch down Addis Ababa and cold greeted me. I had my jacket in my bag but decided to form hard guy hard guy,my hardness became soft when a lady who clearly saw me shivering had to ask me why I was suffering myself. I thought I could withstand anything but my body failed me.

We wandered around the airport for a while before we got lodged in a 5 star Ethiopian airline hotel cos the next flight was 22 hours away.

The skylight hotel is indeed 5 star, it war my favorite part of the whole journey. I got my key card and went straight to my room. I opened the door and 2 king sized bed were looking at me... Shuuu... Me wey dey sleep for 3 and a half bunk bed go come sleep for two beds....This is indeed the H'abroad life. Trust ur boy na, I made sure I slept on the two beds at the same time.... I scattered myself everywhere. The weather was still cold even indoors, I took a warm bath and got under the duvet.

To be continued

you dey here too lol. congrats once again

ednut1:
you dey here too lol. congrats once again

Ak I dey o!

Canny19:



Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

Welcome home

Canny19:


The cute lady beside me slept for the better part of the journey while I was finding it hard to sleep. I was calm tho cos I got TCC (travel clearance certificate) from my village ppl and they already promised not to follow me to Canada. So I had nothing to worry about.

Landed in Edmonton and saw that one of my checked in bags was ripped. I wasn't surprised tho cos the bag had a whole lot of orisirisi and panti foodstuffs.
Stepped out of the airport and was greeted with cold but I decided not to use my jacket, I got shocked when my host came wearing armless and said the weather was warm... Ki lo warm exactly? Are you people playing me ni? It was at that moment I started dreading winter. As I type this, my jacket is on while people are wearing pants n bra outside my window ��

I'm settling in quite well even tho I'm still in shock how 10pm can be looking like 4pm and 5am be looking like 9am. There's no way one can predict the time by looking outside in this country.

It's time to start 'living life' as opposed to just 'merely existing' in Nigeria

I'm finally HOME. 10/7/20
Home is where an average person can afford 3 square meals per day. Home is where security is well guaranteed. Home is where there is no huge discrepancy between the rich and the poor. Home is where our resources and funds are not being embezzled by our corrupt leaders . Home is where there are job provisions for graduates. HOME is where there is HOPE!! Home is, home is, home is, home is.................. CANADA
Have a dream and work towards making it a reality.

NB: Ignore the errors cos I hate proofreading, I bet that's why I wrote IELTS twice

Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

Bro we dey wait for your thread ooo..
No disappoint us oo
cc: Hadampson take this man to the permanent site

Canny19:
Please who has done any of these courses and which of them do you think pays more in Canada? And does it make sense for PR holders to get student loans to pursue full time courses or diploma courses as the case may be. Thanks

Did I still do this course??
Which professional course did u do to add to your 2 or more cert.?

What a hilarious read . May your new home favour you.

Canny19:
H'abroad through the eyes of a village boy. (Landing Gist)

To be continued

What!!!. I've been laughing uncontrollably

Canny19:

The meal was good, I relaxed by watching a football match and that's how I completely lost track
Of time. I was on my King sized bed when a call came in from the reception asking if I don't plan to leave their hotel again. Apparently my group members looked for me and none knew my room number so they left me st the hotel and asked the receptionists to fetch me out from wherever I was hiding... My village people wanted me to miss my flight but God pass them. I jumped out of bed, took my Kaya and hurriedly left the room. Got to the reception and the receptionists were low-key shaking head for me. I had to wait for the shuttle bus to come take me to the airport m. I got to the airport and my group members bombarded me with a lot of questions asking if I over slept or just lost track of time.... I told them I felt the hotel was Canada �

To be continued

Richdee1:


Bro we dey wait for your thread ooo..
No disappoint us oo
cc: Hadampson take this man to the permanent site

Abeg abeg, let me hide my head.


Thanks everyone

NaijaCanadian28

That's a terrible experience for your friend. The system has setup the family for imminent collapse and if they're not careful it will end in tears.

Just like Boss13 said, there is no winner in any abusive relationship except the government and police who would collect promotion on top Una head. All those women planning to show their husbands hell when they travel abroad because they are no longer in Nigeria should be careful. I hope they see this.

@Canny19 welcome! And thanks got such a Fab landing gist. You made my morning commute.

Fizzywah:


On the flip side too, men have stories to tell. My candid advice is as married couples whatever differences you have back home, please and please settle them thoroughly before coming here.
A few words:

1. For the men, start getting used to doing domestic chores. No maid / house help here. I bathe my kids, get them ready for school when madam has to go to work early in the morning. She picks them up alternatively. Ego will ruin you ( both man and woman). Leave it behind.

2. Women will quickly learn a lot of laws were made here to defend them. Alternatively those same laws easily tear down marriages and it's not just African ones, a lot of Immigrants see their marriages hitting the rocks soon after coming here.

3. Some Ladies and NOT all please, usually love the idea of the benefits of living here in Canada, but hate the responsibilities that come with it.
They still prefer the largess of living in Naija and not having to contribute towards getting things done financially. Why you may ask? Everyone is treated equally here. There is no problem in adopting our African values here if you and your spouse agree. But if the man cleans, cooks, etc then the lady should also contribute in her own way. While this isn't a standard, it might be seen as the sensible thing to do. This is often a slippery topic to discuss but trust me, settle yourselves, and have a written upon and agreed-upon code of conduct before you arrive.

4. Do not have arguments in front of your kids. My 5-year-old possesses a vocabulary to what I could muster at that age as over here they are taught to think independently and express themselves very well.

5. Do not punish yourselves when you have arguments. The police here will help you on the fast track of regrets. Of course, if there is a fear of harm, then please walk away.

6. Just how folks get marriage counseling before marriage, coming to Canada deserves its own session for families coming here. It baffles me when they just show up without any plan on how to Navigate this country.

7. I am still learning and have had to learn some of these lessons the hard way. Mostly by the experience of others and a few times personally.

8. This last one is hard for me to say. Most ladies come here on revenge missions and sadly it's due to some sort of perceived abuse from back home. You see, over here anyone is free to do as they want and if you're the controlling type you'll be in for a big surprise.


Overall sha, use your tongue and count your teeth. Have a solid plan. Repair your marriage. Ask how things are over here. Assume very little.

You are a wise man. God bless you.

legionISproteus:
NaijaCanadian28

That's a terrible experience for your friend. The system has setup the family for imminent collapse and if they're not careful it will end in tears.

Just like Boss13 said, there is no winner in any abusive relationship except the government and police who would collect promotion on top Una head. All those women planning to show their husbands hell when they travel abroad because they are no longer in Nigeria should be careful. I hope they see this.

Typical gaslighting.Is it the system that raises hands for a partner to be beaten up? Is it the system that causes a partner to batter a person's mind relentlessly?
The family has already been destroyed by the abuser so why is the government being blamed?

Abuse is abuse,there's no IF ,AND or BUT.

The person benefitting from the police being called is the one who has suffered emotional, physical or psychological damage and rightly so.

A person who is able to get away from an abusive partner should be congratulated for being strong enough to leave.

Children suffer so much damage by watching their parents go at each other constantly, you produce unhappy children who repeat the same cycle thinking it is normal.

If a woman or man decides to use Canada as an opportunity to revenge,it's not anyone's place to chastise them. Do you know what they suffered?

If you treat a whole human being like shit for years and years and they bear it because of being in the Nigerian society,when they move to Canada and see they deserve better,it's only expected that the person will act out.

The guilt does NOT lie at the foot of the abused!

All these una statements are the reason why people die in abusive situations..There is only so much that a human being can take without breaking down.

Anyone who is abused should seek counseling for themselves to gather strength to move on.It is not your job to hold brief for your abuser.

You deserve better,your children deserve to grow up in a healthy happy home.

oseoji:



The person benefitting from the police being called is the one who has suffered emotional, physical or psychological damage and rightly so.

A person who is able to get away from an abusive partner should be congratulated for being strong enough

Sincerely I'm trying to imagine. Someone who had the liver to slap his wife in Canada. Only God knows the kind of intense beating he's been giving her in Nigeria. Might not be the case sha o, but na so my imagination carry am.

oseoji:


Typical gaslighting.Is it the system that raises hands for a partner to be beaten up? Is it the system that causes a partner to batter a person's mind relentlessly?
The family has already been destroyed by the abuser so why is the government being blamed?

Abuse is abuse,there's no IF ,AND or BUT.

The person benefitting from the police being called is the one who has suffered emotional, physical or psychological damage and rightly so.

A person who is able to get away from an abusive partner should be congratulated for being strong enough to leave.

Children suffer so much damage by watching their parents go at each other constantly, you produce unhappy children who repeat the same cycle thinking it is normal.

If a woman or man decides to use Canada as an opportunity to revenge,it's not anyone's place to chastise them. Do you know what they suffered?

If you treat a whole human being like shit for years and years and they bear it because of being in the Nigerian society,when they move to Canada and see they deserve better,it's only expected that the person will act out.

The guilt does NOT lie at the foot of the abused!

All these una statements are the reason why people die in abusive situations..There is only so much that a human being can take without breaking down.

Anyone who is abused should seek counseling for themselves to gather strength to move on.It is not your job to hold brief for your abuser.

You deserve better,your children deserve to grow up in a healthy happy home.

Couldn't have said it any better.
Stop supporting abusers. Help the abused and let us teach our children now that abusive behaviour towards women isn't tolerated and is very wrong. Too much rubbish is allowed to thrive in Nigeria because we've been indoctrinated to believe it's okay. Thankfully, nations like Canada have robust laws that protect everyone's rights and those laws are actually enforced. Either you act right or you face the law. Shekena

Canny19:


The cute lady beside me slept for the better part of the journey while I was finding it hard to sleep. I was calm

I'm finally HOME. 10/7/20
Home is where an average person can afford 3 square meals per day. Home is where security is well guaranteed. Home is where there is no huge discrepancy between the rich and the poor. Home is where our resources and funds are not being embezzled by our corrupt leaders . Home is where there are job provisions for graduates. HOME is where there is HOPE!! Home is, home is, home is, home is.................. CANADA
Have a dream and work towards making it a reality.

NB: Ignore the errors cos I hate proofreading, I bet that's why I wrote IELTS twice

Big shout outs to those who made this happen.

This was a joy to read. Thank you for making me smile. Welcome home and flourish.

Good day people.

1. Please has anyone had his / her expired PR validated or extended? Is there a clear process or timeline for renewal? Do we have to redo medicals?
PS: This information isnt on their website and even though we'll notify as instructed via webform, I just want to be prepared.

2. Can anyone point me in the direction of any Whatsapp group arranging flights out of Nigeria to Canada?

Thank you.