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Albertone:
If the husband is temporarily facing challenges in finance,who will support him till he is back on his feet??

Hahahahahaha...women support u..?

I laff in Chinese...why do all wife's leave their hubby wen tons go south..?

Women have a mentality that their money is for the banks..and never for family

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

There had been a flaw in communication; you guys are not open to each other.

Simply, "Oh! My salary is now 300k, from 250k the last time"(just an example oh), would have sufficed. Except you're afraid he'll start "controlling" you and your money.

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Why Is He Angry Abt Dat? Does He Take His Share 4rm It? Is Ur Salary Bigger Dan His?

You are a liar, you didn't forget it.

You hid it.

Women find it very easy to lie..

Assuming your husband is your.best friend, a pay rise is easy to remember when gisting with him. You suppressed it severally. Like you have stated above that you will suppress an apology.

You expect someone to support that nonsense you are saying, " I won't apologize ".

Don't worry, when the cracks become many and the marriage fails, we have a bucket full of sympathy for your stupidity.

Blackmann001:
Hahahahahaha...women support u..?

I laff in Chinese...why do all wife's leave their hubby wen tons go south..?

Women have a mentality that their money is for the banks..and never for family

Well you have a point.But we can't generalize.It's not all wives who do so...

Albertone:
Well you have a point.But we can't generalize.It's not all wives who do so...

When somthings is 89%..is it not same as all..?

:don't be faster than ur shadow, u wan thief my funds ni?You typed my the surnames,what for?Kindly help modify it from your register please.And I never claimed to be you to her.I only said "me too"

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Madam you for tell am

So apologize and don't cause wahala where there's no apparent cause.

Just another misandrist from the nairaland hoelosho sisterhood.

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

I'm not saying you should apologize but i think you're also being proud and he's also being childish. Marriage isn't meant for kids

Preciousgirl:
Drop your account details

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Uba. I need it to fix some financial obligations

WoundedLamb:
Lol... I don't really know what you want us to say. Annual increments, regardless of how small, are normal in most organizations so even without mentioning it, it's should be expected and shouldn't come as a surprise.

Do you guys have an agreement to contribute a certain percentage of your salary to a project, expense head or savings? If that's the case, then he might be feeling cheated and you not apologizing would only make it seem deliberate. I'd suggest you apologize and move on. There are bigger things to think about

In the absence of such agreement/structure, the next question would be, does he always pick on little things like this? If that is his personality, it would still be up to you to manage the situation. It is a known fact that couples stay together by staying committed and managing one another, and not really cause of the initial lovey-dovey feelings that hardly go beyond the first few years. They might be some of your excesses he is managing too. Relationship is about being with someone whose excesses you can tolerate and I believe you knew his personality before marrying him. Both of you can't be hot headed or prideful or nagging at the same time. Someone has to be the 'let peace reign' type. So I'd still say, tell the man what he wants to hear and move on.

At the end, only you can handle your husband. Nairalanders don't care about you. The truth is, we have our own problems. We're here to pass time and say things that will make us feel good about ourselves. It's all about us. Some school boys will insult you and side your husband just to feel like a "man". Some fellow ladies will insult your husband and tell you to do things they wouldn't do. A few will give you sincere advice and move on to the next thread with the speed of light. It's up to you to know what really matters. Pay attention to the big picture.

Lol. Wise but true

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Well irrelevant of weather U kept it from him deliberately or not, your husband is feeling bad about it n U should sort it if U want your marriage to be happy. You love your husband? If so what's it hard to apologize even if it was a mistake.
Apologies won't kill a person especially if it's to one U love.
Would U be mad he keep things from you weather intentionally or thru forgetfulness?
Either way hun U should talk it out with him n mend things. Afterall he is your husband yeah.
I can't find anything wrong in apologizing to someone I love if it makes them feel better n makes my marriage happier, even if it was a mistake, it's still an issue U caused.

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

I guess its not only because of this particular one,go and apologize madam and stop this attitude of seeking pyric victory

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

I would be too.
Looks like you guys have started playing games with each other. Good luck though.
You shouldn’t give him room to question your loyalty
Simple I’m sorry I forgot settles this.
You guys should continue lol.
Wisdom is key
This is how courtship foundation starts to crack