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Kiddo01:
Hello fellow NL, thank God it's Friday. Happy weekend to everyone.
I grew up in a family where my dad is seem to be *STINGY*, he finds it difficult to render financial assistance to us his children, except providing the the necessary feeding in the house. He sales bicycle spare parts and I happened to be the closest of all of the children. I removed few spare parts which I sold to some customers unknown to him, just to assist my self . In 2009,he sent me to the city to learn a trade where I lived with my boss , which to me seem to be near hell since I hardly feed.
To cut the story short, the few goods I removed from His goods were what helped me each time I'm at home, I sell them within #500 to #1000 to help assist me in feeding and other minor expenses as an apprentice. Until I completed the work and left my boss in 2011, few goods (of not more than #3000) were left in my room . Just yesterday, my little nephew who had no knowledge of the goods was cleaning up the room and saw the goods and sent them to my dad.
I don't know how to defend myself, because one of my brother told me he reported to him that I stole his goods. The age long relationship and reputation I've built with him is about to end .
How do I explain the source of the goods, what will I tell him because he is waiting for me to come home and explain the owner of the goods found in my room

The truth is that your father trusted you and you betrayed his trust.
Call it whatever you want, but the truth is you STOLE from your father. It does not matter if the goods cost much or little.
What are you really worried about? That you'll no longer be his "preferred child"?
What you really need to be concerned about is how to get your father to forgive you for betraying his trust. Dude you deceived your old man!
Admit that you took his goods and ask for forgiveness. Simple!
If you were smart in the first place, you would've known how to go about these things without stealing from your dad.

GuestLog:
Papa! It was the only way I could feed. I'm sorry but I had to survive.

Papa: Why didn't you ask me? Did I ever deny you of anything?

Artiiclebeast:
Google the meaning of a thief my small brother.

Stealing means, for one to take what does not belong to him and keep it thereby depriving the original owner of what rightfully belongs to him.

You take your papa parts, go hide dem for your room begin sell them one by one begin tell me say you no be thief.

I sorry for you

Guy, take am easy na
Na "take" him take the parts, him no kill person

NerdyRudeGyal:
Re. Your nephew:
Ok, he's 11, but an 11-year old isn't a toddler. He was in your room + found the spare parts in your room, therefore, he should've spoken to you. He didn't only tell your Dad but sent him the bag, lol. Kids aren't dumb. If your Dad is as strict as you say, he probably wanted to be on his good side by telling on you + sending him the bag.

Re. Your Dad:
This happened in 2009. You should be older now and should be man enough to face him to speak with him about what happened + apologize. He too should be understanding enough to forgive. However, because you're so filled with fear for him, write him a letter explaining your actions + apologizing. You say he's resentful and if he wants to resent you over something he shouldn't be resentful about, that's his choice. He will obviously not change if he's still "strict", "stingy" and "resentful" that even your mom is afraid of him, so face front and live your life and stop worrying about what he thinks and this useless reputation.

Thanks. Easier said than done

mariahAngel:
The truth is that your father trusted you and you betrayed his trust.
Call it whatever you want, but the truth is you STOLE from your father. It does not matter if the goods cost much or little.
What are you really worried about? That you'll no longer be his "preferred child"?
What you really need to be concerned about is how to get your father to forgive you for betraying his trust. Dude you deceived your old man!
Admit that you took his goods and ask for forgiveness. Simple!
If you were smart in the first place, you would've known how to go about these things without stealing from your dad.

Lol, You Seem to be strict and direct than my dad, anyway, I've heard you.
Just as you said, he felt I've betrayed the trust reposed on me that's my concern

Kiddo01:
Yeah, the room has been locked up until now, because my little nephew wants to be staying in the room since I've not been home

how old are you? just tell him you brought the goods for someone who ask for it many years ago. but the person didn't buy and you forgot to returned it. he should know if its new or old goods.

fineboynl:
how old are you? just tell him you brought the goods for someone who ask for it many years ago. but the person didn't buy and you forgot to returned it. he should know if its new or old goods.

You're advising to lie to his dad on top of everything? That's not cool. It's cowardice.
What's the worst that can happen if he comes clean? It's not like his dad will disown him.

@Kiddo01, be a man and come clean.

mariahAngel:
You're advising to lie to his dad on top of everything? That's not cool. It's cowardice.
What's the worst that can happen if he comes clean? It's not like his dad will disown him.

@Kiddo01, be a man and come clean.

Thanks my brother from another mother, your advice is not far from the truth