Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

Ah, but Edo and Yoruba people dey entangle wella na

Righteousness89:
If you 2 can Stay away From Fornicating and Pray about it, I Believe Her Parents will Change their minds and Accept you 2..

U right.
But they probably would lhave gone far in it.

Thot one of em na Igbo.

Righteousness89:
If you 2 can Stay away From Fornicating and Pray about it, I Believe Her Parents will Change their minds and Accept you 2..

Hmm.. Its well

I was gonna call the preacher man to preach to ya!!!!

Edo and Yoruba the hate themselves....




That's like igbos and Ikwerres hating themselves

Bro, u can elope with her

Vyzz:
Edo and Yoruba the hate themselves....





That's like igbos and Ikwerres hating themselves


Bro, u can elope with her

Lol.. Not possible

You are a man.
Please act like one.
Today one can get married in a registry.
With time her parents have to come around.
Allot of inter tribal marriages. I am in one myself for over 23 years. We do not even have the same religion.
If your love is strong enough you can take the leap.

Vyzz:
Edo and Yoruba the hate themselves....





That's like igbos and Ikwerres hating themselves


Bro, u can elope with her

I don't know anything about the Igbos hating the Ikwerres, except it's the other way round.

I do know that they hate being classified as Igbos.

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

Whatever decision you decide to take for the two of you, make sure she agrees with you 100% so that she does not blame you later due to unforseen circumstances.
She must consciously make that decision without you influencing her.

Its 50/50

Best to let this go.

You can only go ahead if she assures you she wants to and will cut ties with her people.

But don't elope with her.

If you chose the latter and marry her, and anything happens to her, the family won't take it funny. They may even be behind it.

Marriage is different from wedding. A time will come that she will want to link up with the family again, esp after the children are getting to ages 5-10. And thats when the family can strike.

A family with such primitive mentality and customs should be avoided at all cost. Love is not only emotional but also rational. Don't let emotions overwhelm your intellect.

dingbang:
Ah, but Edo and Yoruba people dey entangle wella na

I was even thinking it's an igbo-Edo relationship, Edo and Yoruba marry all the time.

mutter:
You are a man.
Please act like one.
Today one can get married in a registry.
With time her parents have to come around.
Allot of inter tribal marriages. I am in one myself for over 23 years. We do not even have the same religion.
If your love is strong enough you can take the leap.

OP, dont take this advice, dont marry without her parent's consent, if anything should happen in your marriage, you are on your own.

Nuttella:
I was even thinking it's an igbo-Edo relationship, Edo and Yoruba marry all the time.

yeah very well. The mother sef. Na she know wetin dey piss am off.

dingbang:
yeah very well. The mother sef. Na she know wetin dey piss am off.

And she's the one fueling the whole thing.

Since your parents are in support of you you're halfway there. Just kept trying to convince her parents or get some elders from her family to help y'all out.

This is for the elders to settle. There must be a reason for the hatred.
Also, as righteousness said, prayer works.
I don't think it's wise to get married without parental consent...e get why.
Involve the wise elders in both families and settle with wisdom.

My two cents.

I hate intertribal marriage myself.

Exmilitant:
I hate intertribal marriage myself.

Any particular reason you'd like to share?

0neal:

Any particular reason you'd like to share?

our languages going extinct.

Exmilitant:
our languages going extinct.

Plus, the minority.

Exmilitant:
our languages going extinct.

Intertribal or no intertribal.. Our language seem to be fading away.
Every body wants to be in big cities.
Children no longer interested in speaking languages anymore. Some parents even tell children not to speak.
So its not my case that would be the first.

Las Las,

mariahAngel:

Plus, the minority.

My ikwerre tongue is disappearing.

I dont tink is just tribal issue, der should be sumtin more

That's funny because edo and Yoruba have the same roots . Am from edo , to the extent that in edo north were am from most of us bare purely Yoruba names and speak Yoruba fluently. What part of edo is she from Esan, Bini, Owan and Etsako or Akoko-Edo.Edos and yorubas intermarry a lot.

Ohizman73:
That's funny because edo and Yoruba have the same roots . Am from edo , to the extent that in edo north were am from most of us bare purely Yoruba names and speak Yoruba fluently. What part of edo is she from Esan, Bini, Owan and Etsako or Akoko-Edo.Edos and yorubas intermarry a lot.

Eshan

Africa is a terrible continent. We like to play the victim but in most cases we are the architect of our problem.

A black Nigerian guy can't get married to a girl from another state because of diffrence in language or culture.
What is coming in the future will be worst if we don't change our mentality and hatred towards each other in Nigeria. Just take this forum as a case study.The level of hate is unimaginable.
The funny aspect is that we claim to be very religious. But to practice love and tolerance is far from us.

As for you op,love they say conquers all.You need to have a one on one conversation with your girl.You guys need to be on the same page.So that no one will say you pushed me into this,when life happen.
If you guys are on the same page,stand your ground and let them know its you that wants to live together, not them.

Again,be you Moslem or Christian don't forget to seek the face of God.

Peace has left the world with hatred occupying her place. Nigerians complain that other countries hate them but the problem is that we don't even love ourselves. Tribalism has eaten us deeply beyond remedy.
Op, let go of that girl and move on. Love is not enough for marriage

Ojb194616:



Eshan

Esan people okay now, be prepare