What is going on here?!

JovialJune:



You always sound like one.

Loool okay, first time I am hearing that though.

comfokon:


what is the age difference between you and her, and also your younger brother?

you brothers wife may be coming from a highly exposed background and forcing her on that can cause friction between you two.

I don't think it's a big deal if you both are close in age.

The age difference between me and her is 4 and the age difference between me and my younger brother is 2. Hope I answered ur questions?

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

call her iyawo or mummy abc or by her name with a little respect.

JovialJune:



Wait, you are a female? Wow.

I was surprised too.I had always thought the moniker was male.

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

frozen70:



Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

Was that necessary?
Why does one feel the need to show who owns what?
Would you say the same if it were your own brother?
Are you contentious?
Why not tell him to prostrate before her because she's Eze nwaanyi?
That is how division in the family starts unnecessarily...

I don't see anything wrong with calling your elder brother's wife by her name if she's younger than you. I call my elder brother's wife by her name, my younger sister too calls her by her name too. We don't see any big deal in it, after all it's her name, isn't it? Where we used to live, girls do call women older than them and even old enough to be their mother by their names, they don't see it as a big deal. Instead of someone to refer to me as 'dear' or use the word 'dear' on me, I would prefer he or she to call me by my full names rather, irrespective of whether you're older than me or not. Afterall, they're my names. So, I see no big deal in all these.

frozen70:



Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name.

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

This one shock me o. Make e be say na sarcasm sha.

pocohantas:


This one shock me o. Make e be say na sarcasm sha.

Things we read on NL...

Like someone you are 10years older than, you should call her HANTY because she married your brother

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

Put anty or coin a pet name for her, respecting her equals respecting your elder bro, if I were her I will tell you to stop calling me by my name. Drop your ego

Alennsar:

And this is coming from a woman, what a shame.
Can he call his elder brother by his name.? If no then it's disrespectful to call your elder brothers wife by her name.
You can either call her with her children's name or a title like yourba will say Iyawo, Hausa will say amaria.
If you're igbo nwanyi oma and the likes is okay.
We are Africans and we have good cultural beliefs, one of it is respecting people.

You can state your position without dragging others down. I'm sure you don't expect everyone to agree with you on your position at all times.

obeycian:
I call by the acronym of her name but I don't know if it is appropriate to address her with the O yoruba pronoun. I don't HV any issues using E for her but I just want to be clarified if it proper if I use O for her.

Oga, you are stressing this thing. Just do what you are comfortable with. Whether O or E doesn't in anyway depict respect. All you both need is respect one another and leave each person in his/her place.

mariahAngel:


Was that necessary?
Why does one feel the need to show who owns what?
Would you say the same if it were your own brother?
Are you contentious?
Why not tell him to prostrate before her because she's Eze nwaanyi?
That is how division in the family starts unnecessarily...

You can do yours as you wish and accept how yours will treat or identify your wife when the time comes

frozen70:



Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

So according to your logic, a woman is only worthy of respect when a man puts her under his roof as a wife?

Let me call @CHoccolaTE ..come and see your co-feminist

Fake respect everywhere. So calling someone by his or her name is now disrespectful?

Mumben:
The age difference between me and her is 4 and the age difference between me and my younger brother is 2. Hope I answered ur questions?

I think you're wrong in trying to coerce her into that, you have friends who are below that age and if you've worked in a coy, you would have people ahead of you who are also below you age.

Even the school you went to same thing.

Just saying, don't breed enmity out of nothing.

frozen70:



Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

would you as a lady agree to address you elder brothers wife who is your age grade as aunt? say the truth.....

so if the house is a family house nko?

Zzor:
Put anty or coin a pet name for her, respecting her equals respecting your elder bro, if I were her I will tell you to stop calling me by my name. Drop your ego

what is wrong with your name please, the school you graduated from, did you tell the far younger people not to call you by your name?

the firm you work that has a younger in age ahead of you, do you give them these your rules too?

abeg the world has gone beyond all these bullshit

pocohantas:


This one shock me o. Make e be say na sarcasm sha.

Their view of respect is intimidation nothing else. If that younger brother is financially buoyant than her husband, you will see the way even they would be bowing for the junior wife.

mariahAngel:


It's not "overboard", it's called culture!

Definitely overboard, culture that's filled with hypocrisy, abegiiiiiiiii.

Abeg I don't need any yeye title. Call me by my fvcking name. Getting married no be Grammy Award.. Mtcheew

One’s name is their identity. That’s enough respect.

I don’t know why we like to complicate things.
OP ask her what she wants to be called. I promise it’s not that complicated.

Respect her the way you respect your elder brother

frozen70:



Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

[quote author=frozen70 post=97101750]

lol...house belongs to her?..cos she bought the land and built it. Or she pays the rent.
..so if my brother decides marry a lady 10 years younger than our last born., I should start calling her "aunty" or "sister"...I can't laff.

GboyegaD:


You can state your position without dragging others down. I'm sure you don't expect everyone to agree with you on your position at all times.

Alright I am sorry then.

SweetCunt97:
Abeg I don't need any yeye title. Call me by my fvcking name. Getting married no be Grammy Award.. Mtcheew

Sweetcunt97 good morning,
bros dy house?

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

Calling her mummy XYZ or Iyawo wa or sister XYZ takes nothing from you.

She is your elder brothe's wife.

Omo Yoruba ni e.

Signs.

bukatyne:


Calling her mummy XYZ or Iyawo wa or sister XYZ takes nothing from you.

She is your elder brothe's wife.

Omo Yoruba ni e.

Signs.

Most people here don't understand where the op is coming from... The Yoruba culture
Some even said it's "overboard"

People would condemn, rather than try to understand and respect the culture and ways of others.
As long as it is not western, it is dumb, stupid, backward, overboard, insane, fake, bla bla bla...

We're slowly killing/losing our beautiful culture to "wokeness"

One topic that made front page the other day, the op said his sister wanted her traditional marriage done in the city...omg! Bukky, ignorantly stupid comments filled the whole place!
If you understand the whole process of Igba nkwu nwaanyi in Igbo land (traditional marriage rites), you'd know that it was stupid of the op to create that thread in the first place.

mariahAngel:


Most people here don't understand where the op is coming from... The Yoruba culture
Some even said it's "overboard"

People would condemn, rather than try to understand and respect the culture and ways of others.
As long as it is not western, it is dumb, stupid, backward, overboard, insane, fake, bla bla bla...

We're slowly killing/losing our beautiful culture to "wokeness"

One topic that made front page the other day, the op said his sister wanted her traditional marriage done in the city...omg! Bukky, ignorantly stupid comments filled the whole place!
If you understand the whole process of Igba nkwu nwaanyi in Igbo land (traditional marriage rites), you'd know that it was stupid of the op to create that thread in the first place.

Why did you bring Igbo into this issue kwanu?

In yoruba, the highest form of respect he can give her is iyawo or call her by her child's name not calling her aunty. That is if the the woman in question is ready to call her Baba Oko or Booda.

That's the culture which can be bulllshit sometimes.

mariahAngel:


Most people here don't understand where the op is coming from... The Yoruba culture
Some even said it's "overboard"

People would condemn, rather than try to understand and respect the culture and ways of others.
As long as it is not western, it is dumb, stupid, backward, overboard, insane, fake, bla bla bla...

We're slowly killing/losing our beautiful culture to "wokeness"

One topic that made front page the other day, the op said his sister wanted her traditional marriage done in the city...omg! Bukky, ignorantly stupid comments filled the whole place!
If you understand the whole process of Igba nkwu nwaanyi in Igbo land (traditional marriage rites), you'd know that it was stupid of the op to create that thread in the first place.

Na today wokeness start?

How can a Yoruba person ask if he should call his elder brother's wife by name?

Sometimes, I try to understand some people here are trolling/ typing out their fantasies.

It doesn't align with what you see in the real world.

Karleb:


Why did you bring Igbo into this issue kwanu?

In yoruba, the highest form of respect he can give her is iyawo or call her by her child's name not calling her aunty. That is if the the woman in question is ready to call her Baba Oko or Booda.

That's the culture which can be bulllshit sometimes.

What is bullshit about not calling your in-laws name or aunty/uncle/Iyawo/egbon etc. especially when you don't see them often?

Even if you see them every day, does it cost you anything?

And you wonder why we lack an identity!