Ajengogo:

It has nothing to do with house chores. I have always made arrangement for house help, besides the elderly kids are really helping out a lot. I have taken time to find out from her, her excuses are always flimsy, like she is in her period (very irregular). I wouldn't know if it is true or not. She can come up with unnecessary excuses. She says, at our age now, we should learn to keep off sex for months or a year. Is this normal

You sure say mama never dey c sb outside or she probably must have gotten infection she's treating which she doesn't want you to get infected as well.

Just try and dig deep more but with care and caution so it doesn't resort to a quarrel you know how woman are good in changing matter.

If you try and it doesn't work then get another wife my brother. After all Islam doesn't kick against having more than one wife. But make sure you explain to your wife the reason for getting anoyher wife since she wants to be without sex for years at her age thereby sending you to your early grave. This is wickedness in my understanding abeg. Likr what kind of excuse is that

I think you have to be more careful with which advice you should consider..... some opinions here are mere joke to me.....

nahzyla:
Your wife does not enjoy sex with you. She doesn't come or does not enjoy it at all. I am sure you knew this already but you did nothing to improve as long as you got your orgasm at the end.
After a while she will start feeling used and irritated at your selfishness and insensitivity and start avoiding you altogether.

You and many married men are guilty of selfish sex.

You should first of all ask him to know if he performs wonderfully well to the satisfaction of his wife..don't just conclude!

Subhanallahi
This is a serious issue

Those saying he should add another wife...do you know his financial capacity providing feeding , clothing and shelter
?

@ OP

I think you need to visit an Islamic Chemist or Therapist.

It could be infections or jinn ashiq which she need Ruqya.

Speak to her waliyy or any of her respected Aunty's or Uncle.

May grant peace,succour and mutual understanding among you.

May Allah bless you and your family aameeen

Alhaji go marry another wife be that o.

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

Lost of libido is what you say can be a result of Jinn? And you have been praying seriously about this? I beg, no vex me this morning. You are one these religious bigots that make people say nonsense about Muslims. Go to hospital, it is as a result of hormonal imbalance. Go to hospital and get treatment. Nonsensical nonsense.

How long have u noticed this sir or better still how long has this been going on? If this behavior is a year old plus then you need to call in her family for an important discussion..since u've tried on ur own several times..

Try to be in control of ur house...if u ask ur wife questions and she answered in a flimsy way in an attempt to dodge the main thing it means there is a lot of silent digging to b done

Secondly, is ur wife the type that naturally doesn't like sex much? the answers to these questions will help. medically or biologically as people grow old sexual libido diminishes..

Talk to her please, don't conclude on having another wife just like that

guy put a lean on the vasiline ... there is no registration fee to join the crew hahahaha


what is sex if not a tool of shaitan ...

anyway I feel your pain ... but you won't get reasonable advice here cus sex is a topic most men can't think clearly about

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

Its no jinn. Its more psychological.

MARRY A SECOND WIFE

Young man something is eating her up... Maybe she was married out at a very tender age as Islam does.... and now she is in pain of what religion put her into.....
or maybe try another means... not just to Bleep and go. be romantic, pre-intimacy, bj and so on.....

womenareapes:
beat her in the Islamic way and force her to have sex with you!

and if she is reluctant, divorce her!



please give your life to Christ Jesus and accept him as your lord and personal saviour.

fools like you are the problems of this nation
Product of rape.

womenareapes:
beat her in the Islamic way and force her to have sex with you!

and if she is reluctant, divorce her!



please give your life to Christ Jesus and accept him as your lord and personal saviour.

Which Christ ?The one that said in surah
Aal-e-Imran 3:51

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ رَبِّى وَرَبُّكُمْ فَٱعْبُدُوهُۗ هَٰذَا صِرَٰطٌ مُّسْتَقِيمٌ

Indeed, Allah is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him. That is the straight path."?

perdollar:
talking about this is Haram. u just av to pretend that all is well. I suspect another mallam wt 14inches is reaching places that ur 3inches can't reach. assalam alekun

MsAllison:
walaka salaka sadaka
amin

lmao

Op, this question is directed to you:
I am a submissive Muslim woman, my husband has a low libido. I have tried to discuss with him but he is always angry about it and frustrated. I have a high libido and I am very frustrated now. What do I do?

Pls don't let the devil wear Prada for your case o. Explore all possible causes of this problem and seek for solution(s). It can be very frustrating but how have you fared for 11 years that it is now you are coming out? My brother, jejely o. God is your strength but sincerely, what have you decided before now?

The question I directed to you is nobody's problem, that I know of, but I believe some women are in this situation and are helpless and suffering. What are we going to tell them when they come out? To go marry another man? To not take for themselves haram what is halal? Or to be patient? Put yourself in her shoes first, try your best to solve this problem. You will be surprised at how happy your marriage will be. All the best
Assalamu alykum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu.

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

Subhanallah.
I think if possible arrange a one week holiday with only your wife (Kids should be with their Grandparent) and work it out.
I.e go to somewhere safe and romantic.
If it didn't work then seek the attention of a trustworthy Malam/Shaikh he will recite some Surah from the glorious Qur'an which will surely assist.


NB: It should be few days after her period.

perdollar:
talking about this is Haram. u just av to pretend that all is well. I suspect another mallam wt 14inches is reaching places that ur 3inches can't reach. assalam alekun

YOUR MIND SEEMS TO BE DIRTIER THAN THE THE DIRTY WORDS YOU ARE ACCUSTOMED TO USING.

HOW DO YOU WORSHIP YOUR "PRINCE OF PEACE" WITH THIS HEART?

She doesn't enjoy sex with you anymore because you don't make her cum. Watch out, someone is already doing the job for you.

motayoayinde:
YOUR MIND SEEMS TO BE DIRTIER THAN THE THE DIRTY WORDS YOU ARE ACCUSTOMED TO USING.

HOW DO YOU WORSHIP YOUR "PRINCE OF PEACE" WITH THIS HEART?

Prince of peace won't behead me or raps me or bomb me. he wl forgive u, if u denounce this paedophile called mohd

Ajengogo:

It has nothing to do with house chores. I have always made arrangement for house help, besides the elderly kids are really helping out a lot. I have taken time to find out from her, her excuses are always flimsy, like she is in her period (very irregular). I wouldn't know if it is true or not. She can come up with unnecessary excuses. She says, at our age now, we should learn to keep off sex for months or a year. Is this normal

Brother ask her if she is on any family method.
That things makes period irregular and causes loss of libido

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

Jinn could be possible explanation. Also check her health with your doctor.

Salam Alaikum brother,

I red your post and am impressed you shared your feelings and for others to learn.

First, every matrimonial home faces challenges and as a Muslim we must stand and understand this.

Second, as some point both men and women loss interest in marriage, therefore, when we begin to experience this we must double our efforts in prayers.

Third, to assist you from your problem, I would advise you take your wife to camping in another town, lodge into a average hotel room. Even if it's for Friday, Saturday and return home on Sunday. Keep your grown children to the family.
At the camping, make her happy and buy some gift not too expensive ones and if you can afford buy the expensive ones.
While at outing, try and touches her in Islamic way and keep telling her I love and missed you till u return to hotel room.
In the night don't rush for sex, touches her and have it at the your mind that no sex.
A day to leave, attempt sex and if she agreed be it and otherwisw, don't be angry.
Inshaa Allah as you return home, the new life would begin.

She has loss many homornes and you needs to assist her bring them back.

God bless you.

Excuses:
How long have u noticed this sir or better still how long has this been going on? If this behavior is a year old plus then you need to call in her family for an important discussion..since u've tried on ur own several times..

Try to be in control of ur house...if u ask ur wife questions and she answered in a flimsy way in an attempt to dodge the main thing it means there is a lot of silent digging to b done

Secondly, is ur wife the type that naturally doesn't like sex much? the answers to these questions will help. medically or biologically as people grow old sexual libido diminishes..

Sorry sir, family should not be involve on this matter.

After all, you are man enough.

Take her to camp in another town, lodge in a hotel for few days and go outing around 7pm and come back after dinner outing later 10pm.

She would change inshaa Allah

Imagine treating your wife like a slave and wanting sex from her at the same time......

babybuzx:



Brother ask her if she is on any family method.
That things makes period irregular and causes loss of libido

Yes she used to be on a particular family planning that is taken every 3 months. Sometimes her periods would seize for many months that would make us think she was pregnant. In another instance, the periods could come around several times in a month. But we have stopped the fp method.

Danwakae:



Female circumcision doesn't make them have interest in it... Because it has be removed, as such, they don't have any feelings or interest.

Did you read the part that says they have been married for almost 11 years. Did she just get circumcised yesterday?

Islamic Female Circumcision is hoodectomy, and this is quite different from Female Genital Mutilation (clitoridectomy, excision, and infibulation) that render female numb.

Please be guided.

Abdunzhaleel:


Which Christ ?The one that said in surah
Aal-e-Imran 3:51

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ رَبِّى وَرَبُّكُمْ فَٱعْبُدُوهُۗ هَٰذَا صِرَٰطٌ مُّسْتَقِيمٌ

Indeed, Allah is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him. That is the straight path."?

not the one in your quran!

the one in the bible

womenareapes:
beat her in the Islamic way and force her to have sex with you!

and if she is reluctant, divorce her!



please give your life to Christ Jesus and accept him as your lord and personal saviour.

Just as you beat your wives in Christianity because you gave your life crisis?

Salam, my own little understanding, it good have your wife has your best friend and also whenever she's going through something she will be able to tell you her mind without been judge or saying it jinn or anything, and probably maybe the way you dress changed or you dont use perfume anymore and also dont look clean and also maybe youaint satisfy her enough like before, or you can go on a date.

perdollar:
Prince of peace won't behead me or raps me or bomb me. he wl forgive u, if u denounce this paedophile called mohd

NO DESCENT PERSON NO MATTER WHO HE IS WILL PUT UP WITH YOUR CURSING AND SWEARING.

USE YOUR TIME WELL. STOP MESSING UP DELIBERATELY HOPING ANYONE ONE WILL FORGIVE YOU.