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I have a 2 years old daughter she is my everything love her more than anything in this world. Her mother and I are not together , she live with her mum and I take care of my child without fail, I don’t have much money bt I make sure that my baby has food and clothes.

The problem on ground is my baby mama and her mother are not satisfied with everything I do for my child , they keep saying I am not doing enough , for example my daughter was 2 in June her mother sent me a Instagram link she said I should buy the gown because her mum had booked for studio photo for my baby so the gown must be ready 3 days before her birthday , I checked the price 18000 I called her and asked her why is she mocking me for and where does she expect to get 18000 just for a gown , she said she don’t care I must buy it or else her mum will finish me with insults.

I went and bought a different ok grade A gown for 3500 I went to her house to give her the gown , she and her mother insulted me she said i should take the ugly dress back that her grand daughter will not put it on. I left with the dress and on my daughter birthday I had 5k that I wanted to give her but because she and her mother had insulted me I kept the money and I had planned to take my daughter out to a eatery the day after her birthday and buy her a toy.

On her birthday I checked my WhatsApp I saw that she posted my daughter picture wearing the same 18k gown , I saved the picture and use it as my profile picture then she messaged me: don’t you have shame you couldn’t afford your own daughter gown and you don’t know the person who bought it for her and you have the guts to post the picture , remove it now before I disgrace you on social media good for nothing father , I read and got angry that I wanted to insult her badly bt she is not worth wasting my energy for.

I removed the picture and ask her if I can pick my daughter the next day because I want to take her out , she said no she will be busy , I didn’t reply her back but after an hour I noticed that she blocked me on WhatsApp and unfriend me on Facebook , I have been texting her on Facebook if I can pick my daughter up she been ignoring my messages since June

I haven’t seen my daughter since June but in September she unblock me on WhatsApp and text me back that her mother want to see me it’s very urgent , I went to her house and her mother was telling me that soon my baby will go to school she need 74k to enrol her , I told her I don’t have the amount she is demanding plus the school that she want to enrol her to is too expensive and I have suggested a good school I can afford the school fee , her mother insulted me saying I am
Useless she don’t want to see me anymore that another guy will replace me and take care of my child needs, I insulted her back and left.

I want nothing to do with my child anymore I am tired of the insult , I know that when she is old enough she will come looking for me and I will explain to her how her mother and grandmother treated me like a shit with no respect , I hope she will understand and forgive. I am devastated that I will never see my child again but what do i do

Y did u say u want nothing to do with ur daughter? Do you still have ur baby Mama's account num? If u do, any day u have something to give ur daughter please send it to her and keep evidence of all ur transaction.
U can't kill urself for d two women, if u guys weren't separated, is it not the school u can afford u wl have enrolled d child?
Two yrs old child wearing 18k clothes and they told u to buy it? Did you lied to Dem about ur financial status initially? Well u are lucky u ain't married to her, they could have frustrated u for life.
Be part of her life and give d best u can afford bcuz of tmrow. It's better d child should grow up seeing how dey insult u when u come checking on her, she wl confront dem on ur behalf, and all dat expensive clothes or school wouldn't matter to her when d time comes

Bruh! Free them for a while and face your hustle, when the girl grow up she will ask for her father. There is a time she will call your attention back and I think maybe when you daughter want big money for exam or higher institutions.

Na wa oo. 18k for a 2 years old gown. Op thank God you didn't settle down with that girl. She and her mom would have ruined you. Support your daughter no matter how little. Do the one you can do.

I was in your shoe bro, just same story. I have a baby mama who was acting just exactly like yours. I abandoned her with my son and stopped sending her any money. She got pregnant for another guy and delivered a baby girl for him. She contacted me after about 5 years and asked me to start taking care of my son again that the load on her is too much. Today I pay his school fees, send him money for his monthly upkeep. The same amount I was sending then that she insults me on it, is same amount I am sending now and she thanks and prays for me like never before each month she gets the alert. You know why! She has tested another man and realised that it isn't as green as she thought it was on the other side.

Excommunicate her, and face your hustle, build yourself, and someday she will realise how foolish she has been all these while

Kamdil:
I was in your shoe bro, just same story. I have a baby mama who was acting just exactly like yours. I abandoned her with my son and stopped sending her any money. She got pregnant for another guy and delivered a baby girl for him. Now she contacted me after about 5 years and asked me to start taking care of my son again that the load on her is too much. Today I pay his school fees, send him money for his monthly upkeep. The same amount I was sending then that she insults me on it, is same amount I am sending now and she thanks and prays for me like never before each month she gets the alert. You know why! She has tested another man and realised that it isn't as green as she thought it was on the other side.

Excommunicate her, and face your hustle, build yourself, and someday she will realise how foolish she has been all these while

Thanks bro , this is the sort of advice I was seeking.

adetoroamos:
Bruh! Free them for a while and face your hustle, when the girl grow up she will ask for her father. There is a time she will call your attention back and I think maybe when you daughter want big money for exam or higher institutions.

Thank you, I will try that out.

pretydiva:
Na wa oo. 18k for a 2 years old gown. Op thank God you didn't settle down with that girl. She and her mom would have ruined you. Support your daughter no matter how little. Do the one you can do.

Thank you

Something is definitely wrong with that lady and her mother.I wonder how people go impregnating girls who exhibit bad characters.
Op,you shouldn't abandon your child.Find a way you can always support your child financially and also physically.Get a lawyer's advise on visitation rights.

18k cloth

Is it by force to do photoshoot ?

Try and talk to them to change the school of the baby to one you can afford, to help manage the stuff you can afford. How many people can afford to by 3,500 cloth sef? At least you are providing according to your capability

Person no dey do pass himself ooo

Na wa

And to think that poor child will have to grow up around these kind of people.

Like mother, like daughter. Lol
I'm yet to see a woman who does/will not behave like her mom in some peculiar way.
E dey hard...

It's a very important step to always know a lady's mother, or at least find out what people think about her, just so you can have an idea what you may have to deal with later on.

Too late for all this now in your case anyway.

I only wish you well in whatever you choose to do OP.
Personally, me and women drama are those two lines that just NEVER meet. Once they start displaying, I get to stepping – simply won't be found around their circuit till that evil spirit departs, no time o...

Fabulozz:
I want nothing to do with my child anymore I am tired of the insult , I know that when she is old enough she will come looking for me and I will explain to her how her mother and grandmother treated me like a shit with no respect , I hope she will understand and forgive. I am devastated that I will never see my child again but what do i do

Perish this thought...
The only people you should want nothing to do with here are the two marine spirits you call your babymama and her mother.

You must find a way to remain in your child's life, just find a way. You don't have to be on good terms with the mother or grandmother for this to happen because you don't need their permission, na your pikin...

The motivation behind your continued involvement should be to provide a balance (emotional, psychological, and spiritual) for your daughter.
I fear that if you leave her alone completely, there's a very good bad chance she'll grow up to repeat the same patterns of behaviour displayed by her mother and grandmother.

Dude, I believe you saw your baby mama lifestyle before you impregnated her. And that she lives an expensive lifestyle. ..you could have just been chopping her ponmo and later Japa...now, you have put yourself in irremediable trouble...
Keep enduring......

Why do I feel this is Airforce1

pretydiva:
Na wa oo. 18k for a 2 years old gown. Op thank God you didn't settle down with that girl. She and her mom would have ruined you. Support your daughter no matter how little. Do the one you can do.

Wise woman..

Thank you.. Op baby mama only needed a sperm donor.. Pls read this link

https://www.nairaland.com/6166388/guys-careful-woman-wunt-turn

Fabulozz:
Thank you

Dont be a fuu.... U know the level dt lady was and yet u still give am belle....

See man, give ursef some time abeg... She is letting ur baby mama see another guy... Trust me

She is a useless mother in law

Fabulozz, ur baby mama only needed a sperm donor and she gat u.. Pls read this link

https://www.nairaland.com/6166388/guys-careful-woman-wunt-turn

Kamdil:
I was in your shoe bro, just same story. I have a baby mama who was acting just exactly like yours. I abandoned her with my son and stopped sending her any money. She got pregnant for another guy and delivered a baby girl for him. Now she contacted me after about 5 years and asked me to start taking care of my son again that the load on her is too much. Today I pay his school fees, send him money for his monthly upkeep. The same amount I was sending then that she insults me on it, is same amount I am sending now and she thanks and prays for me like never before each month she gets the alert. You know why! She has tested another man and realised that it isn't as green as she thought it was on the other side.

Excommunicate her, and face your hustle, build yourself, and someday she will realise how foolish she has been all these while

Good advice! Where are the guys shouting team "baby mama"? It is not rosey on all sides AL we pray for is for understanding spouses and plenty money to keep our heads above waters!
Op, double your Hustle and give that lady a break for now.

Women problem too much...

ceeceeuwa:
Good advice! Where are the guys shouting team "baby mama"? It is not rosey on all sides AL we pray for is for understanding spouses and plenty money to keep our heads above waters!
Op, double your Hustle and give that lady a break for now.

Those ones are living out their fantasies. If you want a child and you don’t want marriage/ties with the mother, please go get a SURROGATE. Even people that were once married fight dirty after separation, come be never married.

Children create bonds between families. If you don’t want him/her, NEVER add a child to the equation. Else you must keep seeing them.

OP has to give her space for his own sanity.

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Where do guys see toxic ladies like this? When we tell you men to follow character, you will ignore us. Now you see the outcome?

Fabulozz:
I have a 2 years old daughter she is my everything love her more than anything in this world. Her mother and I are not together , she live with her mum and I take care of my child without fail, I don’t have much money bt I make sure that my baby has food and clothes.

The problem on ground is my baby mama and her mother are not satisfied with everything I do for my child , they keep saying I am not doing enough , for example my daughter was 2 in June her mother sent me a Instagram link she said I should buy the gown because her mum had booked for studio photo for my baby so the gown must be ready 3 days before her birthday , I checked the price 18000 I called her and asked her why is she mocking me for and where does she expect to get 18000 just for a gown , she said she don’t care I must buy it or else her mum will finish me with insults.

I went and bought a different ok grade A gown for 3500 I went to her house to give her the gown , she and her mother insulted me she said i should take the ugly dress back that her grand daughter will not put it on. I left with the dress and on my daughter birthday I had 5k that I wanted to give her but because she and her mother had insulted me I kept the money and I had planned to take my daughter out to a eatery the day after her birthday and buy her a toy.

On her birthday I checked my WhatsApp I saw that she posted my daughter picture wearing the same 18k gown , I saved the picture and use it as my profile picture then she messaged me: don’t you have shame you couldn’t afford your own daughter gown and you don’t know the person who bought it for her and you have the guts to post the picture , remove it now before I disgrace you on social media good for nothing father , I read and got angry that I wanted to insult her badly bt she is not worth wasting my energy for.

I removed the picture and ask her if I can pick my daughter the next day because I want to take her out , she said no she will be busy , I didn’t reply her back but after an hour I noticed that she blocked me on WhatsApp and unfriend me on Facebook , I have been texting her on Facebook if I can pick my daughter up she been ignoring my messages since June

I haven’t seen my daughter since June but in September she unblock me on WhatsApp and text me back that her mother want to see me it’s very urgent , I went to her house and her mother was telling me that soon my baby will go to school she need 74k to enrol her , I told her I don’t have the amount she is demanding plus the school that she want to enrol her to is too expensive and I have suggested a good school I can afford the school fee , her mother insulted me saying I am
Useless she don’t want to see me anymore that another guy will replace me and take care of my child needs, I insulted her back and left.

I want nothing to do with my child anymore I am tired of the insult , I know that when she is old enough she will come looking for me and I will explain to her how her mother and grandmother treated me like a shit with no respect , I hope she will understand and forgive. I am devastated that I will never see my child again but what do i do

Forget them

Fabulozz:
I have a 2 years old daughter she is my everything love her more than anything in this world. Her mother and I are not together , she live with her mum and I take care of my child without fail, I don’t have much money bt I make sure that my baby has food and clothes.

The problem on ground is my baby mama and her mother are not satisfied with everything I do for my child , they keep saying I am not doing enough , for example my daughter was 2 in June her mother sent me a Instagram link she said I should buy the gown because her mum had booked for studio photo for my baby so the gown must be ready 3 days before her birthday , I checked the price 18000 I called her and asked her why is she mocking me for and where does she expect to get 18000 just for a gown , she said she don’t care I must buy it or else her mum will finish me with insults.

I went and bought a different ok grade A gown for 3500 I went to her house to give her the gown , she and her mother insulted me she said i should take the ugly dress back that her grand daughter will not put it on. I left with the dress and on my daughter birthday I had 5k that I wanted to give her but because she and her mother had insulted me I kept the money and I had planned to take my daughter out to a eatery the day after her birthday and buy her a toy.

On her birthday I checked my WhatsApp I saw that she posted my daughter picture wearing the same 18k gown , I saved the picture and use it as my profile picture then she messaged me: don’t you have shame you couldn’t afford your own daughter gown and you don’t know the person who bought it for her and you have the guts to post the picture , remove it now before I disgrace you on social media good for nothing father , I read and got angry that I wanted to insult her badly bt she is not worth wasting my energy for.

I removed the picture and ask her if I can pick my daughter the next day because I want to take her out , she said no she will be busy , I didn’t reply her back but after an hour I noticed that she blocked me on WhatsApp and unfriend me on Facebook , I have been texting her on Facebook if I can pick my daughter up she been ignoring my messages since June

I haven’t seen my daughter since June but in September she unblock me on WhatsApp and text me back that her mother want to see me it’s very urgent , I went to her house and her mother was telling me that soon my baby will go to school she need 74k to enrol her , I told her I don’t have the amount she is demanding plus the school that she want to enrol her to is too expensive and I have suggested a good school I can afford the school fee , her mother insulted me saying I am
Useless she don’t want to see me anymore that another guy will replace me and take care of my child needs, I insulted her back and left.

I want nothing to do with my child anymore I am tired of the insult , I know that when she is old enough she will come looking for me and I will explain to her how her mother and grandmother treated me like a shit with no respect , I hope she will understand and forgive. I am devastated that I will never see my child again but what do i do

Whatever you have to give to your daughter, whether much or little is nobody's business.
Whatever you do for her means so much, and that is what matters.
Don't let go of her.
Keep doing and keep giving what you can so that God can bear you witness.
Also, have it in mind that you mean everything to your daughter, so don't allow anybody deprive her of you.
Your presence in her life, her growing up matters and is very much important. She needs you.
Her happiness in life depends on you.

Any child not under my roof isnt mine. Simple

Can you just take custody of the child? You have a mum?

But when we tell you to wear condoms, you not going to listen.

JenniferAkpamu:
Where do guys see toxic ladies like this? When we tell you men to follow character, you will ignore us. Now you see the outcome?

Character go make my pikin fine?

You have an obligation not to walk away from your daughter irrespective of the toxic relationship you have with the mother of your child or is your name not on her birth certificate?

Make sure you regularly send money for her upkeeps through bank transfers, for the sake of documentation.

Don't ever start what you can't finish.with 3500 you can even get a beautiful readymade gown.

ALWAYS give what you cn afford and don't cave in to their outrageous demands and pls don't ever look away.

If you have her account no, send what you can afford every month. If they reject it, send it back the next mth and pls always save the screenshots and keep the receipts incase of the future. To be able to defend yourself before your daughter cos they will tell her all manner of things.

They will soon quarrel and she'll understand herself.

Team Baby mamas, your market is selling

It's the little girl I pity in all these . . Poor baby!