Hello Nairaland Family,

I read a post about a newly wed(not up to a year) wife seeking opinions, if her husband's sister of 16years can live with them.

From people's advise to her, they all told her not to allow it.

As a lady I was saddened by this, assuming the young lady was her sis would she have said no.

Ladies of nowadays, just want me and my family alone, because they want bonding or whatsoever.

I told her, it all depends on how her husband portray her to his family. I have an uncle, the wife won't allow his family to visit but go to their house, you will see more than 2 of her family living with them.

We should try and change our mindset, when growing up, some us have lived with one family or the other when growing up.



What's your opinion on this, will you allow or not?

As an average young couple, do not rent more than two bedroom apartment. Two many bedrooms bring unnecessary visits from family and friends. At a point, you can't even say no to such visits.

capital NO

his family members can visit

my family members can visit


@ the end make all of dem go back their houses


case closed!

NO! It's too early for that

It seems na same WhatsApp group you people are o...

Ko matter biko. Don't believe all what you read online. Some of them saying no, doesn't have first hand experience. Infact most of them have like 3 extended family living with them

Hell No.


None from my side and none from her side.

House girl self I no do.

Some of u here would not even accommodate your siblings

Ahmed0336:
Hell No.


None from my side and none from her side.

House girl self I no do.

Why

TeemahBeddings0:
It seems na same WhatsApp group you people are o...

Ko matter biko. Don't believe all what you read online. Some of them saying no, doesn't have first hand experience. Infact most of them have like 3 extended family living with them

Look Mr man, abi na woman speak for yourself.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Some of u here would not even accommodate your siblings

Haba...why not

alexsoftwork:


Look Mr man, abi na woman speak for yourself.

I no get gender and no be fight

TeemahBeddings0:

Haba...why not

experience is the best teacher

is better i die been single than to be a king who is of no use

olus01:
is better i die been single than to be a king who is of no use

meaning?

VeeVeeMyLuv:
experience is the best teacher

Experience is really the best teacher. The unmarried will not understand. A man is hardly at home, the home is mostly ran by a woman. It's very easy for a woman to live with her siblings.

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I don't mind if family members come to visit. Either from my husband side or my side. As long as they are helpful and being useful to themselves and they are not causing nuisance, it's ok for me.

AnonymousRebec:
I don't mind if family members come to visit. Either from my husband side or my side. As long as they are helpful and being useful to themselves and they are not causing nuisance, it's ok for me.

husband's side will always cuz nuisance, u can't scold them or correct them that they won't pick offence no matter how little they are. I'm too busy to type, if I narrate my experience no be here o.
The funniest part is, their evil character is always known to their people but they will expect you to tolerate and endure it all simply because u are married to their son.

One was even rejected by his own sister but my father in-law brough him for us and begged us to train him. When he started misbehaving, my hubby called the mother of d boy but she was begging him, telling him to decipline him... It's not funny o. As if they always look for d troublesome ones to give out to people.

Well, it largely depends on the joint agreement between the couples; both need to sit and discuss this issue. There are many factors they need to consider such as;
a. finance
b. accommodation type
c. personality

and many more.

Yes or No depends on the agreement of both spouse for peace to reign in the long run.

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But wait, are we all saying our siblings are saints, whose siblings are now those wayward children



Tolerance is the key

To the ladies coming here to attack the man's or husband's siblings being stubborn and CO.... What about the ladies sister's that will sleep with the ladies husband or the ladies brother that will come over and start smoking marijuana...i have seen a lot if these... So in regards that aspect... No sibling holy... Even yours...

Nope

As in permanently?? No way! If it's to come and spend a few days, fine. But to live till they get married, mbanu. My father brought us up to be independent from a very early age. That was why when my elder sisters got married, no body tried such. Though we go there during hols. Even after my twin got married, it never crossed my mind to go live with her. We were not brought up like that.hustle until you settle down and keep up the hustle

Anyways I don't really have any younger siblings. So I don't see anyone initiating that idea. Except my nephews and nieces but it will be strictly summer vacation.

Only the man can decide.... He is the head of the family and have the right to said who visit his house or not.. Only a simp allowed his wife to control his house...
That's why most time I like Hausa marriages,, the man of the house is always respected...

Brachaa:
Nope

As in permanently?? No way! If it's to come and spend a few days, fine. But to live till they get married, mbanu. My father brought us up to be independent from a very early age. That was why when my elder sisters got married, no body tried such. Though we go there during hols. Even after my twin got married, it never crossed my mind to go live with her. We were not brought up like that.hustle until you settle down and keep up the hustle

Anyways I don't really have any younger siblings. So I don't see anyone initiating that idea. Except my nephews and nieces but it will be strictly summer vacation.

Ejima

VEXT:
Only the man can decide.... He is the head of the family and have the right to said who visit his house or not.. Only a simp allowed his wife to control his house...
That's why most time I like Hausa marriages,, the man of the house is always respected...

It isn't a matter of simp or alpha male

TeemahBeddings0:



Why

I no want wahala.

I'm married for almost 15years and I'd tell you that has really worked for me. I don't entertain visitors(no matter who is involved) for more than 2 days that's just me.

All of them shouting no have at a pt lived with someone.I lived with ppl who treated me well and I vowed to do so to others which I have been doing. It hasn't affected my marriage in anyway.

If you threaten my peace I throw you out whether from my side or dh side but if you are responsible you are free.
I can't be living in a large house and any family member is in need of a place to lay their head so as to improve in life and I say no. Dh sef likes a full house. I cant!
My happiness will be for you to be better while leaving.

A lot of people have already concluded that siblings or any family members from your husband's side must be there to monitor your marriage or just creating nuisance. If we all have the mindset of treating others just like our own family members, then there will be less issues to tackled.

I don't see any reason why you can't allow your husband's sibling to stay with you if they are good. If they misbehave and reject correction, just send them back.

Ahmed0336:


I no want wahala.

I'm married for almost 15years and I'd tell you that has really worked for me. I don't entertain visitors(no matter who is involved) for more than 2 days that's just me.

Ok Sir....but isn't bad to accommodate others sha

Nothing to say.

TeemahBeddings0:
Ejima

Yeah yeah