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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by CanadianNaija: 4:50pm On Sep 29, 2020
situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....






Next time he wants to flog you collect the cane and break it, then para for him.

He’s not serious, flogging an adult that what happened.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Acidosis(m): 4:55pm On Sep 29, 2020
If you were my child, I'll also whoop your arse until you cry like a baby. Don't take stup!d risks in another man's home. It is very very unfair.

If you were in my area last night, you'll probably be cooling off in SARS or DSS cell this minute. Some cult boys decided to count scores last night and SARS ensured they cleared the entire neighborhood. Of course, innocent ones like you who went to "watch match late in the night" were arrested.

Don't put your parents and guardians through unecessary fear and trauma. If anything happens to you, the world will blame your father.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by mrblessed(m): 4:57pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:
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If I was your Father! I will cane you for uttering this..
What do you benefit cancelling the comment of someone just because it doesn't sit well with you? This graveyard has become a stronghold for people who can't accept divergent or conflicting views without throwing tantrum. Note that the correct rendering of this sentence is: "If I were your father, I will cane you for uttering this."

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Oizee(f): 5:00pm On Sep 29, 2020
light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.
lol, this your advice is on point but full of humour

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Lawsaite: 5:08pm On Sep 29, 2020
Richy4:
You are his son.. there's nothing like I have no place to go.. Display a little madness one day and it will stop... Everyone has that in him or her but we all control it..

he should have stopped doing that nonsense immediately u clocked 20 @ most.. It's in your hands to stop it... If he tries to do it next time shove him a little not enough to make him fall but enough to let him know you have had it up to your neck... let him know that that madness got to stop...

If he asked you to leave, tell him u are not leaving because u were in your father's house and if he's not he should point who your father is... I'm just mad right now at your docile way and
When you realise that your dad is bullying you and not correcting you,then it will stop..
mchwwwww!!!

Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Suzie1(f): 5:09pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My Grandmother Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

What's this one saying?

Flogging a 26 year old (being it man or woman) is inappropriate even if he's not independent. It's a domestic violence and shouldn't be condoned!

That's why the number of broken people keeps increasing (from narcissists to people living with bipolar, PTSD and so on).

Dear OP, it is either you talk to your Dad (father to son talk) with respect though or report him to whom he fears (your Mum, one of his "respectable" friends or family members) if you're afraid of talking to him (most likely).

I still believe that there're some things to be busy with that could generate income than to be waiting for white collar jobs.

Hence, I would like to implore you to create values with your time.
Don't just keep waiting for an employer you can sell your time.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Lawsaite: 5:11pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:
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If I was your Father! I will cane you for uttering this..
You lost all my respect today.
If you are a good father, then you'd know that they are other ways to discipline than constantly using a whip, worse still on someone who has come of a reasonable age.
I was a victim and let me tell you, you certainly have no idea what it feels like.

To me if you're constantly whipping your child like an animal, it tells a lot about the upbringing you gave the child.
I know and have seen responsible parents, with stellar children.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Oizee(f): 5:12pm On Sep 29, 2020
Lawsaite:


Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good
eyya, God will c u tru. Your dad no just try, he didn't hear from you and sent you out, who does dat?

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Lawsaite: 5:13pm On Sep 29, 2020
Oizee:
eyya, God will c u tru. Your dad no just try, he didn't hear from you and sent you out, who does dat?

My dad did oo. We never really had a father/son relationship,

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Oizee(f): 5:25pm On Sep 29, 2020
OP, I'm curious to know if that's how he handles others or just u? If u feel is the inability to have something doing that's making him treat u like a baby, call him one day and politely ask him to stop.
Nawao, funny enough, in future he would be wondering and be comparing the way u treat him and d way u treat ur mom special, considering how he toiled day and night to sponsored your education.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by realestate99: 5:50pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:


I am very Sorry for Replying u!
I thought you were a Reasonable young man..
you are very wrong!! this is a very big low from you, replying someone in this manner is not cool, you must be able to tolerate other people's point of view, beating a 26 year old guy is not the wisest of decision, it is even dangerous to the old man, there are other ways of putting children on the right path, our parent's obsession with beating every time still did not absolve Nigeria from the moral decadence ravaging the country.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Richy4(m): 6:00pm On Sep 29, 2020
Lawsaite:


Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good

I'm sorry about your case dear but sometimes it's better to eat mushroom in freedom than to eat meat in slavery..

In Op's case, I see it as bullying.. @ 26, what kind of correction was that.. What about ABC, I have warned you not to return late in the night, if anything happens to you, I will not bla bla bla..

Without some kind of stubbornness, he might still be flogging him at 40..

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 6:31pm On Sep 29, 2020
light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.
Your laidback prose style is captivating.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 6:35pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:
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If I was your Father! I will cane you for uttering this..
Why?
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by joseph1832(m): 6:39pm On Sep 29, 2020
Ishilove:

Why?
because he hasn't affirm himself as a man.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Karleb(m): 6:39pm On Sep 29, 2020
So many people here cheering a dad flogging a 26yr old guy would change tone if OP were a girl.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by mariahAngel(f): 6:43pm On Sep 29, 2020
situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....








Forgive your dad eh?
He loves you...even though he shows it in a very harsh way.
If you have a friend living alone, you can go squat with him while you look for something to do to sustain yourself.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 6:44pm On Sep 29, 2020
Ishilove:

Why?
It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by mariahAngel(f): 6:57pm On Sep 29, 2020
light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

Your words are more brutal than op's dad's ass whooping! grin

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by merieam16(f): 7:20pm On Sep 29, 2020
Richy4:
You are his son.. there's nothing like I have no place to go.. Display a little madness one day and it will stop... Everyone has that in him or her but we all control it..

he should have stopped doing that nonsense immediately u clocked 20 @ most.. It's in your hands to stop it... If he tries to do it next time shove him a little not enough to make him fall but enough to let him know you have had it up to your neck... let him know that that madness got to stop...

If he asked you to leave, tell him u are not leaving because u were in your father's house and if he's not he should point who your father is... I'm just mad right now at your docile way and
When you realise that your dad is bullying you and not correcting you,then it will stop..
mchwwwww!!!
@op follow this advice at ur own peril

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 7:21pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:

It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?
Discipline you by flogging a full grown adult, irrespective of whether he is contributing to the family income? That's no longer discipline. That's criminal assault.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Efewestern: 7:22pm On Sep 29, 2020
OP I think you should challenge your dad, flogging a 26years old man is so so wrong. Stop being this docile.

Lawsaite:


Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good

How are you fairing now? how about your maternal family? can't you locate them for assistance.

Stories like this are very common. Women are terrible when dealing with kids that aren't theirs.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by thorpido(m): 7:25pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:

It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?
There are other ways to discipline a grown man than flogging.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 7:26pm On Sep 29, 2020
Ishilove:

Discipline you by flogging a full grown adult, irrespective of whether he is contributing to the family income? That's no longer discipline. That's criminal assault.
I don't agree with that at all!
Discipline does not Have age.. More Especially when you are still under your Father's Roof..

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by mariahAngel(f): 7:33pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:

It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?

What does the bible say about fathers not provoking their children?
What if op had reacted violently on impulse, who would be to blame?
The bible says "...our God is not the author of confusion"
Everything should be done in accordance.
There's an appropriate time for everything.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 7:33pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:

I don't agree with that at all!
Discipline does not Have age.. More Especially when you are still under your Father's Roof..
The problem with many African parents is they don't know where to draw the line. See the young man here lamenting and resenting his father because he is being treated like a little kid. Will you say this so-called discipline worked? No! Instead the father is driving his son to despair, just as the bible warned. The bible exhorts us to respect and honour our parents, but the same bible also warned parents not to provoke their children. Many men are married at 26 and are living in family homes so your position does not hold water

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 7:34pm On Sep 29, 2020
mariahAngel:


What does the bible say about father not provoking their children?
What if op had reacted violently on impulse, who would be to blame?
The bible says "...our God is not the author of confusion"
Everything should be done in accordance.
There's an appropriate time for everything.
Disciplining you child for wrong doing is Provocation!

My dear do not Misinterpret the Bible..

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 7:36pm On Sep 29, 2020
Ishilove:

The problem with many African parents is they don't know where to draw the line. See the young man here lamenting and resenting his father because he is being treated like a little kid. Will you say this so-called discipline worked? No! Instead the father is driving his son to despair, just as the bible warned. The bible exhorts us to respect and honour our parents, but the same bible also warned parents not to provoke their children. Many men are married at 26 and are living in family homes so your position does not hold water
My Sister no Sane Father will do anyhow to his son!
If something happens to a child under you Roof , who will bare the Cost?

The days are Evil! Parents could be Hypertensive for that..

What he would have done is to communicate with his parents..

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 7:42pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:

My Sister no Sane Father will do anyhow to his son!
If something happens to a child under you Roof , who will bare the Cost?

The days are Evil! Parents could be Hypertensive for that..

What he would have done is to communicate with his parents..
And what stops his parents from communicating with him? If the child is being foolish, must the parents also be foolish?

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 7:45pm On Sep 29, 2020
Ishilove:

And what stops his parents from communicating with him? If the child is being foolish, must the parents also be foolish?

My Sister, the young Man complaining should be the one to be asked!
His dad didn't come here to Complain!

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 7:47pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:


you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..
What happens to the part of your Bible where Parents were instructed not to provoke their children?

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Ishilove: 7:57pm On Sep 29, 2020
Righteousness89:


My Sister, the young Man complaining should be the one to be asked!
His dad didn't come here to Complain!
You're still not getting the point. You say the young man should have communicated with his parents, but I am asking that why didn't the parents communicate with the young man? Why must the father resort to assaulting him? Is that not the provocation the bible warned against? If the young man should react and disrespect the dad in the process everyone will condemn him while ignoring the fact that this is an adult being whipped like a baby. The father's actions is very bad.

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