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|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 4:13pm On Sep 14|
You have a problem, and it's that of comparison.
You're most likely comparing yourself with friends in relationships, marriages and so on.
You're trying to paint your parents gray but I don't get the picture.
Come to think of it, they were allowing a man to come visit you at home until they decided they'd had enough.
If they were as uptight as you're making them look, they wouldn't have let him in at all in the first place.
And your referring to your dad as 'landlord' speaks volumes of your relationship with your parents.
You seriously need to work on that.
You are a self-confessed introvert, and that's the reason for your lack of friends. Not your parents 'overbearing' attitude.
I see a picture of morally upright parents who don't want their labour of child-training to vanish all of a sudden and a daughter who desperately wants to go out there, get noticed, mingle and taste the other side of life.
You were in the University up till graduation.
Were your parents interrupting your lectures and other academic activities with calls?
They trusted to take care of yourself, you did and now you're a graduate.
I understand it's not comfortable staying at home beyond graduation but my dear, understand that life happens to us all individually.
If your parents won't let you leave the house then reach a compromise with them on how to take care of your needs.
Look for a stable employment if you need one, where they can easily pinpoint your location or you could ask them to get you a job with their own connection and influence.
Not something as volatile as marketing where calls can interrupt prospective deals.
You could take a pump attendant job in a fuel station for example, if the issue is merely the money to buy toiletries and some other little girls' things.
Also, your folks must have monitored your emotional responses before they started acting up.
I know husbands don't just fall from heaven but understand that whatever is yours has a way of coming back to you.
People meet in the oddest and weirdest of places, without prior planning, and it just clicks. So keep your mind open.
Let the lockdown days be over, then you can proceed with your NYSC.
Until then, build a healthy relationship with your folks, and stop all the resentment.
If you go out with this hotheadedness, you'll simply 'fall in love' with the first available guy, and the next thing is a string of sexual encounters.
Only when the cloud has lifted would you realise that what you couldn't see standing on the mountain, your folks saw it lying down.
It's good you don't walk into marriage with a 'dark past'.
That's what most of these people egging you on are currently burdened with. And knowing they cannot turn back the hands of time to reorder their mistakes, would gleefully push others into the same pit to make their own lives look normal and obtain some reprieve for their conscience.
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|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by Mobi47(m): 5:20pm On Sep 14|
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by midasbliss(f): 5:53pm On Sep 14|
I don't get. They don't want you to hustle and at the same time want you to start providing for the family? At 25 this shouldn't be your story. Omo
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by RonaldoVido: 5:55pm On Sep 14|
They are killing your future.
My advice is to post as many job applications as possible. like 100.
One day, next year, even 2 years time, one must click.
Recruiters keep CVs for up to 5 years. Anytime parents call you and you are handling a business, complete it b4 going home.
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by midasbliss(f): 5:57pm On Sep 14|
Damn. How old are you? And what century are you from?
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by danielconstant: 6:14pm On Sep 14|
punisha:who are you.... I beg you in the name of whatever you serve... Please leave this thread and never return.
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by Mayhem999: 6:40pm On Sep 14|
Confirmed simp. How did Islam enter na?
Dem Curse Una for This site like ths so
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by Mayhem999: 6:44pm On Sep 14|
Read her story gradually n follow her replies. The girl Need freedom. Even the Question ur'e asking make Sense to u? She is not Providing Anything For Them. This na very Stupid Thread na. She want to Work she Mant to get Married she Just Messing Wif Heads Here.
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by DaInferno(m): 9:29pm On Sep 14|
Mayhem999:ignorant simp screamers, anything ,they'd just rush to shout simp because they see others type it; no land for trouble one-day o.
Islamic front na rebel; google it bros, no d hyper unnecessarily!
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by uthlaw(m): 5:54am On Sep 15|
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by PhlegB(f): 9:42pm On Sep 16|
Now I see that comprehension is an issue to some people but what's my own??
Please for the records, the marriage thing was just an instance.
I'm not eager to get married.
I want to work and earn something, no matter how little it is.
My point is if I didn't bring shame to you after spending 6years in the University, what's the issue now?
I'm not looking for a relationship or a husband,please and please that's the least of my problem.
BTW I call my dad landlord because that's what he is,he has the final say. He's the Lord of everyone as he says( I'm not going to bore you with details).
The young man is a Neighbor that lives with his family in my location, so I don't see any issue with him dropping by once in awhile to say hello.
Make I write am for pidgin, Marriage or relationship no be my problem.
Nah work I want so I go fit earn something come takia of myself abi you want make I turn to instagram slay queen? Shey Una go dey watch my videos.
Ndi deputy Jesus wey know say nah man I want go find..... I no follow for school, nah house I want come start my trade.
This shows how shallow most of you are.
If at 25, you have a problem with me deciding to do something with my life while waiting for the "so called service " then you need serious psychological evaluation.
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by PhlegB(f): 9:45pm On Sep 16|
If you see it that way, who am I to argue with you??
You're entitled to your opinion.
Please if you see a job anywhere, you're free to send a "PM"
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by PhlegB(f): 9:47pm On Sep 16|
DIVINEEVIDENCE:With all your ranting, you said something useful.I can't take a pump attendant Job because I have issues with my "eyes"
|Re: Help Me Before I Lose My Sanity. by PhlegB(f): 9:48pm On Sep 16|
RonaldoVido:Thank you for this.... Gracias
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