PhlegB:
I need something to take me out of the house, give me small change to take care of my needs. I'm getting tired of my mum telling me that my mates do so and so for their family and my dad keeps telling me that during his days, they don't send women to school and so I should count myself lucky.
The bone of contention here is that I can't go out, I don't have friends and the only one I had who was a classmate," Landlord" as I always refer to my dad barred him from coming to the house.
BTW, I'll be 25 next month. I'm a graduate awaiting service but the pandemic happened.
I have a mini business I run,but when ever I get a call from a potential client and go out, the next minute, my phone start buzzing with calls either from my mum or my dad.
I have lost so many opportunities because either my phone is ringing constantly and I can't turn it off because it's an offence in my house ,I can't put it on silence because I'll have a lot of explanation to do.
I reside in Abuja and in Kubwa to be precise.

You have a problem, and it's that of comparison.
You're most likely comparing yourself with friends in relationships, marriages and so on.

You're trying to paint your parents gray but I don't get the picture.
Come to think of it, they were allowing a man to come visit you at home until they decided they'd had enough.

If they were as uptight as you're making them look, they wouldn't have let him in at all in the first place.

And your referring to your dad as 'landlord' speaks volumes of your relationship with your parents.
You seriously need to work on that.

You are a self-confessed introvert, and that's the reason for your lack of friends. Not your parents 'overbearing' attitude.

I see a picture of morally upright parents who don't want their labour of child-training to vanish all of a sudden and a daughter who desperately wants to go out there, get noticed, mingle and taste the other side of life.

You were in the University up till graduation.
Were your parents interrupting your lectures and other academic activities with calls?
They trusted to take care of yourself, you did and now you're a graduate.

I understand it's not comfortable staying at home beyond graduation but my dear, understand that life happens to us all individually.
If your parents won't let you leave the house then reach a compromise with them on how to take care of your needs.

Look for a stable employment if you need one, where they can easily pinpoint your location or you could ask them to get you a job with their own connection and influence.
Not something as volatile as marketing where calls can interrupt prospective deals.

You could take a pump attendant job in a fuel station for example, if the issue is merely the money to buy toiletries and some other little girls' things.

Also, your folks must have monitored your emotional responses before they started acting up.
I know husbands don't just fall from heaven but understand that whatever is yours has a way of coming back to you.

People meet in the oddest and weirdest of places, without prior planning, and it just clicks. So keep your mind open.

Let the lockdown days be over, then you can proceed with your NYSC.
Until then, build a healthy relationship with your folks, and stop all the resentment.

If you go out with this hotheadedness, you'll simply 'fall in love' with the first available guy, and the next thing is a string of sexual encounters.

Only when the cloud has lifted would you realise that what you couldn't see standing on the mountain, your folks saw it lying down.

It's good you don't walk into marriage with a 'dark past'.
That's what most of these people egging you on are currently burdened with. And knowing they cannot turn back the hands of time to reorder their mistakes, would gleefully push others into the same pit to make their own lives look normal and obtain some reprieve for their conscience.

Good luck.

PhlegB:
I need something to take me out of the house, give me small change to take care of my needs. I'm getting tired of my mum telling me that my mates do so and so for their family and my dad keeps telling me that during his days, they don't send women to school and so I should count myself lucky.
The bone of contention here is that I can't go out, I don't have friends and the only one I had who was a classmate," Landlord" as I always refer to my dad barred him from coming to the house.
BTW, I'll be 25 next month. I'm a graduate awaiting service but the pandemic happened.
I have a mini business I run,but when ever I get a call from a potential client and go out, the next minute, my phone start buzzing with calls either from my mum or my dad.
I have lost so many opportunities because either my phone is ringing constantly and I can't turn it off because it's an offence in my house ,I can't put it on silence because I'll have a lot of explanation to do.
I reside in Abuja and in Kubwa to be precise.

PM

PhlegB:

I don't get. They don't want you to hustle and at the same time want you to start providing for the family? At 25 this shouldn't be your story. Omo

They are killing your future.

My advice is to post as many job applications as possible. like 100.

One day, next year, even 2 years time, one must click.

Recruiters keep CVs for up to 5 years. Anytime parents call you and you are handling a business, complete it b4 going home.

punisha:




U can lick her ass for all I care... If she gives u good.
If u can't see where her problem is how to meet man and get married then u are one of Nigerians major problem.

She wants to be free like a bird.
Her parents ain't useless, they take care of her needs. Angry that a grown up (man) was stopped from visiting her.

Her parents deserve a medal. This one is a problem child.

Damn. How old are you? And what century are you from?

punisha:
Waka dupe...
Wait for ur service year.
People like u think their parents are the worst thing after buhari.

There is time for everything and believe me, u will be grateful to them at some point for helping u stay home now and avoid so many problems u could have run into.

U should consider doing online certs for now that will boost your cv in the nearest future and yes they offer great courses.
How about u channels ur energy into making the man proud who still thinks he wasted money training u. Let him know it isn't a waste and prove him wrong. Not by still disobeying and wanting to go out...
Then u could send ur friend that is banned from coming to the house to step in for u if ur sure that the plenty waka is indeed bringing money.
U can always split the profit with her for now.

I'm also sure there are other stuff u could do that will fetch u the change u talk about without going outside for now.
It isn't permanent o...u will soon be free to Waka as u like

who are you.... I beg you in the name of whatever you serve... Please leave this thread and never return.

DaInferno:
don't be more stupid than this I beg u.You just be Islamic front; and u seem to love ass licking too at that for you to throw it around so much, make ignorance and adamance no kill you; 25 year old person no be kid.

Confirmed simp. How did Islam enter na?
Dem Curse Una for This site like ths so

midasbliss:


I don't get. They don't want you to hustle and at the same time want you to start providing for the family? At 25 this shouldn't be your story. Omo

Read her story gradually n follow her replies. The girl Need freedom. Even the Question ur'e asking make Sense to u? She is not Providing Anything For Them. This na very Stupid Thread na. She want to Work she Mant to get Married she Just Messing Wif Heads Here.

Mayhem999:




Confirmed simp. How did Islam enter na?
Dem Curse Una for This site like ths so

ignorant simp screamers, anything ,they'd just rush to shout simp because they see others type it; no land for trouble one-day o.

Islamic front na rebel; google it bros, no d hyper unnecessarily!

SmileDance:
Sometimes we need to stand firm and make our decisions. Go out look for job and let your parents 'do their worst' i I know they won't beat you up or kill you if you explain to them that you couldn't pick their calls because you were in an interview. Na you no go gree make them turn you to mumu. With time, your parents will get to understand you. I'm just saying my own o, you don't have to follow my advice.

Correct!

Now I see that comprehension is an issue to some people but what's my own??
Please for the records, the marriage thing was just an instance.
I'm not eager to get married.
I want to work and earn something, no matter how little it is.
My point is if I didn't bring shame to you after spending 6years in the University, what's the issue now?
I'm not looking for a relationship or a husband,please and please that's the least of my problem.
BTW I call my dad landlord because that's what he is,he has the final say. He's the Lord of everyone as he says( I'm not going to bore you with details).
The young man is a Neighbor that lives with his family in my location, so I don't see any issue with him dropping by once in awhile to say hello.

Make I write am for pidgin, Marriage or relationship no be my problem.
Nah work I want so I go fit earn something come takia of myself abi you want make I turn to instagram slay queen? Shey Una go dey watch my videos.
Ndi deputy Jesus wey know say nah man I want go find..... I no follow for school, nah house I want come start my trade.
This shows how shallow most of you are.
If at 25, you have a problem with me deciding to do something with my life while waiting for the "so called service " then you need serious psychological evaluation.

Mayhem999:


Read her story gradually n follow her replies. The girl Need freedom. Even the Question ur'e asking make Sense to u? She is not Providing Anything For Them. This na very Stupid Thread na. She want to Work she Mant to get Married she Just Messing Wif Heads Here.

If you see it that way, who am I to argue with you??
You're entitled to your opinion.
Please if you see a job anywhere, you're free to send a "PM"

DIVINEEVIDENCE:


You have a problem, and it's that of comparison.
You're most likely comparing yourself with friends in relationships, marriages and so on.

You're trying to paint your parents gray but I don't get the picture.
Come to think of it, they were allowing a man to come visit you at home until they decided they'd had enough.

If they were as uptight as you're making them look, they wouldn't have let him in at all in the first place.

And your referring to your dad as 'landlord' speaks volumes of your relationship with your parents.
You seriously need to work on that.

You are a self-confessed introvert, and that's the reason for your lack of friends. Not your parents 'overbearing' attitude.

I see a picture of morally upright parents who don't want their labour of child-training to vanish all of a sudden and a daughter who desperately wants to go out there, get noticed, mingle and taste the other side of life.

You were in the University up till graduation.
Were your parents interrupting your lectures and other academic activities with calls?
They trusted to take care of yourself, you did and now you're a graduate.

I understand it's not comfortable staying at home beyond graduation but my dear, understand that life happens to us all individually.
If your parents won't let you leave the house then reach a compromise with them on how to take care of your needs.

Look for a stable employment if you need one, where they can easily pinpoint your location or you could ask them to get you a job with their own connection and influence.
Not something as volatile as marketing where calls can interrupt prospective deals.

You could take a pump attendant job in a fuel station for example, if the issue is merely the money to buy toiletries and some other little girls' things.

Also, your folks must have monitored your emotional responses before they started acting up.
I know husbands don't just fall from heaven but understand that whatever is yours has a way of coming back to you.

People meet in the oddest and weirdest of places, without prior planning, and it just clicks. So keep your mind open.

Let the lockdown days be over, then you can proceed with your NYSC.
Until then, build a healthy relationship with your folks, and stop all the resentment.

If you go out with this hotheadedness, you'll simply 'fall in love' with the first available guy, and the next thing is a string of sexual encounters.

Only when the cloud has lifted would you realise that what you couldn't see standing on the mountain, your folks saw it lying down.

It's good you don't walk into marriage with a 'dark past'.
That's what most of these people egging you on are currently burdened with. And knowing they cannot turn back the hands of time to reorder their mistakes, would gleefully push others into the same pit to make their own lives look normal and obtain some reprieve for their conscience.

Good luck.

With all your ranting, you said something useful.I can't take a pump attendant Job because I have issues with my "eyes"

RonaldoVido:


They are killing your future.

My advice is to post as many job applications as possible. like 100.

One day, next year, even 2 years time, one must click.

Recruiters keep CVs for up to 5 years. Anytime parents call you and you are handling a business, complete it b4 going home.

Thank you for this.... Gracias

Found something yet ? If no, quote me back on this thread. Thanks

Sha b careful with any job dat shows up in d name of I want to help u, good luck

PhlegB:
On the contrary, I'm an introvert.
"Waka dupe " as you said is not my thing. I don't have a social life and I'm not complaining about it.
All I'm saying is allow me look for something doing that'll take care of my needs. Is that too much to ask?

Relax, calm down and cherish every single moment you have to spend with your parent now. Find opportunities in their 'oppression', turn them into forces to propell your innovation. Be clear about what you actually want to do...perhaps, taking online courses as someone suggested may be the best option now since you basically aren't under pressure. I understand the feeling of self worth that is pushing you to want to be relevant, believe me, that tells me you are strong and have something to offer. So just relax and iron out your priorities in the interest of a long term benefit. Shalom.

I'm so grateful for the words of encouragement and the lash also.
I spoke to my dad,Yes I did.it wasn't easy but it was worth it..I understood his fears and worries.
I assured him that I wasn't going to do anything that would tarnish his image,I only wanted in my own little way assist the family and also develop my self.
We came to an agreement and time will be the judge on how things will become.
I just started a POS point and also displaying my pastries in front.the feeling is amazing and I'm grateful for the opportunity.
Happy birthday to me...

PhlegB:
I need something to take me out of the house, give me small change to take care of my needs. I'm getting tired of my mum telling me that my mates do so and so for their family and my dad keeps telling me that during his days, they don't send women to school and so I should count myself lucky.
The bone of contention here is that I can't go out, I don't have friends and the only one I had who was a classmate," Landlord" as I always refer to my dad barred him from coming to the house.
BTW, I'll be 25 next month. I'm a graduate awaiting service but the pandemic happened.
I have a mini business I run,but when ever I get a call from a potential client and go out, the next minute, my phone start buzzing with calls either from my mum or my dad.
I have lost so many opportunities because either my phone is ringing constantly and I can't turn it off because it's an offence in my house ,I can't put it on silence because I'll have a lot of explanation to do.
I reside in Abuja and in Kubwa to be precise.

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