I have bin married for 15 years and blessed with 3 children 2 girls 1 boy my husband is 50 and am 37 I have suffered a lot in this marriage, my husband doesn't take care of his responsibilities I have bin the only one providing for the family I take care of rent, bills and my children school fee the responsibility Is too much that sometime i feel very sick my blood pressure is always high because of too much thinking that is not enough the worst of all is my husband beat me, he insult me with bad words in front of my children my first daughter of 14 years told me the way my husband is treating me she don't think she will ever get married but I have to begged her not to repeat it again because her marriage will be better than mine, my husband is a alcoholic , womaniser, he smoke weed which has killed his sex drive for 9 years now he doesn't stand during sex no matter what I try to do he doesn't stand he will transfer the anger at me, he will beat me sometime when he stand he will only last 2 mins I have begged him to go to the hospital but he refused saying I am the problem not him because when he is out there with his side chickens he perform so well he call me bad luck and he hasn't touched me for 4 years last time he beat me because I couldn't make him stand he said the day he will touch me that day his late mother will resurecite and I havnt bother him again because when I think about the responsibility I have in my shoulder I don't even care about sex anymore even taught somwtime I cried when I missed it a lot, during lockdown I have lost my business and I have been very stressful with my blood pressure keep. Arise I didn't know where I was going to get the money for rent, feeding becomes hard we had nothing I had to send all 3 children to my parents and my husband wasn't saying anything when he have money he will rather drink, smoke and spent with side chicken I couldn't bear to live anymore and suicide was my only option left I told myself my children are with my parents let me kill myself so I can have peace but anytime I think about my children ky 14,12 and 9 years I said no I can't leave them to suffer and I have tried everything to get a job but they keep rejecting me and my landlord was fighting me for rent my husband will kip quiet as if he doesn't stay with us, I didn't want to go back to my parents because of younger ones they will humiliate me despite my children were there but they had also suffered in the hand of my younger ones they keep reporting to me what my younger ones has bin doing to them which made me to wept badly, one day I left the house and was walking on the street like a mad woman and I was ready to die but a man saved me he almost hit me with his car and he got out and started asking me what is the problem I am the type that I find it hard to tell my problem to people and now a stranger asking me i lied I was fine but he said I don't look fine that he is a counsellor he helped people with depression and various problems he sensed that I have a bigger problem and I can trust and talk to him, he ask if we can go to his car or office to talk but I was afraid incase people sees me and report to my husband I told him I can't because I am married to a angry man I don't want to cause problem so he gave me his office card and say if I need to talk to him I can call anytime and he gave me 5k I couldn't stop thanking him that money was like millions to me because I havnt touch the money in a long time i bought foodstuffs and my shameless husband ate until the food finished without being ashamed of not providing any money for me and he didn't even care to know where did I get the money from I just shook my head, after 3 days I contacted the man we spoke for long and I narrated my story to him he said he knew that I was having problems because the day he met him I was in distressed and if he was one of those drivers that drive carelessly he would have hits me with his car and maybe it would have bin another story but he is happy that I opened up he is willing to help me and he want to meet I went to meet him in his office around 6pm he said he will give me 500k to pay 200k for rent, 200k for my business and use the 100k to balance the children school fees I was in tears I couldn't stop crying he begged me to stop and he even taught I was in my early 50 years old but when I told him I am only 37 he couldn't believe me but I don't blame him because I look so much older than my age because of bad marriage and I don't even know the last time I took a photo of myself because I hated myself so much but he reassure me that he will take care of me and my children and I will get back to the way I was before, that day I don't know what come up because I was crying a lot and he hugged me which lead to sex my God I couldn't believe that I was begging him to enter me and the way I screamed made me realised that I was sexual starved and needed a good dick after 3 rounds I fell all the stress has gone and started laughing like I won a huge amount of money and I left his office very happily and I couldn't stop missing him and can you imagine that same night after having fun with my destiny helper my husband also wanted to sleep with me but I rejected him I told him to go to his side chickens he insulted me as usual almost hit me but I kept calm and slept like a baby all I was dreaming of my destiny helper the man who came to wipe away my tears and ended my sorrow the next morning in September I got an alert 500k following by another 200k in the afternoon 700k I had tears of joy and he said he gave me the 200k bonus because the sex was so good I couldn't believe it that I can also make a man happy because my own husband sees me as a trash woman, I have paid my landlord, starred my food and provision business, my children has come back and they are going to school and I still dating my destiny helper I love everything about him the sex is just so good and in 3 months I now look my age even younger than 37 he is taking good care of me and my children even taught he is also married with a child who is 19 years old he lives in America and he is also in a sexeless marriage so we were both two Hot married people who were desperatly needed each other and glory to God we have met and we are enjoying life, I have find so much happiness through him and I want to get rid of the useless man who is living with me and eating my food for free I don't want a useless man anymore I have suffered a lot but not anymore I am ready to leave him and move on with my destiny helper he is planning to move me and my kids to one of his house far away from my husband in January and he will have me all alone and I won't regret leaving my husband because I deserve better. Please don't mind my bad grammars I wasn't opportunate to finish school like others and sorry about the long post thanks to anyone who will read till the end and advice

interesting read
goodluck

its not a wasted years dear, you have a handsome boy and 2 beautiful daughters, so its never wasted.

Sorry your marriage didn't workout as expected...

Summary pls

You shouldn't have any regret ma, infact you don't need any kind of advice from anyone because you're about to take the right and best step, if not for anything but for the sake of your children, God bless that man that came to change your story, make sure you keep him happy always, and also you should know you're a fighter, not many women could have endure all that.

if this makes u happy. go for it, i wont advice anyone to stay where there is unhappiness

Just seeking for validation to start flirting.

You are on the right track ma

Why not officially end the marriage? A supposedly counsellor having sex with a vulnerable person who came to him for help, so unethical!

Looks like a well written story

culf:
its not a wasted years dear, you have a handsome boy and 2 beautiful daughters, so its never wasted.

Sorry your marriage didn't workout as expected...

Thanks you are right I am very grateful to have my 3 wonderful children

okoIYAyin:
You shouldn't have any regret ma, infact you don't need any kind of advice from anyone because you're about to take the right and best step, if not for anything but for the sake of your children, God bless that man that came to change your story, make sure you keep him happy always, and also you should know you're a fighter, not many women could have endure all that.

Thanks he is so wonderful and he deserve all the happiness in the world I promise to make him happy until my last breath in this earth

piyoo91:
You are on the right track ma

Thanks

jayinfo2:
if this makes u happy. go for it, i wont advice anyone to stay where there is unhappiness

Thanks

Mindlog:
Why not officially end the marriage? A supposedly counsellor having sex with a vulnerable person who came to him for help, so unethical!

Yes I will but first of all I have to leave the house and do it from afar we only did traditional marriage when the right time comes my family will return his bride price

Strongwoman444:
I have bin married for 15 years and blessed with 3 children 2 girls 1 boy my husband is 50 and am 37 I have suffered a lot in this marriage, my husband doesn't take care of his responsibilities I have bin the only one providing for the family I take care of rent, bills and my children school fee the responsibility Is too much that sometime i feel very sick my blood pressure is always high because of too much thinking that is not enough the worst of all is my husband beat me, he insult me with bad words in front of my children my first daughter of 14 years told me the way my husband is treating me she don't think she will ever get married but I have to begged her not to repeat it again because her marriage will be better than mine, my husband is a alcoholic , womaniser, he smoke weed which has killed his sex drive for 9 years now he doesn't stand during sex no matter what I try to do he doesn't stand he will transfer the anger at me, he will beat me sometime when he stand he will only last 2 mins I have begged him to go to the hospital but he refused saying I am the problem not him because when he is out there with his side chickens he perform so well he call me bad luck and he hasn't touched me for 4 years last time he beat me because I couldn't make him stand he said the day he will touch me that day his late mother will resurecite and I havnt bother him again because when I think about the responsibility I have in my shoulder I don't even care about sex anymore even taught somwtime I cried when I missed it a lot, during lockdown I have lost my business and I have been very stressful with my blood pressure keep. Arise I didn't know where I was going to get the money for rent, feeding becomes hard we had nothing I had to send all 3 children to my parents and my husband wasn't saying anything when he have money he will rather drink, smoke and spent with side chicken I couldn't bear to live anymore and suicide was my only option left I told myself my children are with my parents let me kill myself so I can have peace but anytime I think about my children ky 14,12 and 9 years I said no I can't leave them to suffer and I have tried everything to get a job but they keep rejecting me and my landlord was fighting me for rent my husband will kip quiet as if he doesn't stay with us, I didn't want to go back to my parents because of younger ones they will humiliate me despite my children were there but they had also suffered in the hand of my younger ones they keep reporting to me what my younger ones has bin doing to them which made me to wept badly, one day I left the house and was walking on the street like a mad woman and I was ready to die but a man saved me he almost hit me with his car and he got out and started asking me what is the problem I am the type that I find it hard to tell my problem to people and now a stranger asking me i lied I was fine but he said I don't look fine that he is a counsellor he helped people with depression and various problems he sensed that I have a bigger problem and I can trust and talk to him, he ask if we can go to his car or office to talk but I was afraid incase people sees me and report to my husband I told him I can't because I am married to a angry man I don't want to cause problem so he gave me his office card and say if I need to talk to him I can call anytime and he gave me 5k I couldn't stop thanking him that money was like millions to me because I havnt touch the money in a long time i bought foodstuffs and my shameless husband ate until the food finished without being ashamed of not providing any money for me and he didn't even care to know where did I get the money from I just shook my head, after 3 days I contacted the man we spoke for long and I narrated my story to him he said he knew that I was having problems because the day he met him I was in distressed and if he was one of those drivers that drive carelessly he would have hits me with his car and maybe it would have bin another story but he is happy that I opened up he is willing to help me and he want to meet I went to meet him in his office around 6pm he said he will give me 500k to pay 200k for rent, 200k for my business and use the 100k to balance the children school fees I was in tears I couldn't stop crying he begged me to stop and he even taught I was in my early 50 years old but when I told him I am only 37 he couldn't believe me but I don't blame him because I look so much older than my age because of bad marriage and I don't even know the last time I took a photo of myself because I hated myself so much but he reassure me that he will take care of me and my children and I will get back to the way I was before, that day I don't know what come up because I was crying a lot and he hugged me which lead to sex my God I couldn't believe that I was begging him to enter me and the way I screamed made me realised that I was sexual starved and needed a good dick after 3 rounds I fell all the stress has gone and started laughing like I won a huge amount of money and I left his office very happily and I couldn't stop missing him and can you imagine that same night after having fun with my destiny helper my husband also wanted to sleep with me but I rejected him I told him to go to his side chickens he insulted me as usual almost hit me but I kept calm and slept like a baby all I was dreaming of my destiny helper the man who came to wipe away my tears and ended my sorrow the next morning in September I got an alert 500k following by another 200k in the afternoon 700k I had tears of joy and he said he gave me the 200k bonus because the sex was so good I couldn't believe it that I can also make a man happy because my own husband sees me as a trash woman, I have paid my landlord, starred my food and provision business, my children has come back and they are going to school and I still dating my destiny helper I love everything about him the sex is just so good and in 3 months I now look my age even younger than 37 he is taking good care of me and my children even taught he is also married with a child who is 19 years old he lives in America and he is also in a sexeless marriage so we were both two Hot married people who were desperatly needed each other and glory to God we have met and we are enjoying life, I have find so much happiness through him and I want to get rid of the useless man who is living with me and eating my food for free I don't want a useless man anymore I have suffered a lot but not anymore I am ready to leave him and move on with my destiny helper he is planning to move me and my kids to one of his house far away from my husband in January and he will have me all alone and I won't regret leaving my husband because I deserve better. Please don't mind my bad grammars I wasn't opportunate to finish school like others and sorry about the long post thanks to anyone who will read till the end and advice

Stop sleeping with the man and let your family return the brideprice first. If your hubby finds out you are cheating it will turn the whole story against you, no matter how gruesomely he has been treating you. A lot of cultural practices do not look favourably at wife cheating so to avoid hassles, please and the marriage

You are in the right part, but you need to speed up

Try to officially DIVORCE your horseband first !

You deserve to be happy too .
Good luck!

Hmm.

I see everyone is giving you a pat on the back but I want you to know that what you're doing is wrong and also shameful because you feel cool and excited about it. Stop now!!! Before it is too late.

Before you went on a fuc.king spree with this stranger, did you use protection or even go for test? I hope you don't regret this soonest.

My advice. Now that you have your biz back, cut him off and lead a good life. If hubby is still troubling you, separate from him and face your biz and children. Don't mess around with your body because it is the temple of the holy spirit.

Nuf said.

:You are on the right track maThanks

Richy4:
For those that read this, How did you manage to read this without paragraphs? U guys were really brave....
I don't want to have a headache... it's like all the letters were raining from the sky..

I'm telling you. It wasn't easy. At a point, I was just seeing double.

Zabiboy:

As usual...
After so many years of marriage, everything begins to get rough and then she starts saying it's the man's fault....
If we interview this your husband, i can bet a million bucks that his story would be totally different from yours......
Now tell me, who was paying the bills at the beginning
Anyways..whats my business...

I don look for your post tire. Where you go since?

Are these comments from nairalanders or I am seeing double

Intriguingly interesting!

Suprnova:



Stop sleeping with the man and let your family return the brideprice first. If your hubby finds out you are cheating it will turn the whole story against you, no matter how gruesomely he has been treating you. A lot of cultural practices do not look favourably at wife cheating so to avoid hassles, please and the marriage

You are in the right part, but you need to speed up

Thanks you are right but first I want to leave with my children before telling him about the separation because if I tell him when I am still in the same roof with him, he is a violent man he can kill me or my children I am scared for my life and children

okanlanwon44879:
:You are on the right track maThanks

Thanks

CalliDora1:
Hmm.

I see everyone is giving you a pat on the back but I want you to know that what you're doing is wrong and also shameful because you feel cool and excited about it. Stop now!!! Before it is too late.

Before you went on a fuc.king spree with this stranger, did you use protection or even go for test? I hope you don't regret this soonest.

My advice. Now that you have your biz back, cut him off and lead a good life. If hubby is still troubling you, separate from him and face your biz and children. Don't mess around with your body because it is the temple of the holy spirit.

Nuf said.

Thanks I am an adult and I know what I am doing with my life

Follow your heart but carry your Brain along

Nigerian movie scripted. I knew it was a movie when a total stranger met her in times of need, helped her, bleeped her and they lived happily after wards. Wey done madam

kenfarm:
Follow your heart but carry your Brain along

Lol thanks

Chioma1989:
Nigerian movie scripted. I knew it was a movie when a total stranger met her in times of need, helped her, bleeped her and they lived happily after wards. Wey done madam

Wow good if you think it's a movie but this is my life story and my amen for my destiny helper to locate me was not in vain now have bin enjoying my life to the fullest, you may not believe my story but its your choice and you are entitled to your opinion thanks