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Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:13pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
My brother don’t ever wonder how a poor fellow gets erection. The Penis is the most irrational and illiterate part of the human body, always standing when it should sit or even lay flat. That’s why Poor Man = 12 Children and Rich Man = 3 Children. Free Toto and cheap alcohol is the only pleasure a poor man can afford. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
seguno2: Eggxactily 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
viceddy95: Gbas gbos |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by seguno2: 1:15pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
merieam16: What terrible philosophy that glorifies poverty is this? Societies work to NOT have many poor people, but you are talking about the poor will always be with us? What nonsense 6 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Ademoore07(m): 1:16pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Nice write up, man. I hope to share my story on this platform. What i passed through before making it despite calls for me to get married by fire by force. 4 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Musty112: 1:17pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
17.31. Do not kill your children for fear of poverty; it is We Who provide for them as well as for you. Killing them is surely a grave sin. Marriage is never a reason for poverty. Just use your brain, u might not be rich but you will be mildly comfortable in the least. The God that created you has created what you will eat until ur death. That guy could use that same energy to find menial things to do |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by pocohantas(f): 1:17pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Klass99: Just give them time, they’ll say the same thing you have been saying. However, it won’t be emotions or feminism- it will be hardcore logic this time. 3 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Poseidon000:What's the point of the "big" words which hardly fit into the sentences and completely detract from the several points you are trying to make? To sound educated? Failed woefully! If you want to use "big" words, at least you should know what you are doing. Couldn't even read your write-up. 7 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by pocohantas(f): 1:19pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
jornwhite: 38 actually, but then, my mum is in her 40s and I am not even the first child. I hope that makes you sleep better this night. Nah, the wait doesn’t have to be long. That is why we have so many tales of how some ex left you all and married 3weeks later. I know that was a bitter pill to swallow. Use ChiExotic to push it down. Cutie 4 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by chiol: 1:19pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Freeeanijor: My advice was for those between 30 and 40 years with sources of income. For you, don't marry, continue planning till you retire. Wait until you have billions in your account. We are still in Nigeria. If you like, continue behaving like the whites. Their countries have plans for them at old age, whether they have children or not but your country has no plans for you. Get a family and train your children well. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Purplekush:Poseidon000 Take this advice seriously. Although there are pure hearted people in genuine need, a good number also specialize in biting the fingers that fed them, repaying evil for good and general envy. I would advocate anonymous help/ helping from afar. Someone very close to me had a very ugly experience helping others and he is yet to recover. People get killed by people they give money to frequently. 4 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by SeriouslySense(m): 1:21pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
hmm Purplekush: |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by ledaman: 1:21pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
francesco01:Who mumu pass amongst you now?attacking Another religion just educate the lady not attacking Islam. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Chris525: 1:22pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
How is marriage responsible for his predicament? Even marriage is a victim here. Whether you marry with 1bn or 1k, anyone could still lick the dust when life pops. His orientation/mentality needs to change, thats all. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Asour: 1:24pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Purplekush: True. But then again real robbers don't need to be given lift to disposses people of their things. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:25pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
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Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:27pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
I feel you. as it is often the case, people cave under under societal pressures and expectations. it's sad but also an indictment on the our personal resolve or lack thereof. personally, I'd never think of getting hooked with a person until I can take care of myself, a wife and a child. talking about a child, the problem extends into childbearing because you see people, already strained financially by marriage, going on to have multiple kids ranging from three to five. that's stupid and ultimately selfish because your inability to care for your wards would take its toll on the society i.e crime, homelessness, dwarfed human capital etc. while we're at this, I should mention that sometimes the unfortunate situation of losing one's means of livelihood after marriage may occur and there's really not a lot of ways to handle that situation to a positive outcome. as such, while married, even when comfortable, keep a fair margin of error for exigencies i.e don't take on too many responsibilities (i.e children) that would hamper your savings for the rainy day. if earning a decent 100K monthly, there's really no reason to do more than a kid. many of us didn't come from much; we had little growing up but with good planning in marriage, we can have one or two kids and provide comfortable care for them (decent schools, money for self-development in gaining skills etc). don't play yourself - marriage doesn't come with pre-installed financial bliss. if you must get married from little, do but don't strain your little by assuming responsibilities for selfish and self-obsessive reasons of wanting to be parents like everyone else. if you find a wife earning 50K, get married but you don't have to bear kids immediately - save for two year towards childbearing and until you see a significant surge in your income, don't have another kid. STOP AT TWO WHEN YOU GET AN INCREASE IN WAGES. be responsible; give birth to kids you can care for - don't leave everything to chance and providence. with little money, you can have a fine marriage as long as you don't take on more than you can manage. 15 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:28pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
pafo:Stop derailing this thread! |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by jaxxy(m): 1:28pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Lol longthing and 2 much talk. It takes 2 to tango and 2 broke ass people can’t get married unless u both have a plan to sustain urselves within ur level of comfort or hardship as the case may be. 1 Like |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by OhiOfIhima: 1:29pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Thanks alot guy.... Many people believed been married will give ways for success and co. Many of us experience this societal unbalanced, I always look back n see those who were on factory job and took wife many years ago, when d company fold up or staff laid off, it wasn't funny for them. That make me to take lots of precautionary measure b4 man dig in.. May God help us all.. Amiin 2 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by dangoteinlaw: 1:29pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
chinchonglee:lmao @ "grow together" We know them nah, they are so bitter whenever they see good things online, they are on nairaland coz they can't afford instagram. They see evey rich ppl as the cause of their misfortune. Societal pressure has dumped so many youths with good potentials tha could have made this country great and now their life's done. Their achievements is their kids only and the future of this country has been prosponeed to another 3decades in darkness. Nigeria youths need overall enlightenment, they should take this country away from the old leaders and build it but how can they do that when by the age they suppose to take their studies seriously they start chasing what's bot chasing them. 7 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
ComeAndobo:He isn't good with words. Don't be deceived. This is your usual Nigerian who believes throwing "big" words about should make him sound educated. The words hardly made any sense in the context they were used. 9 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Coolcalmcollect(m): 1:30pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Poseidon000:so you gave a guy you gave a lift 10k cos of some sob story... smh maga, you've been scammed ..... he told me same sob story but have him 100 |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by ledaman: 1:30pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Different strokes for different folks! Marriage is a blessing but having nothing to feed ur family with it would amount to Mega disaster. What about people that has something doing and were sacked along the line, will you say they didn't plan? or people that has nothing but they were favoured by His grace with wonderful job along the line, it takes the Grace of Almighty God to be successful in life but as a man you must have a blueprint of what you what in life. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by olajonzin(m): 1:31pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
DAT remind me dat year I got a woman pregnant... though I was a little financial buoyant.. if I could remember ...I still 250k in my account... but I still believe i not have not arrive with DAT money I have in my account... cos I don't kwn what the future hold for me ...thank God the girl had to tell me DAT she does not want the baby...I don't what she use that got pregnancy terminated...DAT. .what got us separated...but...as time goes on ...I got broke...then I started begging for two hundred to feed...cos it was so down on me..so I wonder if she had keep baby then maybe ..I would be thinking of commiting suicide but..I thank God now 7 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by dangoteinlaw: 1:31pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
kestolove95:I swear one man was quoting that same thung behind me not long ago, i felt like punching him but i just turn on my airpod and looked elsewhere. Those airpods saved him. 1 Like |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Asour: 1:32pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Prof0fficial: People that have families can be alone too. One's family can also be lost too. I know families that, well, aren't "bonded" most times. And with the world of Virtualization, being alone is merely a matter of choice. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Freeeanijor: 1:33pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
chiol:The more reason you should plan your future to be the one of independent whether children or not. There's no guarantee that you will have children that will cater for you at old age no matter how much you invest in them. When you have an independent mindset, you children will benefit more because you wouldn't be a burden to them. Life happens, you don't know who will kick the bucket first. Don't set yourself up for disappointment at old age. Develop an independent mindset. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by OCHKESTINE(m): 1:34pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Poseidon000: You have spoken well so far, but however, I'd like to state that "People are broke for lack of value creation or financial literacy " and not because of marriage! When I was single, I lack money to do stuffs. I am married and never go broke. When I think of a need, the supply comes. One- because I believe in God to supply and Two- because I am hardworking. So please, The guy u helped or your friend that is broke got their priorities wrong. Marriage has nothing to do with ur story. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by lisa286: 1:34pm On Jul 21, 2020 |
Poseidon000: You are right. There's no point getting married if you both do not have the means of supporting your kids... However some churches will encourage such a marriage telling them that the young man will find favour from God as soon as he gets married. Sadly we forget that there are principles to financial independence. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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