₦airaland Forum

meobizy:
Wearing the white man’s attires in a tropical environment. Yuck. Our ancestors went about almost nude because our sunshine can roast a human being alive.

Cutting our hair short or completely bald because the white man enforced it on our ancestors. The blacks who keep locks mostly work with whites and do so because their Caucasian counterparts don’t get judged for keeping hair.

Bro the whitemen didnt force us to cut our hairs we decided to be cutting it, and we are still keeping our hair till date...

Dread was not common, in the acient times within blacks and if our hair was long too, we cut them before the arrival of d whitemen


You are faced with mispiorites, you failed to read history and you hate for d whitemen is misplaced


If we are to trace your ancestors from your tribe before the whitemen came it would b possible dey didnt wear clothes at all

people going to churches and mosques

ArewaOduduwaBia:
Sex in relationships, especially when they are not married.

Nonsense

side chick...extra marital flings

stonemind:
Nonsense

How is it nonsense?

Can we stop littering the environment all around

Preshieben:
I won't ohh
if you insult or bash me..I'll bash you double

Marriage isn't everything
its money ..

Sorry but I ain't giving you my quarter out of a dollar.

I dislike it when people say money is everything. such people are never contented and damn greedy..

Contented people should avoid such humans

ArewaOduduwaBia:
Sex in relationships, especially when they are not married.

Hope you will still find a partner that can stay in a relationship without asking for sex in this century? Am just asking oooo.

Brachaa:
Watching BBN

Displaying baby bum by mother's

Artificial bum and boobs

And showing cleavage. What nonsense.

csn01:
Hope you will still find a partner that can stay in a relationship without asking for sex in this century? Am just asking oooo.

I hope so

Mixed bathing is wrong. This is when men and women go to beaches to bath together and to expose themselves to the glances of all and sundry. When the women have finished exposing themselves in that fashion, their purity may already be tainted somewhat. Every glance cast by an adult male at a lady is like throwing “ethereal dirt“ at that woman which her soul may never be able to get rid of. Women should strive to maintain their purity by staying away from such places. Purity makes a Woman what she should be!

OdefaGirl:
I love stickers die..... they are fun

No wahala... we can't both love same thing

tropaz:
Buying expensive car in a country with very poor roads....
I still can't understand why....

Davido buying Ferrari that he will pack in his house

Asad6ixty9:
Christians and muslims debating vehemently on issues they have no answers to. Answers are always it is written or somebody said this or that.

we should be friends, brother.

ArewaOduduwaBia:
No.

You are a virgin and you have never kissed or romanced the opposite sex?

Princessbettyj:
Its not clean?

Sure. Totally unhygienic.

ashewoboy:
Posting everything about your life on social media (deliberate shots at diarylanders).

Ladies applying excessive make up on their birthdays.

The feminists movement.

ladies loving guys that treat them badly and guys loving Ladies that treat them badly(ozo is a typical example).

Ladies calling guys broke and guys calling ladies prostitutes.

Ladies on social media revealing dm with a guy on their timeline.

Saying every successful young person is into dubious activities.

Esbellishments of stories(ashewo beer parlour is a typical example). Almost everybody who shares sexcapade made the lady cum multiple times.

What else? share yours.


let's go.

so basically you have a problem with women... living their lives and minding their business.

No doubt you're a poverty stricken man because if you were busy managing your finances and portfolio you won't have time for this.

Smoking

oluwaseyi0:
Praying and thinking that will fix their problem

Been hypocritically against what two consenting opposite gender decide to do with their private part shouting it's fornication, the Constitution is very clear and unambiguous, two opposite gender can have sex, marriage is not by force, any opposing idea should be forwarded to national assembly or shoved up your ass

You think genuine prayers are not effective? You have a long way to go

joshuaidibia:
use the bathroom first. Nawa for u

Doesn't change anything.

AvsGot007:
we should be friends, brother.

Okay...........

ClassicCaleb:
people listening to wack Nigerian songs like Fem ,Coroba Coroba, when great artist like Johnny drill and Brymo are hungry,I pity the kind of brain children have these days

Most Nigerian songs in general are trash
..you will not find a single Nigerian sing on my phone

Posting a video of yourself while eating, I dont need to see what goes in and come out of your mouth. So disgusting.

Saying that this govt has tried is not only an abomination but a human right violation.

ArewaOduduwaBia:
I hope so

keep praying, many lost suitors in this belief, you have to be strong in prayer, it is your Cross, you have to carry it. THE WORLD HAS CHANGED.

SmellingAnus:
You are a virgin and you have never kissed or romanced the opposite sex?

Yes.

tobechi74:
1) thinking that marriage is compulsory for everyone
If marriage were compulsory, Jesus would have done so.I am not against the idea of getting married. I am only saying marriage is not for everyone. The assumption that one can only be fulfilled while married is false . Many propeller of this fallacy quote the Bible to back up their claim.


It is not good for man to be alone

It is not good for anyone to be alone . Eve was to be a companion and not a marriage partner . One can feel alone while being married . The verse only validates the fact that no one is an Ireland. We need someone to lean on . Marriage is a concept created by man to bring order in the society. No one has been arrested for choosing to remain single.


Many of us get married because we need kids. There are many orphans down there craving to get married. Go adopt them . Except off course you are searching for your own child to shower selfish love .

Everyone is meant to have children. Eli the priest was not meant to have children as that would disturb his mission on Earth so his wife womb was shut for years. Having a wife would not affect his goal. After persistent prayer, he finally had a child. He had to choose between disciplining his children or spending time in the church. He chose the later. His children became wayward.

Zaccharia was another priest who had difficulty in having a son.It was not until he was very old that he was permitted too. This tells us that those who are called to work in God institution are not meant to have children as that could affect their work .They are permitted to have a helper, a partner, a wife ,a maid etc.

This brings me to the only reason to get married .We should get married when getting married enables us to achieve our life purpose.

Jesus knew his mission on Earth .He knew it involves wandering from one place to another spreading the message. The stress of travelling with his family all the Tim would slow down his movement. He could not afford to take them to the mountain and through the sea. He knew his message would invoke the wrath of the pharasees who would happily transfer their aggression to his wife and children . Peter who was already married had to leave his wife behind to follow Jesus. His wife must have felt sad as a result. His children must have been angry with their father for being unavailable. It is better not to get married than to abandon your partner midway. one had to pace way for another.


Marriage is settling down . Those whose purpose involve moving around have no business settling down.A Catholic priest could be posted to three different countries in a year as part of missionary work. Relocating their family all the time would prove cumbersome. This is why Catholic priest do not get married. I am not condemning clergy who get married. I only ask that each should examine the nature of his calling. One who is fixed at a particular place to grow an already planted church can marry. Missionaries who go about converting people and planting churches can abstain.

2) raising a child without a father figure

If the father is dead or divorced, there should be a man he should look up to to play the role of a father
Infant living with just their dad found out that they are 2-6 month ahead of schedule in personal and social skills

Amount of time father spends with child is one of strongest predictor of empathy in adulthood

The more the father is involved,the more easily the child makes open ,receptive and trusting contact with new people in his life.

Children of divorced parent who lived with their mother are 37.5% more likely to need professional treatment for emotional and behavioral problem.

When fathers are not involved, girls show sign of being antisocial,headstrong, hyperactive.Both boys and girls showed sign of over dependency on the mother.

Boys who live with their father after divorce tend to be warmer,have a higher degree of self esteem,more mature and more independent than boys who do not.

The most important factor by far in preventing drug use is a close relationship with dad.

Living in homes without dad is correlated with suicide among children and teenager than any other for both sexes.

Girls raised in father absent times tend to go to extreme in their relationship with male.

Primary school children without father are less likely to be popular with peers and more hostile to adult.

Daughters who lived with their mother are 92% more likely to divorce than daughter or 2- parent family

3) Obeying Elders blindly.
We know what elders ask of us is wrong but we do them anyway.
Two ears ago, My uncle summoned his children on his sick bed and instructed the first son to take over his law firm. This was the same son who resented studying law and only studied the course to please the dad. The same dad has asked him to forfeit his personal ambition.

The young man was literally unhappy as he managed the firm. He obeyed bitterly. He poured out his aggression on the entire staff.  

Obedience should be done out of love rather than duty. When an act is carried out of duty, the relationship with those around is diminished. 

I had to tell him that he was not bound to his late father wish. He could simply employ a trusted fellow to manage the firm while he supervises periodically.



Children should be made to do things out of duty in the beginning.As they grow up, duty should be gradually replaced by love. Love is a better teacher than obligation.  Duty is mechanical and externally motivated by a sence of obligation . Love makes it easier. Love transform responsibility to joy. A sence of  duty warmed by a love for humanity creates the best result.

I have seen a girl  reject suitor so they can take care their aging parents. While the act is commendable,It should be done out of love and not out of society expectation so she doesn’t regret it taking care of aged parent should be done from the bottom of her heart and not as a debt she owes you.  

The factory worker who constantly looks at the clock for it to be five o click to drop his tools work out of duty and not out of love .  Such a man will have lots of regret when he finally retires. Christianity is one religion built out of love rather than a sence of duty. God love the world that he gave his son……He did not owe the world. No one would punnish him for non compliance.To  be a great teacher, begin by loving children. To be a great auto-mechanic, begin by loving automobile.

4) punnishing Rebels
The society teaches us certain norm, rule and tradition to maintain order and expects us to obey then. Society tells us how we should eat, dress,think and behave in general. Those who obey are praised and rewarded for good behavior.Those who do not are called rebels. Are rebels really terrible people?   Are rebels black sheep?

Rebels are individual who refuse to do what others are doing . They are non robot.His life is dictated by his own reasoning. He does not like been told what to do. They question the status quo and deviate from it when necessary. Rebels crave independence. They create their path.Rebels try to be themselves and find freedom in an overly oppressive rule structure.

Some rebels are not interested in the society aggreing with their they have no intention of changing the society.He simply renounces the wrong act in himself and leave society to change when she feels like. Such rebels believe in the saying :  LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO AND LET ME LEAVE MY LIFE MY OWN WAY.

Such rebel change the life for himself and is ready to face whatever trouble it may bring on his way .When the female journalist drove a car fully aware of the law against driving for women, she was an individual rebel. She was arrested and sentenced to prison. Today, women are allowed to drive vehicles in Saudi Arabia . When Mubarak Bala refused to believe in Islam, he was taken to the psychiatric hospital, a place where deviant are kept .

Another group of rebels are interested in making sure the society moves in their direction. They spread their ideal to people, convert them ,  raise a group , engage in mass protest, strike,to change the status quo..These rebels encounter strong opposition from the society. These rebels are willing to face torture,and death to push their ideology. Many a time,they end up dead before their ideal is realised.They would rather die than withdraw their teaching. They live with the  saying : WE WILL ALL DIE ONE DAY. I CHOOSE TO DIE WHILE SPREADING THIS IDEAL.

Jesus is an example of such rebel.He recruited disciples, taught them new teachings, instructed them to spread the teaching, challenged the money makers in the temple . He was subsequently arrested and crucified. Today, Christianity is world largest religion.

Reverend Father Martin Luther is another Catholic rebel who was expelled from the Catholic Church for non conformity. His rebellion led to the protestantism.

The northern part of Nigeria is trying so hard to curtail its rebel. First, Mubarak Bala has been arrested for propagating anti – Islamic teaching and insulting Prophet Mohammed on social media.   A musician has been sentenced to death for mocking the prophet in his song.   While courtesy demand we respect other people belief, This has raised lots of question. Is Nigeria a secular or Islamic country,?  Does blasphemy law has a place in this civilised period?

These rebels were aware of the  likely consequences of their actions. Their moral courage to choose to undergo these  ordeal plants a seed in the mind of others. The death of one rebel leads to the growth of more rebel. The death of Stephen led to the birth of Paul. History shows that the death of a rebel does not really shut down their idea. I forsee a lot of nonconformist springing up from the northern part of the country.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/08/the-rise-of-religious-rebels-in-the-north/

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Lazykulture:
Ladies depending on their boyfriends for everything including sense

The way our youths celebrate vain things!!! (BBNaija).

ArewaOduduwaBia:
Yes.

that's good keep it up... Just get married to a virgin if possible if not she may be collecting the dvck while pretending to be in a no sex relationship with you...

femi4:
Eating in a commercial bus

Throwing dirt's through the vehicle window

Buying stuff in traffic

Mr femi that your third one tho'.there is a big clause on it


hope you know traffic is a blessing to some sellers?if traffic no dey dem no go chop

Asad6ixty9:
Okay...........

let's explore for the real truth of the creation and our world
We might find hidden gold with life purpose.
Do you mind?