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Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Realismailakabir: 12:53am On Oct 30, 2020
If wife does not allow his husband to have intercourse than what will 
happen to women?


Praise be to Allah.

If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens is as described below:

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’”

(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4794; the additional phrase quoted in square brackets is from Abu Dawood, al-Sunan, Kitaab al-Nikaah, Bab haqq al-zawj ‘ala’l-mar’ah).

In the phrase “if a man calls his wife to his bed,” the word “bed” is obviously a metaphor for intercourse. Metaphors are used in the Qur’aan and Sunnah to refer to things about which people usually feel shy. Does this apply only to the nighttime, or does it include daytime too? The answer may be found in a hadeeth narrated by Muslim: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the heavens [i.e. Allaah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with her.” Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan report a hadeeth narrated by Jaabir: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and none of whose good deeds will ascend to heaven: a runaway slave, until he returns to his master; a drunken man until he becomes sober; and a woman with whom her husband is angry, until he is pleased with her.” These are general terms, which include both night and day.

The phrase “and he spends the night angry with her” refers to the cause of the angels’ curse, because this confirms that she is a sinner, which is a different matter than if he accepts her excuse and is not angry with her, or lets the matter drop. Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? The answer is: no, unless she is the one who started the separation and he is keeping away from her because of it, and she did not apologize but prolonged the separation. But if he is the one who started it, and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame. In one report, instead of the words “the angels curse her until morning,” the wording is “… until she returns” – and this is a useful variant.

This hadeeth tells us that denying a spouse’s rights – whether physical or financial – is something that will inevitably bring about the wrath of Allaah, unless Allaah grants His mercy to the sinner.

We also learn that the angels will pray against a sinner so long as he or she persists in the sin.

The hadeeth also directs a wife to help her husband and seek his satisfaction, because a man is less patient than a woman when it comes to doing without intercourse. The most disturbing thing for a man is his sexual impulse, so Islam urges women to help their husbands in this regard.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/2006/a-woman-refusing-to-have-intercourse-with-her-husband

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by piffond: 12:56am On Oct 30, 2020
May Allaah be pleased with him

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Realismailakabir: 12:57am On Oct 30, 2020
piffond:
May Allaah be pleased with him
Ameen

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by AntiChristian: 6:34am On Oct 30, 2020
Alhamdulillah for Islam. The only religion authorised by Allah for mankind and Jinns.

A woman is to obey his father till he married her to her husband. After Nikaah she is to obey her husband. And both of them have rights according to the Shari'ah!

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by marvin906(m): 11:04am On Oct 30, 2020
To fvck na by force..
Shooooooooo make una calm down na

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Factfinder1(m): 11:05am On Oct 30, 2020
Una don start una nonsense

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Factfinder1(m): 11:06am On Oct 30, 2020
When will i see a ruling on Islam fighting for allah and marrying underage children and being religious fanatics and bigots

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Jirehz(m): 11:07am On Oct 30, 2020
If you think Christianity is bad...

Try Islam

And you’ll come back thanking Jesus for being merciful and kind

Nairaland feminists am I communicating?

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Iamsane: 11:07am On Oct 30, 2020
Factfinder1:
Una don start una nonsense

You have choosen to be extra ordinarily stupid every Friday more than any other days online. Continue

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Adlac(m): 11:07am On Oct 30, 2020
Factfinder1:
When will a see a ruling on Islam fighting for allah and marrying underage children and being religious fanatics and bigots


Why not venture into your book for further details!

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Joshmanuel10(m): 11:08am On Oct 30, 2020
To comment on this thread I was asked to confirm if I believe
Y
It's totally absurd

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Nobody: 11:09am On Oct 30, 2020
Islama couples refusing themselves sex is not my business...my own is that you people should stop reciting stuffs on your diiick before force mounting innocent kids on the street

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Charleys: 11:09am On Oct 30, 2020
What's the ruling on borrowing money from an atheist nation (China).

A country that discriminate against uyighar Muslims? Burns their mosques.

And is changing the Quran as we speak.

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by advocatejare(m): 11:09am On Oct 30, 2020
What's the ruling on a man who refuse to sleep with his wives?


Because Muhammad denied his wives sex for one month just because they caught him sleeping with Hafsa's slave on Hafsa's bed.


Sahih Bukhari 7:62:130.

"Narrated By Um Salama
The Prophet took an oath that he would not enter upon some of his wives for one month."

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Adlac(m): 11:11am On Oct 30, 2020
marvin906:
To fvck na by force..
Shooooooooo make una calm down na


Yea bro, We have been guilded Not to offend each other(Husband & Wife) thank you!

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Joshmanuel10(m): 11:12am On Oct 30, 2020
What if she's tired?

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Joshmanuel10(m): 11:13am On Oct 30, 2020
kaluxy007:
Islama couples refusing themselves sex is not my business...my own is that you people should reciting stuffs on your diiick before force mounting innocent kids on the street
Mad ooooooo

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by marvin906(m): 11:14am On Oct 30, 2020
Adlac:



Yea bro, We have been guilded Not to offend each other(Husband & Wife) thank you!



She doesn't have to be sick or tired to reject sex..
When someone mind isn't there it isnt unless he's happy screwing a wood

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Sterope(f): 11:15am On Oct 30, 2020
What a simplistic and unrealistic approach to affairs between a man and his woman! One has to question the lack of logical thought of some hadiths, especially those relating to women. Very sexist and dismissive!

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by NaijaOlosho(f): 11:17am On Oct 30, 2020
cheesy

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Nobody: 11:18am On Oct 30, 2020
Sterope:
What a simplistic and unrealistic approach to affairs between a man and his woman! One has to question the lack of logic on some hadiths, especially those relating to women. Very sexist and dismissive!


grin they’ll never see the hypocrisy in most of the rulings. Religion is something else, not just Islam

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by womenareapes: 11:18am On Oct 30, 2020
behead her! she is an infidel

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by ednut1(m): 11:18am On Oct 30, 2020
These rulings most times are archaic

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Adlac(m): 11:18am On Oct 30, 2020
marvin906:




She doesn't have to be sick or tired to reject sex..
When someone mind isn't there it isnt unless he's happy screwing a wood

Of cos a normal Human lifes revolve around that, there is always ways to express that to your partner.

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by sarahade(f): 11:19am On Oct 30, 2020
Mtcheew

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by donatus101(m): 11:19am On Oct 30, 2020
Islamabad grin ndi uchu

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by inoki247: 11:22am On Oct 30, 2020
Why she go refuse in the first place you must obey ur Husband shocked shocked shocked

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by eddynaira125: 11:22am On Oct 30, 2020
I like this people but them they offend me for this country

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Re: Ruling On Woman Refusing Sexual Intercourse With Her Husband by Ifeann(f): 11:24am On Oct 30, 2020
You muslims treat women like property.
Why didn't Allah tell Mohammed that he will be displeased with men who deny their wives sex. Everything about Islam is fear and control.

Realismailakabir:



If wife does not allow his husband to have intercourse than what will 
happen to women?


Praise be to Allah.

If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens is as described below:

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’”

(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4794; the additional phrase quoted in square brackets is from Abu Dawood, al-Sunan, Kitaab al-Nikaah, Bab haqq al-zawj ‘ala’l-mar’ah).

In the phrase “if a man calls his wife to his bed,” the word “bed” is obviously a metaphor for intercourse. Metaphors are used in the Qur’aan and Sunnah to refer to things about which people usually feel shy. Does this apply only to the nighttime, or does it include daytime too? The answer may be found in a hadeeth narrated by Muslim: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the heavens [i.e. Allaah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with her.” Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan report a hadeeth narrated by Jaabir: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and none of whose good deeds will ascend to heaven: a runaway slave, until he returns to his master; a drunken man until he becomes sober; and a woman with whom her husband is angry, until he is pleased with her.” These are general terms, which include both night and day.

The phrase “and he spends the night angry with her” refers to the cause of the angels’ curse, because this confirms that she is a sinner, which is a different matter than if he accepts her excuse and is not angry with her, or lets the matter drop. Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? The answer is: no, unless she is the one who started the separation and he is keeping away from her because of it, and she did not apologize but prolonged the separation. But if he is the one who started it, and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame. In one report, instead of the words “the angels curse her until morning,” the wording is “… until she returns” – and this is a useful variant.

This hadeeth tells us that denying a spouse’s rights – whether physical or financial – is something that will inevitably bring about the wrath of Allaah, unless Allaah grants His mercy to the sinner.

We also learn that the angels will pray against a sinner so long as he or she persists in the sin.

The hadeeth also directs a wife to help her husband and seek his satisfaction, because a man is less patient than a woman when it comes to doing without intercourse. The most disturbing thing for a man is his sexual impulse, so Islam urges women to help their husbands in this regard.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/2006/a-woman-refusing-to-have-intercourse-with-her-husband

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