There are lessons to learn from every mistake. If you fail to learn that lesson, there is every likelihood that you may not get off the hooks of the problems that mistake will precipitate.
How can you have evidence of your wife cheating with another man and you pardon her and allow her to move back to your house? That was the first and big mistake you made and is now causing you more problems.
Your wife has seen how weak you are as a man and she is leveraging on that to manipulate you.
The first thing you would have done when you found out her sexual excapades especially the circumstances sorounding that was to emotionally separate yourself from her and only take responsibility of your children.
Someone who had cheated and also left you because of mere chats ladden with empty promises with unknown man, what quarrantee do you have that she would not kill you and run out with another man if she has the opportunity again?
My brother, block that girl emotionally and avoid her families and take care of your children.

Baba just fine a way to ur kids,

Its not in my position to make the call, but u dont need an angel to translate it either cos the hand writing is clear on the wall stirring at u saying read me aloud.
Bro pls if u dont want ur daughter to continue or inherit her mothers cycle of debauchery, pls do the needful by filing for child custody with ur evidence. Pls dont show us here, show it to the magistrate.
I know its a tough call to make but remember " things fall apart to make way for better things ". Ur next mission is how to save ur children from their mothers bad influence, as nothing good can ever come from that 419 family.
This story should serve as a deterrent to every single brother out there, when its time to settle, let beauty be the last u consider. Like i have always said, beauty is the 1st thing nature gives to every woman, and it would be the 1st it takes away when it returns, then u would be left with character. Brothers chase after character for beauty is just a shadow.
Remember even ur shadow liv's u in ur darkest moment.

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

u are mad, the kid belong to the man and not the woman, if u think she will not allow you take your kids, then u are not man enough #nonsense

Meteng:
Im struggling not to call you mumu. How can you see one girl sneak out to club leaving a whole you in the house, and you still ended up marrying her, it's unbelievable. Well sha, some people dey carry their own hands curse themselves after dem go dey find advice up and down. Honestly, this your post made me to be so angry

It was actually a very foolish decision he made after having this knowledge....

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type. I


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

infact is a simp type. He will just die for nothing.

Tony142:




u are mad, the kid belong to the man and not the woman, if u think she will not allow you take your kids, then u are not man enough #nonsense

The guy is just pathetic abeg, he is not ready to face the reality of life...I swear no be curse that woman go kill am one day if he stays with her.
I want make him give me the wife's details my chop my own, obviously he is a pump, .. otherwise who stays in a marriage like this, na only you suffer from parents breakup...some people loose their parents completely to death set yet they are better than this.
I have spent almost a year without commenting on any post here, all I do is login, read,like and share. But this guy's situation jus dull my day honestly.
I actually regret reading the post....e just they annoy me.
Be a man guy or die stupid and get your kids turned into future oloshos

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

There's a reason my igbo friends that grew up in lagos, don't date igbo girls or have igbo friends

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy


If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

disassociate yourself with the unhappy and unlucky ones, ignore dis law at your own pel.
you might think you are trying to save your marriage bt you might as well as drown wit her if you don't disassociate

Distance yourself from that family.

IamPlato:
After everything bastard thing she did you took her back, if nobody tells you I will tell you bro... You be fool... Irredeemable mumu..

I swear, the guy foolishness na 1st class

Realhommie:
It was actually a very foolish decision he made after having this knowledge....

as in d guy is something else. Even after marrying her Nd later knowing that she’s d course of your problem , he still accepts her, sleep with her. Why are you killing ur small surviving destiny because of puna.

MR OP YOUR WIFE MUST BE OYO OR EKITI OR MAYBE OSOGBO BABE,I SWEAR DOWN CHEATING DEY THIER TRADITION, AN THEY WONT FEEL REMORSE DOING THIS AT YOUR BACK WHILE SMILING WITH U MORE OFTEN,
MINE IS ONCE YOUR FEMALE PARTNER PREVENT U FROM ACCESSING THEIR PHONE JUST START BEING VIGILANT AND SUSPICIOUS,ALSO WEN PARENT'S TELL U "GO AND LOOK FOR BETTER WORK"MY BROTHER RUN FOR YOUR LIFE(speaking from experience) BECAUSE EVEN IF U ARE DATING IN PEACE IF THE PARESTS DONT LIKE YOU THEY ILL DO EVERYTHING TO PULL YOUR HEART DOWN....BUT SERIOUSLY OP DONT LET KIDS TIRE YOUR ASS DOWN IN SUCH A DEVASTATING MARRIAGE. PICK YOUR KIDS AND TRAIN THEM YOURSELF WHILE MANAGING YOUR BUSINESS, YOU WILL HAVE REST OF MIND AND STEADY income THAN ATTACHING YOURSELF WITH THAT CODED LovePeddler OF YOURS U CALLED A WIFE.BUT U SEF FUMBLE O .ONLY DATING SHE SNEEK GO NO OTHER PLACE BUT CLUB AND YOU COULDN'T ASK YOUR SELF IF SHE WENT TO PRAY IN THE CLUB?.....OGA MY ADVICE BE SAY DISSOLVE D MARRIAGE,TAKE YOUR KIDS WITH U AND TREAT THEM LIKE YOUR WIFE AND LIFE .BECAUSE ONCE A CHEAT IS ALWAYS A CHEAT #L_M_S.

Tony142:





I swear, the guy foolishness na 1st class

He be professor of foolishness

Nuyokoi:
exactly

You both should take a back seat and stop embarrassing yourselves. Aside that the yahoo boy might have used her, a married woman sleeping with another man is a curse/badluck on its own. There are places that such act can kill the husband slowly till he finally leave the world..

Here is my advice..:

Love her, forgive her genuinely. And bring her back. Discuss with her not argue, find out why she does what she does, solve it if possible, protect her and pray with her. God will be with you then and heal your land.

Bring your home together, these experiences of yours are painful but also think about the children before you fire any billet.

I made the mistake of being too unforgiving on my daughters mum, today my daughter is growing into a very wise and gifted woman whom I love with my life...and it’s hurting her that her both loved parents are living apart. And can never be together again as we are both married.

And one question I fear to answer from her in the future is...what sin was that deep that I could not forgive her mom?

And the truth is...NONE. Just as yours...mine is same but more serious.

Learn from my experience, if you love yourself. Fix it, don’t fight it, don’t quit.

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

You mean that man is not stone to death...

Look it happens to me too, my dad will borrow money in his work place n give it to his wife for partying...he married to an Ijebu woman, you know what that's means.

He trained none of us, I trained mysf from poly to University....imagine now he wanted us that he failed to train to be around him....

My opinion.

Face your life squarely

Take care of ur children

Keep distance to ur in-law n wife they r evil.

Never tried to recover all you have lost,

Just pray hard n forgot abt your wife kpekus it will derail u more.

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

Make person no lash him own wife again kwanu?

hamzeiy:

The guy is just pathetic abeg, he is not ready to face the reality of life...I swear no be curse that woman go kill am one day if he stays with her.
I want make him give me the wife's details my chop my own, obviously he is a pump, .. otherwise who stays in a marriage like this, na only you suffer from parents breakup...some people loose their parents completely to death set yet they are better than this.
I have spent almost a year without commenting on any post here, all I do is login, read,like and share. But this guy's situation jus dull my day honestly.
I actually regret reading the post....e just they annoy me.
Be a man guy or die stupid and get your kids turned into future oloshos

No mind am

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

I have not done a post in Nairaland for years I think but after reading this I had to. I am hoping you see and read this.


Here is my conclusion: As long as you keep blaming your dad, it doesn't matter how bad he was/is, you will keep becoming like him.
If your motivation in life is your hatred for your dad, you are bound to make the same mistake and become exactly like him. I cannot explain the spirituality behind this here but trust me that is how it works. If you want, you can request it and I will share links with you on some messages you should listen to (If you are a Christian).

My advice to you: Forgive your dad. It is for your own good. You don't have to bring him into your family but let go of all the grudges you had against him. He may just be feeling guilty for his mistakes as you are right now about your own mistakes.
As for your wife, when it comes to infidelity and the fact that she is not repentant, you may have to divorce her legally. You cannot continue to accept a prostitute as a wife (assuming all you said about her is true). Stop using the excuse of your children to condone her excesses. You also do not have to hate her, that is not the goal. Save yourself and the future of your children by not condoning porsitution.

Start on a new path with a new kind of mindset that seeks to be a better man because that is the right thing to do, not because you hate your dad and don't want to be like him.

You marry club girl


There are certain women, no matter what you do never take them seriously, sorry but no hope

Anyone that knows this guy should please tell him to do just TWO things.

First, take his children away from that type of lady to his mother.

Secondly, he should cut every tie with the family of his wife and avoid seeing her for at least 5yrs. Probably relocate to Lagos, Abuja or even Abroad.

.

have heard about sleeping with a Lady and everything one labour for will just go just like that, there is this lady I flirt with before my marriage, she's a good lady, she want a relationship but was already hooked up though I explained to her but anytime I'm with this lady or even sleep with her, I always get above my expectations in income


I made my first cool million for the 4months I dated this lady, I tried to continue the relationship with her but don't want to hurt my woman


it's very good for a man to be observant while flirting or dating a Lady, some ladies are full of bad luck while some ladies brings fortune to you. be observant


sorry for your experience Op, God will restore your losses

Very pathetic

*NOW IN MY ACTIVITY TODAY* I realised some of us want to Just make money in simple ways through a simple system without stress of referring.

Some of us don't even want millions we just want urgent 2k some times and little money to take care of urgent needs.

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Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

How do you know those kids are yours? na only woman knows who she get belle for o.

If you can do DNA for those kids, then you can start from there, make e no be say you dey take care of another man's kid.

lesson Iearn early in life " if she's a hoe, she will always be". Focus on your life now until you are sure those kids are yours. ciao!

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

You are paying for father sins. Your father was a womanizer Definitely, he womanizer a married woman.
His children would pay for it if they do live in opposite live with their father. You started your life like your father by fornication with her from school. It was not live. But sexual sin prevented you from seeing the dangers ahead.
If you want to be free from the woman , you have to divorce her officially. With divorce, association between you and in-laws would end. Take custody of children. Remarry.

Chiquitq:
Being from a family which your father was negligent might have made you emotionally unbalanced. Your kids are already separated from you so your vow not to let them go through what you want through is no longer within your control.

Apart from her beauty, what value has this woman ever added to your life? Can she be that beautiful? Is outward beauty that important to you?

You are in a very toxic relationship because you are being used as a means to an end. Why did her family make you swear that you have never been with another woman? How is that an issue after everything she has done?

She doesn't deserve your forgiveness and you are not doing good to yourself by keeping her. Don't dwell too much on the spiritual revelations because they further lead people astray. Be practical in your decisions.

Having a broken marriage is not the end of the world. You need to let her go and send your kids school fees directly to their school. henceforth.

the guy just stupid anyhow the whole thing dey vex me

IamPlato:
After everything bastard thing she did you took her back, if nobody tells you I will tell you bro... You be fool... Irredeemable mumu..

yes sir, agreed

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

And this simply means that your problem is not going away. You can't eat your cake and have it.

Even right now that you are still married to her, you are not living together, you're in different states. You have no control over or say in her life. So, what is the difference now? You're already separated, you can't sleep with her anymore, you just don't want to admit that it is over.
And with divorce or separation, you can always see your kids anytime. Or, where did you get the idea that you won't be able to see your kids again? Are you going to abandon them and your forgo your responsibility?

I have read your long stories. I must say sorry for going through all you went through. Your marriage is under satanic siege and your wife and her mum is a collaborator .you might eventually leave her.she doesn't want to change and your life and bright future is at stake.

becky39000:
Op!!! U need to change your moniker to "King of all Simps"
Haba!!!! After all the warnings!!!
All the signs?!!!
I hope & pray God intervenes in your life.

there are actually people like this o. I know people like this. They know this is who and what is killing dem but dey still deep dier neck Nd whole body inside. It’s crazy mehnnn