I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

You are disrespecting your elder brother if you call his wife by name. If she has children call her by her children's name. Or call her a make up name but not her original name.

yes, because she is younger and at the same time your brother's wife, so it is not out of place to call her by her name

Call her her name, Again!!

Call her ,But with a little respect..

onos1979:
yes, because she is younger and at the same time your brother's wife, so it is not out of place to call her by her name

And this is coming from a woman,
Can he call his elder brother by his name.? If no then it's disrespectful to call your elder brothers wife by her name.
You can either call her with her children's name or a title like yourba will say Iyawo, Hausa will say amaria.
If you're igbo nwanyi oma and the likes is okay.
We are Africans and we have good cultural beliefs, one of it is respecting people.

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

Except you are from Southwest, there is nothing wrong in calling her by her name depending on how close you are

I call my brothers wives by their children's names, my mama eyes go fit kill u if she look me anytime I mistake call dem by their names

dawnomike:
Except you are from Southwest, there is nothing wrong in calling her by her name depending on how close you are

Yes I am from the yoruba tribe.

Yoruba people take this respect thing seriously.

It might not be a big deal to you or your brother but I'm public, people would town at it

Try to find a nice nickname for her. Bye.

Ask her how she feels about It or ask him .

Some do not take it serious.
In other countries, call people by theiir name,no matter age difference.

Africa and respect sha

You can call her by her name if she is way younger than you.

My elder brother's girlfriend is my younger sister's age mate, and there is someone I'm older than before her. If my brother marries her, I'm definitely not going to start calling her aunty or sister all of a sudden.

My dad also calls his elder brother's wife by name. I guess it also depends on family dynamics.

Yoruba people take this respect thing seriously.It might not be a big deal to you or your brother but I'm public, people would town at itTry to find a nice nickname for her. Bye.

Abeg stop calling her by her name. Since u re Yoruba, it's not a big deal to call her Iyawo naa. That's how my younger Brother's wife was calling me by my name until I politely but firmly called her to order. Please give Respect to whom it is due.

obeycian:
Yes I am from the yoruba tribe.

Since you are Yoruba call her Iyawo

My husbands immediate younger sis who is older than me calls me iyawo and uses the O Yoruba pronoun

The one who is my age mate( a male) calls me mummy xyz and uses the E Yoruba pronoun for me

The youngest of them uses E and calls me mumy xyz.

The elder ones to my hubby call me by my name or my children's name.


I call all of them sister/ brother xyz, the eldest one Aunty and I use the E Yoruba pronoun for them.

Everybody is happy

Thus is funny .Does marriage upgrade ones age? So Ned Nwokos siblings will call Regina, Aunty because she's married. Someone even said he should be ashamed for calling her name.


Sometimes we take this respect thing too far.Call her name. thank you

NoToPile:


Since you are Yoruba call her Iyawo

My husbands immediate younger sis who is older than me calls me iyawo and uses the O Yoruba pronoun

The one who is my age mate( a male) calls me mummy xyz and uses the E Yoruba pronoun for me

The youngest of them uses E and calls me mumy xyz.

The elder ones to my hubby call me by my name or my children's name.


I call all of them sister/ brother xyz, the eldest one Aunty and I use the E Yoruba pronoun for them.

Everybody is happy

Wait, you are a female? Wow.

ask her how to address her, if you're this unsure.

i called all Professors by their first names 'n still do

Nigerians go overboard with this respect thing

JovialJune:



Wait, you are a female? Wow.

Why won't you say 'wow'.

When in your tiny little brain you think anyone who doesn't go around insulting men & isn't a feminist must be male

OchoL:


Why won't you say 'wow'.

When in your tiny little brain you think anyone who doesn't go around insulting men & isn't a feminist must be male

Dude, I'm not in the mood with you, take your frustrated self elsewhere.

Nuyokoi:
ask her how to address her, if you're this unsure.

i called all Professors by their first names 'n still do

Nigerians go overboard with this respect thing

It's not "overboard", it's called culture!

JovialJune:



Dude, I'm not in the mood with you, take your frustrated self elsewhere.

Mtchewww!
Didn't expect any less from a dunce like you.

OchoL:


Mtchewww!
Didn't expect any less from a dunce like you.

Just go away, you have been noticed.

Mumben:
Abeg stop calling her by her name. Since u re Yoruba, it's not a big deal to call her Iyawo naa. That's how my younger Brother's wife was calling me by my name until I politely but firmly called her to order. Please give Respect to whom it is due.

what is the age difference between you and her, and also your younger brother?

you brothers wife may be coming from a highly exposed background and forcing her on that can cause friction between you two.

I don't think it's a big deal if you both are close in age.

Kuns84:


See them clamouring for undue respect just because they are wives

I'm Yoruba.
I'm the third of 4 boys.
My brothers wives are all younger than me.
Thus, I call them all by name - in fact, they are the ones calling me "Egbon".
The world hasn't ended because of that.

This is 2020 not 1683.

don't mind them, you now get to cases where the wives are just house wives and are looking for undue title, someone who is working in a big organisation and interacting with people from diverse background where these unnecessary subservient calls are not needed should come back home and start adding that for a house wife or someone he/she is far ahead of because he/she is married into your family. nonsense.

mariahAngel:


It's not "overboard", it's called culture!

if the younger brother is financially over the elder, it is these same wives that would rush and attach title to the younger brother.

NoToPile:


Since you are Yoruba call her Iyawo

My husbands immediate younger sis who is older than me calls me iyawo and uses the O Yoruba pronoun

The one who is my age mate( a male) calls me mummy xyz and uses the E Yoruba pronoun for me

The youngest of them uses E and calls me mumy xyz.

The elder ones to my hubby call me by my name or my children's name.


I call all of them sister/ brother xyz, the eldest one Aunty and I use the E Yoruba pronoun for them.

Everybody is happy

I call by the acronym of her name but I don't know if it is appropriate to address her with the O yoruba pronoun. I don't HV any issues using E for her but I just want to be clarified if it proper if I use O for her.

JovialJune:



Wait, you are a female? Wow.

Why did you think I am male

obeycian:
I call by the acronym of her name but I don't know if it is appropriate to address her with the O yoruba pronoun. I don't HV any issues using E for her but I just want to be clarified if it proper if I use O for her.

Technically there should be nothing wrong with using O since you are older than her but some would say since its your elder brother she's married too, you address her the way you address your bro. Its about the family dynamics sha, do what works for you guys.

..
..of all the things troubling this world, na the way to address my brother wife I go con dey worry abt.
.. anyway, I trust my brothers, we ain't got time for that shit!

NoToPile:


Technically there should be nothing wrong with using O since you are older than her but some would say since its your elder brother she's married too, you address her the way you address your bro. Its about the family dynamics sha, do what works for you guys.

Thanks

NoToPile:


Why did you think I am male

You always sound like one.