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2dice01:
All of you guys creating a thread use same lame pattern for your new moniker

Confusedgirl
Heartbrokenlady
lonelybabe
e.t.c

In other news : No be everybody go marry Tear Rubber

There is even one girl with the confused moniker before, she created a thread too but I guess they have created another moniker with almost same name.
I am 100% sure that's Nairaland mods creating this monikers and the funny stories.

Cutehector:
Where did you copy this story from?

I wish it wasn't real

BigJoe19:
There is even one girl with the confused moniker before, she created a thread too but I guess they have created another moniker with almost same name.
I am 100% sure that's Nairaland mods creating this monikers and the funny stories.

You might be right bruh

confusedgirl73:
4 months ago, I reconnected with a man I have known for over 4 years. And it has metamorphosed into a full blown affair. There is about 30years difference or more between us.

The problem is he is married and has other women too he is seeing. Everytime we are together, it feels like I have everything I need with me but when he leaves, a strong feeling of emptiness, loss of self, sadness takes over.

I know it is wrong and I shouldn't be here but I love him or so I think. And it is not even about money because I can comfortably do without whatever he gives me as I have a good business I started myself.
This makes it more complicated because there is really no strong reason why I should be seeing him except for how I feel.

The last time we were together, I stumbled on a lot of things that just breaks my heart. I shouldn't be jealous. I shouldn't be mad. I don't have a right to but regardless I am.
He has all these many women. he treats everyone the same. I also think he tells me what I want to hear and has no real feelings for me.

Since we started 4 months ago, I cannot even bring myself to date other available people. It is like it is all about him now. I had a plan for my life and relationships. This just isn't it.
On one hand I am afraid of what would happen if I turn my back on him. the thought of not seeing him again scares me. and on the other hand, I cannot get over all the other women and his marital status. I didn't mean to fall in love with him. I had gotten out of a relationship with my ex boyfriend 2 years ago and had not dated anyone else till now. I wanted my next relationship to be with my husband. Now this happened!

He is a very sweet person when we are together, , offers me a lot of emotional support but I figure he is the same way to all the other women too. So I cannot even hold on to it.

There was a period I didn't speak to him for 3days. I wanted to go. I wanted to end things. Because I was so hurt about him frolicking with so many women. But those three days felt like hell to me. I couldn't do it.
I have tried several times to leave but I just find myself going back to him.




I am in a rut. I know. but I am stuck. don't know how to get out.

This is a simple affair but because you are neck deep, you are finding it difficult to pull out

You don't pull out of a relationship with anger, just pull out in away that you guys can still talk

The man in question, is one of the most romantic man we have and he knows his job on a woman, such men, women flucks around them once they detect to caring and loving attitude in them

Staying with such men keeps worries away from your life, but for how long will that be since he is already married and age wise, it won't help

One of the ways to handle such affairs is have a relaxed mind and start withdrawing from getting all the attention he gives you

Give room for bachelors to come into your life and learn to teach the guy how you think he should live you, it will help you to build a loving relationship

Every woman loves to be around a man that gives her the attention she desires

Those women you think he has is because they are enjoying the same thing you are observing in him

Enjoy it while it last and plan to move on by getting a man you two will end up with marriage

If his wife is aware of this community dick's way of life, I'm sure she feels worse than you do.
There are many single men who are good out there, leave what you can never have and go for what will be yours till your last breath if you're lucky enough to find a good one.
One rule I live by is never to hold on to what will never be mine, it works so well.for.me because I don't get hurt neither do I dwell on it. Apply this and know peace.

One surefire way to cure an addiction is to get a new one. You need to meet someone else. Hang out and mingle with another person. It will take your mind off this married man. It will hurt but with time, you'll get over him

There's no need advising you, you have no morals at all

You seem to believe that you're torn, confused and in some sort of dilemma and that's self deceit...the truth is that you're your own problem

As an unremorseful Married man's prostitute, you're one of the problems of society

Funny enough, i'm sure you feel that you're entitled to good things in life...based on your scenario, are you good?

You're a very bad human being and it's good that he doesn't value you at all and you're not worth more than food for his sexual organ

Later on, this damaged human will be unleashed on society and the world will have to deal with toxicity from her

The fact that the females aren't condemning her says alot about the orientation and compass of such ladies

You deserve the torment you're going through

confusedgirl73:
It is so hard. I have literally been crying since yesterday. I tried to go cold turkey for 3days but it didn't work.

I was back on day 4.

Stay with him if he makes you happy.

There's no crime in that

BigJoe19:
There is even one girl with the confused moniker before, she created a thread too but I guess they have created another moniker with almost same name.
I am 100% sure that's Nairaland mods creating this monikers and the funny stories.

Or maybe seeing the stories of others inspire more persons to come out and seek help. Not every thing is fake.

I am just looking for a solution.

UndauntedYOCA:
If his wife is aware of this community dick's way of life, I'm sure she feels worse than you do.
There are many single men who are good out there, leave what you can never have and go for what will be yours till your last breath if you're lucky enough to find a good one.
One rule I live by is never to hold on to what will never be mine, it works so well.for.me because I don't get hurt neither do I dwell on it. Apply this and know peace.

Yeah. I am pretty sure she does.
It didn't take me long to find out as I am a very curious person. Though he denies this but I have evidence. and at one time, when kept probing, he admitted to one but won't own up to the rest. He doesn't know I know about the women. He believes I am just assuming.

Because I am a fixer, I thought I could influence him to at least reduce the number of women. but that is a pipe dream as not even my nag, complain, tears changes anything

but yes, it's all an illusion I guess. Knowing the right thing to do and not being able to do it

Let us be bold and call him what he is to you: Sugar Daddy. If you ask most of your female friends, they will tell you what you are feeling at the moment isn't unusual. It is just that majority of them tend to feign ignorance, even though they are well aware of the man's marital status. To advise you to leave the man is useless, because that is the least thing on your mind for now. Just enjoy it while it last.

Nevertheless, stop viewing yourself as something significant to him. No, you aren't and will never be. Which sane man will attach seriousness to a character like you? You are just an indolent bedwarmer to him. He has a wife, a family, just play your sidechick role effectively without initiating drama.