In my adult life, I have heard "when you come and see my parents, then you'll have it and na you go run sef".

As a young adult, that comment greatly amused me but close to a decade later, I can confidently say that it's one of the greatest scams of the century.

As soon as I hear it, I play cool, delete and block the lady's number on all social media platforms. I am done.

I have seen my fellow dudes who have fallen into that stupid trap and I do not feel pity because before marriage, the handwritings are always on the wall.

Many women treat sex with apathy for a variety of reasons:

1. Society is unfair to them. Women are sl*ts, hoes, loose etc. while it treats their male counterparts with kids gloves.

2. Some were abused or raped and they keep it secret. Asking them for sex brings back the ghosts of those memories but most women rather die with that secret than seek therapy.

3. Frigid. Many are naturally frigid. They don't like sex or intimacy. It's got nothing to do with you. It's just who they are. Don't touch these ones with a long pole.

4. Religion: Some women see sex as a sin. Even in marriage, they'll force the man to do vigil and night prayer when he comes for his marital rights.

5. Wrong orientation about sex: If you are with a lady that has a wrong orientation about sex from a young age, forget it. marriage won't change her. Some feel sex should be rationed, like food. Once a week. Others feel it's only for procreation. The crazy ones weaponize it by getting you hooked and then raise the price.

6. Poor libido.


So if she doesn't like it from the onset, believe her and bounce. If sex is not important to you, stay but don't complain later.

She won't give you sex after you two are married!!!

In fact, it is going to be much worse!

A word they say....

Sex had never satisfied any creature since,the beginning of time...... PINNED.

Real matters

Not too far from the truth.

Nairaland

DasaintHope:
Real matters

Very real

My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

atheistandproud:
In my adult life, I have heard "when you come and see my parents, then you'll have it and na you go run sef".

As a young adult, that comment greatly amused me but close to a decade later, I can confidently say that it's one of the greatest scams of the century.

As soon as I hear it, I play cool, delete and block the lady's number on all social media platforms. I am done.

I have seen my fellow dudes who have fallen into that stupid trap and I do not feel pity because before marriage, the handwritings are always on the wall.

Many women treat sex with apathy for a variety of reasons:

1. Society is unfair to them. Women are sl*ts, hoes, loose etc. while it treats their male counterparts with kids gloves.

2. Some were abused or raped and they keep it secret. Asking them for sex brings back the ghosts of those memories but most women rather die with that secret than seek therapy.

3. Frigid. Many are naturally frigid. They don't like sex or intimacy. It's got nothing to do with you. It's just who they are. Don't touch these ones with a long pole.

4. Religion: Some women see sex as a sin. Even in marriage, they'll force the man to do vigil and night prayer when he comes for his marital rights.

5. Wrong orientation about sex: If you are with a lady that has a wrong orientation about sex from a young age, forget it. marriage won't change her. Some feel sex should be rationed, like food. Once a week. Others feel it's only for procreation. The crazy ones weaponize it by getting you hooked and then raise the price.


So if she doesn't like it from the onset, believe her and bounce. If sex is not important to you, stay but don't complain later.

She won't give you sex after you two are married!!!

In fact, it is going to be much worse!

A word they say....

All these story becos someone’s daughter doesn’t want you to be another body count....

U even said...they have the wrong orientation about sex....it’s their opinion...why don’t u try respecting other people’s decisions about their body....

my brother what is the right orientation about sex??

To have it indiscriminately?
To spread those legs as much as possible until the man who will put a ring on it comes??

The point is...we can’t all feel the same way about a matter....besides .sex is not food....so, some people are actually not pretending about being chaste for a while...

coolsegun2002:


All these story becos someone’s daughter doesn’t want you to be another body count....

U even said...they have the wrong orientation about sex....it’s their opinion...why don’t u try respecting other people’s decisions about their body....

my brother what is the right orientation about sex??

To have it indiscriminately?
To spread those legs as much as possible until the man who will put a ring on it comes??

The point is...we can’t all feel the same way about a matter....besides .sex is not food....so, some people are actually not pretending about being chaste for a while...

Go back and read the post.

Read it very slowly.

Thank me later.

Pierocash:
My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

Thank you for reminding me.

Poor libido. Make I go add am.

TinubuGoQuench:


SHUT UP!
THE OP IS RIGHT

SEE UR MOUTH!
SEX IS NOT FOOD BUT WHEN SAME GIRLS DEMAND FOR MATERIAL THINGS, IT IS ALL GOOD

..Wow..so u want have an opinion in peace....but u want to insult me for having one..Why do want to be unfortunate in life.

coolsegun2002:


All these story becos someone’s daughter doesn’t want you to be another body count....

U even said...they have the wrong orientation about sex....it’s their opinion...why don’t u try respecting other people’s decisions about their body....

my brother what is the right orientation about sex??

To have it indiscriminately?
To spread those legs as much as possible until the man who will put a ring on it comes??

The point is...we can’t all feel the same way about a matter....besides .sex is not food....so, some people are actually not pretending about being chaste for a while...

Gbam. You hit the nail on the head. Watch as they come for you.

TinubuGoQuench:


SHUT UP!
THE OP IS RIGHT

SEE UR MOUTH!
SEX IS NOT FOOD BUT WHEN SAME GIRLS DEMAND FOR MATERIAL THINGS, IT IS ALL GOOD

Were you forced to give material things at gun point? If you say you were deceived, it simply means that you aren't as smart as you thought you were.

It was nice for God to make women with lesser libido, like just imagine women were as loose as men, that would have been a real problem

Only fools go believe that crap

Obo tan ti do pa

atheistandproud:
In my adult life, I have heard "when you come and see my parents, then you'll have it and na you go run sef".

As a young adult, that comment greatly amused me but close to a decade later, I can confidently say that it's one of the greatest scams of the century.

As soon as I hear it, I play cool, delete and block the lady's number on all social media platforms. I am done.

I have seen my fellow dudes who have fallen into that stupid trap and I do not feel pity because before marriage, the handwritings are always on the wall.

Many women treat sex with apathy for a variety of reasons:

1. Society is unfair to them. Women are sl*ts, hoes, loose etc. while it treats their male counterparts with kids gloves.

2. Some were abused or raped and they keep it secret. Asking them for sex brings back the ghosts of those memories but most women rather die with that secret than seek therapy.

3. Frigid. Many are naturally frigid. They don't like sex or intimacy. It's got nothing to do with you. It's just who they are. Don't touch these ones with a long pole.

4. Religion: Some women see sex as a sin. Even in marriage, they'll force the man to do vigil and night prayer when he comes for his marital rights.

5. Wrong orientation about sex: If you are with a lady that has a wrong orientation about sex from a young age, forget it. marriage won't change her. Some feel sex should be rationed, like food. Once a week. Others feel it's only for procreation. The crazy ones weaponize it by getting you hooked and then raise the price.

6. Poor libido.


So if she doesn't like it from the onset, believe her and bounce. If sex is not important to you, stay but don't complain later.

She won't give you sex after you two are married!!!

In fact, it is going to be much worse!

A word they say....

.....and you think men marry because of sex In fact, if your wife gives you sex regularly for few months, you will get tired and bored....or why do you think men cheat Men don't cheat because their wife is not pretty enough, men cheat most times out of boredom......bored of sleeping with one woman who makes the same sound every week, every month, every year.....nothing new again....nothing freaky again.......he knows her in and out......men are born to be bored easily with sex......that's why they go about seeking for variety not because they don't love their wife or lover.....its just their true natural form.....which can only be controlled by extreme religious doctrine and belief

coolsegun2002:


All these story becos someone’s daughter doesn’t want you to be another body count....

U even said...they have the wrong orientation about sex....it’s their opinion...why don’t u try respecting other people’s decisions about their body....

my brother what is the right orientation about sex??

To have it indiscriminately?
To spread those legs as much as possible until the man who will put a ring on it comes??

The point is...we can’t all feel the same way about a matter....besides .sex is not food....so, some people are actually not pretending about being chaste for a while...

well couched

Summery:
When you get married as a man say bye bye to sex

atheistandproud:


Go back and read the post.

Read it very slowly.

Thank me later.

There's nothing to read slowly there. You're indirectly trying to tell unmarried ladies to engage in sexual relationships as much as they like, and trash whatever societal or moral values that want to hold them back.

Nairalanders and women matter smh.
Anyways, I have nothing to contribute.

RenaissanceGuy:
There's nothing to read slowly there. You're indirectly trying to tell unmarried ladies to engage in sexual relationships as much as they like, and trash whatever societal or moral values that want to hold them back.

guy, chill. I'm sure you have a girl who is currently weaponizing sex to you. That's why your frustration couldn't let you read carefully.
Smh

Heartlessbanker:
guy, chill. I'm sure you have a girl who is currently weaponizing sex to you. That's why your frustration couldn't let you read carefully.
Smh

Quote me back when you change to your right gender.

Deicide:
Summery:
When you get married as a man say bye bye to sex

Pls put more light.

The title made me laugh hard, especially "Na you go tire."

Deicide:
Summery:
When you get married as a man say bye bye to sex

tht is pure falsehood!

it is the reverse

Na so one girl tell me say no seex till marriage. Laff wan kill me dat day. I say this one no no me . A confirmed guy man like me . I just open door purse the girl commot for my huz. if I give u money u will collect but no sex till marriage abi ? . U don see client . She is still begging me till today

find it very funny that some monikers on nairaland think that all female gender should give out sex before they get married.
people are different.some girls will never give you sex unless marriage and they work towards such a goal.this does not mean that the are virgins or that they don't like sex.it is just that they have made a choice of what they want.(respect it)

And at the same time there are other girls who do not care about it.they want the sex now now wether marriage or no marriage.the issues that have arisen is that the same men who have slept with numerous girls without marriage go about shaming the same girls that they are olosho, prostitute and unwholesome. in addition to leaving them penniless,single mothers and been messed up.

so in summary you have a set of male monikers whose end game is to steal and destroy women and it is left for the woman to determine wether to live a fruitful life in peace and abundance or open her legs and whatever happens happens

Well said.....

I’ve had my own fair share of experience.... I’m glad it’s all over now......

I have a friend who fell into that trap...... Gf told him she only wants sex after marriage.... It was always a big struggle to touch her....... After marriage, it dawned on him that the wife just doesn’t like sex..... Even after marriage, it took some months for him to successfully sleep with his wife...... This is a true life story.... No jokes.....

Onyenna:
Well said.....

I’ve had my own fair share of experience.... I’m glad it’s all over now......

I have a friend who fell into that trap...... Gf told him she only wants sex after marriage.... It was always a big struggle to touch her....... After marriage, it dawned on him that the wife just doesn’t like sex..... Even after marriage, it took some months for him to successfully sleep with his wife...... This is a true life story.... No jokes.....

Oil dey your head abeg.